Why is it common for the custodial parent to villainize the ex to their child?
I don’t know if it is common for one parent in a divorce (custodial or non-custodial) to villainize their ex to the child, but we know it happens frequently and…
Do married lawyers ever fight each other in court?
Do married lawyers ever fight each other in court? Do you mean to ask whether married lawyers sue each other in court? If that’s your question, the answer is: rarely.…
Should I research an attorney before hiring, even if a family member recommends him?
Is it prudent to research an attorney before hiring him or her even when a family member recommends them? Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Yes! While it is certainly comforting…
Martin v. Kristensen – 2019 UT App 127 – divorce and unlawful detainer
Martin v. Kristensen - 2019 UT App 127 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS YVONNE MARTIN, Appellant, v. PETTER KRISTENSEN AND FRANK O. KRISTENSEN, Appellees. Opinion No. 20160265-CA Filed July 26,…
Do some lawyers earn their reputation as unscrupulous people?
Yes. I am a lawyer. The first lawyer in my family. If I had known, before I became a lawyer, what terrible people so many lawyers are, I’m not sure…
Do you want to know your judge and/or commissioner? View their bench books.
You’ve filed for divorce or had a divorce case filed against you. For most people, this is their first contact with the legal system. This is new and unknown, and…
How did your parents’ divorce when you were a child affect your adult life?
My parents did not divorce, but I base my answer to this question on the experiences of my clients, whether it be how their own children reacted to their divorce…
Should there be a mandatory “cool-off” period before you file for divorce?
Should married couples have a mandatory cooling-off period before they can file for divorce? And if so how long should the cooling off period be? Society desperately needs to reverse…
Pulham v. Kirsling – 2018 UT App 65 – custody, parent-time, child support
Pulham v. Kirsling - 2018 UT App 65 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KRISTEN PULHAM, Appellee, v. WILLIAM KIRSLING, Appellant. Opinion Nos. 20150577-CA and 20160236-CA Filed April 12, 2018 Third…
What do most TV shows and movies get wrong about the legal profession?
I’m amazed at the number of people who believe, from what fictitious TV lawyers “accomplish,” that if the lawyers just try hard enough, do enough research, pound the pavement tenaciously,…
Janson v. Janson – 2019 UT App 106 – setting aside settlement agreement
2019 UT App 106 - Janson v. Janson - setting aside stipulation THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEIDRE SUE JANSON, Appellant, v. JEFFREY ALAN JANSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170541-CA Filed…
Why do some narcissist men not want a woman who works and try to keep her from working?
The answer to your question lies, in part, in the question itself. The dictionary defines narcissism as “selfishness, involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a need…
My ex told me I can’t post videos of our children on my social media. What can I do?
I'm a mother of 3. The father has custody and I have visits and overnights. The father told me not to post videos of our children on my social media,…
Have you ever told a client he/she would be better off settling a case, only for the client to take the case to trial anyway?
Yes, and most of the time when a client decides to take a case to trial over a client’s advice the client does worse than he/she would have if he/she…
2018 UT App 181 – Chaparro v. Torero – default judgment, findings of fact, child custody
2018 UT App 181 – Chaparro v. Torero THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ELDA CHAPARRO, Appellant, v. ENRIQUE TORERO, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170494-CA Filed September 20, 2018 Second District Court,…
How to Identify a Good Divorce Lawyer, from the Client’s Perspective
Unfortunately, it’s almost impossible to identify a good lawyer without using his/her services for a while to see if you “got it right” on your choice. There are, however, a…
How can I get a divorce if I don’t know where my spouse is?
If I'm married with a child (separated for 4 years), how do I get a divorce and establish a child support order, if I don't know where my spouse is?…
How does divorce affect you socially and mentally?
You will likely be (or feel like) a pariah for a while. You probably anticipated it, but it will still hit you harder that you expected and in ways you…
If my spouse cheats, and we divorce will I get custody of my children?
In response to the question, “If my spouse cheats, and we divorce, will I get custody of the children because of my spouse’s infidelity?,” the answer is unequivocally “no.” No…
Have you ever dealt with parental alienation?
Yes, but from the perspective of being the divorce lawyer for the alienated parent. Let me tell you, unless the alienating parent is so ham-handed in his or her efforts…
What’s the best way to decide who takes the children when a couple splits?
I’ll tell you one thing, it’s not the illusory “standard” (that’s not really a standard in the first place) of the “best interest of the child” that everybody talks about.…
Doing the Work on Your Case Is Hard, and You Must Help Do It
Doing the Work on Your Case Is Hard, and the Client Must Help Do It By Phillip Aguirre, Paralegal Believe it or not, even though you hire a lawyer, that…
Dealing with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
QUESTION: What are some pointers that you may have in getting along with your ex-spouse to be during the process of a divorce? What advice do you have to keep…
LeFevre v. Mackelprang – 2019 UT App 42 – joint custody analysis
2019 UT App 42 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS - LeFevre v. Mackelprang AMELIA GAYATREE LEFEVRE, Appellee, v. CASEY LEE MACKELPRANG, Appellant. Opinion No. 20171006-CA Filed March 28, 2019…
Marroquin v. Marroquin – 2019 UT App 38 – business valuation, findings
Marroquin v Marroquin - 2019 UT App 38 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS HEATHER MARROQUIN, Appellant, v. RENSON AMILICAR MARROQUIN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170454-CA Filed March 14, 2019 Third District…
What are top things you wish your clients would stop saying/doing?
