Have you ever dealt with parental alienation?
Yes, but from the perspective of being the divorce lawyer for the alienated parent. Let me tell you, unless the alienating parent is so ham-handed in his or her efforts…
What’s the best way to decide who takes the children when a couple splits?
I’ll tell you one thing, it’s not the illusory “standard” (that’s not really a standard in the first place) of the “best interest of the child” that everybody talks about.…
Doing the Work on Your Case Is Hard, and You Must Help Do It
Doing the Work on Your Case Is Hard, and the Client Must Help Do It By Phillip Aguirre, Paralegal Believe it or not, even though you hire a lawyer, that…
Dealing with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
QUESTION: What are some pointers that you may have in getting along with your ex-spouse to be during the process of a divorce? What advice do you have to keep…
LeFevre v. Mackelprang – 2019 UT App 42 – joint custody analysis
2019 UT App 42 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS - LeFevre v. Mackelprang AMELIA GAYATREE LEFEVRE, Appellee, v. CASEY LEE MACKELPRANG, Appellant. Opinion No. 20171006-CA Filed March 28, 2019…
Marroquin v. Marroquin – 2019 UT App 38 – business valuation, findings
Marroquin v Marroquin - 2019 UT App 38 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS HEATHER MARROQUIN, Appellant, v. RENSON AMILICAR MARROQUIN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170454-CA Filed March 14, 2019 Third District…
What are top things you wish your clients would stop saying/doing?
As a lawyer, what are top things you wish your clients would stop saying/doing? What a great question. Thank you for asking. I have a three-part answer: 1) for all…
Mental Health Professionals: How to Make Good (and honest) Use of Them in Divorce and Child Custody
Many spouses and parents going through a divorce and child custody case may believe there is value in using mental health professionals. This can be true, if you use mental…
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable?
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable? Said parent is losing time with her child because her…
I recorded my husband telling me that he wants to hit me. Will this help me obtain custody of our child?
Question: I’m going through a divorce. A day ago, I recorded my husband telling me that he “wants to hit me in the face.” Will this evidence help me obtain…
How can I prepare myself mentally for divorce?
I will answer your question based upon the presumption that you have already gone through the agonizing process of determining that you need to divorce. In other words, I will not treat…
Hartvigsen v. Hartvigsen – 2018 UT App 238 – alimony, marital property
2018 UT App 238 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DANIELLE MARIE HARTVIGSEN, Appellant, v. RICHARD MYERS HARTVIGSEN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20160069-CA Filed December 28, 2018 Fourth District Court, Provo Department…
Is it ever a good idea to postpone a divorce for the ‘children’s sake’?
Ever? Certainly. Always? No. (and remember: though I’m a divorce lawyer, that does not mean I am a raving fan of divorce. I’m not. Rarely does even the “best divorce”…
Morality Clause: Can Include One in My Decree of Divorce?
Can I successfully put a morality clause in a custody agreement to prevent my child from a living arrangement where my ex is living with a girlfriend? This practice is…
My list of YouTube videos I like best on successful depositions
Here it is: my list of YouTube videos that I like best on how to identify, prepare for, and give a successful deposition. #1 Attorney Richard LaGarde has spent over thirty-five…
Cool as a Cucumber : How to Testify Successfully at Your Deposition or in Court in a Utah Domestic Relations Case
Cool as a cucumber[1]. Is that you? It can be. When it comes to testifying, follow the Golden Rules: 1. Always tell the truth. 2. Simply telling the truth is not…
What is a simple truth about divorce that most people ignore?
I hate to write this, but I can’t deny it: One simple truth about divorce that most people ignore is that the legal system does a pretty lousy job of…
In your experience, how often do divorces get resolved “amicably” after being filed in court?
Some couples actually realize that while their marriage is a failure, that does not mean that they are bad people. They can care enough about each other to divorce amicably.…
Widdison v. Kirkham – 2018 UT App 205 – contempt, attorney’s fees
2018 UT App 205 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JAMIE WIDDISON, Appellee, v. JANAE A. KIRKHAM, Appellant. Opinion No. 20160961-CA Filed November 1, 2018 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department…
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce?
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce? There are two types of men who ask this question:…
When have you believed clients’ stories, but they were lying?
Let me answer your question this way; here are the things divorce lawyers get lied to about the most (in this order): money issues (lying about income, hidden assets) false…
How to Fix Bad Credit After a Divorce (from LendEdu.com)
How to Fix Bad Credit After a Divorce https://lendedu.com/blog/how-to-fix-bad-credit-after-a-divorce - Jeff Gitlen October 17, 2018 Our research, news, ratings, and assessments are scrutinized using strict editorial integrity. In full transparency, our company…
What do I need to do before filing for divorce? (a useful checklist, with explanations)
What do I need to do before filing for divorce? When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many…
2018 UT App 100 – divorce attorney malpractice standards of proof
2018 UT App 100 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JANAE KIRKHAM, Appellant, v. BRYANT J. MCCONKIE, DAVID W. READ, AND STRONG & HANNI PC, Appellees. Opinion No. 20160908-CA Filed…
Divorce Preparedness: What do I need to do before filing for divorce?
