In a divorce, should children live with their favorite parent?

I can’t speak for all jurisdictions, but I can tell you that in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law (Utah), currently the child’s preference for one parent…

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Do you lose child custody if you have a bench warrant?

Not merely for having a warrant out for your arrest, no.  Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com | 801-466-9277   https://www.quora.com/Do-you-lose-child-custody-if-you-have-a-bench-warrant/answer/Eric-Johnson-311  

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In re J.L… 2022 UT 12 – termination of parental rights

2022 UT 12  IN THE SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF UTAH  STATE OF UTAH, in the Interest of J.A.L. and J.O.L., Persons Under Eighteen Years of Age  J.L. and…

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Hinds v Hinds-Holm – 2022 UT App 13 – child custody award factors

Hinds v Hinds-Holm - 2022 UT App 13 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BRADLEY HINDS, Appellee, v. RACHEL HINDS-HOLM, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200586-CA Filed January 27, 2022 Third District Court,…

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How do we counteract the adverse effects of trusting custody evaluators?

The question was asked: In a study in 2012 proved many custody evaluators falsely believe most DV victims lied & alienated kids. So How do you prevent that evaluators report from…

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The way UT courts conduct custody evaluations nowadays is indefensible

The way courts in Utah conduct custody evaluations nowadays is indefensible. There is nothing in UCJA rule 4-903 (the rule governing custody evaluations) that requires a custody evaluation to consist of little…

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Have you, or someone you know, ever had to share joint custody of a pet due to a breakup/divorce? If so, how did that work out? Was the time actually 50/50?

Many married couples are now foregoing having children but still feel a need for caring for something other than themselves individually and for each other, and so they get a…

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If two unwed people have a child and split up, is it treated like a divorce?

If two people have a child out of wedlock, and they split up, is it treated like a divorce?  I will answer this question for the jurisdiction of Utah.  The…

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If you have 50/50 custody, how much vacation time from kids is approriate?

If you're separated and have 50/50 custody, how much vacation time away from your kid is appropriate? Too many variables to consider to give you an intelligent answer.  How old is the…

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How do courts insist upon custody evaluations being conducted?

With rare exception in Utah (so rare that it might as well be non-existent), the way courts insist upon custody evaluations being conducted consists of: the court imposing one and…

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If a married couple divorces and neither one wants their child, what happens?

Great question. I have discussed this question with others. Their first reaction to the question is along the lines of “Oh, that’s terrible!,” but then we discuss the fact that…

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Can you seek a temporary custody award if you have an apartment but you’re not on the lease, but your fiancé is on the lease and also the child does have their own room?

I get this question frequently. The answer: Sure, you can ask (you can always merely ask) the court to award you temporary custody of the child(ren) under such circumstances, but…

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Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 4: Trial by fire

By Quinton Lister, Legal Assistant  I attended my first trial this past week. I did not question any witnesses or argue the case at the trial or anything like that because I am not a lawyer…

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Can a divorced parent with the parties’ child primarily lives stop the child from switching to live with the other parent?

So, the question is this: if I am the parent to whom custody of our child was awarded, and that child doesn’t want to live with me anymore, what can…

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Do you think it’s fair that Brad Pitt got joint custody of his kids? 

Normally, I do not like to comment on the intersection of pop culture and family law because quite often, what happens in a celebrity divorce or child custody dispute does…

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When flawed thinking is tragic thinking (thank goodness)

I frequently encounter comments made in child custody disputes to the effect that “courts favor the nurturing and detailed attentiveness of mothers over fathers.”  I am as grateful for such comments as I am disheartened by them. Grateful…

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Can I legally stop talking to my dad if he has custody (I live with my mom full time, but he’s still legally my parent as well)?

This is a good question because it deals with an issue that the law either has not addressed or cannot effectively address.  First, is there any legally permissible and practicable…

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Do you agree with Brad Pitt winning joint custody of his children with Angelina Jolie?

I normally don’t comment on popular culture matters dealing with divorce, but for this question I will make an exception.  I have no idea what kind of parents Angelina Jolie…

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How hard did you have to fight to get custody of your child after divorce as a father? What was the biggest problem you faced?

Allow me to start this answer by clearing the air a bit: First, there are many fathers who are clearly unfit fathers but who nonetheless believe the only or the…

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In our society what shows that we value fathers as parents?

In our society what shows that we value fathers as parents? When it comes to child custody awards (i.e., the award of legal and/or physical custody)? Society values fathers far…

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What is being a single parent without joint custody like in your country?

