If a PGAL Can Interview a Child, So Can a Judge or Commissioner

Utah Courts Should Stop Paying an Intermediary to Tell the Factfinder What the Factfinder Can Hear Directly When a child's wishes, concerns, experiences, or perceptions matter in a Utah child…

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Could a Reverse Mortgage Save a Gray Divorce Settlement?

(Guest blog by Joe Gordon) One of the biggest challenges in a gray divorce is finding a housing solution that works for both spouses without jeopardizing their retirement. For many…

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Utah Litigants Will Soon Have a Right to Free, Expedited Access to Courtroom Audio of Their Court Proceedings

Utah has enacted a meaningful improvement in access to court proceedings. Beginning January 1, 2027, Utah Code § 78A-1-203 will require an audio recording of each public court proceeding in…

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Age 18? High School Graduation? When Child Support Actually Ends in Utah

Most parents assume child support stops the moment a child turns 18. In Utah, that assumption is wrong more often than it's right. High school graduation timing controls the termination…

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The “Noble Exit” Trap: How Moving Out Can Reshape a Child Custody Case Before It Begins

It often begins with a request that sounds perfectly reasonable. “We need some space.” “The fighting isn’t good for the kids.” “Why don’t you stay somewhere else for a while…

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The Performative Care Trap: Why Family Court Is Addicted to Therapy

There is a ritual that plays out with remarkable regularity in Utah family court proceedings. A divorce becomes ugly. A parent is angry. A child is anxious. Communication deteriorates. Someone…

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When “Special Training” Becomes a Credentialist Dodge

What “Special Training” Does a Judge Really Need to Talk to a Child? In Utah child custody disputes, one of the stock objections to having a judge interview a child…

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Let the Judge Talk to the Child. Have the Judge Talk to the Child

One of the strangest objections to judges interviewing children in child custody disputes is that the interview might make the child anxious. Of course it might. The child’s parents are…

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When (and Why) Cheap Therapy Culture Makes Family Law Worse

Mental-health awareness has helped people recognize genuine illness, obtain treatment, and speak about suffering without shame. That is real progress. But family law increasingly reveals the other side of the…

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Hidden Assets in a Utah Divorce: What Discovery Actually Does—and Where It Falls Short

Utah's entire system for dividing property, setting alimony, and calculating child support runs on one assumption: both parties are telling the truth about their finances. When that assumption breaks down,…

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The Innocent Signature That Creates an Indefinite Trap

Signing Form I-864 is a life-altering federal commitment. A Utah divorce decree court cannot terminate your obligation to support an immigrant ex-spouse, and ordinary prenuptial agreements and alimony waivers generally will…

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Public Comment on Proposed Utah Rule of Civil Procedure 110 — Judicial Interview of a Minor Child

Summary: 1. Proposed paragraph (b)(2) applies to judicial interviews substantially the same restrictive threshold the Legislature imposed on compelled child testimony. 2. Concerns about litigation abuse and judicial workload justify…

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When a Label Changes the Past: Testing Memory Instead of Trusting It in Custody Disputes

Here is the objection this post is going to draw, so I deal with it directly instead of dodging it: raising questions about the reliability of memory sounds like it's…

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Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t: Responding to Domestic-Violence Allegations in Protective-Order Cases

An innocent respondent in a protective-order case often faces a problem that courts do not acknowledge clearly enough: The more fully he explains what happened, the more material he may give…

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The Court Proceedings Recording Ban That HB 540 Didn’t Fix

Utah's state court rules still prohibit litigants and attorneys from making their own audio recordings of court proceedings, even when a proceeding is open to the public and no legitimate…

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Kids Don’t Belong in the Driver’s Seat: How Utah Custody Law Rewards Defiance and Calls It Protection

A fit parent is awarded equal custody of two teenagers. Nothing in the record suggests that parent is dangerous, neglectful, or unfit—the court has already said so. A few months…

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Your Therapist May Need a Second Opinion Too

I recently encountered a Facebook Reel that is funnier—and probably truer—than many people will be comfortable admitting. Watch the original Reel here. The Reel’s creator identifies what she calls the…

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Viewing Pre- and Post-Nuptial Agreements Through the Humanity Lens

Viewing Pre- and Post-Nuptial Agreements Through the Humanity Lens A premarital agreement is sold to clients as a piece of financial engineering. It provides certainty. It protects separate property. It…

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You Don’t Want an Overworked Judge or Domestic Relations Commissioner Deciding Your Family’s Fate

Judge Kasey Wright deserves more credit than ridicule for refusing to pretend that chronic triage is competent judging. On July 13, 2026, Utah Fourth Judicial District Judge Kasey Wright submitted…

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When the Old Lame Excuses Fail, New Ones Will Be Invented

Judges in child custody disputes should hear from children more often. A lot more often. It should be routine, the presumptive course, the default. Not because children should decide custody…

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“I’m Not Trained to Interview Children” and Other Empty Objections Behind Utah’s PGAL Default

At a recent hearing, a commissioner explained why she was appointing a private guardian ad litem instead of interviewing the child herself: "Given the age of the child, the statutory…

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One Opinion, Seven Letterheads: The Family Court Echo Chamber

Christine Miller recently made a point about family court that deserves more attention: the appearance of independent professional agreement where no genuine independence exists. When a court appoints a private guardian…

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The Intersection of Federal Immigration Law and Utah Divorce

One of the most complex, high-stakes scenarios occurs when federal immigration policies collide head-on with state domestic relations law. Under the federal Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), a non-citizen spouse…

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SB 304 Promised a Fix for Weaponized Protective Orders. Read the Statute

Anyone who practices Utah family law has watched it happen. A child custody dispute is going badly for one parent, or hasn't started yet, and a protective order petition appears.…

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Protection Without Prejudice

A temporary protective order should do one thing well: protect against the danger actually alleged and shown by nothing less than a preponderance of the evidence. It should not become…

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When “More Likely Than Not” Becomes “Maybe, So Better Safe Than Sorry”

A low evidentiary burden is still a burden. That should be obvious. In Utah temporary protective order practice, however, it is often treated as optional. The preponderance of the evidence…

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The Paper Shield: Protecting Victims Without Abandoning Due Process

Few legal proceedings can rearrange a person’s life as quickly as an ex parte protective order. A judge can remove someone from the family home, restrict contact with children, limit access to…

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The Family Home in Divorce: Sell It or Let One Spouse Keep It?

