Divorce Is Too Often Like A Knife Fight By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Why is divorce so often like a knife fight? Not a literal one, of course, but a figurative battle where the first move can have lasting—often devastating—consequences. Have you ever…

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In re K.M. – 2025 UT App 17 – parents regaining custody from guardian

In re K.M. - 2025 UT App 17 Oral argument (Utah Court of Appeals archive): https://youtu.be/e8OUzlARvZk THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS IN THE INTEREST OF K.M., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN…

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Can I Buy a House Before or While Going Through a Divorce? Should I?

We won’t keep you in suspense: yes, you might be able to buy a house before or during the pendency of a divorce case. However, in most cases, you should not.…

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What Do I Do When I Realize My Divorce Attorney Betrayed Me and Helped My Ex-spouse, so That I Can Set Aside the Divorce Settlement Due to False Representations Made in Our Divorce Settlement Negotiations?

I will answer this in the context of the way this issue is treated in my jurisdiction (Utah). First, understand that to prevail on a claim in court, you must…

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Is Therapy Necessary in Utah Divorce?: What You Should Consider

Therapy in the context of this post means “mental health therapy”; meeting with a licensed talking with a psychologist, psychiatrist, or another mental health provider. This kind of therapy is…

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Too Many Fraudulently Sought Protective Orders? – The Buck Stops with the Courts

I humbly and respectfully submit that the following clearly do not meet the burden of proof under the preponderance of evidence standard and thus do not support entry of a…

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Toward Equal Child Custody Awards in Utah: Progress Made and Still to Be Made

Historically, in the state of Utah, and throughout the United States, cultural bias as to which parent is granted primary custody plays a major role in child custody decisions. Originally,…

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2025 UT App 14 – State v. Taylor – Sodomy on Child – Biased Jurors

2025 UT App 14 - State v. Taylor THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. ERIC ALAN TAYLOR, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220712-CA Filed January 30, 2025 Second…

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How Does Fraudulently Filing for a Protective Order Often Give the Applicants an Insurmountable Unfair Advantage in a Divorce or Child Custody Case?

By exploiting legal mechanisms designed to protect actual victims, here are ways that fraudulently seeking a protective order can create an unfair advantage: Immediate Restriction on Contact and Access Temporary…

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The Difference Between Reunification Therapy and Family Systems Therapy By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Families often find themselves having to confront their conflict and dysfunction when a divorce is filed. When families face conflict or dysfunction, therapy can (can, not always will, but can)…

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Too Many Fraudulently Protective Orders? – The Buck Stops with the Courts

It could have happened as alleged I find the applicant credible (but I won’t mention that a) I also find the respondent equally credible; or b) I can’t articulate a…

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The Cause of “Protective Orders Disorder” and Its Cure

A previous post (The Cause of “Protective Orders Disorder” and How to Prevent It.) discussed the trouble caused by granting domestic violence protective orders without a preponderance of evidence. This…

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The Cause of “Protective Orders Disorder” and How to Prevent It.

“Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” (Benjamin Franklin) It is undeniable that courts frequently take a "better safe…

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Evidentiary Practice in Family Law Proceedings in Utah: A Relaxed Standard

Family law proceedings in Utah (and in all other states, frankly), differ significantly from other areas of civil or criminal litigation, particularly when it comes to evidentiary practices. While the…

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A Better Approach to Acquiring Child Testimonial Evidence in Child Custody Disputes

In Utah child custody disputes, the voices of children are almost always filtered through court-appointed private guardians ad litem (PGALs) and/or custody evaluators. These intermediaries will claim to represent what…

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If you are losing a child custody case you should be winning (due to lack of representation and inability to show the judge the truth of the situation), how do you turn things around? is there a way to find out what the judge is thinking? A way to know if you’re changing the judge’s mind?

Most of the answer to your question lies in your question itself. If you should be winning the arguments in your case but are losing “due to lack of representation,”…

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It Has Been Suggested That We Have a Special Master Appointed in Our Case. ‘Good Idea?

