Proffer Hearings in Utah Family Court: When a Disputed Fact Requires Actual Evidence

Summary: Proffers save time by letting lawyers tell the court what witnesses would say. That works well when the parties agree to proceed that way or when the court assumes…

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The Arrest Is Not Really the Evidence: Probable Cause and Domestic Relations Cases

A parent tells the police that the other parent assaulted her. An officer responds, interviews people at the scene, and arrests the accused parent. Weeks later, the parties are in…

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The Answer to Too Much Psychology in Child Custody Disputes Is Not Reflexively More Psychology

Summary. Family law increasingly describes ordinary misconduct in clinical terms. Selfishness becomes narcissism, and disagreement becomes gaslighting. When amateur psychology complicates a child custody dispute, courts and lawyers often respond…

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The Standard Is Not Perfection. It Is Our Best Work and Nothing Less.

Nobody has any business demanding perfection from judges, commissioners, lawyers, guardians ad litem, custody evaluators, therapists, or court clerks. These are human beings doing difficult work, often under time pressure,…

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Neither Spock Nor McCoy: What Administering Utah Family Law Actually Requires

Disraeli said never apologize for feeling, because to do so is to apologize for truth. He was right, and Utah family law should take him seriously. A parent's fear for…

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Who Gets the Benefit of the Doubt? What the Lindsay Clancy Case Can Teach Utah Family Courts

The Lindsay Clancy murder trial is about as far removed from an ordinary Utah divorce case as one can imagine. Clancy admitted killing her three young children in Massachusetts in…

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When “Erring on the Side of Caution” Becomes a Substitute for Proof

There is a powerful argument for caution in family court, and it deserves to be taken seriously. When a judge or commissioner is confronted with an allegation that a parent…

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If a PGAL Can Interview a Child, So Can a Judge or Commissioner

Utah Courts Should Stop Paying an Intermediary to Tell the Factfinder What the Factfinder Can Hear Directly When a child's wishes, concerns, experiences, or perceptions matter in a Utah child…

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The Performative Care Trap: Why Family Court Is Addicted to Therapy

There is a ritual that plays out with remarkable regularity in Utah family court proceedings. A divorce becomes ugly. A parent is angry. A child is anxious. Communication deteriorates. Someone…

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When “Special Training” Becomes a Credentialist Dodge

What “Special Training” Does a Judge Really Need to Talk to a Child? In Utah child custody disputes, one of the stock objections to having a judge interview a child…

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Let the Judge Talk to the Child. Have the Judge Talk to the Child

One of the strangest objections to judges interviewing children in child custody disputes is that the interview might make the child anxious. Of course it might. The child’s parents are…

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Public Comment on Proposed Utah Rule of Civil Procedure 110 — Judicial Interview of a Minor Child

Summary: 1. Proposed paragraph (b)(2) applies to judicial interviews substantially the same restrictive threshold the Legislature imposed on compelled child testimony. 2. Concerns about litigation abuse and judicial workload justify…

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When a Label Changes the Past: Testing Memory Instead of Trusting It in Custody Disputes

Here is the objection this post is going to draw, so I deal with it directly instead of dodging it: raising questions about the reliability of memory sounds like it's…

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Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t: Responding to Domestic-Violence Allegations in Protective-Order Cases

An innocent respondent in a protective-order case often faces a problem that courts do not acknowledge clearly enough: The more fully he explains what happened, the more material he may give…

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You Don’t Want an Overworked Judge or Domestic Relations Commissioner Deciding Your Family’s Fate

Judge Kasey Wright deserves more credit than ridicule for refusing to pretend that chronic triage is competent judging. On July 13, 2026, Utah Fourth Judicial District Judge Kasey Wright submitted…

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When the Old Lame Excuses Fail, New Ones Will Be Invented

Judges in child custody disputes should hear from children more often. A lot more often. It should be routine, the presumptive course, the default. Not because children should decide custody…

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“I’m Not Trained to Interview Children” and Other Empty Objections Behind Utah’s PGAL Default

At a recent hearing, a commissioner explained why she was appointing a private guardian ad litem instead of interviewing the child herself: "Given the age of the child, the statutory…

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One Opinion, Seven Letterheads: The Family Court Echo Chamber

Christine Miller recently made a point about family court that deserves more attention: the appearance of independent professional agreement where no genuine independence exists. When a court appoints a private guardian…

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The Intersection of Federal Immigration Law and Utah Divorce

One of the most complex, high-stakes scenarios occurs when federal immigration policies collide head-on with state domestic relations law. Under the federal Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), a non-citizen spouse…

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SB 304 Promised a Fix for Weaponized Protective Orders. Read the Statute

Anyone who practices Utah family law has watched it happen. A child custody dispute is going badly for one parent, or hasn't started yet, and a protective order petition appears.…

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Protection Without Prejudice

A temporary protective order should do one thing well: protect against the danger actually alleged and shown by nothing less than a preponderance of the evidence. It should not become…

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When “More Likely Than Not” Becomes “Maybe, So Better Safe Than Sorry”

A low evidentiary burden is still a burden. That should be obvious. In Utah temporary protective order practice, however, it is often treated as optional. The preponderance of the evidence…

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The Paper Shield: Protecting Victims Without Abandoning Due Process

Few legal proceedings can rearrange a person’s life as quickly as an ex parte protective order. A judge can remove someone from the family home, restrict contact with children, limit access to…

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The Standard of Proof Is the Immune System of Family Law—and Courts Keep Suppressing It

This post is a companion to The Bloodletting of Family Law. That post diagnosed a system that mistakes itself for the cure. This one is about the cure the system…

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When an “Absent” Parent Was Pushed Out