For many Utah couples, the family home is the largest asset in the divorce. It is also often the most emotional one. That combination can make it dangerous. A spouse…

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The Standard of Proof Is the Immune System of Family Law—and Courts Keep Suppressing It

This post is a companion to The Bloodletting of Family Law. That post diagnosed a system that mistakes itself for the cure. This one is about the cure the system…

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Guardian ad Litem in Utah: What a GAL or PGAL Is Supposed to Do—and What Usually Happens Instead

If you are in a child custody dispute and the court appoints a "guardian ad litem," it sounds reassuring. A lawyer appointed for the child? What could there be not…

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When Courts Reward What They Could Stop the Result Are Always Tragic

I don’t have all the facts about this. None of us do at this point. And what facts we have may not even be fully “factual,” but we’ve seen this…

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Arb-Med in Divorce: Why the First Reaction May Be Wrong

New ideas are rarely adopted by the average person first. That is a useful point Seth Godin recently made in his blog recently. When you ask ordinary people whether they like a…

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When an “Absent” Parent Was Pushed Out

When a parent isn't active in a child's life, most people think they already know why. He must not care. She must have checked out. He must have wanted something…

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The Pitfalls of Co-Parenting “Help”: Are Special Masters and Parent Coordinators Worth the Cost in a Utah Custody Dispute? Not Usually.

Special masters and parent coordinators sound like practical solutions to exhausting parenting disputes. When parents keep fighting over exchanges, expenses, holidays, phone calls, school issues, and extracurricular activities, the idea…

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The Hard Truth About Grandparents’ Visitation “Rights”

Utah grandparent visitation rights can be court-ordered, but they are hard to win. A grandparent can ask a Utah court for visitation, but Utah law starts with a strong presumption in…

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Is the Settlement of Your Real Property Truly Equitable in Your Divorce Case? Why Real Estate “Net Value” Matters

That eagerness to cross the finish line can be so seductive in reaching a divorce settlement agreement. If the division of assets looks 50/50 on paper, it is easy to…

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Fear Wearing the Mask of Reason

On the surface, family court looks like a place of reason. There are statutes, rules of evidence, financial declarations, parenting plans, sworn testimony, judicial findings, and orders written in the…

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Utah Child Custody and Long-Distance Relocation: “The 150 Miles or More Rule”Explained

Few child custody disputes create more uncertainty than relocation. A parent may wantto move for a new job, remarriage, school, lower housing costs, or to be closer to family.Those reasons…

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Put the Rules Where the Power Is

Every courthouse hallway has its own atmosphere. People sit on benches waiting for decisions that may affect their children, property, liberty, safety, income, or reputation. Lawyers hurry between hearings. Witnesses…

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Does Child Support Cover School Fees and Extracurricular Activities in Utah?

One of the most common sources of conflict between co-parents is not just custody exchanges, holiday schedules, or even the monthly child support payment. Often, it is the steady stream…

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The “Best Interests” Standard: Common Factors Judges Consider in Utah Child Custody and Parent-time Disputes

When parents separate or divorce, one of the most important questions is how custody of their children will be determined. Many parents enter the process believing the court will automatically…

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Walking in Their Shoes: The Reciprocal Argument Rule in Family Law Litigation

Family court is not ordinary litigation. In a business dispute, the parties may fight hard, settle, and never see each other again. In divorce and child custody disputes, the parties…

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No Remedy Without a Wrong: Why Family Courts Must Stop Rewarding Fabricated Grievances

There is a basic principle at the heart of equity: where there is a legal wrong, there should be a remedy. But the inverse matters just as much: where there…

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Child Custody and Parent-time Awards Need to Incorporate More Humility

Many parents (I’d say even most parents) enter family court hoping someone will fix everything. Believing that: the judge will see through the lies. the custody evaluator will identify the…

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How Extended Summer Parent-Time Actually Works Under Utah Code §§ 81-9-302 and 81-9-303

Not every Utah parent is subject to the default parent-time schedules found in Utah Code §§ 81-9-302 and 81-9-303. Many parents operate under customized custody and parent-time provisions created by agreement or court…

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Co-Parenting Apps: Useful Tool or Expensive Solution in Search of a Problem?

Parenting apps are now everywhere in modern child custody disputes. Lawyers recommend them. Parenting coordinators recommend them. Guardians ad litem recommend them. Courts sometimes order them. And the companies behind…

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When Joint Legal Custody Parents Disagree About an IEP in Utah

Some of the strongest child custody disputes are no longer fought primarily through parent-time schedules, exchange disputes, or even direct allegations of abuse. Increasingly, they are fought through institutions. Schools.…

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Divorce Mediation Wastes Time, Money, and Effort. There Is an Obvious Better Way.

The way divorce mediation is conducted in Utah is wildly overrated, yet that fact is one of the best kept secrets in the family law legal profession. To be clear,…

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Equal Custody in Utah: Common, Increasingly Favored, but Still Not Presumed

A growing number of divorcing and unmarried parents walk into consultations convinced that Utah law now requires “50/50 (equal) child custody.” Some are absolutely certain of it. They heard it…

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