Erring on the Side of Caution — Until You’re the One Paying for It
“Better safe than sorry.” Few phrases sound more humane. In the context of domestic violence, it feels morally unassailable. Why wouldn’t we err on the side of safety? Whatever it…
The “Tooling Up Phase” of Divorce: Why Gathering Your Financial Documents Early Can Save You Thousands of Dollars and Spare You Months of Delay
When people begin thinking about divorce, most want to get it over with quickly. Keep the suffering to a minimum. They want to file immediately, schedule hearings, and get the…
USFSPA Decoded: Dividing Military Retirement Benefits in a Utah Court
For Utah divorcing couples: A clear, practical discussion on how military retirement is divided under the Uniformed Services Former Spouses’ Protection Act (USFSPA) and Utah’s equitable distribution law — including…
Utah Court of Appeals: Postnuptial Agreements Can Set Child Support Above Guidelines
Reese v. Reese - 2026 UT App 31 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MAKAIBREE MARIE REESE,Appellee,v.KYLAN REESE,Appellant. Opinion No. 20240830-CA Filed March 5, 2026 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department…
The High Cost of the “If It Saves Just One Life” Fallacy
In the world of public policy, there is a phrase that acts as a universal solvent for logic, restraint, and due process: “If it saves just one life.” The phrase is…
What I Have to Remind Myself of with a New Divorce Client
When divorce or a child custody dispute begins, most people think they know what they’re fighting for. The house. The retirement account. The business. Parent-time. Child support. Alimony. Those are real issues. They matter. They need…
Not Malicious, But Misaligned: Why Utah Protective Order Hearings Have Become Functionally Rigged
Utah’s protective order system was not designed to punish innocent people. It was designed to prevent violence. That distinction matters. Over time, the framework has developed a structural imbalance. The…
The Calendar and the Calculator in Harmony: Fully Serving the Best Interest of the Child
When parents separate, two instruments immediately begin to shape a child's future: the calendar (time) and the calculator (money). Both matter. Neither is optional. And neither compensates for the absence…
Utah HB 208 (2026): What the Proposed Parentage Amendments Would Change
Utah’s Legislature has introduced HB 208 (2026), a bill that would make meaningful changes to the state’s parentage statutes. Parentage law determines who is legally recognized as a parent. That recognition…
Trust Without Verification: The Custody Evaluation Transparency Problem
When the interviews that shape custody decisions remain inside a black box, the court is asked to trust what it cannot independently verify. In Utah child custody disputes, custody evaluations…
The Hill AFB Factor: How Active Duty Status Changes a Utah Divorce
If you are stationed at Hill Air Force Base and facing divorce, do not assume your case is “standard.” It isn’t. Military status layers federal law on top of Utah…
Should a Guardian ad Litem Speak for the Child—or Over the Child?
Utah’s 2026 legislative session includes a proposal that deserves attention well beyond juvenile court. House Bill 372—particularly its substitute versions—revisits Guardian ad Litem (GAL) duties and standards in child welfare proceedings.…
Perception Isn’t Everything in Divorce Court, But It Often Decides the Close Calls
Utah divorce law is statutory. Judges don’t invent custody standards or alimony rules on a whim. They apply what the Legislature has enacted. But statutes do not apply themselves. Judges…
Who Is in Charge of a Lawsuit: the Client or the Lawyer?
People who hire a lawyer tend to assume one of two extremes. Either: “I hired the lawyer, so the lawyer does what I say.” Or: “The lawyer is the professional,…
Bahsoun v. Mooney – 2026 UT App 18
Bahsoun v. Mooney - 2026 UT App 18 2026 UT App 18 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MAZEN BAHSOUN,Appellee, v. COLLEEN ELIZABETH MOONEY, Appellant. Per Curiam OpinionNo. 20251317-CA Filed February…
“Not Offered for the Truth of the Matter Asserted”: Meaning, Limits, and Misuse
In court, neither a party nor one of that party’s witnesses can simply claim to repeat what someone else said and expect the judge to treat it as proof. As…
Why Can’t I Just Submit a Letter as Evidence in Court?
