I have custody of my child. He’s refusing to come home. What now?
I have custody of my child. He left to go to his mom's last Friday for the weekend. He is refusing to come home because he wants to live there.…
Father has 50/50 custody. Now ex is trying to take it away. What to do?
I am a father who has exercised at least 50/50 custody with my ex. Now she's trying to take me to court for full custody and me getting every other…
Can a mother lose custody even if the child is still very young?
Can a mother lose custody even if the child is still very young? Are there any situations where a mother can lose custody even if their child is still very…
How long does it take a divorce to become final if one party is refusing the divorce?
How long does it take a divorce to become final if one party is refusing the divorce? It can take an amazingly, shockingly long time. One of the most frustrating…
What policies and factors determine how child support is calculated?
What policies and factors determine how child support is calculated? This is a good question and a question that many parents ask. Every state in U.S. has child support calculation…
Why do I pay child support if we have joint custody and we both work?
I know two people that separated and share custody and both have jobs yet he pays child support? How does this work? This is a great question and a question…
Do parents who share joint equal custody pay child support?
Do parents who share joint equal physical custody of their children pay child support? If my spouse and I were to agree to share joint equal physical custody (50-50) of…
S.B. 122 passes, despite opposition from the State Bar Family Law Section.
S.B. 122 passes, despite transparently self-serving and disingenuous opposition from the State Bar Family Law Section. The Family Law Section's stated opposition to the first iteration of S.B. 122 and…
Do you need a reason to get a divorce?
Do you need a reason to get a divorce? Not really, at least not in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce law (Utah). Even if you get a “no fault”…
Lawyers, why do some cases drag for years without a conclusive decision? Does it help to get a favorable outcome or not? Does delay help one to get a favorable outcome for oneself?
Lawyers, why do some cases drag for years without a conclusive decision? Does it help to get a favorable outcome or not? Does delay help one to get a favorable…
Do I have to respond to discovery questions in a divorce?
Do I have to respond to discovery questions in a divorce? Yes, unless you can persuade the court that some or all of the discovery requests: violate the rules governing discovery, such…
Why is it difficult for a father to get child custody?
Why is it difficult for a father to get child custody? Because there is a pernicious and false belief in far too many of the courts (not, notably, in society…
If I can’t find an attorney, can it honestly be said I got a fair trial?
If I can’t find an attorney, can it honestly be said I got a fair trial? If a person seeks legal representation in a court, and every attorney they tries…
When a lawyer drops a client, is the reason shared with the judge and/or opposing counsel (i.e., the client refused to be reasonable, etc.)?
When a lawyer drops a client, is the reason shared with the judge and/or opposing counsel (i.e., the client refused to be reasonable, etc.)? In Utah, where I practice divorce…
Utah Divorce Case Timeline Summary
Utah Divorce Case Timeline Summary The greatest influence on how long a divorce case takes is usually how much and how severely the parties fight over the issues. The more…
How can I find my spouse’s response to my divorce petition?
How can I find my spouse's response to my divorce petition? You should have received a copy at the same time when she filed her response with the court. She…
Do lawyers write down their arguments in full, or just have brief notes?
Do lawyers write down their arguments in full, or just have brief notes? It depends upon the lawyer. And there are lawyers who use either or both methods to present…
What happens if you are served divorce papers yet don’t sign them?
What happens if you are served divorce papers yet don’t sign them? I will answer this question as it applies in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce law (Utah): If…
How many back and forth claims and counterclaims are allowed in a child custody battle?
How many back and forth claims and counterclaims are allowed in a child custody battle? Here’s one way to count (I’ll use the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family…
Is being a divorce lawyer miserable?
Is being a divorce lawyer miserable? Miserable? Can be (and is) for some divorce attorneys, but for me it’s chronically discouraging. Sure, the human pain and betrayal to which we are…
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children?
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children? In my opinion: Institute a “loser pays the prevailing party’s attorney’s fees” rule. make divorce…
Have any tips for representing yourself in family court?
Have any tips for representing yourself in family court? Do you have a success story as a pro se litigant? First, my answer comes from the perspective of a divorce…
Should we award custody to the parent who is a lower risk for COVID-19?
Should we award custody to the parent who is a lower risk for COVID-19? Is it reasonable to give custody to the parent who is a lower health risk to…
2020 UT App 34 – Petrzelka v. Goodwin – alimony, income, retirement funds
2020 UT App 34 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS PEGGY PETRZELKA, Appellee, v. JAMES E. GOODWIN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20180923-CA Filed March 5, 2020 First District Court, Logan Department The…
Must I engage in all-day divorce mediation or some other time period?
Must I engage in all-day mediation in my divorce action, or for some other specific time period? No, there is no mandatory minimum period of time you must spend in…
What happens if you get caught lying in family court?
I’ve been a divorce and family law attorney for 23 years and gone back and forth over the years on my opinion of how the courts feel about and how…
2019 UT App 207 – Peeples v. Peeples – modification of child custody
2019 UT App 207 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ADAM LEGRANDE PEEPLES, Appellee, v. ANNALEISE T. PEEPLES, Appellant. Opinion No. 20180713-CA Filed December 19, 2019 Third District Court, Salt…
Is it OK to fill out divorce documents by hand in ink, or must they be typed?
