Can You Ask the Court to Test the Custody Schedule You Are Proposing?

Suppose you are asking for joint or equal physical child custody. The other parent opposes it. Why not ask the court to put your proposed schedule into effect temporarily so…

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The Answer to Too Much Psychology in Child Custody Disputes Is Not Reflexively More Psychology

Summary. Family law increasingly describes ordinary misconduct in clinical terms. Selfishness becomes narcissism, and disagreement becomes gaslighting. When amateur psychology complicates a child custody dispute, courts and lawyers often respond…

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The Cost of Divorce: How to Keep Legal Fees Down Without Cutting Corners

Executive Summary: You do not save money in divorce simply by spending less on lawyers. You save money by using legal help where it adds value and avoiding work that…

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The First Draft Is the Fitting, Not the Finished Suit

Executive Summary: I draft legal documents the way a tailor fits a suit. I start with a proven structure, show the client an actual draft, and then adjust the approach,…

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The Standard Is Not Perfection. It Is Our Best Work and Nothing Less.

Nobody has any business demanding perfection from judges, commissioners, lawyers, guardians ad litem, custody evaluators, therapists, or court clerks. These are human beings doing difficult work, often under time pressure,…

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Neither Spock Nor McCoy: What Administering Utah Family Law Actually Requires

Disraeli said never apologize for feeling, because to do so is to apologize for truth. He was right, and Utah family law should take him seriously. A parent's fear for…

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Who Gets the Benefit of the Doubt? What the Lindsay Clancy Case Can Teach Utah Family Courts

The Lindsay Clancy murder trial is about as far removed from an ordinary Utah divorce case as one can imagine. Clancy admitted killing her three young children in Massachusetts in…

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When “Erring on the Side of Caution” Becomes a Substitute for Proof

There is a powerful argument for caution in family court, and it deserves to be taken seriously. When a judge or commissioner is confronted with an allegation that a parent…

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If a PGAL Can Interview a Child, So Can a Judge or Commissioner

Utah Courts Should Stop Paying an Intermediary to Tell the Factfinder What the Factfinder Can Hear Directly When a child's wishes, concerns, experiences, or perceptions matter in a Utah child…

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Guanuna v. Sawatzki: Utah Court Upholds Presumed Father Despite DNA

2026 UT App 130 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JUAN MIGUEL GUANUNA, Appellant, v. LINDSEY R. SAWATZKI AND JONATHAN C. SAWATZKI, Appellees. Opinion No. 20240191-CA Filed August 20, 2026 Third…

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Utah Litigants Will Soon Have a Right to Free, Expedited Access to Courtroom Audio of Their Court Proceedings

Utah has enacted a meaningful improvement in access to court proceedings. Beginning January 1, 2027, Utah Code § 78A-1-203 will require an audio recording of each public court proceeding in…

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Age 18? High School Graduation? When Child Support Actually Ends in Utah

Most parents assume child support stops the moment a child turns 18. In Utah, that assumption is wrong more often than it's right. High school graduation timing controls the termination…

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The “Noble Exit” Trap: How Moving Out Can Reshape a Child Custody Case Before It Begins

It often begins with a request that sounds perfectly reasonable. “We need some space.” “The fighting isn’t good for the kids.” “Why don’t you stay somewhere else for a while…

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Hidden Assets in a Utah Divorce: What Discovery Actually Does—and Where It Falls Short

Utah's entire system for dividing property, setting alimony, and calculating child support runs on one assumption: both parties are telling the truth about their finances. When that assumption breaks down,…

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When a Label Changes the Past: Testing Memory Instead of Trusting It in Custody Disputes

Here is the objection this post is going to draw, so I deal with it directly instead of dodging it: raising questions about the reliability of memory sounds like it's…

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Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t: Responding to Domestic-Violence Allegations in Protective-Order Cases

An innocent respondent in a protective-order case often faces a problem that courts do not acknowledge clearly enough: The more fully he explains what happened, the more material he may give…

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The Court Proceedings Recording Ban That HB 540 Didn’t Fix

Utah's state court rules still prohibit litigants and attorneys from making their own audio recordings of court proceedings, even when a proceeding is open to the public and no legitimate…

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Utah Juvenile Appeal Mootness: In re M.M. Explained

