Which is the best website to learn law?
Impossible to say. Just as soon as a great site goes up, another great site seems to go dark. The best way to find what the best websites for you…
Do you want to know your judge and/or commissioner? View their bench books.
You’ve filed for divorce or had a divorce case filed against you. For most people, this is their first contact with the legal system. This is new and unknown, and…
Why do courts seem to rule against husbands so unfavorably regarding custody and alimony?
Sometimes a husband/father is legitimately ruled against in a child custody case because he is unfit to exercise custody. Sometimes that unfitness may be his own fault (he’s abusive and/or…
How do I respond to parental alienation?
What can a parent do if, after the divorce, the other parent who has custody of the child turns the daughter against that parent? A parent in this situation can…
How did your parents’ divorce when you were a child affect your adult life?
My parents did not divorce, but I base my answer to this question on the experiences of my clients, whether it be how their own children reacted to their divorce…
After a divorce, is joint residential custody better or worse for the children?
Let’s indulge an analogy to answer this question. Is sugar good for you, or bad for you? It depends upon the circumstances. An occasional slice of cake or pie is…
Pulham v. Kirsling – 2018 UT App 65 – custody, parent-time, child support
Pulham v. Kirsling - 2018 UT App 65 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KRISTEN PULHAM, Appellee, v. WILLIAM KIRSLING, Appellant. Opinion Nos. 20150577-CA and 20160236-CA Filed April 12, 2018 Third…
How many years is it likely to be before father’s rights are recognized as equal to mother’s rights in child custody cases?
Not many. In fact, in many jurisdictions this has already occurred (many states have, in the past few years, passed laws that presume joint equal custody is in the child’s…
What do most TV shows and movies get wrong about the legal profession?
I’m amazed at the number of people who believe, from what fictitious TV lawyers “accomplish,” that if the lawyers just try hard enough, do enough research, pound the pavement tenaciously,…
Janson v. Janson – 2019 UT App 106 – setting aside settlement agreement
2019 UT App 106 - Janson v. Janson - setting aside stipulation THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEIDRE SUE JANSON, Appellant, v. JEFFREY ALAN JANSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170541-CA Filed…
If a wife goes abroad without her husband knowing, can her husband be able to divorce her?
If by your question you are asking whether a man can initiate divorce proceedings against his wife after she leaves the country without any indication that she intends to return,…
Why do some narcissist men not want a woman who works and try to keep her from working?
The answer to your question lies, in part, in the question itself. The dictionary defines narcissism as “selfishness, involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a need…
My ex told me I can’t post videos of our children on my social media. What can I do?
I'm a mother of 3. The father has custody and I have visits and overnights. The father told me not to post videos of our children on my social media,…
Have you ever told a client he/she would be better off settling a case, only for the client to take the case to trial anyway?
Yes, and most of the time when a client decides to take a case to trial over a client’s advice the client does worse than he/she would have if he/she…
Do regular people who earn average incomes sign prenuptial agreements?
Yes, sometimes. And here is an excellent summary of the reasons why from Findlaw.com: Pros and Cons: Prenuptial Agreements Pros of Prenuptial Agreements A premarital agreement can protect the inheritance…
How to Identify a Good Divorce Lawyer, from the Client’s Perspective
Unfortunately, it’s almost impossible to identify a good lawyer without using his/her services for a while to see if you “got it right” on your choice. There are, however, a…
How can I get a divorce if I don’t know where my spouse is?
If I'm married with a child (separated for 4 years), how do I get a divorce and establish a child support order, if I don't know where my spouse is?…
Do I need a separate room for my daughter?
As a single father I can only afford a one bedroom apartment for me and daughter, what alternatives do we have? Most courts will not penalize you for having a…
How does divorce affect you socially and mentally?
You will likely be (or feel like) a pariah for a while. You probably anticipated it, but it will still hit you harder that you expected and in ways you…
Have you ever dealt with parental alienation?
Yes, but from the perspective of being the divorce lawyer for the alienated parent. Let me tell you, unless the alienating parent is so ham-handed in his or her efforts…
What’s the best way to decide who takes the children when a couple splits?
I’ll tell you one thing, it’s not the illusory “standard” (that’s not really a standard in the first place) of the “best interest of the child” that everybody talks about.…
When a narcissist is jealous how do you turn that around?
Well, the easiest way (though not the wisest) might be to fail. A narcissist who is jealous of your success would probably love to see you fail. Likewise, if a…
If a spouse “refuses to sign the papers” is the divorce in limbo?
If a spouse "refuses to sign the divorce papers" would the divorce be in limbo? No. The days of a spouse preventing a divorce due to a refusal to agree…
As a lawyer have you ever turned down a case, what was the reason?
As a lawyer have you ever turned down a case, what was the reason? Yes, and generally speaking, lawyers in private practice turn down cases regularly, and for many reasons.…
Can anyone go to court and just watch?
