If Nobody Agrees That Your Spouse Is the Villain, It May Be You

In Utah divorces, casting your spouse as the villain without proof can wreck your credibility and your custody case. Self-reflection and evidence—not drama—win the day. Divorce brings out strong emotions.…

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How to Protect Yourself from False Abuse Accusations During Custody Exchanges and Other Interactions

False allegations of abuse—whether physical, emotional, or “stalking”—are among the most destructive things that can happen to a parent in a custody dispute. Once the words “abuse” and/or stalking is/are…

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In re P.M.- 2025 UT App 155

In re P.M.- 2025 UT App 155 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF P.M., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. O.D.M., Appellant, v.…

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In re P.M. – 2025 UT App 154 – Juvenile Court – Dependency

2025 UT App 154 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF P.M., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. M.M., Appellant, v. STATE OF UTAH…

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State v. Barney – 2025 UT App 153 – Stalking (criminal)

2025 UT App 153 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. DEVIN STIRLING BARNEY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20240178-CA Filed October 23, 2025 Fifth District Court, Cedar City…

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Utah Courts Don’t Appoint Lawyers in Divorce Cases. Here Is What That Really Means.

In Utah, you don’t get a court-appointed lawyer for a divorce case because a divorce case is a civil, not a criminal, matter. That means even if your divorce case affects your…

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What Should I Do If I Have to Have a Custody Evaluation, Psychological, or Other Evaluation Conducted?

Utah family courts often order custody, psychological, or substance-abuse evaluations. Learn what to expect, how to prepare, and how to protect yourself during these high-stakes assessments. _________ When a Utah…

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Stephenson v. Stephenson – 2025 UT App 149 – marital expenses

Stephenson v. Stephenson - 2025 UT App 149 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS SHAUNA H. STEPHENSON, Appellee, v. KERRY KAY STEPHENSON, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220469-CA Filed October 17, 2025 Third…

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Utah Discovery Rules: What Every Divorce or Custody Litigant Should Know

Discovery is the stage of your Utah divorce, custody, or support case where both sides gather evidence. It’s not optional, and it’s not endless. Utah’s Rule 26 sets strict standards…

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How to Reopen Discovery for Good Cause in Utah Family Law Cases

Once discovery closes in your Utah divorce, child custody, or support case, it’s supposed to stay closed. The court expects both sides to be finished gathering evidence and ready for…

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What Counts as “New Evidence” After Discovery Closes in a Utah Divorce Case?

When discovery closes in your Utah divorce, child custody, or support case, you can’t keep gathering (or using at trial) new evidence unless it fits a very narrow exception.Many people…

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When Discovery Closes, It’s Really Closed: What That Means in Utah Family Law Cases

When discovery closes in your Utah divorce, child custody, or support case, that’s the official end of the evidence-gathering phase. You can’t send out new discovery requests, And you can’t…

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Why a Good Lawyer Often Asks You Questions Before He Answers Yours

People rarely ask plainly the tough questions they actually need answered. In divorce and custody cases, clients often ask surface questions (“How much will this cost?” “Can I get full…

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The False Economy of the Cheap Divorce Lawyer

A cheap divorce lawyer almost always costs more in the long run. Low-fee lawyers keep prices low by cutting corners (reusing boilerplate, outsourcing analysis and judgment, and rushing cases to…

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The Absentee Lawyer Problem: When Your Attorney Isn’t Being Fully Responsible for the Work

The Absentee Lawyer Problem: When Your Attorney Isn’t Being Fully Responsible for the Work A growing number of divorce clients are unknowingly paying for work their lawyer never actually did.…

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Going it Alone? Bad Idea: Why Your Support Network Matters in Divorce

When people think of divorce, they tend to picture lawyers, judges, and endless e-mails and paperwork. But that’s just the legal side of the divorce ordeal. The emotional strain, the…

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Understanding Judicial Discretion and Its Abuses in Utah Family Law

Utah judges and commissioners can—and many often do—bend or ignore laws/rules and facts. Learn how this happens, why appellate oversight rarely corrects it, and what litigants can do to protect…

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Pushing Back Against Judicial Micromanagement: Divorce Courts Need to Enforce Law, Not Parent the Parents