In re M.M. - 2026 UT App 105 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF M.M., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. M.M., Appellant,…

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Viewing Pre- and Post-Nuptial Agreements Through the Humanity Lens

Viewing Pre- and Post-Nuptial Agreements Through the Humanity Lens A premarital agreement is sold to clients as a piece of financial engineering. It provides certainty. It protects separate property. It…

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“I’m Not Trained to Interview Children” and Other Empty Objections Behind Utah’s PGAL Default

At a recent hearing, a commissioner explained why she was appointing a private guardian ad litem instead of interviewing the child herself: "Given the age of the child, the statutory…

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Kids Don’t Belong in the Driver’s Seat: How Utah Custody Law Rewards Defiance and Calls It Protection

A fit parent is awarded equal custody of two teenagers. Nothing in the record suggests he's dangerous, neglectful, or unfit—the court has already said so. A few months in, the…

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The Intersection of Federal Immigration Law and Utah Divorce

One of the most complex, high-stakes scenarios occurs when federal immigration policies collide head-on with state domestic relations law. Under the federal Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), a non-citizen spouse…

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SB 304 Promised a Fix for Weaponized Protective Orders. Read the Statute

Anyone who practices Utah family law has watched it happen. A child custody dispute is going badly for one parent, or hasn't started yet, and a protective order petition appears.…

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The Paper Shield: Protecting Victims Without Abandoning Due Process

Few legal proceedings can rearrange a person’s life as quickly as an ex parte protective order. A judge can remove someone from the family home, restrict contact with children, limit access to…

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The Standard of Proof Is the Immune System of Family Law—and Courts Keep Suppressing It

This post is a companion to The Bloodletting of Family Law. That post diagnosed a system that mistakes itself for the cure. This one is about the cure the system…

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Guardian ad Litem in Utah: What a GAL or PGAL Is Supposed to Do—and What Usually Happens Instead

If you are in a child custody dispute and the court appoints a "guardian ad litem," it sounds reassuring. A lawyer appointed for the child? What could there be not…

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The Pitfalls of Co-Parenting “Help”: Are Special Masters and Parent Coordinators Worth the Cost in a Utah Custody Dispute? Not Usually.

Special masters and parent coordinators sound like practical solutions to exhausting parenting disputes. When parents keep fighting over exchanges, expenses, holidays, phone calls, school issues, and extracurricular activities, the idea…

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The Hard Truth About Grandparents’ Visitation “Rights”

Utah grandparent visitation rights can be court-ordered, but they are hard to win. A grandparent can ask a Utah court for visitation, but Utah law starts with a strong presumption in…

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Utah Child Custody and Long-Distance Relocation: “The 150 Miles or More Rule”Explained

Few child custody disputes create more uncertainty than relocation. A parent may wantto move for a new job, remarriage, school, lower housing costs, or to be closer to family.Those reasons…

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Divorce Decree Property Awards Survive Death: Slaughter v. Alleman

2026 UT App 85 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JOHN B. ALLEMAN, Petitioner, v. THE HONORABLE CHRISTINE JOHNSON AND APRIL SLAUGHTER, Respondents. APRIL SLAUGHTER, Appellee, v. JOHN B. ALLEMAN, Appellant.…

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Jenkins v. Jenkins – Imputed Income and Fault-Based Alimony

2026 UT App 86 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KRISTINE JENKINS, Appellee, v. EVAN K. JENKINS, Appellant. Opinion No. 20241206-CA Filed May 29, 2026 Fourth District Court, Provo Department The…

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Does Child Support Cover School Fees and Extracurricular Activities in Utah?

One of the most common sources of conflict between co-parents is not just custody exchanges, holiday schedules, or even the monthly child support payment. Often, it is the steady stream…

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State v. Collard: Redacting Protective Orders and Ineffective Assistance of Counsel

State v. Collard, 2026 UT App 87 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. KEVIN MICHAEL COLLARD, Appellant. Opinion No. 20240532-CA Filed June 4, 2026 Third District…

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“I’ll Give It the Appropriate Weight” Is Not a Rule of Evidence

Few courtroom phrases are more soothing—or more dangerous—than this response to a valid hearsay objection: “I’ll admit it, but I’ll give it the appropriate weight.” The phrase sounds disciplined. It…

