I’m a Divorce Lawyer. Too Many People Divorce.
I'm a divorce lawyer. I'm not divorced (God willing, I won't ever be), I am opposed to divorce generally (while there are times when a divorce is plainly necessary, most…
Fair Treatment in Court by Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant.
The family law legal system likes to portray itself as a shining beacon of justice and equity, but I have seen first-hand that it is not. Whether it is opportunistic…
House Bill 157 (HB0157 (utah.gov)), “Child Custody Factor Amendments”.
This post discusses another proposed family law bill under consideration for the 2024 Utah legislative session, House Bill 157 (HB0157 (utah.gov)), “Child Custody Factor Amendments”. This bill, if passed, would…
Can anyone recommend a good attorney for father’s rights?
Many fathers and those who care about them ask this question. It’s no wonder why. But beware. "Father's Rights Attorney" is, for the most part, a scam. Don't misunderstand me:…
Do you think the child support laws in your state are fair? If no, then describe the changes that you would make.
I can’t speak for all jurisdictions, but in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law (Utah), child support awards are generally, in my opinion, 1) too high, 2)…
Dirty Tricks to Watch Out for in Divorce
I often encounter sneaky spouses who after separation and/or after a divorce action has been filed, start sending text messages and emails to the other spouse making false claims like:…
What Good Parents Need to Know About Child Custody Disputes with an Evil Parent
You hear and read on attorney websites stuff like, “Navigating child custody arrangements during divorce can be challenging.” That’s not the half of it. Child custody disputes with an evil parent…
Divorce and Social Media By Braxton Mounteer
Most people fundamentally misunderstand what the Internet and social media are. Many believe that social media is a web of interconnections where you can send and receive updates about your…
What do I do when my ex uses doctor’s appointments in our child support issue on court when we have 50/50 decision making, but I have the final say to any decision made? Will it be used against me?
If I understand your question correctly, you're wondering if the court will fault for your ex-spouse's claims that you are failing to act responsibly when it comes to making and…
Should mutual friends choose sides in a divorce?
There’s more to consider than just the mutual friendship. Such as whether someone is seriously in the wrong. You wouldn’t (or shouldn’t) fail to report a friend for committing murder.…
An Interesting and Troubling Article on the Topic of Family and Family Law From the Salt Lake Tribune
This is an interesting and troubling article on the topic of family and family law from the Salt Lake Tribune: Mother of teen killed in Salt Lake City murder-suicide pushed…
Artificial Fraudulence
Seth Godin stated it well when he wrote, "The ease with which someone can invent and spread lies [with advancing technology] is going to take most of us by surprise.…
Should I file for a no-fault divorce or for an uncontested divorce?
My spouse and I have no children together and own no property together. Should I file for a no-fault divorce or for an uncontested divorce? It's not a question of…
Is 50/50 custody likely when the parents live in the same neighborhood?
What is the likelihood of reverting to 50/50 custody when the parents live in the same neighborhood? Mom still cares for the child over 80% Your question states in part,…
Who do you pick between a present father and an absentee mother?
Who do you pick, your father who has been there your whole life or your mother who was never there until now and wants custody of you? Assuming that 1)…
Can a child who wants to, testify of his/her desires regarding the child custody award?
Am I, as an 11-year-old, allowed to go to court in a situation where my parents are divorced to see if I can get my dad to have full custody…
What can I do if my ex won’t stop taking me to court?!
My ex has been taking me to court for over 4 years to get my joint custody taken away. Her father worked for the courts for 25 years so she…
Why are so many attorneys seemingly against legal separation?
Why are so many attorneys seemingly against legal separation? I truly feel in my circumstance its best for me/us. Is it because they wont make as much money? We have…
Are financial interrogatories relevant in my contempt case?
Are financial interrogatories relevant in my contempt case against my sister for violating my visitation order? While I’m sure something seeming like an argument could be made for their relevance,…
Is child marriage legal in the United States?
Of a sort, and depending upon the particular state, yes. In some places children (minor children, those who are by law deemed incapable of consenting to marry) can marry with…
New Laws Affecting Utah Divorce and Family Law in 2022
Here is a summary of new law affecting divorce and family law that was created by the Utah State Legislature in 2022: HB (House Bill) 122 1st Substitute, entitled “Family…
How can I make sure father won’t gain custody?
My husband cheated on me and we're getting a divorce. He begged me not to take his children away, but I want him to suffer. How can I make sure…
When do courts value the marital estate?
When do courts value the marital estate? At time of separation, or at the time the court enters the Decree of Divorce? This is a question that often causes divorcing…
What is MyCase and why should I care?
