Is Divorce a Battle of Attrition?

‘Can be. ‘Often is, but is not necessarily a war of attrition in all situations. Some divorce cases come to an end not because the court ruled on and resolved…

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My Lawyer Says I Have a Weak Case. I Don’t Believe That. What Should I Do? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

If you are considering filing for divorce—or if your spouse has already filed—you’ve probably consulted with a divorce lawyer (or should). You likely have your own views (and blind spots)…

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How Do I Manage My divorce Case While I work Full-time? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant.

One of the most asked questions about divorce (and biggest source of friction between divorce lawyers and their clients) is how you manage your divorce case while working a full-time…

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Do You Live in Salt Lake, Summit, or Tooele County and Are Being Denied Parent-time by a Non-compliant Co-parent?

Well, then, I have good news and bad news. Good news: you can file a motion with the court to seek relief. Bad news: prepare to wait a while before…

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How Common Are Cases Where Divorce Proceedings Take a Dramatic Turn Because of Unexpected Evidence, Like in Court Dramas?

In my 28 years’ experience, it’s not common. Indeed, if divorce cases took dramatic turns routinely, they couldn’t be considered dramatic turns. That stated, very true a skilled divorce lawyer…

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Is It Possible to Divorce With Dignity?

Divorce is rarely an easy process. Even in fairly amicable situations, emotions can run high and the temptation to engage in dirty tricks can be strong. However, it is possible—and…

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What to Bring to a Consultation with a Divorce Lawyer

Preparing for a consultation with a divorce lawyer is an important step in understanding your rights and options. To make the most of your meeting, consider bringing the following: Provide…

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Why Collaborative Divorce Usually Isn’t Worth It

In theory, collaborative divorce sounds ideal. What is "collaborative divorce"? The two spouses discuss together with their lawyers, mental health professional, financial specialist, and sometimes a child psychologist or development specialist…

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What are some good (and bad) reasons for changing one’s divorce lawyer mid-case?

Are there any potential drawbacks to switching lawyers, besides the added expenses and inconvenience? There are good reasons to switch lawyers, even if you realize this mid-case. That stated, there…

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Conflicting Advice

Conflicting Advice Divorce is many people’s first and only experience with serious civil litigation. Many divorce clients can’t believe how different (and how much more disappointing) the legal system is…

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Should I Pay My Lawyer to Communicate With the Opposing Party’s Attorney?

Question: Should I pay my lawyer to talk to the opposing party’s attorney? He spent 3 hours last week responding to 12 emails from opposing counsel and I need to…

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Don’t Play Dirty in Divorce Just Because Your Spouse Does By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

We’ve all heard some version of this story: the dramatic, knock-down, drag-out divorce. Where every move is a power play and every lawyer is part strategist, part saboteur. If you're…

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How to Identify and Avoid Some Common Dirty Tricks in Divorce Cases. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Some spouses will absolutely exploit the legal system to gain an unfair advantage in divorce proceedings. It's crucial to recognize the manipulative tactics your spouse might employ against you—even if…

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How to Be a Good Client in Your Utah Divorce Case

Divorce is for most people a very stressful and emotional process. If you are ready to hire a divorce attorney, knowing how to approach working with your attorney can significantly…

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A Family Law Attorney 6 Months Out of Law School Works as an Assistant to One of the Top Family Law Attorneys in the Country. Could This New Attorney Handle an Extremely Wealthy Person’s Child Custody Case? Would Her Boss Let Her?

Anything is possible, but it is not likely that a recently licensed lawyer of only 6 months could handle an extremely wealthy person’s child custody case. Extremely wealthy people usually…

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How Can I Fight for Child Visitation and My Parental Rights Without a Lawyer in Utah?

