When “Special Training” Becomes a Credentialist Dodge
What “Special Training” Does a Judge Really Need to Talk to a Child? In Utah child custody disputes, one of the stock objections to having a judge interview a child…
When (and Why) Cheap Therapy Culture Makes Family Law Worse
Mental-health awareness has helped people recognize genuine illness, obtain treatment, and speak about suffering without shame. That is real progress. But family law increasingly reveals the other side of the…
When a Label Changes the Past: Testing Memory Instead of Trusting It in Custody Disputes
Here is the objection this post is going to draw, so I deal with it directly instead of dodging it: raising questions about the reliability of memory sounds like it's…
Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t: Responding to Domestic-Violence Allegations in Protective-Order Cases
An innocent respondent in a protective-order case often faces a problem that courts do not acknowledge clearly enough: The more fully he explains what happened, the more material he may give…
The Weaponization of Victimhood: A Candid Look at the Inexcusable Bias in Family Courts
“A woman's greatest strength [in divorce court] is her ability to be a victim.” It’s a statement that immediately makes people boil over—either in furious agreement or absolute outrage. But…
The Intersection of Federal Immigration Law and Utah Divorce
One of the most complex, high-stakes scenarios occurs when federal immigration policies collide head-on with state domestic relations law. Under the federal Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), a non-citizen spouse…
SB 304 Promised a Fix for Weaponized Protective Orders. Read the Statute
Anyone who practices Utah family law has watched it happen. A child custody dispute is going badly for one parent, or hasn't started yet, and a protective order petition appears.…
When “More Likely Than Not” Becomes “Maybe, So Better Safe Than Sorry”
A low evidentiary burden is still a burden. That should be obvious. In Utah temporary protective order practice, however, it is often treated as optional. The preponderance of the evidence…
The Paper Shield: Protecting Victims Without Abandoning Due Process
Few legal proceedings can rearrange a person’s life as quickly as an ex parte protective order. A judge can remove someone from the family home, restrict contact with children, limit access to…
State v. Collard: Redacting Protective Orders and Ineffective Assistance of Counsel
State v. Collard, 2026 UT App 87 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. KEVIN MICHAEL COLLARD, Appellant. Opinion No. 20240532-CA Filed June 4, 2026 Third District…
No Remedy Without a Wrong: Why Family Courts Must Stop Rewarding Fabricated Grievances
There is a basic principle at the heart of equity: where there is a legal wrong, there should be a remedy. But the inverse matters just as much: where there…
Utah Court of Appeals Reverses Child Abuse Conviction Over Incorrect “Reasonable Discipline” Jury Instruction
State v. Paramoure - 2026 UT App 74 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH,Appellee, V. PHILIP CHRISTOPHER PARAMOURE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20240381-CA Filed May 7, 2026 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department The Honorable…
Emergency Contacts: A List of Local Resources for Families in Crisis (Utah Family Law Guide)
Family law emergencies do not follow business hours. What you do—or fail to do—in the first moments of a crisis often dictates your success in court months later. CRITICAL: If you…
The “Easy Way Out” That Can Cost You Your Kids in Utah: Why Pleas in Abeyance in DV Cases and Innocence Don’t Mix
You’re sitting there with a domestic violence (DV) criminal charge hanging over your head. And you’re innocent. Yet you’re scared. You're distressed. You’re tired. You want it over. Then comes the…
Deepfakes in Utah Divorce and Child Custody Disputes: Not If But When
A few years ago, the concern was fake law; lawyers citing to AI-generated cases that didn’t exist. That already happened in Utah. See Garner v. Kadince. The next concern is worse:…
The Obvious Variable No One Addresses: How Gender Distorts Protective Order Decisions – Part II of II
Protective orders are among the most powerful and disruptive tools Utah courts wield—all on an expedited timeline and often on a limited record. The law governing these orders is clearly…
The Obvious Variable No One Addresses: How Gender Distorts Protective Order Decisions
Protective orders are among the most powerful and disruptive tools Utah courts wield—all on an expedited timeline and often on a limited record. The law governing these orders is clearly…
The High Cost of the “If It Saves Just One Life” Fallacy
In the world of public policy, there is a phrase that acts as a universal solvent for logic, restraint, and due process: “If it saves just one life.” The phrase is…
Not Malicious, But Misaligned: Why Utah Protective Order Hearings Have Become Functionally Rigged
Utah’s protective order system was not designed to punish innocent people. It was designed to prevent violence. That distinction matters. Over time, the framework has developed a structural imbalance. The…
Is a Brief but Past History of Abuse or Substance Abuse the End of Your Chances for Joint Child Custody in Utah?
