The Social Media Trap: How One Facebook Post Can Impact Your Utah Child Custody Case

In a Utah custody case, your conduct is not limited to what happens in your home—it extends to what you choose to share online. Social media is not personal or…

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When Courts Refuse to Hear Directly From Children in Child Custody and Parent-Time Disputes

The Basic Logic of Factfinding The Protection Rationale The Expertise Rationale The Record Disappears Credibility Cannot Be Tested The Court’s Position: Real Constraints, Imperfect Tools Institutional Convenience One of the…

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The Child Still Testifies—Just “Off the Record”?

I. The System’s Logic When courts appoint custody evaluators and/or private guardians ad litem (PLALs), the justification is usually straightforward: The judge does not want children to testify.So instead, the…

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The First Meeting with Your Utah Divorce or Child Custody Attorney

After you’ve hired your attorney, the first meeting between attorney and client—whether in person or by video—is about orientation, risk assessment, and planning. Most people come in overwhelmed and discouraged…

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VA Disability Pay vs. Alimony: Why Your “Tax-Free” Income Still Counts

Veterans often believe their VA disability pay is “untouchable” in divorce. Not exactly. While it cannot be divided as property, courts routinely treat it as income for alimony. Learn how…

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The Power of the Prepared Client: Why Readiness Is Your Best Legal Strategy

Divorce is a legal process with emotional consequences—but the court does not care how you feel about your case. It cares about what you can prove, and how persuasively. In…

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Digital Housekeeping Before Divorce in Utah: Why You Must Change Your Passwords First

Before you file for divorce, your spouse may already have access to more of your life than you realize—your emails, financial accounts, personal documents, and even your private communications with…

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Structure, Confidence, and the Integrity of Process – Conclusion

This series has examined a focused procedural question: whether interviews with children in custody disputes should be preserved through authenticated contemporaneous verbatim record via unedited audio-visual capture. The discussion has…

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Part III – Transparency, Deference, and Institutional Design

Legal systems evolve. Practices that function adequately become routine. Routine hardens into assumption. Over time, assumption begins to resemble necessity. Unrecorded child interviews in custody and parent-time cases appear to…

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Part I – The Fragility Rationale and the Case for Making and Preserving Records

The Fragility Rationale The most common justification for not making and keeping a record of child testimony rests on fragility. Knowing that the interview will be recorded, it is said,…

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USFSPA Decoded: Dividing Military Retirement Benefits in a Utah Court

For Utah divorcing couples: A clear, practical discussion on how military retirement is divided under the Uniformed Services Former Spouses’ Protection Act (USFSPA) and Utah’s equitable distribution law — including…

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What I Have to Remind Myself of with a New Divorce Client

When divorce or a child custody dispute begins, most people think they know what they’re fighting for. The house. The retirement account. The business. Parent-time. Child support. Alimony. Those are real issues. They matter. They need…

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The Calendar and the Calculator in Harmony: Fully Serving the Best Interest of the Child

When parents separate, two instruments immediately begin to shape a child's future: the calendar (time) and the calculator (money). Both matter. Neither is optional. And neither compensates for the absence…

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Trust Without Verification: The Custody Evaluation Transparency Problem

When the interviews that shape custody decisions remain inside a black box, the court is asked to trust what it cannot independently verify. In Utah child custody disputes, custody evaluations…

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Should a Guardian ad Litem Speak for the Child—or Over the Child?

Utah’s 2026 legislative session includes a proposal that deserves attention well beyond juvenile court. House Bill 372—particularly its substitute versions—revisits Guardian ad Litem (GAL) duties and standards in child welfare proceedings.…

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Perception Isn’t Everything in Divorce Court, But It Often Decides the Close Calls

Utah divorce law is statutory. Judges don’t invent custody standards or alimony rules on a whim. They apply what the Legislature has enacted. But statutes do not apply themselves. Judges…

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Who Is in Charge of a Lawsuit: the Client or the Lawyer?

