The Weaponization of Victimhood: A Candid Look at the Inexcusable Bias in Family Courts

“A woman's greatest strength [in divorce court] is her ability to be a victim.” It’s a statement that immediately makes people boil over—either in furious agreement or absolute outrage. But…

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Let. The. Evidence. Point. The. Way.

A recent podcast clip I saw this week made a deliberately provocative claim: “A woman’s greatest strength is her ability to be a victim.” Taken literally, the statement is too…

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Utah Rule 108 Requires a Hearing on Enforcement Objections

Christensen v. Christensen - 2026 UT App 104 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JEFFREY CHRISTENSEN, Appellant, v. COURTNEY JESSICA CHRISTENSEN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20240810-CA Filed July 9, 2026 Third District…

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SB 304 Promised a Fix for Weaponized Protective Orders. Read the Statute

Anyone who practices Utah family law has watched it happen. A child custody dispute is going badly for one parent, or hasn't started yet, and a protective order petition appears.…

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Protection Without Prejudice

A temporary protective order should do one thing well: protect against the danger actually alleged and shown by nothing less than a preponderance of the evidence. It should not become…

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When “More Likely Than Not” Becomes “Maybe, So Better Safe Than Sorry”

A low evidentiary burden is still a burden. That should be obvious. In Utah temporary protective order practice, however, it is often treated as optional. The preponderance of the evidence…

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The Paper Shield: Protecting Victims Without Abandoning Due Process

Few legal proceedings can rearrange a person’s life as quickly as an ex parte protective order. A judge can remove someone from the family home, restrict contact with children, limit access to…

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The Standard of Proof Is the Immune System of Family Law—and Courts Keep Suppressing It

This post is a companion to The Bloodletting of Family Law. That post diagnosed a system that mistakes itself for the cure. This one is about the cure the system…

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The Bloodletting of Family Law: When the System Mistakes Itself for the Cure

For centuries, physicians bled their patients and called it medicine. The patients got weaker; the doctors, confident in their training, prescribed more bleeding. Medicine now has a name for harm…

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Guardian ad Litem in Utah: What a GAL or PGAL Is Supposed to Do—and What Usually Happens Instead

If you are in a child custody dispute and the court appoints a "guardian ad litem," it sounds reassuring. A lawyer appointed for the child? What could there be not…

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Arb-Med in Divorce: Why the First Reaction May Be Wrong

New ideas are rarely adopted by the average person first. That is a useful point Seth Godin recently made in his blog recently. When you ask ordinary people whether they like a…

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When an “Absent” Parent Was Pushed Out

When a parent isn't active in a child's life, most people think they already know why. He must not care. She must have checked out. He must have wanted something…

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The Pitfalls of Co-Parenting “Help”: Are Special Masters and Parent Coordinators Worth the Cost in a Utah Custody Dispute? Not Usually.

Special masters and parent coordinators sound like practical solutions to exhausting parenting disputes. When parents keep fighting over exchanges, expenses, holidays, phone calls, school issues, and extracurricular activities, the idea…

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Trust Me Is Not Evidence: The Custody Black Box in Utah Family Court

In most courtrooms, a litigant cannot restrict another person’s fundamental rights by repeating untested, out-of-court accusations. If a party tries to prove serious allegations through “someone told me” evidence, the…

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Divorce Decree Property Awards Survive Death: Slaughter v. Alleman

2026 UT App 85 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JOHN B. ALLEMAN, Petitioner, v. THE HONORABLE CHRISTINE JOHNSON AND APRIL SLAUGHTER, Respondents. APRIL SLAUGHTER, Appellee, v. JOHN B. ALLEMAN, Appellant.…

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The “Best Interests” Standard: Common Factors Judges Consider in Utah Child Custody and Parent-time Disputes

When parents separate or divorce, one of the most important questions is how custody of their children will be determined. Many parents enter the process believing the court will automatically…

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 Ineffective Counsel in Utah TPR Cases: In re A.H.