The short answer: No — you have hope, but you have work to do. Utah custody law has changed significantly in past generation, but the core principles are the same:…
How to Protect Yourself from False Abuse Accusations During Custody Exchanges and Other Interactions
False allegations of abuse—whether physical, emotional, or “stalking”—are among the most destructive things that can happen to a parent in a custody dispute. Once the words “abuse” and/or stalking is/are…
What Should I Do If I Have to Have a Custody Evaluation, Psychological, or Other Evaluation Conducted?
Utah family courts often order custody, psychological, or substance-abuse evaluations. Learn what to expect, how to prepare, and how to protect yourself during these high-stakes assessments. _________ When a Utah…
Understanding Judicial Discretion and Its Abuses in Utah Family Law
Utah judges and commissioners can—and many often do—bend or ignore laws/rules and facts. Learn how this happens, why appellate oversight rarely corrects it, and what litigants can do to protect…
State v. Hansen – 2025 UT App 121
State v. Hansen - 2025 UT App 121 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH,Appellee, v. STEPHANIE HANSEN,Appellant. Opinion No. 20220178-CA Filed August 14, 2025 Fourth District Court, Provo…
Should I Forgive My Spouse for Abusing Me and/or Our Children?
Forgiveness is a deeply personal decision, and in the context of abuse it can be a life-altering one. But understand that “forgiving” your spouse for abusing you or your children…
Can I Stop My Spouse from Bad Mouthing Me During Our Divorce? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
It’s not uncommon during a divorce for one spouse to claim that the other is disparaging them—online, in conversations with mutual friends, or even in front of their children. We…
Should You Have Your Spouse or Co-Parent Subject to a Psychological Evaluation in Your Divorce and Child Custody Dispute?
I. Introduction A psychological evaluation in a custody or divorce case sounds powerful. You may believe (or even know) your spouse to be manipulative, unstable, or even dangerous. So why…
Your Spouse May Not Be a Narcissist; He or She May Just Not Get Along with You
By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant One of the most common accusations we hear in divorce cases today is: “My spouse is a narcissist.” It's become the go-to label for bad behavior,…
I Can’t Believe I’m Giving This Advice, but I Am: Why Every Divorced Parent Should Consider Background Checks on New Partners Who Are or Who Will Be Around Their Kids
If you're divorced and you are, or your ex is, introducing a new boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse into your minor children’s lives, you should seriously consider running a background check…
Are Parents Charged With Contempt of Court or Have Their Visitation Rights Suspended When Their Children Report That They Have Been Abusive?
Yes. Why? Contempt of court is defined as: 1) a valid court order; 2) of which the parent has notice; 3) that the parent is capable of obey; 4) but…
How to Handle Child Custody When the Mother Is Negatively Influencing the Child?
