“I’ll Give It the Appropriate Weight” Is Not a Rule of Evidence

Few courtroom phrases are more soothing—or more dangerous—than this response to a valid hearsay objection: “I’ll admit it, but I’ll give it the appropriate weight.” The phrase sounds disciplined. It…

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PGALs Are Almost Always Appointed for the Court’s Convenience, Not the Child’s Benefit or for the Benefit of Seeking the Truth

For many parents involved in child custody disputes, the phrase “appointing a PGAL” comes up before anyone explains what it means. “PGAL” is short for private guardian ad litem. In…

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Walking in Their Shoes: The Reciprocal Argument Rule in Family Law Litigation

Family court is not ordinary litigation. In a business dispute, the parties may fight hard, settle, and never see each other again. In divorce and child custody disputes, the parties…

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No Remedy Without a Wrong: Why Family Courts Must Stop Rewarding Fabricated Grievances

There is a basic principle at the heart of equity: where there is a legal wrong, there should be a remedy. But the inverse matters just as much: where there…

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Child Custody and Parent-time Awards Need to Incorporate More Humility

Many parents (I’d say even most parents) enter family court hoping someone will fix everything. Believing that: the judge will see through the lies. the custody evaluator will identify the…

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How Extended Summer Parent-Time Actually Works Under Utah Code §§ 81-9-302 and 81-9-303

Not every Utah parent is subject to the default parent-time schedules found in Utah Code §§ 81-9-302 and 81-9-303. Many parents operate under customized custody and parent-time provisions created by agreement or court…

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Co-Parenting Apps: Useful Tool or Expensive Solution in Search of a Problem?

Parenting apps are now everywhere in modern child custody disputes. Lawyers recommend them. Parenting coordinators recommend them. Guardians ad litem recommend them. Courts sometimes order them. And the companies behind…

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When Joint Legal Custody Parents Disagree About an IEP in Utah

Some of the strongest child custody disputes are no longer fought primarily through parent-time schedules, exchange disputes, or even direct allegations of abuse. Increasingly, they are fought through institutions. Schools.…

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Divorce Mediation Wastes Time, Money, and Effort. There Is an Obvious Better Way.

The way divorce mediation is conducted in Utah is wildly overrated, yet that fact is one of the best kept secrets in the family law legal profession. To be clear,…

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Equal Custody in Utah: Common, Increasingly Favored, but Still Not Presumed

A growing number of divorcing and unmarried parents walk into consultations convinced that Utah law now requires “50/50 (equal) child custody.” Some are absolutely certain of it. They heard it…

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The Rule 702 Gap: Why Utah Custody Evaluations Need Real Evidentiary Scrutiny

In a Utah personal injury case, if a doctor testifies that a low-speed collision caused a traumatic brain injury, that opinion will usually face meaningful scrutiny under Rule 702 of…

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Beyond 18: When Utah Law Requires Continued Support for Adult Children with Disabilities

Discover how Utah Code § 81-6-101 allows for child support to continue indefinitely for adult children with cognitive disabilities. Learn the legal standards for incapacity and how a Special Needs Trust can…

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Divorce Litigants Need (and Deserve) Basic Courtroom Education Before Evidentiary Hearings and Trial

Utah law already recognizes that divorce is a life-altering event. Under Utah Code § 81-4-105, parents must attend an orientation course because the state knows this process is emotionally volatile and…

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Credibility Determinations Belong to Courts, Not Custody Evaluators

In a surprising number of child custody disputes, courts make major decisions based heavily on conversations nobody else gets to see or hear. A custody evaluator interviews the child privately.…

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Do You Actually Need a Vocational Evaluator? How to Prove Earning Capacity in Utah Divorce Cases

In many Utah divorce, alimony, and child support cases, you may not need to spend thousands of dollars on a vocational evaluator to prove earning capacity. Courts determined whether people…

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Why “Reasonable Parent-Time” Often Turns Into Unnecessary Conflict

ABSTRACT: Vague parenting plans built around “reasonable parent-time” often create more conflict, not less. When schedules, holidays, exchanges, and responsibilities are left undefined, parents frequently end up arguing about expectations…

