Structure, Confidence, and the Integrity of Process – Conclusion

This series has examined a focused procedural question: whether interviews with children in custody disputes should be preserved through authenticated contemporaneous verbatim record via unedited audio-visual capture. The discussion has…

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Part III – Transparency, Deference, and Institutional Design

Legal systems evolve. Practices that function adequately become routine. Routine hardens into assumption. Over time, assumption begins to resemble necessity. Unrecorded child interviews in custody and parent-time cases appear to…

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Part II – Fidelity, Filtering, and the Loss of Context

In most areas of litigation, original testimony is preserved. Depositions are recorded. Hearings are transcribed. Statements given in investigative settings are documented. Context is retained because meaning does not reside…

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Part I – The Fragility Rationale and the Case for Making and Preserving Records

The Fragility Rationale The most common justification for not making and keeping a record of child testimony rests on fragility. Knowing that the interview will be recorded, it is said,…

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The Lack of a Record of Child Interviews in Child Custody Disputes

A 5-part series Series Introduction Modern legal systems run on records. Depositions are transcribed. Hearings are recorded. Police interrogations are preserved. Financial transactions generate digital trails. Making and preserving records…

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Planning “For” Divorce Looks Like Planning “On” Divorce, and Why That Matters

Financial advisors, wealth managers, and business consultants increasingly tell clients to “plan for divorce.” Some divorce lawyers say the same thing. I do not, especially for young people contemplating marriage…

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Erring on the Side of Caution — Until You’re the One Paying for It

“Better safe than sorry.” Few phrases sound more humane. In the context of domestic violence, it feels morally unassailable. Why wouldn’t we err on the side of safety? Whatever it…

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The “Tooling Up Phase” of Divorce: Why Gathering Your Financial Documents Early Can Save You Thousands of Dollars and Spare You Months of Delay

When people begin thinking about divorce, most want to get it over with quickly. Keep the suffering to a minimum. They want to file immediately, schedule hearings, and get the…

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USFSPA Decoded: Dividing Military Retirement Benefits in a Utah Court

For Utah divorcing couples: A clear, practical discussion on how military retirement is divided under the Uniformed Services Former Spouses’ Protection Act (USFSPA) and Utah’s equitable distribution law — including…

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What I Have to Remind Myself of with a New Divorce Client

When divorce or a child custody dispute begins, most people think they know what they’re fighting for. The house. The retirement account. The business. Parent-time. Child support. Alimony. Those are real issues. They matter. They need…

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Not Malicious, But Misaligned: Why Utah Protective Order Hearings Have Become Functionally Rigged

Utah’s protective order system was not designed to punish innocent people. It was designed to prevent violence. That distinction matters. Over time, the framework has developed a structural imbalance. The…

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The Calendar and the Calculator in Harmony: Fully Serving the Best Interest of the Child

When parents separate, two instruments immediately begin to shape a child's future: the calendar (time) and the calculator (money). Both matter. Neither is optional. And neither compensates for the absence…

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Utah Court of Appeals Dismisses Appeal of Temporary Arbitration Award in Custody Modification Case (2026 UT App 28)

Funk v. Funk - 2026 UT App 28 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS CAROL A. FUNK,Appellant, V. SAMUEL S. FUNK,Appellee. Per Curiam OpinionNo. 20251383-CA Filed February 26, 2026 Third District…

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Utah HB 208 (2026): What the Proposed Parentage Amendments Would Change

Utah’s Legislature has introduced HB 208 (2026), a bill that would make meaningful changes to the state’s parentage statutes. Parentage law determines who is legally recognized as a parent. That recognition…

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Trust Without Verification: The Custody Evaluation Transparency Problem

When the interviews that shape custody decisions remain inside a black box, the court is asked to trust what it cannot independently verify. In Utah child custody disputes, custody evaluations…

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The Hill AFB Factor: How Active Duty Status Changes a Utah Divorce

If you are stationed at Hill Air Force Base and facing divorce, do not assume your case is “standard.” It isn’t. Military status layers federal law on top of Utah…

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Should a Guardian ad Litem Speak for the Child—or Over the Child?

