2019 UT App 207 – Peeples v. Peeples – modification of child custody

2019 UT App 207 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ADAM LEGRANDE PEEPLES, Appellee, v. ANNALEISE T. PEEPLES, Appellant. Opinion No. 20180713-CA Filed December 19, 2019 Third District Court, Salt…

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If your parents are divorced, what are the chances you will be?

Much, much higher than if your parents had not divorced. See Psychology Today February 5, 2019: “Research shows that children of divorce are more likely to experience a divorce themselves. The statistics…

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What are you tired of explaining when it comes to lawyers?

Nothing. When I am tempted to feel irritated over the questions people ask about lawyers and legal matters, I remember that the questions--though recurring--aren’t being asked by the same person…

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Avoiding Hookup Dating Apps and Finding the Best Relationship Sites

For those contemplating post-divorce dating, today's post is for you. It's a guest post from Consumers Advocate. They put together a case study of online dating industry and prepared this…

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Can I protect marital assets from my spouse by “temporarily gifting” them?

Can I protect marital assets from my spouse by “temporarily gifting” assets to somebody else until after the divorce is final? Can you? Like is it doable? Sure, you can do it. And many…

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Can you divorce your spouse even if your spouse does want a divorce?

Yes. This is what is known as “no fault divorce”. Every state in the U.S. has no fault divorce laws. Many people believe that “no fault” divorce means that one…

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Is a factual position better to take in a divorce statement rather than an emotional or semi-emotional position?

Yes. But you already knew that. And I thank you for the question anyway--really, I do--because even though we all know this we all need to be reminded of it.…

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Has anyone you know been framed for domestic violence?

I’m a divorce and family lawyer, and so the crimes I see people framed for or manipulated into “committing” are domestic violence types. It’s frighteningly easy to do. Before I…

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Can you tell the judge to award no alimony if both parties agree and settle?

Well, you can’t dictate to your judge as to what your judge will do, but if you and your spouse agree that no alimony will be awarded and then tell…

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Should we put divorcing couples in an adversarial divorce court system?

People who are getting divorced fall into one of two categories: those who want to divorce while doing each other as little harm as possible; and those who don’t care…

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Can I ask a lawyer, “Would you elaborate your legal fees?”?

Of course you can ask the attorney to explain the basis for his/her legal fees and services pricing. Any attorney worth his/her salt and who has the requisite amount of…

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Is it legal to record threatening callers? Are recordings admissible?

You question has two parts. Part 1: can you legally record phone calls (or an in-person conversation)? ANSWER: It depends on the jurisdiction. Some states won’t allow you to record…

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Oldroyd v. Oldroyd – 2019 UT App 155 – premarital property interest, unjust enrichment

Oldroyd v. Oldroyd - 2019 UT App 155 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ROBBEN ANN OLDROYD, Appellant, v. FARRELL LYNN OLDROYD, Appellee. Opinion No. 20180257-CA Filed September 26, 2019…

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What are some cases that restored your faith in the judiciary?

There are not enough well-conducted and well-decided cases to restore my overall lack of faith in the legal system generally. To be sure, there are very good judges and others…

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Why doesn’t family law immediately use collaborative law practices to reach decisions?

Because 1) paradoxically, those for whom the true collaborative law process would work best are those who really don’t need collaborative law; and 2) “collaborative law” as it is practiced (as opposed to how…

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Why is it common for the custodial parent to villainize the ex to their child?

I don’t know if it is common for one parent in a divorce (custodial or non-custodial) to villainize their ex to the child, but we know it happens frequently and…

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Do married lawyers ever fight each other in court?

Do married lawyers ever fight each other in court? Do you mean to ask whether married lawyers sue each other in court? If that’s your question, the answer is: rarely.…

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Martin v. Kristensen – 2019 UT App 127 – divorce and unlawful detainer

Martin v. Kristensen - 2019 UT App 127 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS YVONNE MARTIN, Appellant, v. PETTER KRISTENSEN AND FRANK O. KRISTENSEN, Appellees. Opinion No. 20160265-CA Filed July 26,…

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How did your parents’ divorce when you were a child affect your adult life?