No one is required to hire a lawyer to represent him/her in a child custody dispute. If you are involved in a termination of parental rights or child abuse case…

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How to Deal with a Difficult and Dishonest Opposing Party (and his/her lawyer) in Utah Family Law Cases By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

When you're involved in a family law matter whether it's a divorce, child custody dispute, or a spousal support issue, one of the most frustrating challenges to encounter is an…

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After Divorce, My Ex Uses Parental Controls to Spy on My Parenting Time. Can Tech Custody Agreements Exist?

Yes, they can. Not merely agreements, but binding and enforceable court orders can be made by the court to address such an issue too. They are hard to enforce (because…

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Should You Get Divorced? Weighing Your Options in a Difficult Decision By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

The decisions to marry and to end a marriage are not decisions to be taken lightly. If divorce is ever an easy choice, something is terribly wrong. Wrong with the…

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My Husband Cheated on Me Multiple Times. We Don’t Have Any Children. I Want to File for Divorce and Seek Alimony. What Should I Do?

Find the best lawyer you can and start there; meet with a skilled, diligent, honest lawyer and find out about the divorce process, it’s benefits and detriments, its risks and…

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What Can a Father Do If, After the Divorce, the Mother, Who Has Custody of the Child, Turns the Child Against the Father?

What can a father do if, after the divorce, the mother, who has custody of the child, turns the child against the father? What can he do? There are many things he…

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How Can an Unfair Child Custody Arrangement Be Corrected in Utah?

It depends on how you reached this point, and how much time, if any, you have to fix it. If circumstances relevant to the child custody award have materially and…

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Should High-Profile Divorces Be Granted Extra Privacy Protections in Court, or Should All Divorce Proceedings Be Equally Transparent Regardless of Wealth and Status?

As soon as we start treating people differently, two things happen: 1) the idea of people being treated equally goes out the window and 2) everyone starts claiming, “My case…

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Should I Appeal My Family Law Case in Utah?

It is common for many to be dissatisfied with the results of their family law cases. No matter how hard they fought or how long they worked at it, sometimes…

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Protecting Yourself Against Overcharges by a Divorce Lawyer By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Divorce is stressful enough without the added burden of legal fees and worrying about them. So how do you know if you’re being overcharged by your divorce lawyer? Unclear or…

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When Contemplating Divorce, Advance Research, Analysis, and Planning Will Be a Tremendous Help to You, Your Family, and to Your Attorney

Several important provisions are frequently overlooked in divorce decrees, despite their significant impact on post-divorce life. If you are contemplating divorce, but have not considered these issues yet, thinking them…

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How Much Should You Interact with Your Divorce Lawyer? A Pragmatic Guide By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Divorce confronts one with many complex issues, emotional strain, uncertain outcomes, and often gut-wrenching decisions. One question that most divorcing people do not consider when they retain the services of…

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It Tolls for Thee: The All Too Frequent Tragic Cost and Futility of Family Court

“Quid rides? Mutato nomine et de te fabula narrator. [Why do you laugh ? Change only the name and this story is about you.]” Here’s a deeply disturbing but all…

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How Do You Fight an Attorney Who Keeps Asking for and Obtaining Continuances in a Family Court Case?

An unscrupulous opposing party and his/her attorney can find many benefits to delaying the progress of a pending court case, so it comes as no surprise if and when you…

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In What Specific Ways Can a Family Law Attorney Take Advantage of a Pro SE Party in a Divorce Case?

Most predictably and intuitively: They can take advantage of their greater knowledge of the law and court rules to make better arguments and to outmaneuver you in a case, whether…

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What Do I Do When I Realize My Divorce Attorney Betrayed Me and Helped My Ex-spouse, so That I Can Set Aside the Divorce Settlement Due to False Representations Made in Our Divorce Settlement Negotiations?