What “Laying Foundation” Actually Means One of the most common frustrations in Utah divorce cases is this: a party has a letter, email, report, or written statement that feels decisive—and…
The Difference Between “Joint Custody” and Equal Custody in Utah Child Custody Disputes
In Utah, "joint physical custody" doesn't have to mean a perfect 50/50 split, though that is increasingly common (increasingly common, not the default—the system still treats mothers more favorably than…
The Price of Professionalism: The Pro Se Paradox in Family Court
The "Rules for Thee, But Not for Me" Phenomenon The legal system is built on procedure. For an attorney, failing to file a motion on time or improperly authenticating a…
Navigating the GAL or PGAL Interview: A Survival Guide
In child custody disputes, the judge acts as the final arbiter, but they rarely get to see the daily reality of a child's life. This is where appointing an attorney…
Why Divorce Decrees Don’t Magically Change Mortgages: What Too Many Utah Homeowners Learn the Hard Way After Divorce
Divorcing homeowners in Utah frequently run into mortgage servicer roadblocks when trying to refinance or have a spouse removed from a loan, even when the divorce decree says so. This blog explains…
The Language Barrier of Divorce: Decoding Divorce Jargon
Divorce is hard enough on its own. Add in legal paperwork packed with unfamiliar terms, and it can feel like you’re suddenly expected to speak a completely new language. For…
What Utah Law Actually Says About Hearing From Children in Custody Cases
In the prior discussion, I described a common feature of Utah custody and parent-time proceedings: courts routinely make findings about a child’s needs, attachments, and lived experience without hearing directly…
What Counts as “Testimony” When the Court Hears From a Child
In the prior two posts, I described a common feature of Utah custody and parent-time proceedings: courts routinely make findings about a child’s needs, relationships, and lived experience without hearing…
When the System Resists Hearing from the One Person Who Actually Lives the Case
Seth Godin observed that every important medical innovation of the last several centuries—handwashing, antibiotics, acknowledging the dangers of smoking—was initially resisted by the medical establishment. Not because the ideas were…
What Legal Assistants Do in Divorce and Family Law Cases—and Why It Matters
Divorce and family law cases are often described in terms of lawyers: legal advice, strategy, negotiations, and court appearances. None of that works unless the case itself is properly built…
When Can Things Be Submitted to the Court?
Every year, I watch people bring “important” documents to court that the judge will never read. Emails. Text messages. Financial records. Therapist letters. Receipts. Recordings. Sometimes the most important material…
My Experience as a Legal Assistant with No Prior Experience
When I began working as a legal assistant, I expected the role to involve primarily traditional administrative tasks—answering phone calls, managing emails, and scheduling—along with some legal-specific responsibilities such as…
“When in Doubt, Grant the Protective Order” Is Not a Legal Principle
In discussions about protective orders and alleged domestic violence, I often hear a familiar refrain: “Protective orders should be granted liberally even when the question comes down to one person’s…
Home Equity Red Flags Every Divorce Attorney (and Client) Should Catch Early
Guest post by Joe Gordon Broker / Owner / Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert Direct: 801-577-6304 Email: Joe@Gordon-RealEstate.com www.UtahDivorceRealEstate.com This practice tip comes to you after a heartbreaking case where the…
The Illusion of Protection: Why Utah’s Child Testimony Statute Threatens Due Process and Open Courts
A constitutional critique of Utah Code § 81-9-204(5)(a) Utah, like every state, bears a solemn and compelling responsibility to protect children involved in custody and parent-time disputes. That responsibility is…
The Muzzled Meadow
I. The Founding TraumaIn the Meadow, everyone agreed on one thing: voices were dangerous.It hadn’t always been so. Long ago, animals spoke plainly. Some spoke well, somepoorly, some too much.…
How the Bridge Was Made Unsafe
A wide river ran through the village.A wooden bridge connected the banks. The villagers depended on the bridge. They crossed it to go to work, to the market, to visit…
Why This Debate Is So Often Avoided in Utah Child Custody Cases
This post is the fourth in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, and the legal, procedural,…
Restoring Judicial Fact-Finding in Utah Child custody Cases: Adjudication Without Synthetic Substitutes
This post is the third in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, and the legal, procedural,…
When Help Becomes Substitution: Where Utah’s Use of Best-Interest Professionals Breaks Down Legally
This post is the second in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, and the legal, procedural,…
Why Utah Courts Rely on GALs, PGALs, and Custody Evaluators — The Best Case
This post is the first in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, beginning with the strongest…
The ‘Loyalty Conflict’ Myth: Why Courts Project Adult Anxiety Onto Children
When ‘Protecting Children’ Really Means Protecting Adults The Loyalty Conflict: A Convenient Scapegoat for Adult Discomfort The most common objection to a child testifying in a custody or parent-time dispute…
The Emperor Has No Clothes: When Do Credentials Prove Superior Skill in Interviewing Children?