Although they shouldn't do it, courts will generally treat mothers and fathers differently simply based upon sex. Sexual discrimination, to put it bluntly. Not all courts do this, but many…
How to Identify and Avoid Some Common Dirty Tricks in Divorce Cases. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Some spouses will absolutely exploit the legal system to gain an unfair advantage in divorce proceedings. It's crucial to recognize the manipulative tactics your spouse might employ against you—even if…
Should You Get Divorced? Weighing Your Options in a Difficult Decision By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
The decisions to marry and to end a marriage are not decisions to be taken lightly. If divorce is ever an easy choice, something is terribly wrong. Wrong with the…
A Big Problem with Child Abuse and Parental Alienation Accusations in Family Court
I can identify the problem by phrasing it in the form of several hypothetical questions to a judge: Is the approach to the allegations going to be, “Because these kinds…
In re I.C. – 2025 UT App 37 – child abuse and neglect
In re I.C. - 2025 UT App 37 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF I.C., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. A.C., Appellant,…
It Tolls for Thee: The All Too Frequent Tragic Cost and Futility of Family Court
“Quid rides? Mutato nomine et de te fabula narrator. [Why do you laugh ? Change only the name and this story is about you.]” Here’s a deeply disturbing but all…
House Bill 281
I like this idea (House Bill 281) https://le.utah.gov/Session/2025/bills/static/HB0281.html Do you like it too? If not, I'd like to know why. Schools are being asked to provide services that have nothing…
In re K.M. – 2025 UT App 17 – parents regaining custody from guardian
In re K.M. - 2025 UT App 17 Oral argument (Utah Court of Appeals archive): https://youtu.be/e8OUzlARvZk THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS IN THE INTEREST OF K.M., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN…
2025 UT App 14 – State v. Taylor – Sodomy on Child – Biased Jurors
2025 UT App 14 - State v. Taylor THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. ERIC ALAN TAYLOR, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220712-CA Filed January 30, 2025 Second…
How Does Fraudulently Filing for a Protective Order Often Give the Applicants an Insurmountable Unfair Advantage in a Divorce or Child Custody Case?
By exploiting legal mechanisms designed to protect actual victims, here are ways that fraudulently seeking a protective order can create an unfair advantage: Immediate Restriction on Contact and Access Temporary…
The Cause of “Protective Orders Disorder” and How to Prevent It.
“Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” (Benjamin Franklin) It is undeniable that courts frequently take a "better safe…
The Prejudicial Impact of False Abuse Accusations on Husbands and Fathers in Utah Divorce and Custody Disputes
Child custody disputes between parents (whether in a divorce case or between unmarried parents) are among the most bitterly fought cases, as parents fight over the right to be integral…
What Legal Safeguards Exist to Prevent Abuse of Domestic Violence Restraining Orders?
I am a divorce and family lawyer. So I know that there are laws on the books in my jurisdiction (Utah) and in other jurisdictions throughout the U.S. that make…
2024 UT App 185 – In re D.A.T.R – adoption appeal
2024 UT App 185 - In re D.A.T.R THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS IN THE MATTER OF D.A.T.R., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. A.K., Appellant, v. T.K. AND…
State v. Hughes – 2024 UT App 168 – insufficient evidence and ineffective assistance of counsel
State v. Hughes - 2024 UT App 168 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. DAYMIAN MARTIEZ HUGHES, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220640-CA Filed November 15, 2024 Third…
The Voice of Reason in a Discussion of Domestic Violence and Child Custody
On October 31, 2024, the Utah Court of Appeals issued it opinion in the case of Lerman v. Lerman (2024 UT App 155). It is a decision Utah sorely needed for how to…
Lerman v. Lerman – 2024 UT App 155 – Child Custody and Domestic Violence
Lerman v. Lerman - 2024 UT App 155 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEREK LERMAN, Appellee, v. MICHELLE LERMAN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230913-CA Filed October 31, 2024 Second District Court,…
In re S.M. – 2024 UT App 135
2024 UT App 135 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF S.M., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. S.M., Appellant, v. STATE OF UTAH,…
State v. King – 2024 UT App 151 – Domestic Violence – Evidence – Effective Counsel
State v. King - 2024 UT App 151 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v.. PHILLIP MASON KING, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210710-CA Filed October 24, 2024 Second…
State v. Orton – 2024 UT App 140 – Child Sexual Abuse By Stepparent
State v. Orton - 2024 UT App 140 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. BRETT LEONARD ORTON, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220119-CA Filed October 3, 2024 Second…