Court Is Not an Open Mic: Why You Can’t Raise Whatever You Want at a Utah Divorce Hearing

A Utah divorce hearing is limited by the motion before the court, the relief requested, and the evidence properly noticed and submitted. If an issue is not teed up procedurally…

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Hearing is Not Harm: Why Utah Child Custody Courts Must Rethink the Code of Silence

In the practice of family law, we often hear a sentiment that is as ubiquitous as it is hollow: "We must protect the children from the litigation." On its face,…

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When Representation Replaces Evidence: The Procedural Problem with PGAL Recommendations

Appointing a private guardian ad litem in a child custody and parent-time dispute case often creates a closed loop in which children who are the subject of the dispute cannot…

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Why Blanket Bans on Child Testimony Fail Children in Child Custody and Parent-time Dispute Litigation

For too long, the family law system in Utah has operated under an almost universal, yet unproven, assumption: that any minor child who is the subject of a high-conflict custody…

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The Tools Already Exist: Utah’s Evidentiary Framework and the Impermissible Silencing of Child Witnesses in Custody and Parent-time Disputes

Utah courts frequently exclude child testimony in custody and parent-time proceedings on the asserted ground that doing so protects children from emotional harm. That premise is mistaken. Categorical exclusion is…

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The False Virtue of Silence: Why We Must Stop Silencing Children in Custody Disputes

There is a pervasive, almost religious orthodoxy in family law litigation over child custody and parent-time that goes something like this: “We must protect the children. Therefore, we must never…

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The PGAL Problem: Utah’s Well-Intended System Has Deteriorated Into Something It Was Never Designed to Be

Utah Code § 78A-2-705 provides that (1) The court may appoint an attorney as a private attorney guardian ad litem to represent the best interests of the minor in any…

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The Stranger in a Robe: 6 Things Divorce Litigants Do to Their Own Detriment

For most who are going through a divorce, whether as the petitioner or as the respondent, they  worry about the big, immediate questions: “Who gets the kids? Who gets the…

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When Would It Be Appropriate to Modify a Utah Custody Order?

Child custody orders are not etched in stone, but neither are they revolving doors. Utah law makes that clear. Parents often assume that if circumstances “change” at all (no matter…

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Law Needs Fewer Hired Guns and More Straight Shooters: Why the Legal Profession Must Stop Treating Argumentation as a Contest and Start Treating It as a Path to Truth

Plato’s irritation with the Sophists was never about style. It was about moral purpose. As Jonny Thomason discusses in his Big Think essay (it’s a short read and well worth your time), Plato’s frustration…

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Even the Best Divorce Lawyer Can’t Turn a Weak Case Into a Strong One

There’s a persistent belief in the divorce and custody world that the “right” divorce and child custody lawyer can work miracles. That if you hire someone clever enough, aggressive enough,…

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Utah Law Does Not Bar Children From Testifying—Even When a PGAL Is Appointed

Utah law allows a child to be represented by an attorney—either a guardian ad litem (GAL) when there are allegations of child abuse, or by a private guardian ad litem…

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How to Protect Your Child From Being Manipulated Into Making False Accusations During a Custody Dispute

A candid, experience-based guide for parents who need the truth without varnish or theatrics. Not every case involves manipulation. Not every professional fails. But when these problems occur—and they do—the…

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If Your Spouse Hid Assets by Titling Them in a Parent’s Name, Is That “Smart Protection” or Financial Fraud? How Do You Prove It in Utah Divorce Court?

This is not unusual: a spouse suddenly “doesn’t own anything,” yet somehow pays the taxes, insurance, maintenance, or mortgage on a house that’s titled in Mom’s name. Or money gets…

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Is Alimony Still Necessary? Or Is It an Outdated Relic? A Utah Divorce Lawyer’s Honest, Earnest Take

If you have spent any time searching for information about alimony, you already know the truth: most people hate the idea of paying it, most people love the idea of…

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Can the Amount of Child Support or Alimony Be Lowered or Eliminated if Your Ex Gets Remarried? In a Utah Divorce Case, Maybe.

People often assume that once their ex remarries, financial obligations from the divorce automatically shrink or disappear. It’s not that simple. In short: when it comes to the effects on child…

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Is a Brief but Past History of Abuse or Substance Abuse the End of Your Chances for Joint Child Custody in Utah?