If a loving, able parent (i.e., a fit parent who lives in close enough proximity to the child(ren)’s other parent such that joint legal and physical custody does not work…

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What exactly does the term “will make best efforts” mean in a child custody case?

Great question. Here's a good summary taken from the world of contract law (frankly, the definition of the term “best efforts” likely applies equally well when the term is utilized…

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After a divorce, should my kids be with me or with the mom?

First, you need to understand that you’re asking the wrong question. Child custody is not a zero-sum game; otherwise stated, when parents divorce, or when unmarried parents separate, where you…

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Why is it OK for a parent to be given custody without their kids’ consent?

Why is it okay for a parent to be given custody without their kids consent or at least their input? This is a great question. I can’t speak for all…

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Do judges sometimes feel overburdened by the responsibilities of their job?

Yes, and for good reason. First, let me be unusually but sincerely candid: many judges and many of the actions that judges take disappoint me. There are some excellent judges…

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Does a spouse have the right to see a DUI report?

First, if you are referring to a police report of a DUI citation and/or arrest, in most jurisdictions such records are public record, and thus available not only to your…

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I have custody of my child. He’s refusing to come home. What now?

I have custody of my child. He left to go to his mom's last Friday for the weekend. He is refusing to come home because he wants to live there.…

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Child refuses to leave noncustodial parent’s house. What happens now?

I am the noncustodial parent. Our child came to my house for parent-time and now refuses to leave because he wants to live with me. What happens now? I will…

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Father has 50/50 custody. Now ex is trying to take it away. What to do?

I am a father who has exercised at least 50/50 custody with my ex. Now she's trying to take me to court for full custody and me getting every other…

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Does a spouse have the right to see a DUI report?

Does a spouse have the right to see a DUI report? First, if you are referring to a police report of a DUI citation and/or arrest, in most jurisdictions such…

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How do I console a father who has lost custody of his child?

How do I console a father who has lost custody of his child? “He’s [the father who lost custody] permanently damaged.” That’s what someone else wrote in response to your…

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Good news, for parents deserving of joint equal physical custody

Good news, apparently, for parents deserving of joint equal physical custody of their children but who have, up until now, been fighting an unfair, unnecessarily uphill battle. The Utah Legislature passed,…

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What are tips for parents sharing custody during COVID-19?

What are the different tips for parents sharing custody during this COVID-19? Best tip: don’t use COVID-19 as a pretext for withholding/preventing/sabotaging contact and care and communication between the children…

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Can a mother lose custody even if the child is still very young?

Can a mother lose custody even if the child is still very young? Are there any situations where a mother can lose custody even if their child is still very…

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Can grandma sue if the child stopped visiting because of COVID-19?

Can grandma sue for custody/visitation if you stopped taking the child to visit because of COVID-19? What would you do if your mother sued you for custody/visitation of a grandchild…

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Why is my lawyer ignoring me?

Why is my lawyer ignoring me? There are many possible reasons. Lawyers are notorious for being hard to reach and for being unresponsive and nonresponsive. If you aren’t paying your…

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Married a short time. He demands discovery going back years. Can he?

Married a short time. He demands discovery going back years. Can he? Married 16 months. He became abusive almost immediately after. I filed for divorce. He and his attorney is…

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Why is it difficult for a father to get child custody?

Why is it difficult for a father to get child custody? Because there is a pernicious and false belief in far too many of the courts (not, notably, in society…

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2020 UT App 171 – Miller v. Miller THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RYAN MILLER, Appellant, v. BRENDA MILLER, Appellee

2020 UT App 171 - Miller v. Miller THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RYAN MILLER, Appellant, BRENDA MILLER, Appellee. Opinion No. 20190748-CA Filed December 24, 2020 Second District Court, Farmington…

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GALs/custody evaluators waste money/time compared to judge interview

GALs and custody evaluators waste too much money and time, and can never provide the same accuracy as a judge’s direct interview of the child. This post is the fifteenth…

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Does having the judge interview the children traumatize the children?

Does having the judge interview the children traumatize the children?   This post is the second in series of 15 posts on the subject of custody evaluations and the appointment…

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How do courts view mothers who abandon their family during a divorce?

How does the court view mothers that abandon their family during a divorce? Generally, with disbelief, at first. Why? A few reasons. One, to its credit, our culture still holds…

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What’s the difference between legal custody and physical custody?

Here's a question many parents have: what is the legal definition of “joint legal custody” and “joint physical custody” in Utah when it comes to the custody of children? Is…

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How many states favor mothers in child custody proceedings?

How many states favor giving the child to its mother in a custody hearing? You’re asking a good question, but it’s not the question you think you’re asking. The question…

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