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PGALs Are Almost Always Appointed for the Court’s Convenience, Not the Child’s Benefit or for the Benefit of Seeking the Truth

For many parents involved in child custody disputes, the phrase “appointing a PGAL” comes up before anyone explains what it means. “PGAL” is short for private guardian ad litem. In…

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No Remedy Without a Wrong: Why Family Courts Must Stop Rewarding Fabricated Grievances

There is a basic principle at the heart of equity: where there is a legal wrong, there should be a remedy. But the inverse matters just as much: where there…

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Child Custody and Parent-time Awards Need to Incorporate More Humility

Many parents (I’d say even most parents) enter family court hoping someone will fix everything. Believing that: the judge will see through the lies. the custody evaluator will identify the…

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Beyond 18: When Utah Law Requires Continued Support for Adult Children with Disabilities

Discover how Utah Code § 81-6-101 allows for child support to continue indefinitely for adult children with cognitive disabilities. Learn the legal standards for incapacity and how a Special Needs Trust can…

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The “Custom-Tailored” Holiday Schedule vs. Utah’s Statutory Plan

One of the most common mistakes parents make in Utah child custody disputes is assuming that a “custom-tailored” holiday schedule must automatically be better than Utah’s standard statutory holiday parent-time…

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The “Delete” Trap: Why Wiping Your Hard Drive During a Divorce Can Blow Up Your Case

Deleting digital evidence during a Utah divorce can trigger sanctions, contempt findings, attorney fee awards, and devastating credibility problems. Learn how Utah courts treat destroyed evidence under URCP 26, 26.1,…

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Utah Supreme Court: Failure to Intervene Bars Grandmother’s Adoption Petition | In re Adoption of R.P. (2026 UT 9)

This opinion is subject to revision before final publication in the Pacific Reporter In re Adoption of R.P. - 2026 UT 9 2026 UT 9 IN THE SUPREME COURT OF…

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When No Good Deed Goes Unpunished in Divorce

Good behavior in a marriage is often the wrong behavior in a divorce action (and vice versa) Divorce changes the rules midstream. That is the part most people don’t see…

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The “Easy Way Out” That Can Cost You Your Kids in Utah: Why Pleas in Abeyance in DV Cases and Innocence Don’t Mix

You’re sitting there with a domestic violence (DV) criminal charge hanging over your head. And you’re innocent. Yet you’re scared. You're distressed. You’re tired. You want it over. Then comes the…

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Can You Win Child Custody If Someone Else Is Raising Your Kids During the Week?

This question is more common than you might think. Some may be in this situation: “I want custody for stability.” “I need custody because it affects support.” “I’m the better…

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Hiding Cryptocurrency in a Utah Divorce: Harder Than You Think, More Expensive Than It’s Worth

People hear “crypto” (cryptocurrency; Bitcoin, Ethereum, etc.) and assume “untraceable.” That assumption gets tested quickly in a divorce. In Utah divorce disputes over property division, cryptocurrency is treated like any…

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Using Smart Home Tech to Spy on a Spouse in a Utah Divorce Case?

The modern Utah home is a goldmine of digital data. In a divorce or child custody dispute, it often becomes something else: a surveillance system one spouse tries to weaponize…

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Why Most Divorce Case Settlement Offers Fail: They Ask for Too Much

Most people think settlement is where they finally get to ask for everything they want. It’s not. Settlement—especially in child custody disputes—is where you ask for what you could realistically…

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Prisbrey v. Prisbrey – 2026 UT App 39 – late disclosure

2026 UT App 39 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS LEONA MARIA PRISBREY,Appellee, V. KENT TERRY PRISBREY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20250070-CA Filed March 19, 2026 Fifth District Court, St. George Department The Honorable Keith C. Barnes No. 234500039…

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The Social Media Trap: How One Facebook Post Can Impact Your Utah Child Custody Case

In a Utah custody case, your conduct is not limited to what happens in your home—it extends to what you choose to share online. Social media is not personal or…

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The Child Still Testifies—Just “Off the Record”?

I. The System’s Logic When courts appoint custody evaluators and/or private guardians ad litem (PLALs), the justification is usually straightforward: The judge does not want children to testify.So instead, the…

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