When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many things you should consider, before filing for divorce I. Why…
Erickson v. Erickson-2018 UT App 184-modifying child custody/parent-time-discovery-expert witness-child testimony-attorney fees
Erickson v. Erickson - 2018 UT App 184 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KIT RICHARD ERICKSON, Appellant, v. SHANDI ERICKSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170100-CA Filed September 27, 2018 Third District…
Why do divorces take so long to finish?
Here are the reasons, as I see them, why too many divorce cases cost so much and take so long to finish (in no particular order): 1. Some divorce lawyers…
What are the biggest challenges a divorce lawyer faces?
What is one of the biggest challenges of a Divorce lawyer? First, read Donald Baranski’s answer to this question (which provided below); it’s excellent, and any divorce client would be…
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children?
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children, when they could easily give the children two happy homes instead living in one miserable home? Mom…
What do divorce lawyers know about relationships that most people don’t know?
What do divorce lawyers know about relationships that most people don't know? People are generally far more dishonest in divorce than they let on. People who believe themselves to be…
Why are divorce attorneys so expensive?
Why are divorce attorneys so expensive? Because we divorce lawyers (I am a divorce lawyer) generally disappoint the people they serve. Some causes of the disappointment are the lawyer’s fault,…
Why stay unhappily married for the sake of the kids?
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children, when they could easily give the children two happy homes instead living in one miserable home? Mom…
What are legal ways one can prevent having to pay spousal support in case of a divorce?
What are legal ways one can prevent having to pay spousal support in case of a divorce? Do you really mean “What are legally and equitably valid ways one can prevent having…
Hahn v. Hahn – 2018 UT App 135 – custody, jury trial, constitutionality
This opinion is subject to revision before final publication in the Pacific Reporter Hahn v. Hahn - 2018 UT App 135 IN THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RANDY R. HAHN,…
How to Avoid the Primrose Path in Divorce (if you have the will and the guts)
How to Avoid the Primrose Path in Divorce (if you have the will and the guts) It’s getting harder to stay in contact with reality. You have men who, as…
Smith v. Robinson – 2018 UT 30 – false allegations of sexual abuse
This opinion is subject to revision before final publication in the Pacific Reporter 2018 UT 30 IN THE SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF UTAH ROCIO SMITH, Appellant, v. KAYELYN…
Mower v. Children’s Center – 2018 UT 29 – false memories or false allegations of sexual abuse against a parent
(See also Smith v. Robinson, Case No. 20160106, Filed July 05, 2018, 2018 UT 30, a companion case to this one) This opinion is subject to revision before final publication…
Being the Best Client Helps Ensure You Have the Best Lawyer
Being the best client helps ensure you have the best lawyer. In trying to express this in greater detail I came across this article from an Australian divorce lawyer that…
Is it unreasonable to insist Dad/Mom provide clothes for the kids at his/her place?
QUESTION: Is it unreasonable for me to assume my kids would have their own clothes at their dad's place? He has been requesting that I send specific items with the…
There is no cheap or free legal services shortcut
“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn't true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.” ― Søren Kierkegaard “A great deal…
What is the average cost of divorce, when child custody is contested?
How much does it cost to divorce on average, with two kids and contested custody? On average? I’d say around $20,000, if the case is contested. But, as you will see…
Am I disadvantaged in a child support case, if the other parent has a lawyer and I don’t?
What happens in child support cases when the custodial parent has an attorney but the non-custodial parent doesn’t? Does that mean they usually pay more because there isn't another attorney…
What are the legal repercussions of posting an email chain between myself and my daughter’s custodial parent exposing her downright shady behavior?
What are the legal repercussions of posting an email chain between myself and my daughter's custodial parent exposing her downright shady behavior? Many who “answered” your question didn’t read your…
What are the biggest misconceptions about divorce?
Misconception #1 It’s bad, sure, but it can’t be that bad. THE TRUTH: It’s harder, more expensive, and takes longer than you imagine. Once you accept this, divorce will still…
Why are women generally awarded child custody more often than men?
QUESTION: From a lawyer’s perspective, why do women get child custody almost 90% of the time? Is there really a bias? What factors come into play when deciding about it?…
Munoz-Madrid v. Carlos-Moran – 2018 UT App 95 – alimony
Munoz-Madrid v. Carlos-Moran - 2018 UT App 95 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS PATRICIA MUNOZ-MADRID, Appellee, v. MARTIN ROBERTO CARLOS-MORAN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20161013-CA Filed May 24, 2018 Fourth District…
Confusing Want with Need – don’t expect what divorce cannot deliver
After more than 20 years doing this work: - I know what you want; - I know what you believe you want; and - we both know what you truly…
Not just tragic. Stupid tragic.
You don’t want to incur the judge’s wrath, right? You want the court to think well of you. So your plan is not to make any waves. You won’t make…
Is Done Better than Perfect in Your Divorce Case?
"Done is better than perfect." This is good advice for divorce lawyers, but equally good advice for divorce clients (really, it is) sometimes. Excerpts from Perfect, by David M. Ward …
Divorce is on the horizon for my parents. What do I do?
Mom is treating Dad so bad that I think a divorce is on the horizon. Nobody is supportive. What do I do as a son? Love and support your parents,…