Utah’s 2026 legislative session includes a proposal that deserves attention well beyond juvenile court. House Bill 372—particularly its substitute versions—revisits Guardian ad Litem (GAL) duties and standards in child welfare proceedings.…

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Utah’s Legal “Pause”: When a Temporary Separation May Be Smarter Than Immediate Divorce

When a marriage is in serious trouble, many people assume the only decisive move is to file for divorce. Sometimes that’s true. But oftentimes it isn’t. Utah law provides another…

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Perception Isn’t Everything in Divorce Court, But It Often Decides the Close Calls

Utah divorce law is statutory. Judges don’t invent custody standards or alimony rules on a whim. They apply what the Legislature has enacted. But statutes do not apply themselves. Judges…

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Who Is in Charge of a Lawsuit: the Client or the Lawyer?

People who hire a lawyer tend to assume one of two extremes. Either: “I hired the lawyer, so the lawyer does what I say.” Or: “The lawyer is the professional,…

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“Not Offered for the Truth of the Matter Asserted”: Meaning, Limits, and Misuse

In court, neither a party nor one of that party’s witnesses can simply claim to repeat what someone else said and expect the judge to treat it as proof. As…

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Why Can’t I Just Submit a Letter as Evidence in Court?

What “Laying Foundation” Actually Means One of the most common frustrations in Utah divorce cases is this: a party has a letter, email, report, or written statement that feels decisive—and…

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The Difference Between “Joint Custody” and Equal Custody in Utah Child Custody Disputes

In Utah, "joint physical custody" doesn't have to mean a perfect 50/50 split, though that is increasingly common (increasingly common, not the default—the system still treats mothers more favorably than…

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The Price of Professionalism: The Pro Se Paradox in Family Court

The "Rules for Thee, But Not for Me" Phenomenon The legal system is built on procedure. For an attorney, failing to file a motion on time or improperly authenticating a…

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Navigating the GAL or PGAL Interview: A Survival Guide

In child custody disputes, the judge acts as the final arbiter, but they rarely get to see the daily reality of a child's life. This is where appointing an attorney…

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Why Divorce Decrees Don’t Magically Change Mortgages: What Too Many Utah Homeowners Learn the Hard Way After Divorce

Divorcing homeowners in Utah frequently run into mortgage servicer roadblocks when trying to refinance or have a spouse removed from a loan, even when the divorce decree says so. This blog explains…

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The Language Barrier of Divorce: Decoding Divorce Jargon

Divorce is hard enough on its own. Add in legal paperwork packed with unfamiliar terms, and it can feel like you’re suddenly expected to speak a completely new language. For…

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What Utah Law Actually Says About Hearing From Children in Custody Cases

In the prior discussion, I described a common feature of Utah custody and parent-time proceedings: courts routinely make findings about a child’s needs, attachments, and lived experience without hearing directly…

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What Counts as “Testimony” When the Court Hears From a Child

In the prior two posts, I described a common feature of Utah custody and parent-time proceedings: courts routinely make findings about a child’s needs, relationships, and lived experience without hearing…

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When the System Resists Hearing from the One Person Who Actually Lives the Case

Seth Godin observed that every important medical innovation of the last several centuries—handwashing, antibiotics, acknowledging the dangers of smoking—was initially resisted by the medical establishment. Not because the ideas were…

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What Legal Assistants Do in Divorce and Family Law Cases—and Why It Matters

Divorce and family law cases are often described in terms of lawyers: legal advice, strategy, negotiations, and court appearances. None of that works unless the case itself is properly built…

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When Can Things Be Submitted to the Court?

