What will the court do if I do not sign a letter sent by my ex-husband?
What will the court do if I do not pick up a letter my ex-husband sent that needs to be signed by me from the courts about his back court ordered alimony…
What are two lines of work that fit together well?
What are two lines of work that fit together well? For example, a remodeling contractor and a divorce lawyer. I do not believe a lawyer or client would really want…
Is it easier to get a divorce if you and your spouse have nothing shared?
Is it easier to get a divorce if you and your spouse have no debts, no shared property, and no children? Typically, generally, usually, yes. In the overwhelming majority of…
Would the divorce rate drop if the parties had to see a psychologist first?
What do you think would be the rate of divorce in marriages if psychologists were to be consulted in court by couples before proceeding to see the lawyer for divorce?…
Can an adult child be sued for helping one parent divorce the other?
Taking your question literally: Can? Yes. You can file a lawsuit for any “reason” or no reason at all. Crazy and/or malicious people file crazy/malicious/frivolous/unintelligible lawsuits all the time. Just…
How do I get a quick, cheap divorce?
Easiest way up front, but usually most foolish, most financially and psychologically expensive in the long term: give your spouse whatever he she wants/demands (while it is possible for your…
True or false: Better to divorce than have a miserable life.
This blog post is in response to this question: I don't think it's bad to get a divorce. I think it's more unhealthy to have miserable lives. — Ginger Wynn.…
How would my fiancé go about getting any sort of custody for his child?
That is an extremely broad question. The best way to start: find a good domestic relations lawyer (a good one, not just any) and schedule a consultation with him/her so…
How do I stop being afraid of divorcing?
How do I stop being afraid of divorcing? I’m so scared. I’ve been a stay-at-home mother for 18 years. I have health issues. I don’t know if I can provide…
What will the court do if I do not pick up a letter my ex husband sent?
What will the court do if I do not pick up a letter my ex husband sent that needs to be signed by me from the courts about his back…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 46
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 46: Simplify, but do so Elegantly By Quinton Lister, legal assistant As a legal assistant to a divorce attorney, I find…
Horne v. Horne – 2022 UT App 54 – 60(b) motion to set aside
2022 UT App 54 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS REBECCA A. HORNE, Appellee, v. TODD D. HORNE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200845-CA Filed April 28, 2022 Third District Court, Salt Lake…
How can I help my stepdaughter get away from an abusive mother?
How can I help my 12-year-old step daughter get away from an emotionally abusive mother? Tell the child’s father (your husband) about the trouble and have him handle it. It’s…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 45
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant I work for a divorce attorney, but I am not pro divorce. I understand that if there were no divorces I would be “out of…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 44: Mountains
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant One prominent geographical feature of Utah (where I am a legal assistant for a divorce attorney) is the mountains that surround the cities and towns…
What if your client gets custody when they should not have, due to you?
What should you do if you represented a client in a divorce who should not have gotten the kids, but got them due to your ability? We have a word…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 43: Law Offices
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant One thing that I have noticed in my time as a legal assistant to a divorce attorney is that most law offices are difficult to…
Why isn’t 50/50 custody the default resolution in child custody cases?
I have studied this question throughout my career, and I've been a divorce and family lawyer for 25 years. If there is one family law question to which I know…
In a divorce, should children live with their favorite parent?
I can’t speak for all jurisdictions, but I can tell you that in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law (Utah), currently the child’s preference for one parent…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 39: Judges, part III
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant For those following along at home, you are aware that I have posted about judges before. Through the course of my current employment as a…
How do I get help with a divorce?
Asking a question on Quora is a start and better than doing nothing (as so many people contemplating divorce do when they are too afraid to do anything), but only…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 38: Arb-med, part II
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant Last week I wrote a post about Arb-med and how it can benefit practitioners of law, particularly family law. In this post I will be…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 37: Arb-med
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant I have mentioned in previous posts that I am interested in the field of alternative dispute resolution, or “ADR”. What is ADR? Its any means…
Pending divorce spouse has moved out and stopped paying bills.
Pending divorce spouse has moved out and stopped paying bills. Should I report to my attorney or just wait until we go to court? Report this to your attorney immediately. There are…
Why are child support and custody attorneys so expensive?
Because the work: requires a lot of knowledge of both the written (and unwritten*) rules that most people don’t have the time, interest, or ability to learn and apply correctly;…
Which is the best matrimonial site in the USA with a free trial?
There are many websites with lots of free information that is good. The problem is being able to tell the good content from the bad. This is why, whether you…
How do you win a case against your ex for false accusations?