Can anyone go into a court room and sit in the back seat and just watch? Why or why not? Courts are open to the public With the exception of…
What is the safest way to break up with an abusive partner?
What is the safest way to break up with an abusive partner? I heard many horror stories and afraid I might be next. While there is no one "proper" way…
What Legal Research Is and Why It’s Important to Your Case
Most clients have no idea how much work takes place behind the scenes at most law firms. More than the copious phone calls, emails and text messages back and forth…
Doing the Work on Your Case Is Hard, and You Must Help Do It
Doing the Work on Your Case Is Hard, and the Client Must Help Do It By Phillip Aguirre, Paralegal Believe it or not, even though you hire a lawyer, that…
Can anyone go into a courtroom and sit in the back seat and just watch?
With the exception of a few court proceedings that are not open to the public (some states, such as the one where I reside (Utah) do not open juvenile court…
Dealing with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
QUESTION: What are some pointers that you may have in getting along with your ex-spouse to be during the process of a divorce? What advice do you have to keep…
LeFevre v. Mackelprang – 2019 UT App 42 – joint custody analysis
2019 UT App 42 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS - LeFevre v. Mackelprang AMELIA GAYATREE LEFEVRE, Appellee, v. CASEY LEE MACKELPRANG, Appellant. Opinion No. 20171006-CA Filed March 28, 2019…
Good and Bad Advice About Preparing for Mediation
There's a lot of advice on how to prepare for and go to mediation successfully. But how good is the advice? Let's find out. Read this article about how to…
Marroquin v. Marroquin – 2019 UT App 38 – business valuation, findings
Marroquin v Marroquin - 2019 UT App 38 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS HEATHER MARROQUIN, Appellant, v. RENSON AMILICAR MARROQUIN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170454-CA Filed March 14, 2019 Third District…
What are top things you wish your clients would stop saying/doing?
As a lawyer, what are top things you wish your clients would stop saying/doing? What a great question. Thank you for asking. I have a three-part answer: 1) for all…
What can I do to keep my self busy now that I am getting divorced?
What can I do to keep my self busy now that I am getting divorced? On the legal side of your life: Pour a good portion of your extra time…
A real client’s questions about divorce settlement and mediation
Here is a real client’s questions about divorce settlement and mediation. Don't worry, I've removed the names and changed out the details to protect confidentiality. This client asked a lot…
Mental Health Professionals: How to Make Good (and honest) Use of Them in Divorce and Child Custody
Many spouses and parents going through a divorce and child custody case may believe there is value in using mental health professionals. This can be true, if you use mental…
Computer and Online Evidence in Divorce and Child Custody Cases
I learned from this article (see the link below) a few things I didn't know about computer and online evidence in divorce and child custody cases. You'd be wise to read…
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable?
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable? Said parent is losing time with her child because her…
How can I prepare myself mentally for divorce?
I will answer your question based upon the presumption that you have already gone through the agonizing process of determining that you need to divorce. In other words, I will not treat…
Can people with few assets and no children really do their own divorce?
Yes. And I’m a man who makes his living as a divorce lawyer. You would think I’d be one of the last people to tell you that there are many…
What useful things can Jeff Bezos’s divorce can teach us
Question: Amazon boss Jeff Bezos and wife MacKenzie are divorcing. Who do you think will get the custody of their 4 kids? I don’t know enough about the family’s circumstances…
Hartvigsen v. Hartvigsen – 2018 UT App 238 – alimony, marital property
2018 UT App 238 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DANIELLE MARIE HARTVIGSEN, Appellant, v. RICHARD MYERS HARTVIGSEN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20160069-CA Filed December 28, 2018 Fourth District Court, Provo Department…
Have we reached the point where mothers are not immediately deemed the best candidates for child custody?
Almost, but not yet. Until recently, it wasn’t just a cultural norm, but a legal principle that presumed during a child's "tender" years (generally regarded as the age of four…
What can you do when the system is clearly against you?
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable? Said parent is losing time with her child because her…
Is it ever a good idea to postpone a divorce for the ‘children’s sake’?
Ever? Certainly. Always? No. (and remember: though I’m a divorce lawyer, that does not mean I am a raving fan of divorce. I’m not. Rarely does even the “best divorce”…
Morality Clause: Can Include One in My Decree of Divorce?
Can I successfully put a morality clause in a custody agreement to prevent my child from a living arrangement where my ex is living with a girlfriend? This practice is…
What advice do you have for a man who just found out his wife wants to divorce him?
I’m a divorce lawyer, but I would like respond to your question both as a lawyer and as a spouse. First, if learning your wife wants a divorce comes as…
When do you know your spouse is lying?
When you can independently verify it; otherwise, there is, as of yet, no perfectly accurate way to know whether someone is lying. Even the most sophisticated “lie detection” equipment (which…
My list of YouTube videos I like best on successful depositions
Here it is: my list of YouTube videos that I like best on how to identify, prepare for, and give a successful deposition. #1 Attorney Richard LaGarde has spent over thirty-five…