It depends upon the court rules of the jurisdiction in which you would be filing your divorce documents are to be filed. In Utah, where I practice divorce and family…
Can you divorce your spouse even if your spouse does want a divorce?
Yes. This is what is known as “no fault divorce”. Every state in the U.S. has no fault divorce laws. Many people believe that “no fault” divorce means that one…
Have you ever experienced a judge questioning the opposing party?
Have you ever experienced a judge told you “Please sit down, Mr X” without listening to your argument, and then proceeded to question your opponent at length? Yes. Sometimes it’s…
Why are divorce papers so long?
While it is true that some lawyers write up needlessly long divorce documents just to pad their bills, even the most efficient and honest lawyers often find themselves having to…
Are there significant cultural differences in different courts?
If you are an attorney who was raised in the northern U.S., but have practiced law in the South, have you noticed cultural differences in the way you are permitted…
Pulham v. Kirsling – 2018 UT App 65 – custody, parent-time, child support
Pulham v. Kirsling - 2018 UT App 65 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KRISTEN PULHAM, Appellee, v. WILLIAM KIRSLING, Appellant. Opinion Nos. 20150577-CA and 20160236-CA Filed April 12, 2018 Third…
Janson v. Janson – 2019 UT App 106 – setting aside settlement agreement
2019 UT App 106 - Janson v. Janson - setting aside stipulation THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEIDRE SUE JANSON, Appellant, v. JEFFREY ALAN JANSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170541-CA Filed…
2018 UT App 181 – Chaparro v. Torero – default judgment, findings of fact, child custody
2018 UT App 181 – Chaparro v. Torero THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ELDA CHAPARRO, Appellant, v. ENRIQUE TORERO, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170494-CA Filed September 20, 2018 Second District Court,…
How can I get a divorce if I don’t know where my spouse is?
If I'm married with a child (separated for 4 years), how do I get a divorce and establish a child support order, if I don't know where my spouse is?…
Cox v. Hefley 2019 UT App 60 – attorney consent or consultation, third party decision-maker
2019 UT App 60 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS CAMERON MICHAEL COX, Appellee, v. PAIGE CHARISSA HEFLEY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20170903-CA Filed April 18, 2019 Second District Court, Ogden Department…
If a spouse “refuses to sign the papers” is the divorce in limbo?
If a spouse "refuses to sign the divorce papers" would the divorce be in limbo? No. The days of a spouse preventing a divorce due to a refusal to agree…
Can anyone go to court and just watch?
Can anyone go into a court room and sit in the back seat and just watch? Why or why not? Courts are open to the public With the exception of…
LeFevre v. Mackelprang – 2019 UT App 42 – joint custody analysis
2019 UT App 42 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS - LeFevre v. Mackelprang AMELIA GAYATREE LEFEVRE, Appellee, v. CASEY LEE MACKELPRANG, Appellant. Opinion No. 20171006-CA Filed March 28, 2019…
Hartvigsen v. Hartvigsen – 2018 UT App 238 – alimony, marital property
2018 UT App 238 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DANIELLE MARIE HARTVIGSEN, Appellant, v. RICHARD MYERS HARTVIGSEN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20160069-CA Filed December 28, 2018 Fourth District Court, Provo Department…
Cool as a Cucumber : How to Testify Successfully at Your Deposition or in Court in a Utah Domestic Relations Case
Cool as a cucumber[1]. Is that you? It can be. When it comes to testifying, follow the Golden Rules: 1. Always tell the truth. 2. Simply telling the truth is not…
What does it mean when a hearing is conducted “by proffer”?
“Proffer” means an offering of proof. So in a proffer hearing, an attorney will merely tell the court what the evidence would show, instead of actually presenting the evidence to…
Can a Utah court exercise jurisdiction over my divorce, even if I don’t live in Utah?
Yes, under certain circumstances. If you are a non-resident and Utah can still exercise jurisdiction over your case, this is referred to as “long-arm jurisdiction”. The statute which submits non-resident…
Why are there no penalties for false allegations in divorce and custody issues?
Why are there no penalties for false allegations in divorce and custody issues? First, there are penalties meted out; in my opinion few (far too few) in law enforcement, child…
What do I need to do before filing for divorce? (a useful checklist, with explanations)
What do I need to do before filing for divorce? When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many…
Do I have to pay witnesses to testify at my divorce trial?
If a witness won’t come to trial and testify for you voluntarily, then yes, you need to pay your witnesses. Expert witnesses set their own expert witness testimony fees. Some…
Erickson v. Erickson-2018 UT App 184-modifying child custody/parent-time-discovery-expert witness-child testimony-attorney fees
Erickson v. Erickson - 2018 UT App 184 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KIT RICHARD ERICKSON, Appellant, v. SHANDI ERICKSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170100-CA Filed September 27, 2018 Third District…
Why do divorces take so long to finish?
Here are the reasons, as I see them, why too many divorce cases cost so much and take so long to finish (in no particular order): 1. Some divorce lawyers…
What do divorce lawyers know about relationships that most people don’t know?
What do divorce lawyers know about relationships that most people don't know? People are generally far more dishonest in divorce than they let on. People who believe themselves to be…