People who hire a lawyer tend to assume one of two extremes. Either: “I hired the lawyer, so the lawyer does what I say.” Or: “The lawyer is the professional,…

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Bahsoun v. Mooney – 2026 UT App 18

Bahsoun v. Mooney - 2026 UT App 18 2026 UT App 18 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MAZEN BAHSOUN,Appellee, v. COLLEEN ELIZABETH MOONEY, Appellant. Per Curiam OpinionNo. 20251317-CA Filed February…

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The Difference Between “Joint Custody” and Equal Custody in Utah Child Custody Disputes

In Utah, "joint physical custody" doesn't have to mean a perfect 50/50 split, though that is increasingly common (increasingly common, not the default—the system still treats mothers more favorably than…

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The Price of Professionalism: The Pro Se Paradox in Family Court

The "Rules for Thee, But Not for Me" Phenomenon The legal system is built on procedure. For an attorney, failing to file a motion on time or improperly authenticating a…

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Navigating the GAL or PGAL Interview: A Survival Guide

In child custody disputes, the judge acts as the final arbiter, but they rarely get to see the daily reality of a child's life. This is where appointing an attorney…

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What Utah Law Actually Says About Hearing From Children in Custody Cases

In the prior discussion, I described a common feature of Utah custody and parent-time proceedings: courts routinely make findings about a child’s needs, attachments, and lived experience without hearing directly…

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When the System Resists Hearing from the One Person Who Actually Lives the Case

Seth Godin observed that every important medical innovation of the last several centuries—handwashing, antibiotics, acknowledging the dangers of smoking—was initially resisted by the medical establishment. Not because the ideas were…

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“When in Doubt, Grant the Protective Order” Is Not a Legal Principle

In discussions about protective orders and alleged domestic violence, I often hear a familiar refrain: “Protective orders should be granted liberally even when the question comes down to one person’s…

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Home Equity Red Flags Every Divorce Attorney (and Client) Should Catch Early

Guest post by Joe Gordon Broker / Owner / Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert Direct: 801-577-6304 Email: Joe@Gordon-RealEstate.com www.UtahDivorceRealEstate.com This practice tip comes to you after a heartbreaking case where the…

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The Emperor Has No Clothes: When Do Credentials Prove Superior Skill in Interviewing Children?

Questioning the Assumed Superiority of Custody Evaluators and Guardians ad Litem A foundational assumption in modern custody practice is rarely stated outright, but it governs nearly everything that follows: that…

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The Voice of the Child: Why Simple, Factual Testimony Is Often Safer Than Psychological Interpretation

The Danger of Interpretation When Courts Refuse to Hear from the Child Directly When the court relies on a child custody evaluator or Guardian Ad Litem (GAL), it is not…

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Best Interests Without Evidence: The Unexamined Premise of PGAL and Custody Evaluator Appointments

When Courts Hear About Children Instead of Hearing From Them In Utah child-custody and parent-time disputes, motions to appoint a Private Guardian ad Litem (PGAL) and/or a custody evaluator have…

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Why You Should Run Proposed Communications by Your Divorce Attorney First

(Yes—even the “harmless” ones) One of the most common and most avoidable mistakes people make during a divorce is communicating too freely, too casually, or too confidently with their spouse…

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Even the Best Divorce Lawyer Can’t Turn a Weak Case Into a Strong One

There’s a persistent belief in the divorce and custody world that the “right” divorce and child custody lawyer can work miracles. That if you hire someone clever enough, aggressive enough,…

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A Better Approach to Utah Divorce and Child Custody Litigation

If Utah’s domestic-relations legal system is serious about accuracy, fairness, and reducing unnecessary conflict, then the system needs processes that beneficially affect how cases are litigated and how evidence is…

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Utah Law Does Not Bar Children From Testifying—Even When a PGAL Is Appointed

Utah law allows a child to be represented by an attorney—either a guardian ad litem (GAL) when there are allegations of child abuse, or by a private guardian ad litem…

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How to Protect Your Child From Being Manipulated Into Making False Accusations During a Custody Dispute

A candid, experience-based guide for parents who need the truth without varnish or theatrics. Not every case involves manipulation. Not every professional fails. But when these problems occur—and they do—the…

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If Your Spouse Hid Assets by Titling Them in a Parent’s Name, Is That “Smart Protection” or Financial Fraud? How Do You Prove It in Utah Divorce Court?