No, and I’ll tell you why in the context of discussing a newly proposed Utah Rule of Civil Procedure which would be Rule 53A, entitled “Special masters for parenting disputes…

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The Prejudicial Impact of False Abuse Accusations on Husbands and Fathers in Utah Divorce and Custody Disputes

Child custody disputes between parents (whether in a divorce case or between unmarried parents) are among the most bitterly fought cases, as parents fight over the right to be integral…

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What Legal Safeguards Exist to Prevent Abuse of Domestic Violence Restraining Orders?

I am a divorce and family lawyer. So I know that there are laws on the books in my jurisdiction (Utah) and in other jurisdictions throughout the U.S. that make…

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The Overreach of Utah Courts in Ordering Therapy in Divorce and Child Custody Cases

In contemporary Utah divorce and child custody disputes, courts frequently order parents and children to participate in reunification therapy, family systems therapy, or other forms of therapy and counseling. While…

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How Do I Know If My Custody Evaluator and Custody Evaluation Are Any Good? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

In your divorce case, you, your spouse (or other parent) and your children may be required to undergo a custody evaluation. The custody evaluation is governed by Utah Code of Judicial Administration Rule…

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Timeline of a Typical Utah Divorce Case: From Start to Finish

While every divorce case is unique, the following outlines the general stages and timeframes involved in a Utah divorce case. Understanding the basic timeline of a typical case in Utah…

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If My Ex-husband Quit His Job to Avoid Alimony Does He Still Have to Pay Alimony?

If a spouse (husband or wife) is ordered by the court to pay alimony but then quits his/her job and then tries to claim “I can’t pay alimony because I…

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Absolute Opposition to Recording Child Interviews in Child Custody Dispute Cases Is Groundless.

[Full disclosure: I make no secret of the fact that I have yet to encounter a custody evaluation conducted in Utah that is not pseudo-scientific, incompletely and incompetently documented, and…

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How Can Family Courts Claim to Comply With the Equal Protection Clause When Fathers Receive Primary Custody in Less Than 20% of Cases?

Good point, and good question. Although the amount of time fathers are being awarded with their children is increasing in child custody dispute cases (and has been for the past…

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State v. Wardle – 2024 UT App 181 – Utah R. Evid. 506, Privileged

State v. Wardle - 2024 UT App 181 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. DOUGLAS LAWRENCE WARDLE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230761-CA Filed December 12, 2024 Third…

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What to Do When Your Ex Is Threatening to Take Me Back to Court to Change Custody or Reduce Parent-Time

I get calls about this frequently from former and from brand new clients: it may have been half a year or more since the child custody case was resolved, either…

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Is It True That Some Men Pay Their Wives to Avoid Giving up Their House During Divorce Proceedings or Other Agreements?

Yes, it’s true; this happens sometimes. But more broadly speaking, there are all kinds of situations in divorce where both husbands and wives, fathers and mothers make extortionate deals to…

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Can a Parent Send a Third Party for Child Pick Up for Parenting Time if It’s Not a Part of a Utah Custody and Parent-Time Court Order?

If there is no court order that addresses and controls the question of who can pick up or drop off the children in connection with custody and parent time exchanges,…

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In re Adoption of K.R.S. – 2024 UT App 165

In re Adoption of K.R.S. - 2024 UT App 165 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS IN THE MATTER OF THE ADOPTION OF K.R.S., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE.…

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Wallace v. Wallace – 2024 UT App 164 – Custody, Non-disparagement

Wallace v. Wallace - 2024 UT App 164 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JAMES DOUGLAS WALLACE, Appellee, v. JOANNA JUNE WALLACE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220559-CA Filed November 15, 2024 Third…

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Small v. Small – 2024 UT App 173 URE 408 and statute of frauds

Small v. Small - 2024 UT App 173 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS NATHAN DALE SMALL, Appellant, v. TRISHA DAWN SMALL, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230487-CA Filed November 29, 2024 First…

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A Third Party Refused to Return Child to the Child’s Mother, the Sole Custodian. So Mother Called Law Enforcement Seeking Assistance. But They Refused to Get Involved Saying It’s a Civil Matter. Is That True?

