“I’ll Give It the Appropriate Weight” Is Not a Rule of Evidence

Few courtroom phrases are more soothing—or more dangerous—than this response to a valid hearsay objection: “I’ll admit it, but I’ll give it the appropriate weight.” The phrase sounds disciplined. It…

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PGALs Are Almost Always Appointed for the Court’s Convenience, Not the Child’s Benefit or for the Benefit of Seeking the Truth

For many parents involved in child custody disputes, the phrase “appointing a PGAL” comes up before anyone explains what it means. “PGAL” is short for private guardian ad litem. In…

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Walking in Their Shoes: The Reciprocal Argument Rule in Family Law Litigation

Family court is not ordinary litigation. In a business dispute, the parties may fight hard, settle, and never see each other again. In divorce and child custody disputes, the parties…

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No Remedy Without a Wrong: Why Family Courts Must Stop Rewarding Fabricated Grievances

There is a basic principle at the heart of equity: where there is a legal wrong, there should be a remedy. But the inverse matters just as much: where there…

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Child Custody and Parent-time Awards Need to Incorporate More Humility

Many parents (I’d say even most parents) enter family court hoping someone will fix everything. Believing that: the judge will see through the lies. the custody evaluator will identify the…

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How Extended Summer Parent-Time Actually Works Under Utah Code §§ 81-9-302 and 81-9-303

Not every Utah parent is subject to the default parent-time schedules found in Utah Code §§ 81-9-302 and 81-9-303. Many parents operate under customized custody and parent-time provisions created by agreement or court…

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Co-Parenting Apps: Useful Tool or Expensive Solution in Search of a Problem?

Parenting apps are now everywhere in modern child custody disputes. Lawyers recommend them. Parenting coordinators recommend them. Guardians ad litem recommend them. Courts sometimes order them. And the companies behind…

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When Joint Legal Custody Parents Disagree About an IEP in Utah

Some of the strongest child custody disputes are no longer fought primarily through parent-time schedules, exchange disputes, or even direct allegations of abuse. Increasingly, they are fought through institutions. Schools.…

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Divorce Mediation Wastes Time, Money, and Effort. There Is an Obvious Better Way.

The way divorce mediation is conducted in Utah is wildly overrated, yet that fact is one of the best kept secrets in the family law legal profession. To be clear,…

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Equal Custody in Utah: Common, Increasingly Favored, but Still Not Presumed

A growing number of divorcing and unmarried parents walk into consultations convinced that Utah law now requires “50/50 (equal) child custody.” Some are absolutely certain of it. They heard it…

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The Rule 702 Gap: Why Utah Custody Evaluations Need Real Evidentiary Scrutiny

In a Utah personal injury case, if a doctor testifies that a low-speed collision caused a traumatic brain injury, that opinion will usually face meaningful scrutiny under Rule 702 of…

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Beyond 18: When Utah Law Requires Continued Support for Adult Children with Disabilities

Discover how Utah Code § 81-6-101 allows for child support to continue indefinitely for adult children with cognitive disabilities. Learn the legal standards for incapacity and how a Special Needs Trust can…

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Divorce Litigants Need (and Deserve) Basic Courtroom Education Before Evidentiary Hearings and Trial

Utah law already recognizes that divorce is a life-altering event. Under Utah Code § 81-4-105, parents must attend an orientation course because the state knows this process is emotionally volatile and…

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Credibility Determinations Belong to Courts, Not Custody Evaluators

In a surprising number of child custody disputes, courts make major decisions based heavily on conversations nobody else gets to see or hear. A custody evaluator interviews the child privately.…

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Do You Actually Need a Vocational Evaluator? How to Prove Earning Capacity in Utah Divorce Cases

In many Utah divorce, alimony, and child support cases, you may not need to spend thousands of dollars on a vocational evaluator to prove earning capacity. Courts determined whether people…

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Why “Reasonable Parent-Time” Often Turns Into Unnecessary Conflict