This is not unusual: a spouse suddenly “doesn’t own anything,” yet somehow pays the taxes, insurance, maintenance, or mortgage on a house that’s titled in Mom’s name. Or money gets…

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Can the Amount of Child Support or Alimony Be Lowered or Eliminated if Your Ex Gets Remarried? In a Utah Divorce Case, Maybe.

People often assume that once their ex remarries, financial obligations from the divorce automatically shrink or disappear. It’s not that simple. In short: when it comes to the effects on child…

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Child Testimony in Utah Custody and Parent-time Dispute Cases: Why a Blanket Ban Is Legally Indefensible

Utah Law Does Not Support a Categorical Bar to Child Testimony Utah’s custodial statute expressly contemplates judicial inquiry into a child’s views. Section 81-9-204(5)(b)(i) provides that “the court may inquire…

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Proof, Notice, and Verification Under Utah Law in the Context of Minor Child Expenses: A Practical Guide for Proving Child Health Insurance, Medical Expenses, and Child Care Costs

Utah’s child support statutes—now consolidated under Title 81, Chapter 6 of the Utah Code use the term “verification” repeatedly when describing a parent’s duties to provide proof of child health insurance coverage and…

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Why Don’t My Kids Like Me After the Divorce (It May Be Your Fault)

After a divorce that involved minor children of the parties, many of those party parents wonder why their kids become or seem to become distant or resentful. In Utah, children’s…

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How to Protect Yourself from False Abuse Accusations During Custody Exchanges and Other Interactions

False allegations of abuse—whether physical, emotional, or “stalking”—are among the most destructive things that can happen to a parent in a custody dispute. Once the words “abuse” and/or stalking is/are…

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What Should I Do If I Have to Have a Custody Evaluation, Psychological, or Other Evaluation Conducted?

Utah family courts often order custody, psychological, or substance-abuse evaluations. Learn what to expect, how to prepare, and how to protect yourself during these high-stakes assessments. _________ When a Utah…

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How to Reopen Discovery for Good Cause in Utah Family Law Cases

Once discovery closes in your Utah divorce, child custody, or support case, it’s supposed to stay closed. The court expects both sides to be finished gathering evidence and ready for…

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What Counts as “New Evidence” After Discovery Closes in a Utah Divorce Case?

When discovery closes in your Utah divorce, child custody, or support case, you can’t keep gathering (or using at trial) new evidence unless it fits a very narrow exception.Many people…

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When Discovery Closes, It’s Really Closed: What That Means in Utah Family Law Cases

When discovery closes in your Utah divorce, child custody, or support case, that’s the official end of the evidence-gathering phase. You can’t send out new discovery requests, And you can’t…

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Why a Good Lawyer Often Asks You Questions Before He Answers Yours

People rarely ask plainly the tough questions they actually need answered. In divorce and custody cases, clients often ask surface questions (“How much will this cost?” “Can I get full…

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The False Economy of the Cheap Divorce Lawyer

A cheap divorce lawyer almost always costs more in the long run. Low-fee lawyers keep prices low by cutting corners (reusing boilerplate, outsourcing analysis and judgment, and rushing cases to…

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The Absentee Lawyer Problem: When Your Attorney Isn’t Being Fully Responsible for the Work

The Absentee Lawyer Problem: When Your Attorney Isn’t Being Fully Responsible for the Work A growing number of divorce clients are unknowingly paying for work their lawyer never actually did.…

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Understanding Judicial Discretion and Its Abuses in Utah Family Law

Utah judges and commissioners can—and many often do—bend or ignore laws/rules and facts. Learn how this happens, why appellate oversight rarely corrects it, and what litigants can do to protect…

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My Spouse Has Disappeared During the Divorce Process, How Can I Find Him/Her?

In Utah, you can still get divorced if your spouse disappears, but only after proving you made a diligent search and using court-approved alternative service of process methods. Missing spouse…

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Temporary Custody Orders: A Potential Trap Every Utah Parent Should See Coming, and How to Avoid It

Utah judges and domestic relations commissioners reassure parents that early custody, parent-time, and support orders issued during the pendency of the child custody case are “just temporary.” Don’t believe it.…

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The Myth of Utah’s “Standard Parent-Time”

Utah law does not impose a mandatory “standard parent-time” schedule. The schedules in Utah Code § 81-9-302 are only possible options for courts to consider. In practice, however, judges often adopt them with little…

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