I will answer this in the context of the way this issue is treated in my jurisdiction (Utah). First, understand that to prevail on a claim in court, you must…

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Too Many Fraudulently Sought Protective Orders? – The Buck Stops with the Courts

I humbly and respectfully submit that the following clearly do not meet the burden of proof under the preponderance of evidence standard and thus do not support entry of a…

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Evidentiary Practice in Family Law Proceedings in Utah: A Relaxed Standard

Family law proceedings in Utah (and in all other states, frankly), differ significantly from other areas of civil or criminal litigation, particularly when it comes to evidentiary practices. While the…

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If you are losing a child custody case you should be winning (due to lack of representation and inability to show the judge the truth of the situation), how do you turn things around? is there a way to find out what the judge is thinking? A way to know if you’re changing the judge’s mind?

Most of the answer to your question lies in your question itself. If you should be winning the arguments in your case but are losing “due to lack of representation,”…

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Timeline of a Typical Utah Divorce Case: From Start to Finish

While every divorce case is unique, the following outlines the general stages and timeframes involved in a Utah divorce case. Understanding the basic timeline of a typical case in Utah…

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Excluding the Public from Divorce Court Hearings and Trials Does More Harm than Good

"Government ought to be all outside and no inside. . . . Everybody knows that corruption thrives in secret places, and avoids public places, and we believe it a fair…

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When Should You Get a Lawyer to Look At Your Case?

Any old lawyer to look at your case? Well, if you can’t find a good lawyer who is skilled in the area of the law affecting you, it may (may)…

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What is Your Best Negotiating Trick?

Once I realized that “negotiating trick” is just a synonym for “manipulation,” at best and “fraud” at worst, I stopped employing such tricks in negotiations. You wouldn’t want to be…

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How Much or How Little of a “Bulldog” Does a “Good Divorce Lawyer” Have to Be? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Everyone has seen the movies and shows where a lawyer represents his/her client (in and out of court) like a berzerker. We have heard of the horror stories of innocent…

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Do I Have to Do What My Divorce Lawyer Tells Me to Do? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Your divorce lawyer will tell you about the things you need to do in your case, the documents and other evidence you need to produce, the questions you need to…

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Should You Use Utah’s Court-created Forms? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

The Utah courts have created a sizeable library of forms; a few that everyone is required to use, and a lot that can be used--optional, in other words--if one wants.…

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Utah Law Question: Discovery Closes in Less Than 28 Days, but Opposing Counsel Just Serve Discovery Requests. Am I Obligated to Respond?

Answer: Almost certainly no. See Dahl v. Harrison, 265 P.3d 139, 2011 UT App 389 (2011). Note: Under the current Utah Rules of Civil Procedure, responses to written discovery requests are due…

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What Paperwork Must I Complete in Family Court to Modify a Utah Child Custody Order?

DIY litigation is difficult in almost every situation. Divorce and family law is no different. You will likely save time and money by hiring a good (a good) attorney in…

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What Are Some Strategies for Divorcing a Selfish, Intelligent, and Manipulative Person Without It Becoming a Messy Legal and Emotional Battle?

Spouses of selfish, intelligent, and manipulative people who want to avoid a messy legal and emotional battle are not telling the whole truth about what they want. Implicit in what…

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I Have a Question About Whether to Divorce.

I decided to divorce my husband of 10 years after years of neglect and feeling unloved. We have a 6-year-old daughter. For the majority of our marriage I was always…

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Two Reforms (Of Many) That I Suggest Are Likely Not What You Think They Would Be.

In my opinion (as a divorce and family law attorney for the past 27 years), a “less is more” approach is needed at this point. What do I mean? For…

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Should You Sling Mud at Your Spouse at Any Phase of Your Divorce Case? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

If you were not fortunate enough to settle your divorce case on acceptable terms, you now or soon will likely find yourself  preparing for trial. Trial will be the day(s)…

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Dividing Personal Property In Your Divorce Is Not As Hard As It Seems By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

During the course of a marriage, you will accumulate marital property, and during your divorce, you will need to divide those items. You may be tempted to bicker over every…

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How Do You Enforce Court Orders That Have Been Issued in a Utah Divorce Case or Child Custody Case?

Many people who have gone through a divorce case or unmarried parents who have gone through a child custody case find themselves at the end of the case with a…

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