My parents did not divorce, but I base my answer to this question on the experiences of my clients, whether it be how their own children reacted to their divorce…

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Pulham v. Kirsling – 2018 UT App 65 – custody, parent-time, child support

Pulham v. Kirsling - 2018 UT App 65 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KRISTEN PULHAM, Appellee, v. WILLIAM KIRSLING, Appellant. Opinion Nos. 20150577-CA and 20160236-CA Filed April 12, 2018 Third…

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What do most TV shows and movies get wrong about the legal profession?

I’m amazed at the number of people who believe, from what fictitious TV lawyers “accomplish,” that if the lawyers just try hard enough, do enough research, pound the pavement tenaciously,…

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Janson v. Janson – 2019 UT App 106 – setting aside settlement agreement

2019 UT App 106 - Janson v. Janson - setting aside stipulation THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEIDRE SUE JANSON, Appellant, v. JEFFREY ALAN JANSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170541-CA Filed…

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Why do some narcissist men not want a woman who works and try to keep her from working?

The answer to your question lies, in part, in the question itself. The dictionary defines narcissism as “selfishness, involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a need…

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My ex told me I can’t post videos of our children on my social media. What can I do?

I'm a mother of 3. The father has custody and I have visits and overnights. The father told me not to post videos of our children on my social media,…

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Have you ever told a client he/she would be better off settling a case, only for the client to take the case to trial anyway?

Yes, and most of the time when a client decides to take a case to trial over a client’s advice the client does worse than he/she would have if he/she…

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2018 UT App 181 – Chaparro v. Torero – default judgment, findings of fact, child custody

2018 UT App 181 – Chaparro v. Torero THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ELDA CHAPARRO, Appellant, v. ENRIQUE TORERO, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170494-CA Filed September 20, 2018 Second District Court,…

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How to Identify a Good Divorce Lawyer, from the Client’s Perspective

Unfortunately, it’s almost impossible to identify a good lawyer without using his/her services for a while to see if you “got it right” on your choice. There are, however, a…

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How can I get a divorce if I don’t know where my spouse is?

If I'm married with a child (separated for 4 years), how do I get a divorce and establish a child support order, if I don't know where my spouse is?…

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If my spouse cheats, and we divorce will I get custody of my children?

In response to the question, “If my spouse cheats, and we divorce, will I get custody of the children because of my spouse’s infidelity?,” the answer is unequivocally “no.” No…

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Have you ever dealt with parental alienation?

Yes, but from the perspective of being the divorce lawyer for the alienated parent. Let me tell you, unless the alienating parent is so ham-handed in his or her efforts…

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What’s the best way to decide who takes the children when a couple splits?

I’ll tell you one thing, it’s not the illusory “standard” (that’s not really a standard in the first place) of the “best interest of the child” that everybody talks about.…

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Dealing with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process

QUESTION: What are some pointers that you may have in getting along with your ex-spouse to be during the process of a divorce? What advice do you have to keep…

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LeFevre v. Mackelprang – 2019 UT App 42 – joint custody analysis

2019 UT App 42 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS - LeFevre v. Mackelprang AMELIA GAYATREE LEFEVRE, Appellee, v. CASEY LEE MACKELPRANG, Appellant. Opinion No. 20171006-CA Filed March 28, 2019…

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Marroquin v. Marroquin – 2019 UT App 38 – business valuation, findings

Marroquin v Marroquin - 2019 UT App 38 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS HEATHER MARROQUIN, Appellant, v. RENSON AMILICAR MARROQUIN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170454-CA Filed March 14, 2019 Third District…

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Mental Health Professionals: How to Make Good (and honest) Use of Them in Divorce and Child Custody

Many spouses and parents going through a divorce and child custody case may believe there is value in using mental health professionals. This can be true, if you use mental…

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