I Can’t Believe I’m Giving This Advice, but I Am: Why Every Divorced Parent Should Consider Background Checks on New Partners Who Are or Who Will Be Around Their Kids

If you're divorced and you are, or your ex is, introducing a new boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse into your minor children’s lives, you should seriously consider running a background check…

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Is Divorce a Battle of Attrition?

‘Can be. ‘Often is, but is not necessarily a war of attrition in all situations. Some divorce cases come to an end not because the court ruled on and resolved…

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How Do Fathers Fight for Child Custody?

Do you mean to ask, How do deserving fathers fight: for sole child custody? for joint child custody? for equal child custody? Or do you mean to ask: “How do fathers ‘win’ their…

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My Lawyer Says I Have a Weak Case. I Don’t Believe That. What Should I Do? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

If you are considering filing for divorce—or if your spouse has already filed—you’ve probably consulted with a divorce lawyer (or should). You likely have your own views (and blind spots)…

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Taylor v. Taylor – 2025 UT App 94 – postnuptial agreement and alimony

Taylor v. Taylor - 2025 UT App 94 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JACQUELINE KEMPTON TAYLOR, Appellant, v. MARK BENNETT TAYLOR, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230868-CA Filed June 26, 2025 Third…

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How to Handle Child Custody When the Mother Is Negatively Influencing the Child?

Although they shouldn't do it, courts will generally treat mothers and fathers differently simply based upon sex. Sexual discrimination, to put it bluntly. Not all courts do this, but many…

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How Do I Manage My divorce Case While I work Full-time? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant.

One of the most asked questions about divorce (and biggest source of friction between divorce lawyers and their clients) is how you manage your divorce case while working a full-time…

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What Evidence Should You Request During the Discovery Process in Your Utah Divorce?

Divorce has many components, one of which often includes litigating in court. Ensuring a fair outcome in your divorce case requires more than just going to court and arguing. One…

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Do You Live in Salt Lake, Summit, or Tooele County and Are Being Denied Parent-time by a Non-compliant Co-parent?

Well, then, I have good news and bad news. Good news: you can file a motion with the court to seek relief. Bad news: prepare to wait a while before…

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How to Handle Child Custody When the Mother Is Negatively Influencing the Child?

Do you want the truth? Or, more accurately, the truth as I see it, having practiced divorce and family law for the past 28 years as of the date I…

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If the Other Parent Is Withholding Parent-Time, Can I Bypass Having to Deal With Him/Her and Pick Up Our Child After School Instead?

If the other parent of your child is withholding court-ordered visitation (often now called “parent-time”) with the child from you, can you solve this problem by circumventing/bypassing having to pick…

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How Common Are Cases Where Divorce Proceedings Take a Dramatic Turn Because of Unexpected Evidence, Like in Court Dramas?

In my 28 years’ experience, it’s not common. Indeed, if divorce cases took dramatic turns routinely, they couldn’t be considered dramatic turns. That stated, very true a skilled divorce lawyer…

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Is It Possible to Divorce With Dignity?

Divorce is rarely an easy process. Even in fairly amicable situations, emotions can run high and the temptation to engage in dirty tricks can be strong. However, it is possible—and…

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Is It Advisable to Wait Until the Divorce Is Finalized Before Dating? Does This Still Apply if There Are No Children or Assets Involved in the Divorce?

Yes, it is advisable. You can’t go wrong by waiting to start dating until after your decree of divorce is issued by the court. Personally, I consider it immoral to…

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Can My Spouse Keep My Property After I Have Been Removed or Moved Out of the Marital Home? By Braxton Mounteer

This is a common and important question that arises in a divorce. If you are out of the marital home—whether by court order (such as a protective order) or voluntarily—and…

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Do Kids Like 50/50 Custody Schedules?

Some do, some don't. Generally, however, when both parents live in the same neighborhood, so that their children are able to get to school, interact with the same friends, attend…

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What to Bring to a Consultation with a Divorce Lawyer

Preparing for a consultation with a divorce lawyer is an important step in understanding your rights and options. To make the most of your meeting, consider bringing the following: Provide…

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Beverlin v. Beverlin – 2025 UT App 72 – appeal, alimony, attorney fees

Beverlin v. Beverlin - 2025 UT App 72 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STEVEN K. BEVERLIN, Appellee, v. GAIL W. BEVERLIN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230597-CA Filed May 22, 2025 Second…

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Do We Need More and Better Court Intervention in Domestic Relations Cases?