ABSTRACT: Vague parenting plans built around “reasonable parent-time” often create more conflict, not less. When schedules, holidays, exchanges, and responsibilities are left undefined, parents frequently end up arguing about expectations…

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The “Custom-Tailored” Holiday Schedule vs. Utah’s Statutory Plan

One of the most common mistakes parents make in Utah child custody disputes is assuming that a “custom-tailored” holiday schedule must automatically be better than Utah’s standard statutory holiday parent-time…

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The “Delete” Trap: Why Wiping Your Hard Drive During a Divorce Can Blow Up Your Case

Deleting digital evidence during a Utah divorce can trigger sanctions, contempt findings, attorney fee awards, and devastating credibility problems. Learn how Utah courts treat destroyed evidence under URCP 26, 26.1,…

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Wilson v. Wilson: Utah Court of Appeals Enforces Divorce Mediation Settlement Agreement

Wilson v. Wilson - 2026 UT App 72 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS LISA A. WILSON,Appellant, v. BRAD J. WILSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20240444-CA Filed May 7, 2026 Third District…

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Parens Patriae: Why the Court Gets Involved in Your Family

If you’re dealing with a divorce or a child custody dispute, there’s something you need to understand early: This is not just your case. That’s not rhetoric. It’s how the…

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Plausible Isn’t Proof: And “Discretion” Doesn’t Fix It

Stephen Petro recently made a point that should be obvious, but in the heat of litigation, often isn’t: A “reasonable” answer is not the same thing as a correct one. A reasonable answer…

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The Third Way: A Strategic Exit from the Divorce Court/Mediation Loop

Divorce cases spiral and stagnate because the system allows for posturing and delay without consequence. The courts are overwhelmed and apathetic. Mediation, as typically structured, does not require resolution. Without…

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When No Good Deed Goes Unpunished in Divorce

Good behavior in a marriage is often the wrong behavior in a divorce action (and vice versa) Divorce changes the rules midstream. That is the part most people don’t see…

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How Much a Divorce Really Costs (and Why It Gets Out of Control)

Ask some lawyers or clients what a divorce costs and you’ll get an estimate. But divorce doesn’t have a fixed price (often even when a lawyer quotes you a seemingly…

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NFTs in Divorce: How Courts Value (and Misvalue) Volatile Digital Assets

When a $100,000 asset can become $1,000 before trial, valuation timing—not ownership—is the real fight. If you’re holding NFTs and heading into a divorce, understand this: the court does not…

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Emergency Contacts: A List of Local Resources for Families in Crisis (Utah Family Law Guide)

Family law emergencies do not follow business hours. What you do—or fail to do—in the first moments of a crisis often dictates your success in court months later. CRITICAL: If you…

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How So-Called Temporary Orders Subtly Decide Your Case

“Temporary orders” sound harmless. Interim. A placeholder until the whole case gets decided. That’s not how they function in the real world. In virtually every Utah divorce and child custody…

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Why Mediation Often Fails (Even When Both People Want to Settle)

Mediation is supposed to be where divorce cases get resolved. And to be fair, a lot of them do. But a surprising number don’t. Not because one or both people…

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Parenting Apps: A (Paid) Solution Looking for a Problem

Everyone in family law has heard the pitch: download a parenting app, pay a monthly fee, and suddenly your co-parenting problems become organized, documented, and “court-ready.” It sounds responsible. It…

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Digital Housekeeping Before Divorce in Utah: Why You Must Change Your Passwords First

Before you file for divorce, your spouse may already have access to more of your life than you realize; your emails, financial accounts, personal documents, and even your private communications…

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What Actually Happens When You File for Divorce in Utah (And Why It Takes So Long)

When most people think about divorce, many may picture a courtroom, a judge, and a decision. But this process is a long, costly, and discouraging one. A typical contested divorce or…

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The “Easy Way Out” That Can Cost You Your Kids in Utah: Why Pleas in Abeyance in DV Cases and Innocence Don’t Mix

You’re sitting there with a domestic violence (DV) criminal charge hanging over your head. And you’re innocent. Yet you’re scared. You're distressed. You’re tired. You want it over. Then comes the…

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Second Marriages and First Impressions: The Stories About an Ex—and the Mistakes People Make by Believing Them

The most dangerous stories in a second marriage are often the ones only one person can verify. Everyone has a past. Everyone has an explanation for why a prior relationship…

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Can You Win Child Custody If Someone Else Is Raising Your Kids During the Week?