Utah divorce and family courts sometimes wander into nanny-court social engineering, issuing orders that treat parents like fools and/or helpless children who can’t be trusted to act sensibly without judicial…

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The Two Falsehoods Behind “I Don’t Understand”: Why Claiming Confusion Won’t Help You in Divorce

Disappointment Is Not Synonymous with Misunderstanding Divorce and custody cases are full of hard choices, unfamiliar rules, and outcomes no one loves. It’s normal to be disappointed when a judge…

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Are There Rules About What You Can File With the Court and When? Deadlines, Page Limits, and Filing Rules in Utah Family Law Cases

In a Utah divorce or custody dispute, you can’t just file whatever you want with a court and whenever you feel like it. The Utah Rules of Civil Procedure, plus orders…

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My Spouse Has Disappeared During the Divorce Process, How Can I Find Him/Her?

In Utah, you can still get divorced if your spouse disappears, but only after proving you made a diligent search and using court-approved alternative service of process methods. Missing spouse…

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Don’t Count on Do-Overs: Meet Your Court Deadlines or Lose Your Rights

Courts (and the orders that govern them) mean it when they set deadlines. If you miss one, you can lose claims, defenses, evidence, or even your entire case. Excuses like…

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Building a Credible Alimony Case Without Games or Gimmicks

Divorce is hard enough without turning it into a credibility war. Alimony — what Utah law calls “spousal support” — exists to help a financially disadvantaged spouse transition without being…

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I Just Found Out My Former Spouse Won the Lottery—Can I Get Some of That Money?

In Utah, you can share in your spouse’s lottery winnings if the divorce is still pending. After the divorce is final, you cannot reopen the property settlement, but the winnings…

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Temporary Custody Orders: A Potential Trap Every Utah Parent Should See Coming, and How to Avoid It

Utah judges and domestic relations commissioners reassure parents that early custody, parent-time, and support orders issued during the pendency of the child custody case are “just temporary.” Don’t believe it.…

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Complacent Rulings, Lasting Damage

“Remember that most people will pretend to operate in your interest while operating in their own.” —Ray Dalio Dalio wasn’t talking about family courts when he wrote this, but he…

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The Myth of Utah’s “Standard Parent-Time”

Utah law does not impose a mandatory “standard parent-time” schedule. The schedules in Utah Code § 81-9-302 are only possible options for courts to consider. In practice, however, judges often adopt them with little…

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How Social Media and Digital Communication Have Changed Divorce Evidence

The explosion of text messages, emails, and social media has had a significant impact on divorce litigation. The Shift: From He Said/She Said to Digital Receipts Not long ago, custody…

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Is the Term “Neurodivergent” Being Bandied About in Family Law Circles as a Way of Manipulating the Courts?

Yes. The term “neurodivergent” is increasingly being used in family law not only as a genuine descriptive category but also as a rhetorical and strategic tool. Here’s how it’s being manipulated: As…

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What Impact Are Current Economic Conditions Having on Alimony and Property Division Outcomes in Divorce Cases?

If you’re divorcing now, the economy matters more than you may think. Economic forces shape divorce outcomes in Utah. Current economic conditions are having a very real, measurable effect on…

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Divorce Without the Drama: 12 Practical Preparation Steps Anyone Can Take Now

Divorce is a legal process, yes, but it’s also financial, practical, and personal. The smartest moves you can make in divorce are those you make before you file that petition…

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The Most Common Non-Legal Mistakes Divorce Clients Make That Complicate Their Cases

One’s divorce case rarely falls apart just because it is legally or factually weak. More often, it’s the divorcing parties themselves who complicate their cases through avoidable mistakes. Courts in…

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My Divorcing Spouse and I Are Drowning in Debt. How Do We Apportion Responsibility for It All in the Divorce Case?

In Utah divorce, debt is divided equitably, not equally. Mortgages, credit cards, student loans, and medical bills are treated differently, and creditors can still pursue you even if your ex…

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Why Custody Evaluations in Utah Should Be Recorded and Transparent

In Utah today, custody evaluations are often conducted behind closed doors. The evaluator interviews the parents, the children, and collateral witnesses (neighbors, teachers, extended family, therapists, coaches, pastors, etc.), but…

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Beyond Specific Legal Arguments, What Is One Significant Way the Court System Could Better Ensure Fairness for All Parents in Child Custody Disputes?