The short answer: No — you have hope, but you have work to do. Utah custody law has changed significantly in past generation, but the core principles are the same:…

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Child Testimony in Utah Custody and Parent-time Dispute Cases: Why a Blanket Ban Is Legally Indefensible

Utah Law Does Not Support a Categorical Bar to Child Testimony Utah’s custodial statute expressly contemplates judicial inquiry into a child’s views. Section 81-9-204(5)(b)(i) provides that “the court may inquire…

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Why Don’t My Kids Like Me After the Divorce (It May Be Your Fault)

After a divorce that involved minor children of the parties, many of those party parents wonder why their kids become or seem to become distant or resentful. In Utah, children’s…

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A Shield, Not a Gag: Utah’s PGAL Statute Authorizes Representation, Not Substitution

When Utah courts face high-conflict custody disputes, one common suggestion is to appoint what is known as a Private Guardian ad Litem (PGAL)—an attorney ostensibly tasked with “representing the best interests of…

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You Must Follow Court Rules, and You Cannot Be a Law Unto Yourself

People often come into court thinking they can game or “outsmart the system.” They’ve read something online, talked to a friend who claims to have “pulled one over on the…

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When Is It Time to Take Your Ex Back to Court to Terminate Parental Rights?

If the other parent has dropped out of your kids’ lives—no support, no visits, no calls—for six months or more, you may have a legal basis to seek termination under…

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How to Protect Yourself from False Abuse Accusations During Custody Exchanges and Other Interactions

False allegations of abuse—whether physical, emotional, or “stalking”—are among the most destructive things that can happen to a parent in a custody dispute. Once the words “abuse” and/or stalking is/are…

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Utah Courts Don’t Appoint Lawyers in Divorce Cases. Here Is What That Really Means.

In Utah, you don’t get a court-appointed lawyer for a divorce case because a divorce case is a civil, not a criminal, matter. That means even if your divorce case affects your…

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What Should I Do If I Have to Have a Custody Evaluation, Psychological, or Other Evaluation Conducted?

Utah family courts often order custody, psychological, or substance-abuse evaluations. Learn what to expect, how to prepare, and how to protect yourself during these high-stakes assessments. _________ When a Utah…

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Utah Discovery Rules: What Every Divorce or Custody Litigant Should Know

Discovery is the stage of your Utah divorce, custody, or support case where both sides gather evidence. It’s not optional, and it’s not endless. Utah’s Rule 26 sets strict standards…

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How to Reopen Discovery for Good Cause in Utah Family Law Cases

Once discovery closes in your Utah divorce, child custody, or support case, it’s supposed to stay closed. The court expects both sides to be finished gathering evidence and ready for…

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What Counts as “New Evidence” After Discovery Closes in a Utah Divorce Case?

When discovery closes in your Utah divorce, child custody, or support case, you can’t keep gathering (or using at trial) new evidence unless it fits a very narrow exception.Many people…

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When Discovery Closes, It’s Really Closed: What That Means in Utah Family Law Cases

When discovery closes in your Utah divorce, child custody, or support case, that’s the official end of the evidence-gathering phase. You can’t send out new discovery requests, And you can’t…

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Understanding Judicial Discretion and Its Abuses in Utah Family Law

Utah judges and commissioners can—and many often do—bend or ignore laws/rules and facts. Learn how this happens, why appellate oversight rarely corrects it, and what litigants can do to protect…

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Pushing Back Against Judicial Micromanagement: Divorce Courts Need to Enforce Law, Not Parent the Parents

Utah divorce and family courts sometimes wander into nanny-court social engineering, issuing orders that treat parents like fools and/or helpless children who can’t be trusted to act sensibly without judicial…

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The Two Falsehoods Behind “I Don’t Understand”: Why Claiming Confusion Won’t Help You in Divorce

Disappointment Is Not Synonymous with Misunderstanding Divorce and custody cases are full of hard choices, unfamiliar rules, and outcomes no one loves. It’s normal to be disappointed when a judge…

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Are There Rules About What You Can File With the Court and When? Deadlines, Page Limits, and Filing Rules in Utah Family Law Cases

In a Utah divorce or custody dispute, you can’t just file whatever you want with a court and whenever you feel like it. The Utah Rules of Civil Procedure, plus orders…

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My Spouse Has Disappeared During the Divorce Process, How Can I Find Him/Her?