This question is more common than you might think. Some may be in this situation: “I want custody for stability.” “I need custody because it affects support.” “I’m the better…

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Hiding Cryptocurrency in a Utah Divorce: Harder Than You Think, More Expensive Than It’s Worth

People hear “crypto” (cryptocurrency; Bitcoin, Ethereum, etc.) and assume “untraceable.” That assumption gets tested quickly in a divorce. In Utah divorce disputes over property division, cryptocurrency is treated like any…

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Using Smart Home Tech to Spy on a Spouse in a Utah Divorce Case?

The modern Utah home is a goldmine of digital data. In a divorce or child custody dispute, it often becomes something else: a surveillance system one spouse tries to weaponize…

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The Legal Assistant’s Role: What Actually Keeps Your Case from Falling Apart

When people think about a divorce or child custody dispute, they picture court—hearings, arguments, big decisions. And it’s the day-to-day work in most cases that decides whether cases are won…

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Pretrial Disclosures Matter in Utah Divorce Cases: Lessons from Prisbrey v. Prisbrey

There’s been (note the past tense) an assumption that creeps into a lot of divorce cases: If the evidence is important enough, the court will let it in. But in Prisbey v.…

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Why Most Divorce Case Settlement Offers Fail: They Ask for Too Much

Most people think settlement is where they finally get to ask for everything they want. It’s not. Settlement—especially in child custody disputes—is where you ask for what you could realistically…

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You Can’t Decide What You Haven’t Examined: What Most Utah Courts Knowingly Miss in Child Custody Decisions

The Missing Step Courts in child custody disputes routinely make determinations without ever hearing from the child directly—or even reviewing a complete and reliable record of someone who did. That…

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Control Your Communications, Protect Your Case: Choosing Your Inner Circle in Utah Family Law

When you are involved in a divorce, custody dispute, or protective order court case, the desire to talk about it can be strong. You may want advice, validation, or simply…

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Military Divorce in Utah: Will You Lose Your TRICARE Coverage?

In Utah military divorces, TRICARE eligibility is governed by the rigid federal "20/20/20 rule," not state court discretion. This post breaks down the strict requirements for lifetime medical benefits, the…

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Everyone Loses When Courts Don’t Hear From the Child Directly

I. The Illusion of Protection In Utah child custody disputes, courts have (but should not have) a choice: hear from the child directly or receive their life story through a…

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The Social Media Trap: How One Facebook Post Can Impact Your Utah Child Custody Case

In a Utah custody case, your conduct is not limited to what happens in your home—it extends to what you choose to share online. Social media is not personal or…

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Exposing the “Child Whisperer” Myth in Utah Custody and Parent-time

In Utah child custody and parent-time disputes, courts routinely defer to a familiar class of professionals: private guardians ad litem (PGALs) and custody evaluators. These professionals are held up as…

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When Courts Refuse to Hear Directly From Children in Child Custody and Parent-Time Disputes

The Basic Logic of Factfinding The Protection Rationale The Expertise Rationale The Record Disappears Credibility Cannot Be Tested The Court’s Position: Real Constraints, Imperfect Tools Institutional Convenience One of the…

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The Child Still Testifies—Just “Off the Record”?

I. The System’s Logic When courts appoint custody evaluators and/or private guardians ad litem (PLALs), the justification is usually straightforward: The judge does not want children to testify.So instead, the…

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The Thing One Rarely Says Out Loud When Divorce Starts

When divorce or a child custody dispute begins, most people think they know what they’re fighting for. The house. The retirement account. The business. Parent-time. Child support. Alimony. Those are…

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