In many types of civil litigation, the core issue is not whether time is of the essence, but whether one will eventually recover compensation, and if so, how much. Yes,…

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How to Ensure a Child of Any Age Feels Equally Loved by Both Parents in a 50/50 Custody Arrangement

The goal of a successful 50-50 (equal) physical custody arrangement is that it work as seamlessly as possible for the children, both emotionally and logistically. Simply put, you know it’s…

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Helping Children Be and Feel Equally Loved by Both Parents in a 50/50 Custody Arrangement: An Age-Based Guide for Parents

Co-parenting successfully in an equal (50/50) legal and physical custody arrangement requires more than just dividing time. It calls for each parent fostering 1) a strong bond between the child…

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Miner v. Miner – 2025 UT App 64 – modifying alimony, attorney’s fees

Miner v. Miner - 2025 UT App 64 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS LISA P. MINER, Appellee, v. JOHN E. MINER, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230278-CA Filed May 8, 2025 Fifth…

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Having Experienced 50-50 Custody as a Child to Teen, What Do You Want Parents to Know?

Simply put, normal children of divorced or separated parents want their parents: not to make custody a turf war. Honor your children’s right to a strong loving and trusting, relationship…

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Protecting Yourself From a Spouse Who Has No Regard for Ethics, the Law, or Morality. By Braxton Mounteer

A fair and equitable divorce is the best that any decent person who goes through the divorce process can honestly hope for. If you know you that you will be dealing…

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Why Collaborative Divorce Usually Isn’t Worth It

In theory, collaborative divorce sounds ideal. What is "collaborative divorce"? The two spouses discuss together with their lawyers, mental health professional, financial specialist, and sometimes a child psychologist or development specialist…

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When Does Child Support End Under Utah Law? Once a Child Reaches Majority? Sooner? Later?

This question perennially arises at graduation time, and it’s graduation time when I write this post. Unless your Utah-issued decree of divorce contains provisions for child support that deviate from…

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Yes, Equal Custody Is a Great Idea and Should Be Awarded Far More Often Than It Is Now, but That Doesn’t Mean All Judges Agree.

Where both parents are fit parents and want to be as involved as possible in rearing that child—both out of a personal interest in enjoying parenthood and out of commitment…

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Conflicting Advice

Conflicting Advice Divorce is many people’s first and only experience with serious civil litigation. Many divorce clients can’t believe how different (and how much more disappointing) the legal system is…

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Another Thing I Realized About Why Custody Evaluators Don’t Want Interviews Recorded

I'm beginning to realize that the amount of subjectivity involved with custody evaluation findings and conclusions is almost absolute, when you have two fit parents; meaning that somebody could ask…

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Don’t Play Dirty in Divorce Just Because Your Spouse Does By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

We’ve all heard some version of this story: the dramatic, knock-down, drag-out divorce. Where every move is a power play and every lawyer is part strategist, part saboteur. If you're…

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How to Identify and Avoid Some Common Dirty Tricks in Divorce Cases. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Some spouses will absolutely exploit the legal system to gain an unfair advantage in divorce proceedings. It's crucial to recognize the manipulative tactics your spouse might employ against you—even if…

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How to Be a Good Client in Your Utah Divorce Case

Divorce is for most people a very stressful and emotional process. If you are ready to hire a divorce attorney, knowing how to approach working with your attorney can significantly…

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A Family Law Attorney 6 Months Out of Law School Works as an Assistant to One of the Top Family Law Attorneys in the Country. Could This New Attorney Handle an Extremely Wealthy Person’s Child Custody Case? Would Her Boss Let Her?

Anything is possible, but it is not likely that a recently licensed lawyer of only 6 months could handle an extremely wealthy person’s child custody case. Extremely wealthy people usually…

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How Can I Fight for Child Visitation and My Parental Rights Without a Lawyer in Utah?