In Utah, you can still get divorced if your spouse disappears, but only after proving you made a diligent search and using court-approved alternative service of process methods. Missing spouse…

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Don’t Count on Do-Overs: Meet Your Court Deadlines or Lose Your Rights

Courts (and the orders that govern them) mean it when they set deadlines. If you miss one, you can lose claims, defenses, evidence, or even your entire case. Excuses like…

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Building a Credible Alimony Case Without Games or Gimmicks

Divorce is hard enough without turning it into a credibility war. Alimony — what Utah law calls “spousal support” — exists to help a financially disadvantaged spouse transition without being…

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I Just Found Out My Former Spouse Won the Lottery—Can I Get Some of That Money?

In Utah, you can share in your spouse’s lottery winnings if the divorce is still pending. After the divorce is final, you cannot reopen the property settlement, but the winnings…

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Temporary Custody Orders: A Potential Trap Every Utah Parent Should See Coming, and How to Avoid It

Utah judges and domestic relations commissioners reassure parents that early custody, parent-time, and support orders issued during the pendency of the child custody case are “just temporary.” Don’t believe it.…

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How Social Media and Digital Communication Have Changed Divorce Evidence

The explosion of text messages, emails, and social media has had a significant impact on divorce litigation. The Shift: From He Said/She Said to Digital Receipts Not long ago, custody…

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My Divorcing Spouse and I Are Drowning in Debt. How Do We Apportion Responsibility for It All in the Divorce Case?

In Utah divorce, debt is divided equitably, not equally. Mortgages, credit cards, student loans, and medical bills are treated differently, and creditors can still pursue you even if your ex…

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Why Custody Evaluations in Utah Should Be Recorded and Transparent

In Utah today, custody evaluations are often conducted behind closed doors. The evaluator interviews the parents, the children, and collateral witnesses (neighbors, teachers, extended family, therapists, coaches, pastors, etc.), but…

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Judicial Overreach in Utah Child Custody Order: Return to Restraint

In Utah, as in other states, courts deciding child custody and parent-time disputes are charged with applying the “best interests of the child” standard. That standard is necessary, but it…

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Why Are Divorce Cases Often Delayed?

After 28 years of divorce practice (as of the date this post is shared), I've watched countless cases that could have and should resolve in months drag on for a…

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Should I Go Through My Child’s Phone or Other Devices During the Divorce?

Why this comes up Divorce makes parents hyper-vigilant. A child’s smartphone can feel like the master key to what’s really happening—messages with the other parent, photos, social media, location history.…

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How Well Divorce Mediation Works Depends on How Well You and Your Spouse Work Together

Don’t divorce lawyers make mediation harder and more expensive? I'm a divorce lawyer, and I'll be the first to admit it: sometimes lawyers can do more harm than good in the…

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I Love My Stepchildren, How Can I Spend Time with Them After the Divorce?

Love vs. Law In Utah, stepparents have no inherent visitation rights during the pendency of divorce proceedings or after the court issues the divorce decree. Unless you qualify under the…

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Sample Objection Language for GAL and Custody Evaluator Overreach in Utah Courts

(For educational purposes only. Consult your attorney before you considering using these in your own case.) GAL Acting Like a Witness Without Being Sworn “Your Honor, I object. The Guardian…

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Analyzing the Reasonableness of Flat Fees in a Billable-Hour Profession

For generations, the billable hour has been the dominant billing tool of the legal profession. Consequently, courts, attorneys, and even clients have assessed “reasonableness” of an attorney’s fees against the…

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Compelling Reasons for Permitting Litigants and Their Attorneys to Appear Remotely for Court Hearings

World War II’s silk shortage forced the military to abandon a comfortable default; nylon parachutes—stronger, cheaper, and mass-producible—started as a substitute and became the superior standard. COVID-19 did the same…

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My Spouse is a Criminal, How Can I Avoid His Downfall?

When people discover that his or her husband or wife is committing crimes or has been convicted of crimes, they often panic. One of the first questions we hear in…

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