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The “Custom-Tailored” Holiday Schedule vs. Utah’s Statutory Plan

One of the most common mistakes parents make in Utah child custody disputes is assuming that a “custom-tailored” holiday schedule must automatically be better than Utah’s standard statutory holiday parent-time…

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The “Delete” Trap: Why Wiping Your Hard Drive During a Divorce Can Blow Up Your Case

Deleting digital evidence during a Utah divorce can trigger sanctions, contempt findings, attorney fee awards, and devastating credibility problems. Learn how Utah courts treat destroyed evidence under URCP 26, 26.1,…

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Parens Patriae: Why the Court Gets Involved in Your Family

If you’re dealing with a divorce or a child custody dispute, there’s something you need to understand early: This is not just your case. That’s not rhetoric. It’s how the…

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Plausible Isn’t Proof: And “Discretion” Doesn’t Fix It

Stephen Petro recently made a point that should be obvious, but in the heat of litigation, often isn’t: A “reasonable” answer is not the same thing as a correct one. A reasonable answer…

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The Third Way: A Strategic Exit from the Divorce Court/Mediation Loop

Divorce cases spiral and stagnate because the system allows for posturing and delay without consequence. The courts are overwhelmed and apathetic. Mediation, as typically structured, does not require resolution. Without…

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Emergency Contacts: A List of Local Resources for Families in Crisis (Utah Family Law Guide)

Family law emergencies do not follow business hours. What you do—or fail to do—in the first moments of a crisis often dictates your success in court months later. CRITICAL: If you…

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Parenting Apps: A (Paid) Solution Looking for a Problem

Everyone in family law has heard the pitch: download a parenting app, pay a monthly fee, and suddenly your co-parenting problems become organized, documented, and “court-ready.” It sounds responsible. It…

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Digital Housekeeping Before Divorce in Utah: Why You Must Change Your Passwords First

Before you file for divorce, your spouse may already have access to more of your life than you realize; your emails, financial accounts, personal documents, and even your private communications…

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What Actually Happens When You File for Divorce in Utah (And Why It Takes So Long)

When most people think about divorce, many may picture a courtroom, a judge, and a decision. But this process is a long, costly, and discouraging one. A typical contested divorce or…

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Second Marriages and First Impressions: The Stories About an Ex—and the Mistakes People Make by Believing Them

The most dangerous stories in a second marriage are often the ones only one person can verify. Everyone has a past. Everyone has an explanation for why a prior relationship…

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Using Smart Home Tech to Spy on a Spouse in a Utah Divorce Case?

The modern Utah home is a goldmine of digital data. In a divorce or child custody dispute, it often becomes something else: a surveillance system one spouse tries to weaponize…

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Pretrial Disclosures Matter in Utah Divorce Cases: Lessons from Prisbrey v. Prisbrey

There’s been (note the past tense) an assumption that creeps into a lot of divorce cases: If the evidence is important enough, the court will let it in. But in Prisbey v.…

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Control Your Communications, Protect Your Case: Choosing Your Inner Circle in Utah Family Law

When you are involved in a divorce, custody dispute, or protective order court case, the desire to talk about it can be strong. You may want advice, validation, or simply…

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The Social Media Trap: How One Facebook Post Can Impact Your Utah Child Custody Case

In a Utah custody case, your conduct is not limited to what happens in your home—it extends to what you choose to share online. Social media is not personal or…

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Exposing the “Child Whisperer” Myth in Utah Custody and Parent-time

In Utah child custody and parent-time disputes, courts routinely defer to a familiar class of professionals: private guardians ad litem (PGALs) and custody evaluators. These professionals are held up as…

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VA Disability Pay vs. Alimony: Why Your “Tax-Free” Income Still Counts

Veterans often believe their VA disability pay is “untouchable” in divorce. Not exactly. While it cannot be divided as property, courts routinely treat it as income for alimony. Learn how…

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The Obvious Variable No One Addresses: How Gender Distorts Protective Order Decisions

Protective orders are among the most powerful and disruptive tools Utah courts wield—all on an expedited timeline and often on a limited record. The law governing these orders is clearly…