In re A.H., 2026 UT App 88 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF A.H., J.H., J.H., L.H., N.H., S.H., AND E.H., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN…

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State v. Collard: Redacting Protective Orders and Ineffective Assistance of Counsel

State v. Collard, 2026 UT App 87 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. KEVIN MICHAEL COLLARD, Appellant. Opinion No. 20240532-CA Filed June 4, 2026 Third District…

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No Remedy Without a Wrong: Why Family Courts Must Stop Rewarding Fabricated Grievances

There is a basic principle at the heart of equity: where there is a legal wrong, there should be a remedy. But the inverse matters just as much: where there…

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The Rule 702 Gap: Why Utah Custody Evaluations Need Real Evidentiary Scrutiny

In a Utah personal injury case, if a doctor testifies that a low-speed collision caused a traumatic brain injury, that opinion will usually face meaningful scrutiny under Rule 702 of…

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Utah Court of Appeals Reverses Child Abuse Conviction Over Incorrect “Reasonable Discipline” Jury Instruction

State v. Paramoure - 2026 UT App 74 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH,Appellee, V. PHILIP CHRISTOPHER PARAMOURE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20240381-CA Filed May 7, 2026 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department The Honorable…

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Credibility Determinations Belong to Courts, Not Custody Evaluators

In a surprising number of child custody disputes, courts make major decisions based heavily on conversations nobody else gets to see or hear. A custody evaluator interviews the child privately.…

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The “Delete” Trap: Why Wiping Your Hard Drive During a Divorce Can Blow Up Your Case

Deleting digital evidence during a Utah divorce can trigger sanctions, contempt findings, attorney fee awards, and devastating credibility problems. Learn how Utah courts treat destroyed evidence under URCP 26, 26.1,…

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Wilson v. Wilson: Utah Court of Appeals Enforces Divorce Mediation Settlement Agreement

Wilson v. Wilson - 2026 UT App 72 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS LISA A. WILSON,Appellant, v. BRAD J. WILSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20240444-CA Filed May 7, 2026 Third District…

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Utah Supreme Court: Failure to Intervene Bars Grandmother’s Adoption Petition | In re Adoption of R.P. (2026 UT 9)

This opinion is subject to revision before final publication in the Pacific Reporter In re Adoption of R.P. - 2026 UT 9 2026 UT 9 IN THE SUPREME COURT OF…

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Plausible Isn’t Proof: And “Discretion” Doesn’t Fix It

Stephen Petro recently made a point that should be obvious, but in the heat of litigation, often isn’t: A “reasonable” answer is not the same thing as a correct one. A reasonable answer…

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The Third Way: A Strategic Exit from the Divorce Court/Mediation Loop

Divorce cases spiral and stagnate because the system allows for posturing and delay without consequence. The courts are overwhelmed and apathetic. Mediation, as typically structured, does not require resolution. Without…

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How So-Called Temporary Orders Subtly Decide Your Case

“Temporary orders” sound harmless. Interim. A placeholder until the whole case gets decided. That’s not how they function in the real world. In virtually every Utah divorce and child custody…

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What Actually Happens When You File for Divorce in Utah (And Why It Takes So Long)

When most people think about divorce, many may picture a courtroom, a judge, and a decision. But this process is a long, costly, and discouraging one. A typical contested divorce or…

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Using Smart Home Tech to Spy on a Spouse in a Utah Divorce Case?

The modern Utah home is a goldmine of digital data. In a divorce or child custody dispute, it often becomes something else: a surveillance system one spouse tries to weaponize…

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You Can’t Decide What You Haven’t Examined: What Most Utah Courts Knowingly Miss in Child Custody Decisions

The Missing Step Courts in child custody disputes routinely make determinations without ever hearing from the child directly—or even reviewing a complete and reliable record of someone who did. That…

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Prisbrey v. Prisbrey – 2026 UT App 39 – late disclosure

2026 UT App 39 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS LEONA MARIA PRISBREY,Appellee, V. KENT TERRY PRISBREY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20250070-CA Filed March 19, 2026 Fifth District Court, St. George Department The Honorable Keith C. Barnes No. 234500039…

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Exposing the “Child Whisperer” Myth in Utah Custody and Parent-time