MyCase is an online system developed by the Utah State Courts system that you can sign up for free of charge and use in your family law case and certain…
What will the court do if I do not sign a letter sent by my ex-husband?
What will the court do if I do not pick up a letter my ex-husband sent that needs to be signed by me from the courts about his back court ordered alimony…
Can a parent with full custody deny visitation due to unsanitary conditions?
Can a parent with full custody refuse to allow visitation due to unsanitary living conditions? Good question. I will answer this question in the context of some applicable law for…
Can a 16-year-old child choose not to have visitation with a parent?
Technically, no. Practicably/pragmatically, yes. Technically, a minor child (even a child of 16 years of age) does not have the legal right to choose whether he or she will comply…
Can you go back to your ex-spouse after a divorce?
Yes, there is no law (I know of in any jurisdiction of which I am aware, but check in your jurisdiction to be sure) against a divorced couple resuming a…
If each parent is fully capable, will the court still give full custody to mom?
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still lean towards full custody to the mother? [Note: I am a divorce lawyer of 25 years. I am not bitter about…
Can you get a post-judgment interest rate higher than the statutory rate?
Did you know you can request a post-judgment interest rate that is higher than the default statutory rate? It’s true. While the court does not have the discretion to lower,…
Do both parties have to sign the paperwork for a divorce to be granted?
Do both parties have to sign divorce paperwork in order for a divorce to be granted? It is possible in many jurisdictions (Utah being one of them; if you are not…
Can a non-custodial parent claim the child tax credit?
Yes, and the IRS has provided this summary (among other publications) to show non-custodial parents how: https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p4449.pdf Here is an excerpt from that IRS publication: Claiming Your Child as a…
How does someone take custody of a child after winning custody?
When someone wins custody of a child, does the child come to the courthouse to be taken by whoever is awarded custody or do they go to the home of…
What are the significant changes to family law in the past two centuries?
What are the most important changes to the family law in the 19th century and 20th century up to today, and why? In my opinion (and in no particular order): …
What is the proper way to request a change of the child custody order?
What is the proper language to request a change of the child custody order in family law court? What you want to accomplish is not the kind of thing that…
How would my fiancé go about getting any sort of custody for his child?
That is an extremely broad question. The best way to start: find a good domestic relations lawyer (a good one, not just any) and schedule a consultation with him/her so…
Is the percentage of married people getting a divorce still about 50%?
Is the percentage of married people getting a divorce still about 50%, or is it now higher? It’s actually a bit less than 50% currently and for the past few years. This…
What will happen if the child refuses to go with the custodial parent?
What will happen if the court ruled in favor of a mother to have the custody of her child but the child refuses to go with her and she prefers…
Is hiding money from your spouse grounds for divorce?
In the age of no-fault divorce, you don’t really need to have a good reason (or any reason at all) to get a divorce. So if your spouse is hiding…
Beckham v. Beckham, 2022 UT App 65
2022 UT App 65 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS VICKI BECKHAM, Appellee, v. RANDALL BECKHAM, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200935-CA Filed May 19, 2022 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department The…
How easy is it to change your child’s last name?
I cannot answer this question as it applies in all jurisdictions, but I can answer the question as it applies in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law…
What will the court do if I do not pick up a letter my ex husband sent?
What will the court do if I do not pick up a letter my ex husband sent that needs to be signed by me from the courts about his back…
How can I help my stepdaughter get away from an abusive mother?
How can I help my 12-year-old step daughter get away from an emotionally abusive mother? Tell the child’s father (your husband) about the trouble and have him handle it. It’s…
Is appointing a guardian ad litem helpful in custody cases?
Is appointing a guardian ad litem a positive tool to help with custody cases? [I will respond to your question based upon my experience with guardians ad litem in Utah,…
What are the chances of a mother getting full custody?
In my experienced opinion: If the fight is over which parent will be awarded sole (full) custody of the children, and if no other factors are considered: the chances of…
How will it affect children to switch schools every other school year?
How will it affect children to switch back and forth to schools every other school year due to child custody agreement between parents who live in different states? Probably not…
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still favor the mother?
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still lean towards full custody to the mother? [Note: I am a divorce lawyer of 25 years. I am not bitter about…
What if your client gets custody when they should not have, due to you?
What should you do if you represented a client in a divorce who should not have gotten the kids, but got them due to your ability? We have a word…
Can a parent take kids out of state while divorce is pending?
Can a parent who has filed for divorce and moved out with her 2 children now take her children for a week to another state for Thanksgiving, or will it be…
How long after my divorce am I considered single?
I can’t speak for all jurisdictions, but for the jurisdiction where I practice divorce law (Utah), the answer is that you are considered single as soon as the court issues…