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The Power of the Prepared Client: Why Readiness Is Your Best Legal Strategy

Divorce is a legal process with emotional consequences—but the court does not care how you feel about your case. It cares about what you can prove, and how persuasively. In…

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Structure, Confidence, and the Integrity of Process – Conclusion

This series has examined a focused procedural question: whether interviews with children in custody disputes should be preserved through authenticated contemporaneous verbatim record via unedited audio-visual capture. The discussion has…

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Part III – Transparency, Deference, and Institutional Design

Legal systems evolve. Practices that function adequately become routine. Routine hardens into assumption. Over time, assumption begins to resemble necessity. Unrecorded child interviews in custody and parent-time cases appear to…

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Part II – Fidelity, Filtering, and the Loss of Context

In most areas of litigation, original testimony is preserved. Depositions are recorded. Hearings are transcribed. Statements given in investigative settings are documented. Context is retained because meaning does not reside…

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Part I – The Fragility Rationale and the Case for Making and Preserving Records

The Fragility Rationale The most common justification for not making and keeping a record of child testimony rests on fragility. Knowing that the interview will be recorded, it is said,…

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The Lack of a Record of Child Interviews in Child Custody Disputes

A 5-part series Series Introduction Modern legal systems run on records. Depositions are transcribed. Hearings are recorded. Police interrogations are preserved. Financial transactions generate digital trails. Making and preserving records…

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The “Tooling Up Phase” of Divorce: Why Gathering Your Financial Documents Early Can Save You Thousands of Dollars and Spare You Months of Delay

When people begin thinking about divorce, most want to get it over with quickly. Keep the suffering to a minimum. They want to file immediately, schedule hearings, and get the…

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The High Cost of the “If It Saves Just One Life” Fallacy

In the world of public policy, there is a phrase that acts as a universal solvent for logic, restraint, and due process: “If it saves just one life.” The phrase is…

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What I Have to Remind Myself of with a New Divorce Client

When divorce or a child custody dispute begins, most people think they know what they’re fighting for. The house. The retirement account. The business. Parent-time. Child support. Alimony. Those are real issues. They matter. They need…

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Not Malicious, But Misaligned: Why Utah Protective Order Hearings Have Become Functionally Rigged

Utah’s protective order system was not designed to punish innocent people. It was designed to prevent violence. That distinction matters. Over time, the framework has developed a structural imbalance. The…

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The Calendar and the Calculator in Harmony: Fully Serving the Best Interest of the Child

When parents separate, two instruments immediately begin to shape a child's future: the calendar (time) and the calculator (money). Both matter. Neither is optional. And neither compensates for the absence…

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Utah HB 208 (2026): What the Proposed Parentage Amendments Would Change

Utah’s Legislature has introduced HB 208 (2026), a bill that would make meaningful changes to the state’s parentage statutes. Parentage law determines who is legally recognized as a parent. That recognition…

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Trust Without Verification: The Custody Evaluation Transparency Problem

When the interviews that shape custody decisions remain inside a black box, the court is asked to trust what it cannot independently verify. In Utah child custody disputes, custody evaluations…

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Should a Guardian ad Litem Speak for the Child—or Over the Child?

Utah’s 2026 legislative session includes a proposal that deserves attention well beyond juvenile court. House Bill 372—particularly its substitute versions—revisits Guardian ad Litem (GAL) duties and standards in child welfare proceedings.…

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Utah’s Legal “Pause”: When a Temporary Separation May Be Smarter Than Immediate Divorce

When a marriage is in serious trouble, many people assume the only decisive move is to file for divorce. Sometimes that’s true. But oftentimes it isn’t. Utah law provides another…

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Perception Isn’t Everything in Divorce Court, But It Often Decides the Close Calls

Utah divorce law is statutory. Judges don’t invent custody standards or alimony rules on a whim. They apply what the Legislature has enacted. But statutes do not apply themselves. Judges…

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Who Is in Charge of a Lawsuit: the Client or the Lawyer?

People who hire a lawyer tend to assume one of two extremes. Either: “I hired the lawyer, so the lawyer does what I say.” Or: “The lawyer is the professional,…

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