In Utah child custody and parent-time disputes, courts routinely defer to a familiar class of professionals: private guardians ad litem (PGALs) and custody evaluators. These professionals are held up as…

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When Courts Refuse to Hear Directly From Children in Child Custody and Parent-Time Disputes

The Basic Logic of Factfinding The Protection Rationale The Expertise Rationale The Record Disappears Credibility Cannot Be Tested The Court’s Position: Real Constraints, Imperfect Tools Institutional Convenience One of the…

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The “Tooling Up Phase” of Divorce: Why Gathering Your Financial Documents Early Can Save You Thousands of Dollars and Spare You Months of Delay

When people begin thinking about divorce, most want to get it over with quickly. Keep the suffering to a minimum. They want to file immediately, schedule hearings, and get the…

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Utah Court of Appeals: Postnuptial Agreements Can Set Child Support Above Guidelines

Reese v. Reese - 2026 UT App 31 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MAKAIBREE MARIE REESE,Appellee,v.KYLAN REESE,Appellant. Opinion No. 20240830-CA Filed March 5, 2026 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department…

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Who Is in Charge of a Lawsuit: the Client or the Lawyer?

People who hire a lawyer tend to assume one of two extremes. Either: “I hired the lawyer, so the lawyer does what I say.” Or: “The lawyer is the professional,…

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“Not Offered for the Truth of the Matter Asserted”: Meaning, Limits, and Misuse

In court, neither a party nor one of that party’s witnesses can simply claim to repeat what someone else said and expect the judge to treat it as proof. As…

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When the System Resists Hearing from the One Person Who Actually Lives the Case

Seth Godin observed that every important medical innovation of the last several centuries—handwashing, antibiotics, acknowledging the dangers of smoking—was initially resisted by the medical establishment. Not because the ideas were…

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The Illusion of Protection: Why Utah’s Child Testimony Statute Threatens Due Process and Open Courts

A constitutional critique of Utah Code § 81-9-204(5)(a) Utah, like every state, bears a solemn and compelling responsibility to protect children involved in custody and parent-time disputes. That responsibility is…

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Why Utah Courts Rely on GALs, PGALs, and Custody Evaluators — The Best Case

This post is the first in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, beginning with the strongest…

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The Emperor Has No Clothes: When Do Credentials Prove Superior Skill in Interviewing Children?

Questioning the Assumed Superiority of Custody Evaluators and Guardians ad Litem A foundational assumption in modern custody practice is rarely stated outright, but it governs nearly everything that follows: that…

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Why Courts Should Explain How They Hear Children in Custody Cases

Evidence, Record-Making, and the Limits of Testimonial Substitution Courts, lawyers, and commissioners in child custody and parent-time disputes often operate on an unspoken assumption: that the only acceptable way to…

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State v. Yusuf – 2025 UT App 189 – Video Evidence, Credibility, and Jury Emphasis

2025 UT App 189 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH,Appellee, V. REDWAN A. YUSUF,Appellant. Opinion No. 20240190-CA Filed December 18, 2025 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department The Honorable Amber M. Mettler No.…

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State v. Tolman – 2025 UT App 188 – Remote Child Testimony and Preservation Failures

2025 UT App 188 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH,Appellee, v. KASSIE ANGEL TOLMAN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230006-CA Filed December 18, 2025 First District Court, Logan DepartmentThe Honorable Angela FonnesbeckNo. 191100466 Lyla Mahmoud, Debra…

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Orem City v. Jakeman – 2025 UT App 187 – continuous protective orders after sentencing

2025 UT App 187 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS OREM CITY, Appellee, v. DAVID AMMON JAKEMAN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20241042-CA Filed December 18, 2025 Fourth District Court, Spanish Fork Department…

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Evidence, Not Guesswork: The Case for Testing Proposed Child Custody and Parent-time Schedules Before Making Final Custody and Parent-time Orders in Utah

Utah courts are tasked with making custody and parent-time decisions based on the best interest of the child. But you cannot know what schedule truly serves a child’s best interest if…

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In re P.M. – 2025 UT App 154 – Juvenile Court – Dependency

2025 UT App 154 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF P.M., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. M.M., Appellant, v. STATE OF UTAH…

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