I can't speak to what the law is in all jurisdictions, but I can speak to what the law is in Utah on this subject based upon my experience and…

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Child Support in Utah

How is child support calculated in Utah? How long does child support last? How is child support enforced? How child support in Utah is calculated. I will explain it both…

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If You Need to Talk to the Police, Is It OK to Let Them Step Inside Your Front Door if It Is Cold, Rainy, or Snowy Outside?

No. I wish I could tell you that it's worth the risk to show the police a little kindness, but they'll just exploit it. So not merely, no, but hell…

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2024 UT App 158 – State v. Campbell – Stalking

2024 UT App 158 - State v. Campbell THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. RHUAN CAMPBELL, Appellant. Per Curiam Opinion No. 20230192-CA Filed November 7, 2024 Third…

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Godfrey v. Godfrey – 2024 UT App 156 – Broad discretion, Abuse of discretion

2024 UT App 156 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS AMANDA GODFREY, Appellee, v. RANDY GODFREY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210871-CA Filed October 31, 2024 Third District Court, Silver Summit Department The…

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Hoidal v. Berry – 2024 UT App 157 – Valuation, Separation, Alimony

2024 UT App 157 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MARI HOIDAL, Appellee and Cross-appellant, v. JOHN BERRY, Appellant and Cross-appellee. Opinion No. 20220291-CA Filed October 31, 2024 Third District Court,…

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Lerman v. Lerman – 2024 UT App 155 – Child Custody and Domestic Violence

Lerman v. Lerman - 2024 UT App 155 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEREK LERMAN, Appellee, v. MICHELLE LERMAN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230913-CA Filed October 31, 2024 Second District Court,…

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Duffin v. Duffin – 2024 UT App 154

Duffin v. Duffin - 2024 UT App 154 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JAMES MARLO DUFFIN JR., Appellant, v. BRANDY ELIZABETH DUFFIN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20221046-CA Filed October 31, 2024…

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What Are Some Tips for Divorced Parents on How to Handle the Holidays While Co-parenting?

Know this first: the best things to do are often easier said than done. That stated, they are not that hard to do, but many are not that appealing to…

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2024 UT App 133 – Bountiful City v. Swenson – Protective Order Violation

2024 UT App 133 - Bountiful City v. Swenson THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BOUNTIFUL CITY, Appellant, v. ROBERT TAKASHI SWENSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230430-CA Filed September 19, 2024 Second…

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Lunt v. Lunt – 2024 UT App 148 – Alimony, Individual Needs, Business Goodwill

Lunt v. Lunt - 2024 UT App 148 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MEGAN LUNT, Appellee, v. DREW E. LUNT, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220596-CA Filed October 18, 2024 Third District…

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What May Happen When I Tell the Judge That I Violated a Nocontact Order Because the Paperwork I Received at Court Was Torn and Did Not Say Anything About No Contact?

What will happen? Who knows? What could happen? The court could A) believe your story; B) not believe your story; or C) not believe your story and then come down…

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In re adoption of D.K.A.T. – 2024 UT App 145 – Contested Adoption

In re adoption of D.K.A.T. - 2024 UT App 145 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS In re adoption of D.K.A.T. - 2024 UT App 145 IN THE MATTER OF THE…

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How Should I Deal With an Ex Husband Who Is Reluctant to Move out After the Divorce?

If he wasn’t ordered to move out, and if you weren’t awarded sole possession, occupancy, and use of the marital residence, then he is under no obligation to move out.…

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How to Pronounce Certiorari and What It Means.

Today’s question comes from a viewer of the UFTLV channel who wants to know not only what this term means, but how it is properly pronounced! First, the definition: an…

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What Are Some Strategies for Divorcing a Selfish, Intelligent, and Manipulative Person Without It Becoming a Messy Legal and Emotional Battle?

Spouses of selfish, intelligent, and manipulative people who want to avoid a messy legal and emotional battle are not telling the whole truth about what they want. Implicit in what…

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What Are the Key Things You Should Do Protect Yourself During a Divorce?

This is one of the most important questions you need to ask and to answer if you are contemplating divorce or find yourself on the receiving end of a complaint…

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When Should You Settle Your Divorce Case? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Over the course of your divorce, you may be tempted to throw in the towel and give up. You may also be tempted to fight to your last breath. Either…

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