Every year, I watch people bring “important” documents to court that the judge will never read. Emails. Text messages. Financial records. Therapist letters. Receipts. Recordings. Sometimes the most important material…

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My Experience as a Legal Assistant with No Prior Experience

When I began working as a legal assistant, I expected the role to involve primarily traditional administrative tasks—answering phone calls, managing emails, and scheduling—along with some legal-specific responsibilities such as…

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“When in Doubt, Grant the Protective Order” Is Not a Legal Principle

In discussions about protective orders and alleged domestic violence, I often hear a familiar refrain: “Protective orders should be granted liberally even when the question comes down to one person’s…

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The Illusion of Protection: Why Utah’s Child Testimony Statute Threatens Due Process and Open Courts

A constitutional critique of Utah Code § 81-9-204(5)(a) Utah, like every state, bears a solemn and compelling responsibility to protect children involved in custody and parent-time disputes. That responsibility is…

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The Muzzled Meadow

I. The Founding TraumaIn the Meadow, everyone agreed on one thing: voices were dangerous.It hadn’t always been so. Long ago, animals spoke plainly. Some spoke well, somepoorly, some too much.…

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Why This Debate Is So Often Avoided in Utah Child Custody Cases

This post is the fourth in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, and the legal, procedural,…

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Restoring Judicial Fact-Finding in Utah Child custody Cases: Adjudication Without Synthetic Substitutes

This post is the third in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, and the legal, procedural,…

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When Help Becomes Substitution: Where Utah’s Use of Best-Interest Professionals Breaks Down Legally

This post is the second in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, and the legal, procedural,…

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Why Utah Courts Rely on GALs, PGALs, and Custody Evaluators — The Best Case

This post is the first in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, beginning with the strongest…

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The ‘Loyalty Conflict’ Myth: Why Courts Project Adult Anxiety Onto Children

When ‘Protecting Children’ Really Means Protecting Adults The Loyalty Conflict: A Convenient Scapegoat for Adult Discomfort The most common objection to a child testifying in a custody or parent-time dispute…

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The Emperor Has No Clothes: When Do Credentials Prove Superior Skill in Interviewing Children?

Questioning the Assumed Superiority of Custody Evaluators and Guardians ad Litem A foundational assumption in modern custody practice is rarely stated outright, but it governs nearly everything that follows: that…

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The Voice of the Child: Why Simple, Factual Testimony Is Often Safer Than Psychological Interpretation

The Danger of Interpretation When Courts Refuse to Hear from the Child Directly When the court relies on a child custody evaluator or Guardian Ad Litem (GAL), it is not…

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Best Interests Without Evidence: The Unexamined Premise of PGAL and Custody Evaluator Appointments

When Courts Hear About Children Instead of Hearing From Them In Utah child-custody and parent-time disputes, motions to appoint a Private Guardian ad Litem (PGAL) and/or a custody evaluator have…

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Why You Should Run Proposed Communications by Your Divorce Attorney First

(Yes—even the “harmless” ones) One of the most common and most avoidable mistakes people make during a divorce is communicating too freely, too casually, or too confidently with their spouse…

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Why Courts Should Explain How They Hear Children in Custody Cases

Evidence, Record-Making, and the Limits of Testimonial Substitution Courts, lawyers, and commissioners in child custody and parent-time disputes often operate on an unspoken assumption: that the only acceptable way to…

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Daniel v. Daniel – 2025 UT App 193 – Unsolemnized Marriage After Divorce Requires Mutual Consent

2025 UT App 193 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RAYLYN DANIEL,Appellant, V. SETH DANIEL, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230931-CA Filed December 26, 2025 Fourth District Court, Provo DepartmentThe Honorable Christine S. JohnsonNo. 214402674 Jared L. Bramwell,…

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Law Needs Fewer Hired Guns and More Straight Shooters: Why the Legal Profession Must Stop Treating Argumentation as a Contest and Start Treating It as a Path to Truth

Plato’s irritation with the Sophists was never about style. It was about moral purpose. As Jonny Thomason discusses in his Big Think essay (it’s a short read and well worth your time), Plato’s frustration…

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Even the Best Divorce Lawyer Can’t Turn a Weak Case Into a Strong One

There’s a persistent belief in the divorce and custody world that the “right” divorce and child custody lawyer can work miracles. That if you hire someone clever enough, aggressive enough,…

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