When No Good Deed Goes Unpunished in Divorce
Good behavior in a marriage is often the wrong behavior in a divorce action (and vice versa) Divorce changes the rules midstream. That is the part most people don’t see…
Parenting Apps: A (Paid) Solution Looking for a Problem
Everyone in family law has heard the pitch: download a parenting app, pay a monthly fee, and suddenly your co-parenting problems become organized, documented, and “court-ready.” It sounds responsible. It…
Part I – The Fragility Rationale and the Case for Making and Preserving Records
The Fragility Rationale The most common justification for not making and keeping a record of child testimony rests on fragility. Knowing that the interview will be recorded, it is said,…
Why You Should Run Proposed Communications by Your Divorce Attorney First
(Yes—even the “harmless” ones) One of the most common and most avoidable mistakes people make during a divorce is communicating too freely, too casually, or too confidently with their spouse…
Why Courts Should Explain How They Hear Children in Custody Cases
Evidence, Record-Making, and the Limits of Testimonial Substitution Courts, lawyers, and commissioners in child custody and parent-time disputes often operate on an unspoken assumption: that the only acceptable way to…
The False Virtue of Silence: Why We Must Stop Silencing Children in Custody Disputes
There is a pervasive, almost religious orthodoxy in family law litigation over child custody and parent-time that goes something like this: “We must protect the children. Therefore, we must never…
Why Do Many Parents With Bad Relationships Not Divorce for the Sake of Their Children?
You’ve no doubt heard many answers to this question. People love simple explanations—“They stay for the kids,” “They’re scared,” “They’re loyal,” “They’re trapped.” Sometimes that may be the case, but…
Paralegals and Legal Assistants Aren’t Your Lawyer, but They Are a Lifeline
When you hire a divorce lawyer, you aren’t usually hiring one person, you’re hiring a team. That’s by design, and it’s not meant to be “shortcut” for your lawyer to…
What Advice Would You Give to Someone Who Is Contemplating Divorce?
Divorce is almost always harder, slower, more expensive, and more damaging—financially and emotionally—than people expect. Unless you are married to someone truly abusive or irreparably toxic, the better course is…
Protecting Parental Rights: Why Sole Custody Shouldn’t Be the Default Response
A single mistake shouldn't cost a parent his or her relationship with his/her child. Yet too often, family courts award sole custody based on isolated incidents or "aberrant behavior" that…
I Don’t Think I Can Continue With My Divorce Case. What Should I Do? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
If you’re feeling like you can’t go on with your divorce case, know that you’re not alone in feeling that way. And you’re not weak for feeling overwhelmed. Take a…
How to Handle Child Custody When the Mother Is Negatively Influencing the Child?
Although they shouldn't do it, courts will generally treat mothers and fathers differently simply based upon sex. Sexual discrimination, to put it bluntly. Not all courts do this, but many…
How to Handle Child Custody When the Mother Is Negatively Influencing the Child?
Do you want the truth? Or, more accurately, the truth as I see it, having practiced divorce and family law for the past 28 years as of the date I…
How Common Are Cases Where Divorce Proceedings Take a Dramatic Turn Because of Unexpected Evidence, Like in Court Dramas?
In my 28 years’ experience, it’s not common. Indeed, if divorce cases took dramatic turns routinely, they couldn’t be considered dramatic turns. That stated, very true a skilled divorce lawyer…
Do Kids Like 50/50 Custody Schedules?
Some do, some don't. Generally, however, when both parents live in the same neighborhood, so that their children are able to get to school, interact with the same friends, attend…
What to Bring to a Consultation with a Divorce Lawyer
Preparing for a consultation with a divorce lawyer is an important step in understanding your rights and options. To make the most of your meeting, consider bringing the following: Provide…
Do We Need More and Better Court Intervention in Domestic Relations Cases?
In many types of civil litigation, the core issue is not whether time is of the essence, but whether one will eventually recover compensation, and if so, how much. Yes,…
Why Collaborative Divorce Usually Isn’t Worth It
In theory, collaborative divorce sounds ideal. What is "collaborative divorce"? The two spouses discuss together with their lawyers, mental health professional, financial specialist, and sometimes a child psychologist or development specialist…
The Case for Fault-Based Divorce: A Perspective from the Trenches of Family Law
As a legal assistant at a family law firm (and as a soon to be law school graduate), I see firsthand how the current no-fault divorce regime can create problems…
How to Be a Good Client in Your Utah Divorce Case
Divorce is for most people a very stressful and emotional process. If you are ready to hire a divorce attorney, knowing how to approach working with your attorney can significantly…
What Can a Father Do If, After the Divorce, the Mother, Who Has Custody of the Child, Turns the Child Against the Father?
What can a father do if, after the divorce, the mother, who has custody of the child, turns the child against the father? What can he do? There are many things he…
If You Are Not Happy With the Current Child Custody Arrangement, Can You Change It?
I cannot answer this question as it applies to all jurisdictions, but I can answer it as it applies to the jurisdiction where I practice family law (Utah): Merely because you are…
It Tolls for Thee: The All Too Frequent Tragic Cost and Futility of Family Court
“Quid rides? Mutato nomine et de te fabula narrator. [Why do you laugh ? Change only the name and this story is about you.]” Here’s a deeply disturbing but all…
In What Specific Ways Can a Family Law Attorney Take Advantage of a Pro SE Party in a Divorce Case?