If you find an attorney who knows a sure-fire, fail-safe way to defend an ex-spouse or an ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend against “false accusations,” that attorney is likely a multimillionaire because possessing such…
Erickson v. Erickson – 2022 UT App 27
THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEAN ERICKSON, Appellee, v. JANICE ERICKSON, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200193-CA Filed March 3, 2022 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department The Honorable Todd M. Shaughnessy…
Hillam v. Hillam – 2022 UT App 24 – final and appealable ruling, rule 54(b)
2022 UT App 24 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JOHN DINSDALE HILLAM, Petitioner, v. TARA HILLAM, Respondent and Appellant, v. DUSTIN HANCOCK AS INVESTMENT TRUSTEE, Respondent and Appellee. Opinion No.…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 33
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant One part of my job as a legal assistant that I have yet spoken of has been my day-to-day interaction with potential clients. When you…
What is the best DIY book about divorce in the U.S.?
There isn’t one. There can’t be. I’ll explain why and what you can and should do if you want to go the DIY divorce by the book route. The main…
Should I use free family law resources?
Merely use them? I don’t see the harm in being familiar with them. Reading, watching, listening. Learning. That’s a good thing. A very good thing. Being dependent upon only free resources? No. That’s…
2022 UT App 15 – Miller v. DaSilva – protective order objections
2022 UT App 15 - Miller v. DaSilva http://www.utcourts.gov/opinions/view.html?court=appopin&opinion=Miller v. Dasilva20220203_20200719_15.pdf THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS LISA M. MILLER, Appellant, v. AMY ELIZABETH DASILVA, Appellee. Opinion No. 20200719-CA Filed February…
Hinds v Hinds-Holm – 2022 UT App 13 – child custody award factors
Hinds v Hinds-Holm - 2022 UT App 13 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BRADLEY HINDS, Appellee, v. RACHEL HINDS-HOLM, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200586-CA Filed January 27, 2022 Third District Court,…
Wadsworth v. Wadsworth – 2022 UT App 5 – marital estate
2022 UT App 5 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS CANDI WADSWORTH, Appellant, v. GUY L. WADSWORTH, Appellee. Opinion No. 20190106-CA No. 20200430-CA Filed January 13, 2022 Third District Court, Salt…
Johansen v. Johansen – 2021 UT App 130 – compliance with court rules
2021 UT App 130 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS COLTEN JOHANSEN, Appellee, KATHY JOHANSEN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200234-CA Filed November 26, 2021 Second District Court, Ogden Department The Honorable Joseph…
Fischer v. Fischer – 2021 UT App 145 – marital vs. separate property
THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS GARY LEE FISCHER, Appellant, v. MELISSA KAY FISCHER, Appellee. Opinion No. 20200557-CA Filed December 30, 2021 Seventh District Court, Moab Department The Honorable Don Torgerson …
What affects the outcome of court cases more?
What affects the outcome of court cases more, the relative strengths and experience of the opposing lawyers, actual facts, relevant law, or some other factor? I answer this question in…
What has a lawyer said that made you question their expertise?
What’s one thing you’ve heard a lawyer say that made you question their expertise? I was in court for a hearing in a divorce action where opposing counsel objected to…
Are Licensed Paralegal Practitioners a good idea?
I just received and responded to a survey from Alyx Mark, assistant professor at Wesleyan University and a law and society scholar. After completing the survey, I sent this e-mail to Professor Mark:…
What is a costly part of divorce that almost no one thinks of ahead of time?
Every aspect of divorce. Every single one. Two cannot live separately and divorced for less than they did together. Litigation is mind-bogglingly expensive and protracted. Even an uncontested divorce can…
How do I find out what my divorce case number was, if I’ve forgotten it?
It’s easy if you know what you’re doing. And if you don’t know what you’re doing, it’s easy to find someone who does know what to do. In many jurisdictions,…
How do I get a copy of my restraining order that I have on my ex?
How do I get a copy of my restraining order that I have on my ex? I lost the original copy. My answer applies to how you can obtain a…
How do you go about getting a copy of your divorce papers?
If you have a lawyer: your lawyer can and should give you a copy. If you don’t have a lawyer: go to the courthouse (if the courthouse is open and allowing members…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 20: Lawyers
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant My boss at the law firm where I work (Utah Family Law, LC) has informed me more than once that, “divorce lawyers are, with few exceptions, terrible people”. I am…
Is the divorce rate rising during the COVID-19 pandemic?
I’ve been a divorce attorney for 25 years, and I don’t see any difference in the divorce rate between the pre-and post-COVID-19 eras. That’s not a scientific study, just anecdotal…
Parental alienation
I just read the following comment made by a viewer of my UFLTV parental alienation interview with Kelly Peterson. This viewer wrote, “So basically, parental alienation is proved by documenting the instances…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 18
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 18: Financial Declarations and Initial Disclosures By Quinton Lister, legal assistant My minimal exposure to the legal profession as a legal…
I have no money and a non-cooperative ex, how do I get legal help?
How can I obtain assistance in a custody matter when I have no money and my ex-husband is not following the current court order? In some jurisdictions there are legal…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 17: Fairness
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant Before I started working as a legal assistant I was a philosophy major at BYU. During that time I read a portion of John Rawls treatise on justice. Mr. Rawls…