I apologize in advance; I cannot limit myself to just one answer, but I will start off with the “top” idea and then share others. Courts could make custody disputes…

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What Advice Would You Give to Someone Who Is Contemplating Divorce?

Divorce is almost always harder, slower, more expensive, and more damaging—financially and emotionally—than people expect. Unless you are married to someone truly abusive or irreparably toxic, the better course is…

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It’s Not Group Therapy: Why “Trauma-Informed” and Other Therapeutic Fads Don’t Belong in Family Law Mediation

Too often (and increasingly as a means of mediators trying to differentiate themselves and offer “higher value propositions”), mediation it is oversold as something “deep” and “transformative”—but that is not…

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Judicial Overreach in Utah Child Custody Order: Return to Restraint

In Utah, as in other states, courts deciding child custody and parent-time disputes are charged with applying the “best interests of the child” standard. That standard is necessary, but it…

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Why Are Divorce Cases Often Delayed?

After 28 years of divorce practice (as of the date this post is shared), I've watched countless cases that could have and should resolve in months drag on for a…

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Should I Go Through My Child’s Phone or Other Devices During the Divorce?

Why this comes up Divorce makes parents hyper-vigilant. A child’s smartphone can feel like the master key to what’s really happening—messages with the other parent, photos, social media, location history.…

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How Well Divorce Mediation Works Depends on How Well You and Your Spouse Work Together

Don’t divorce lawyers make mediation harder and more expensive? I'm a divorce lawyer, and I'll be the first to admit it: sometimes lawyers can do more harm than good in the…

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I Love My Stepchildren, How Can I Spend Time with Them After the Divorce?

Love vs. Law In Utah, stepparents have no inherent visitation rights during the pendency of divorce proceedings or after the court issues the divorce decree. Unless you qualify under the…

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Sample Objection Language for GAL and Custody Evaluator Overreach in Utah Courts

(For educational purposes only. Consult your attorney before you considering using these in your own case.) GAL Acting Like a Witness Without Being Sworn “Your Honor, I object. The Guardian…

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Analyzing the Reasonableness of Flat Fees in a Billable-Hour Profession

For generations, the billable hour has been the dominant billing tool of the legal profession. Consequently, courts, attorneys, and even clients have assessed “reasonableness” of an attorney’s fees against the…

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Compelling Reasons for Permitting Litigants and Their Attorneys to Appear Remotely for Court Hearings

Compelling Reasons for Permitting Litigants and Their Attorneys to Appear Remotely for Court Hearings

World War II’s silk shortage forced the military to abandon a comfortable default; nylon parachutes—stronger, cheaper, and mass-producible—started as a substitute and became the superior standard. COVID-19 did the same…

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My Spouse is a Criminal, How Can I Avoid His Downfall?

My Spouse is a Criminal, How Can I Avoid His Downfall?

When people discover that his or her husband or wife is committing crimes or has been convicted of crimes, they often panic. One of the first questions we hear in…

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Read more about the article Setting a Litigation Budget in Family Law Cases: An Idea Worth Developing
Setting a Litigation Budget in Family Law Cases: An Idea Worth Developing

Setting a Litigation Budget in Family Law Cases: An Idea Worth Developing

Divorce lawyers have long grappled with one of the most disheartening realities of our practice: watching a marital estate, built over years, dissolve not into two separate households, but go…

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Utah Motion for Temporary Orders: What They Can Cover, and How to File for One

Utah Motions for Temporary Orders: What They Can Cover, and How to File for One

When a Utah divorce case is commenced, life doesn’t stop while the case is pending. Children still need a consistent schedule. The mortgage, utilities, and insurance bills still come due.…

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Don’t Let This Happen to You When Drafting a Legal Custody Child Custody Award

If a parent is awarded sole legal custody of a child, does that award not carry with it an implicit obligation to exercise that sole legal custody power in good…

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Can You “Buy” a Quicker Divorce Settlement in Utah?

Will offering your spouse more money guarantee a quick Utah divorce settlement? Sometimes. But it often backfires. Here’s how Utah divorce law treats lopsided settlements, when “buying peace” makes sense,…

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