Why Mediation Often Fails (Even When Both People Want to Settle)
Mediation is supposed to be where divorce cases get resolved. And to be fair, a lot of them do. But a surprising number don’t. Not because one or both people…
Can You Win Child Custody If Someone Else Is Raising Your Kids During the Week?
This question is more common than you might think. Some may be in this situation: “I want custody for stability.” “I need custody because it affects support.” “I’m the better…
Deepfakes in Utah Divorce and Child Custody Disputes: Not If But When
A few years ago, the concern was fake law; lawyers citing to AI-generated cases that didn’t exist. That already happened in Utah. See Garner v. Kadince. The next concern is worse:…
You Can’t Decide What You Haven’t Examined: What Most Utah Courts Knowingly Miss in Child Custody Decisions
The Missing Step Courts in child custody disputes routinely make determinations without ever hearing from the child directly—or even reviewing a complete and reliable record of someone who did. That…
The Child Still Testifies—Just “Off the Record”?
I. The System’s Logic When courts appoint custody evaluators and/or private guardians ad litem (PLALs), the justification is usually straightforward: The judge does not want children to testify.So instead, the…
The Thing One Rarely Says Out Loud When Divorce Starts
When divorce or a child custody dispute begins, most people think they know what they’re fighting for. The house. The retirement account. The business. Parent-time. Child support. Alimony. Those are…
The First Meeting with Your Utah Divorce or Child Custody Attorney
After you’ve hired your attorney, the first meeting between attorney and client—whether in person or by video—is about orientation, risk assessment, and planning. Most people come in overwhelmed and discouraged…
The Obvious Variable No One Addresses: How Gender Distorts Protective Order Decisions – Part II of II
Protective orders are among the most powerful and disruptive tools Utah courts wield—all on an expedited timeline and often on a limited record. The law governing these orders is clearly…
Erring on the Side of Caution — Until You’re the One Paying for It
“Better safe than sorry.” Few phrases sound more humane. In the context of domestic violence, it feels morally unassailable. Why wouldn’t we err on the side of safety? Whatever it…
Navigating the GAL or PGAL Interview: A Survival Guide
In child custody disputes, the judge acts as the final arbiter, but they rarely get to see the daily reality of a child's life. This is where appointing an attorney…
Is Divorce a Failure, or Can It Be an Act of Growth and Self-Respect?
Both can be true. No rational, caring person marries with divorce as the goal, so divorce is—definitionally—a failed marriage. But that clearly does not make every divorce a personal failure.…
Building a Credible Alimony Case Without Games or Gimmicks
Divorce is hard enough without turning it into a credibility war. Alimony — what Utah law calls “spousal support” — exists to help a financially disadvantaged spouse transition without being…
Complacent Rulings, Lasting Damage
“Remember that most people will pretend to operate in your interest while operating in their own.” —Ray Dalio Dalio wasn’t talking about family courts when he wrote this, but he…
Divorce Without the Drama: 12 Practical Preparation Steps Anyone Can Take Now
Divorce is a legal process, yes, but it’s also financial, practical, and personal. The smartest moves you can make in divorce are those you make before you file that petition…
Why Custody Evaluations in Utah Should Be Recorded and Transparent
In Utah today, custody evaluations are often conducted behind closed doors. The evaluator interviews the parents, the children, and collateral witnesses (neighbors, teachers, extended family, therapists, coaches, pastors, etc.), but…
Compelling Reasons for Permitting Litigants and Their Attorneys to Appear Remotely for Court Hearings
Compelling Reasons for Permitting Litigants and Their Attorneys to Appear Remotely for Court Hearings
World War II’s silk shortage forced the military to abandon a comfortable default; nylon parachutes—stronger, cheaper, and mass-producible—started as a substitute and became the superior standard. COVID-19 did the same…
My Spouse is Disparaging Me Publicly and/or to Our Children—What Can I Do? What Should I Do?
Divorce or custody litigation often brings out the worst in people. Some spouses can't resist the urge to play the victim or the hero in every story they tell, especially…
Is Required Divorce Mediation Under the Utah Code a Waste of Time? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
If you get divorced in Utah, you may be surprised to learn that you are required—unless you are excused for good cause—to attend at least one session of mediation before…
Sexual Discrimination in Utah Child Custody and Parent-Time Awards – I’m Just Going to Leave This Here (Part 2 of 2)
See Pusey v. Pusey, 728 P.2d 119-121 (Utah 1986): Opinion DURHAM, Justice: Plaintiff cross-appeals from that portion of the divorce decree awarding custody of the older son of the marriage to defendant…
Is It Advisable to Wait Until the Divorce Is Finalized Before Dating? Does This Still Apply if There Are No Children or Assets Involved in the Divorce?
Yes, it is advisable. You can’t go wrong by waiting to start dating until after your decree of divorce is issued by the court. Personally, I consider it immoral to…