No one is required to hire a lawyer to represent him/her in a child custody dispute. If you are involved in a termination of parental rights or child abuse case…

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How to Deal with a Difficult and Dishonest Opposing Party (and his/her lawyer) in Utah Family Law Cases By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

When you're involved in a family law matter whether it's a divorce, child custody dispute, or a spousal support issue, one of the most frustrating challenges to encounter is an…

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Should You Get Divorced? Weighing Your Options in a Difficult Decision By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

The decisions to marry and to end a marriage are not decisions to be taken lightly. If divorce is ever an easy choice, something is terribly wrong. Wrong with the…

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A Big Problem with Child Abuse and Parental Alienation Accusations in Family Court

I can identify the problem by phrasing it in the form of several hypothetical questions to a judge: Is the approach to the allegations going to be, “Because these kinds…

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Nelson v. Nelson – 2025 UT App 43 – alimony, income, loan

2025 UT App 43 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS VICKI JO NELSON, Appellee, v. JAMES Q. NELSON, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230483-CA Filed March 27, 2025 Third District Court, Salt Lake…

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What Can a Father Do If, After the Divorce, the Mother, Who Has Custody of the Child, Turns the Child Against the Father?

What can a father do if, after the divorce, the mother, who has custody of the child, turns the child against the father? What can he do? There are many things he…

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How Do You Get 3 House Valuations for a Divorce When Your Ex Has Remained Living in It?

A house does not need to be vacant to be appraised and evaluated. The appraiser(s) can inspect and evaluate the house while you're spouse or ex-spouse is still living there…

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How Can an Unfair Child Custody Arrangement Be Corrected in Utah?

It depends on how you reached this point, and how much time, if any, you have to fix it. If circumstances relevant to the child custody award have materially and…

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How Do You Combat a Narcissistic Husband Who Isolates Your Child During a Divorce?

Warning: my answer is blunt, and it is directed primarily at women/mothers who make (or contemplate making) false claims, but even if you are not making or contemplating making a…

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Should High-Profile Divorces Be Granted Extra Privacy Protections in Court, or Should All Divorce Proceedings Be Equally Transparent Regardless of Wealth and Status?

As soon as we start treating people differently, two things happen: 1) the idea of people being treated equally goes out the window and 2) everyone starts claiming, “My case…

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Is Filing an Uncontested Divorce an Admission of Fault by the Petitioner?

No. Merely filing for divorce is not an admission of fault by the petitioner. That stated, there is nothing that prevents a divorce petitioner from admitting fault in his/her petition…

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A Critical Analysis of Court-Ordered Mental Health Therapy in Utah Family Law

In family law proceedings, particularly those involving child custody disputes, courts frequently order parents and children to engage in mental health therapy. While the ostensible intent behind these orders is…

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When Contemplating Divorce, Advance Research, Analysis, and Planning Will Be a Tremendous Help to You, Your Family, and to Your Attorney

Several important provisions are frequently overlooked in divorce decrees, despite their significant impact on post-divorce life. If you are contemplating divorce, but have not considered these issues yet, thinking them…

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Do Judges in Family Court Actions Have the Ability to Jail Parents Who Have Not Complied With Parts of the Custody Order for Contempt?

Do judges in family court actions have the ability to jail parents who have not complied with parts of the custody order for contempt? Yes. What are the limitations on…

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How Much Should You Interact with Your Divorce Lawyer? A Pragmatic Guide By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Divorce confronts one with many complex issues, emotional strain, uncertain outcomes, and often gut-wrenching decisions. One question that most divorcing people do not consider when they retain the services of…

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What Should I Do if I Feel Like the County Family Court Judge as Well as My Lawyer Have Not Upheld My Legal Rights as a Parent?

This is a good question because the way you have posed the question reflects the problem many people have with the legal system. Your feeling may stem from the court…

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Reject the Contemporary Utah Custody Evaluation or PGAL Couse of Action: Record the Interviews of the Children Involved in Utah Child Custody Disputes

In legal disputes over the physical custody and parent-time awards, minor children have the greatest stake in the outcome. Minor children who are mature and intelligent enough to articulate their knowledge…

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