When a parent isn't active in a child's life, most people think they already know why. He must not care. She must have checked out. He must have wanted something…

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Fear Wearing the Mask of Reason

On the surface, family court looks like a place of reason. There are statutes, rules of evidence, financial declarations, parenting plans, sworn testimony, judicial findings, and orders written in the…

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“I’ll Give It the Appropriate Weight” Is Not a Rule of Evidence

Few courtroom phrases are more soothing—or more dangerous—than this response to a valid hearsay objection: “I’ll admit it, but I’ll give it the appropriate weight.” The phrase sounds disciplined. It…

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The Rule 702 Gap: Why Utah Custody Evaluations Need Real Evidentiary Scrutiny

In a Utah personal injury case, if a doctor testifies that a low-speed collision caused a traumatic brain injury, that opinion will usually face meaningful scrutiny under Rule 702 of…

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Pretrial Disclosures Matter in Utah Divorce Cases: Lessons from Prisbrey v. Prisbrey

There’s been (note the past tense) an assumption that creeps into a lot of divorce cases: If the evidence is important enough, the court will let it in. But in Prisbey v.…

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You Can’t Decide What You Haven’t Examined: What Most Utah Courts Knowingly Miss in Child Custody Decisions

The Missing Step Courts in child custody disputes routinely make determinations without ever hearing from the child directly—or even reviewing a complete and reliable record of someone who did. That…

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Everyone Loses When Courts Don’t Hear From the Child Directly

I. The Illusion of Protection In Utah child custody disputes, courts have (but should not have) a choice: hear from the child directly or receive their life story through a…

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Exposing the “Child Whisperer” Myth in Utah Custody and Parent-time

In Utah child custody and parent-time disputes, courts routinely defer to a familiar class of professionals: private guardians ad litem (PGALs) and custody evaluators. These professionals are held up as…

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When Courts Refuse to Hear Directly From Children in Child Custody and Parent-Time Disputes

The Basic Logic of Factfinding The Protection Rationale The Expertise Rationale The Record Disappears Credibility Cannot Be Tested The Court’s Position: Real Constraints, Imperfect Tools Institutional Convenience One of the…

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The Child Still Testifies—Just “Off the Record”?

I. The System’s Logic When courts appoint custody evaluators and/or private guardians ad litem (PLALs), the justification is usually straightforward: The judge does not want children to testify.So instead, the…

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The Obvious Variable No One Addresses: How Gender Distorts Protective Order Decisions – Part II of II

Protective orders are among the most powerful and disruptive tools Utah courts wield—all on an expedited timeline and often on a limited record. The law governing these orders is clearly…

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Structure, Confidence, and the Integrity of Process – Conclusion

This series has examined a focused procedural question: whether interviews with children in custody disputes should be preserved through authenticated contemporaneous verbatim record via unedited audio-visual capture. The discussion has…

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Part III – Transparency, Deference, and Institutional Design

Legal systems evolve. Practices that function adequately become routine. Routine hardens into assumption. Over time, assumption begins to resemble necessity. Unrecorded child interviews in custody and parent-time cases appear to…

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Part II – Fidelity, Filtering, and the Loss of Context

In most areas of litigation, original testimony is preserved. Depositions are recorded. Hearings are transcribed. Statements given in investigative settings are documented. Context is retained because meaning does not reside…

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Part I – The Fragility Rationale and the Case for Making and Preserving Records

The Fragility Rationale The most common justification for not making and keeping a record of child testimony rests on fragility. Knowing that the interview will be recorded, it is said,…

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Trust Without Verification: The Custody Evaluation Transparency Problem

When the interviews that shape custody decisions remain inside a black box, the court is asked to trust what it cannot independently verify. In Utah child custody disputes, custody evaluations…

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Should a Guardian ad Litem Speak for the Child—or Over the Child?

Utah’s 2026 legislative session includes a proposal that deserves attention well beyond juvenile court. House Bill 372—particularly its substitute versions—revisits Guardian ad Litem (GAL) duties and standards in child welfare proceedings.…

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“Not Offered for the Truth of the Matter Asserted”: Meaning, Limits, and Misuse

In court, neither a party nor one of that party’s witnesses can simply claim to repeat what someone else said and expect the judge to treat it as proof. As…

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Why Can’t I Just Submit a Letter as Evidence in Court?

What “Laying Foundation” Actually Means One of the most common frustrations in Utah divorce cases is this: a party has a letter, email, report, or written statement that feels decisive—and…

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Navigating the GAL or PGAL Interview: A Survival Guide

In child custody disputes, the judge acts as the final arbiter, but they rarely get to see the daily reality of a child's life. This is where appointing an attorney…

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What Utah Law Actually Says About Hearing From Children in Custody Cases

In the prior discussion, I described a common feature of Utah custody and parent-time proceedings: courts routinely make findings about a child’s needs, attachments, and lived experience without hearing directly…

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What Counts as “Testimony” When the Court Hears From a Child

In the prior two posts, I described a common feature of Utah custody and parent-time proceedings: courts routinely make findings about a child’s needs, relationships, and lived experience without hearing…

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When the System Resists Hearing from the One Person Who Actually Lives the Case

Seth Godin observed that every important medical innovation of the last several centuries—handwashing, antibiotics, acknowledging the dangers of smoking—was initially resisted by the medical establishment. Not because the ideas were…

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The Muzzled Meadow

I. The Founding TraumaIn the Meadow, everyone agreed on one thing: voices were dangerous.It hadn’t always been so. Long ago, animals spoke plainly. Some spoke well, somepoorly, some too much.…

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Why This Debate Is So Often Avoided in Utah Child Custody Cases

This post is the fourth in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, and the legal, procedural,…

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