As a lawyer, what are top things you wish your clients would stop saying/doing? What a great question. Thank you for asking. I have a three-part answer: 1) for all…
Mental Health Professionals: How to Make Good (and honest) Use of Them in Divorce and Child Custody
Many spouses and parents going through a divorce and child custody case may believe there is value in using mental health professionals. This can be true, if you use mental…
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable?
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable? Said parent is losing time with her child because her…
I recorded my husband telling me that he wants to hit me. Will this help me obtain custody of our child?
Question: I’m going through a divorce. A day ago, I recorded my husband telling me that he “wants to hit me in the face.” Will this evidence help me obtain…
How can I prepare myself mentally for divorce?
I will answer your question based upon the presumption that you have already gone through the agonizing process of determining that you need to divorce. In other words, I will not treat…
Hartvigsen v. Hartvigsen – 2018 UT App 238 – alimony, marital property
2018 UT App 238 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DANIELLE MARIE HARTVIGSEN, Appellant, v. RICHARD MYERS HARTVIGSEN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20160069-CA Filed December 28, 2018 Fourth District Court, Provo Department…
Is it ever a good idea to postpone a divorce for the ‘children’s sake’?
Ever? Certainly. Always? No. (and remember: though I’m a divorce lawyer, that does not mean I am a raving fan of divorce. I’m not. Rarely does even the “best divorce”…
Morality Clause: Can Include One in My Decree of Divorce?
Can I successfully put a morality clause in a custody agreement to prevent my child from a living arrangement where my ex is living with a girlfriend? This practice is…
My list of YouTube videos I like best on successful depositions
Here it is: my list of YouTube videos that I like best on how to identify, prepare for, and give a successful deposition. #1 Attorney Richard LaGarde has spent over thirty-five…
Cool as a Cucumber : How to Testify Successfully at Your Deposition or in Court in a Utah Domestic Relations Case
Cool as a cucumber[1]. Is that you? It can be. When it comes to testifying, follow the Golden Rules: 1. Always tell the truth. 2. Simply telling the truth is not…
What is a simple truth about divorce that most people ignore?
I hate to write this, but I can’t deny it: One simple truth about divorce that most people ignore is that the legal system does a pretty lousy job of…
In your experience, how often do divorces get resolved “amicably” after being filed in court?
Some couples actually realize that while their marriage is a failure, that does not mean that they are bad people. They can care enough about each other to divorce amicably.…
Widdison v. Kirkham – 2018 UT App 205 – contempt, attorney’s fees
2018 UT App 205 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JAMIE WIDDISON, Appellee, v. JANAE A. KIRKHAM, Appellant. Opinion No. 20160961-CA Filed November 1, 2018 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department…
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce?
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce? There are two types of men who ask this question:…
When have you believed clients’ stories, but they were lying?
Let me answer your question this way; here are the things divorce lawyers get lied to about the most (in this order): money issues (lying about income, hidden assets) false…
How to Fix Bad Credit After a Divorce (from LendEdu.com)
How to Fix Bad Credit After a Divorce https://lendedu.com/blog/how-to-fix-bad-credit-after-a-divorce - Jeff Gitlen October 17, 2018 Our research, news, ratings, and assessments are scrutinized using strict editorial integrity. In full transparency, our company…
What do I need to do before filing for divorce? (a useful checklist, with explanations)
What do I need to do before filing for divorce? When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many…
2018 UT App 100 – divorce attorney malpractice standards of proof
2018 UT App 100 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JANAE KIRKHAM, Appellant, v. BRYANT J. MCCONKIE, DAVID W. READ, AND STRONG & HANNI PC, Appellees. Opinion No. 20160908-CA Filed…
Divorce Preparedness: What do I need to do before filing for divorce?
When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many things you should consider, before filing for divorce I. Why…
Erickson v. Erickson-2018 UT App 184-modifying child custody/parent-time-discovery-expert witness-child testimony-attorney fees
Erickson v. Erickson - 2018 UT App 184 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KIT RICHARD ERICKSON, Appellant, v. SHANDI ERICKSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170100-CA Filed September 27, 2018 Third District…
Why do divorces take so long to finish?
Here are the reasons, as I see them, why too many divorce cases cost so much and take so long to finish (in no particular order): 1. Some divorce lawyers…
What are the biggest challenges a divorce lawyer faces?
What is one of the biggest challenges of a Divorce lawyer? First, read Donald Baranski’s answer to this question (which provided below); it’s excellent, and any divorce client would be…
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children?
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children, when they could easily give the children two happy homes instead living in one miserable home? Mom…
What do divorce lawyers know about relationships that most people don’t know?
What do divorce lawyers know about relationships that most people don't know? People are generally far more dishonest in divorce than they let on. People who believe themselves to be…
Why are divorce attorneys so expensive?
Why are divorce attorneys so expensive? Because we divorce lawyers (I am a divorce lawyer) generally disappoint the people they serve. Some causes of the disappointment are the lawyer’s fault,…