Questioning the Assumed Superiority of Custody Evaluators and Guardians ad Litem A foundational assumption in modern custody practice is rarely stated outright, but it governs nearly everything that follows: that…
The Voice of the Child: Why Simple, Factual Testimony Is Often Safer Than Psychological Interpretation
The Danger of Interpretation When Courts Refuse to Hear from the Child Directly When the court relies on a child custody evaluator or Guardian Ad Litem (GAL), it is not…
Best Interests Without Evidence: The Unexamined Premise of PGAL and Custody Evaluator Appointments
When Courts Hear About Children Instead of Hearing From Them In Utah child-custody and parent-time disputes, motions to appoint a Private Guardian ad Litem (PGAL) and/or a custody evaluator have…
Why You Should Run Proposed Communications by Your Divorce Attorney First
(Yes—even the “harmless” ones) One of the most common and most avoidable mistakes people make during a divorce is communicating too freely, too casually, or too confidently with their spouse…
Why Courts Should Explain How They Hear Children in Custody Cases
Evidence, Record-Making, and the Limits of Testimonial Substitution Courts, lawyers, and commissioners in child custody and parent-time disputes often operate on an unspoken assumption: that the only acceptable way to…
Daniel v. Daniel – 2025 UT App 193 – Unsolemnized Marriage After Divorce Requires Mutual Consent
2025 UT App 193 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RAYLYN DANIEL,Appellant, V. SETH DANIEL, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230931-CA Filed December 26, 2025 Fourth District Court, Provo DepartmentThe Honorable Christine S. JohnsonNo. 214402674 Jared L. Bramwell,…
What Is the Average Age for Men and Women Who Divorce?
United States Generally In 2020, the median age at first divorce was 42.6 for men and 40.1 for women (Bowling Green State University).[1] The median age varies by demographics: Among…
Even the Best Divorce Lawyer Can’t Turn a Weak Case Into a Strong One
There’s a persistent belief in the divorce and custody world that the “right” divorce and child custody lawyer can work miracles. That if you hire someone clever enough, aggressive enough,…
A Better Approach to Utah Divorce and Child Custody Litigation
If Utah’s domestic-relations legal system is serious about accuracy, fairness, and reducing unnecessary conflict, then the system needs processes that beneficially affect how cases are litigated and how evidence is…
Klein v. Klein – 2025 UT App 170
Klein v. Klein - 2025 UT App 170 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS AMBER KLEIN, Appellee, v. MELVIN JAMES KLEIN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20240231-CA Filed November 20, 2025 Sixth District…
Utah Law Does Not Bar Children From Testifying—Even When a PGAL Is Appointed
Utah law allows a child to be represented by an attorney—either a guardian ad litem (GAL) when there are allegations of child abuse, or by a private guardian ad litem…
How to Protect Your Child From Being Manipulated Into Making False Accusations During a Custody Dispute
A candid, experience-based guide for parents who need the truth without varnish or theatrics. Not every case involves manipulation. Not every professional fails. But when these problems occur—and they do—the…