Most predictably and intuitively: They can take advantage of their greater knowledge of the law and court rules to make better arguments and to outmaneuver you in a case, whether…
Comparatively Fewer Proposed Family Law Legislation for the Utah Legislature 2025 Session
2025 has comparatively fewer proposed family law bills that in recent years, but there are still some important and interesting proposals. Here is a list of the proposed bills pertaining…
Evidentiary Practice in Family Law Proceedings in Utah: A Relaxed Standard
Family law proceedings in Utah (and in all other states, frankly), differ significantly from other areas of civil or criminal litigation, particularly when it comes to evidentiary practices. While the…
State v. King – 2024 UT App 151 – Domestic Violence – Evidence – Effective Counsel
State v. King - 2024 UT App 151 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v.. PHILLIP MASON KING, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210710-CA Filed October 24, 2024 Second…
My Ex and I Have Joint Custody, but He Hasn’t Been Letting Me See My Child for a Couple of Months Now. Will He Lose Custody if I Go Back to Court and Tell Them About This?
I’ll assume that what you mean by “my ex and I have joint custody” is you and your ex share physical custody of your child. I’ll also assume that in…
If I Agreed to Sign up a Prenup With My Billionaire Husband Does That Mean I Would Not Get Anything Not Even a Dollar?
I can’t speak to what the law governing prenuptial agreements is in any jurisdiction other than the one in which I practice divorce and family law (Utah), but as to…
I Want to Live with My Mom but I Have Shared Custody With My Dad. What Do I Do? Can I at 15?
This question is literally asked on a daily basis. It comes up so often. But that means it’s a burning question. I’ll bet it has been answered literally at least…
How Often Do Mothers Get Full Custody of Their Children After Divorce?
Always? No. Frequently? Yes. Usually. Yes. Whether they deserve it or not? Usually, yes. Are mothers awarded custody of children as much as they used to be a generation or…
Is It Possible to Discredit a Biased Custody Evaluation Full of Unsubstantiated and False Claims?
Yes, it is possible, but not always possible, and when it is possible it is often very difficult to accomplish. Difficult not because custody evaluators are particularly competent (they typically…
I’m a Divorce Lawyer. Too Many People Divorce.
I'm a divorce lawyer. I'm not divorced (God willing, I won't ever be), I am opposed to divorce generally (while there are times when a divorce is plainly necessary, most…
Fair Treatment in Court by Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant.
The family law legal system likes to portray itself as a shining beacon of justice and equity, but I have seen first-hand that it is not. Whether it is opportunistic…
House Bill 157 (HB0157 (utah.gov)), “Child Custody Factor Amendments”.
This post discusses another proposed family law bill under consideration for the 2024 Utah legislative session, House Bill 157 (HB0157 (utah.gov)), “Child Custody Factor Amendments”. This bill, if passed, would…
Can anyone recommend a good attorney for father’s rights?
Many fathers and those who care about them ask this question. It’s no wonder why. But beware. "Father's Rights Attorney" is, for the most part, a scam. Don't misunderstand me:…
Do you think the child support laws in your state are fair? If no, then describe the changes that you would make.
I can’t speak for all jurisdictions, but in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law (Utah), child support awards are generally, in my opinion, 1) too high, 2)…
Dirty Tricks to Watch Out for in Divorce
I often encounter sneaky spouses who after separation and/or after a divorce action has been filed, start sending text messages and emails to the other spouse making false claims like:…
What Good Parents Need to Know About Child Custody Disputes with an Evil Parent
You hear and read on attorney websites stuff like, “Navigating child custody arrangements during divorce can be challenging.” That’s not the half of it. Child custody disputes with an evil parent…
Divorce and Social Media By Braxton Mounteer
Most people fundamentally misunderstand what the Internet and social media are. Many believe that social media is a web of interconnections where you can send and receive updates about your…
What do I do when my ex uses doctor’s appointments in our child support issue on court when we have 50/50 decision making, but I have the final say to any decision made? Will it be used against me?
If I understand your question correctly, you're wondering if the court will fault for your ex-spouse's claims that you are failing to act responsibly when it comes to making and…
Should mutual friends choose sides in a divorce?
There’s more to consider than just the mutual friendship. Such as whether someone is seriously in the wrong. You wouldn’t (or shouldn’t) fail to report a friend for committing murder.…
An Interesting and Troubling Article on the Topic of Family and Family Law From the Salt Lake Tribune
This is an interesting and troubling article on the topic of family and family law from the Salt Lake Tribune: Mother of teen killed in Salt Lake City murder-suicide pushed…
Artificial Fraudulence
Seth Godin stated it well when he wrote, "The ease with which someone can invent and spread lies [with advancing technology] is going to take most of us by surprise.…
Should I file for a no-fault divorce or for an uncontested divorce?
My spouse and I have no children together and own no property together. Should I file for a no-fault divorce or for an uncontested divorce? It's not a question of…
Is 50/50 custody likely when the parents live in the same neighborhood?
What is the likelihood of reverting to 50/50 custody when the parents live in the same neighborhood? Mom still cares for the child over 80% Your question states in part,…
Who do you pick between a present father and an absentee mother?
Who do you pick, your father who has been there your whole life or your mother who was never there until now and wants custody of you? Assuming that 1)…
Can a child who wants to, testify of his/her desires regarding the child custody award?
Am I, as an 11-year-old, allowed to go to court in a situation where my parents are divorced to see if I can get my dad to have full custody…
What can I do if my ex won’t stop taking me to court?!
My ex has been taking me to court for over 4 years to get my joint custody taken away. Her father worked for the courts for 25 years so she…
Why are so many attorneys seemingly against legal separation?
Why are so many attorneys seemingly against legal separation? I truly feel in my circumstance its best for me/us. Is it because they wont make as much money? We have…