Why do pro se litigants fail so often?
Why do pro se litigants fail so often? And if you’re wondering what a pro se litigant is, here’s the definition: someone who argues his/her own case in a lawsuit,…
Do I owe my spouse of just a few months anything in divorce?
When a young couple divorces after only a month of marriage, should there ever be an expectation that one party owes anything to the other, even if they lived with…
How do courts view mothers who abandon their family during a divorce?
How does the court view mothers that abandon their family during a divorce? Generally, with disbelief, at first. Why? A few reasons. One, to its credit, our culture still holds…
Is being a divorce lawyer miserable?
Is being a divorce lawyer miserable? Miserable? Can be (and is) for some divorce attorneys, but for me it’s chronically discouraging. Sure, the human pain and betrayal to which we are…
If you haven’t seen “Erasing Family” and you’re going through a child custody dispute
If you haven’t seen "Erasing Family" and you’re going through a child custody dispute, you should. You really should. Because you really don't have any idea what you're in for.…
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children?
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children? In my opinion: Institute a “loser pays the prevailing party’s attorney’s fees” rule. make divorce…
There’s No Situation That Can’t Be Made Worse by Calling the Police
There's No Situation That Can't Be Made Worse by Calling the Police By Brian Godfrey I was talking with someone about divorce and family law situations the other day and…
Should I be nice to my spouse during a divorce?
That depends on what you mean by “nice”. Do you mean “with kindness”? Not necessarily kindness, but certainly decency. You are morally obligated to treat your spouse with decency, but…
Must I engage in all-day divorce mediation or some other time period?
Must I engage in all-day mediation in my divorce action, or for some other specific time period? No, there is no mandatory minimum period of time you must spend in…
What happens if you get caught lying in family court?
I’ve been a divorce and family law attorney for 23 years and gone back and forth over the years on my opinion of how the courts feel about and how…
2019 UT App 207 – Peeples v. Peeples – modification of child custody
2019 UT App 207 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ADAM LEGRANDE PEEPLES, Appellee, v. ANNALEISE T. PEEPLES, Appellant. Opinion No. 20180713-CA Filed December 19, 2019 Third District Court, Salt…
Why are divorce papers so long?
While it is true that some lawyers write up needlessly long divorce documents just to pad their bills, even the most efficient and honest lawyers often find themselves having to…
Should we put divorcing couples in an adversarial divorce court system?
People who are getting divorced fall into one of two categories: those who want to divorce while doing each other as little harm as possible; and those who don’t care…
Can you fire your divorce lawyer? Yes!
Fire your lawyer? What can you do if you think your lawyer is doing a bad job representing you? Can you fire your lawyer? Your question is really two questions,…
Oldroyd v. Oldroyd – 2019 UT App 155 – premarital property interest, unjust enrichment
Oldroyd v. Oldroyd - 2019 UT App 155 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ROBBEN ANN OLDROYD, Appellant, v. FARRELL LYNN OLDROYD, Appellee. Opinion No. 20180257-CA Filed September 26, 2019…
Why doesn’t family law immediately use collaborative law practices to reach decisions?
Because 1) paradoxically, those for whom the true collaborative law process would work best are those who really don’t need collaborative law; and 2) “collaborative law” as it is practiced (as opposed to how…
What happens to a client’s files if the lawyer succumbs to death or illness?
What happens to a lawyer's past and ongoing client files if the lawyer succumbs to a sudden illness? Is the client entitled to the possession of it? In the jurisdiction…
Why is it common for the custodial parent to villainize the ex to their child?
I don’t know if it is common for one parent in a divorce (custodial or non-custodial) to villainize their ex to the child, but we know it happens frequently and…
Do married lawyers ever fight each other in court?
Do married lawyers ever fight each other in court? Do you mean to ask whether married lawyers sue each other in court? If that’s your question, the answer is: rarely.…
How does it feel to file for divorce when your spouse doesn’t know it’s coming?
Assuming that your question implies that the ignorant spouse has no reason to believe that there is anything wrong with the marriage and thus no reason to fear the other…
How do I respond to parental alienation?
What can a parent do if, after the divorce, the other parent who has custody of the child turns the daughter against that parent? A parent in this situation can…
Disparaging the Other Parent: what not to say
What are some examples of things you shouldn’t say if your custody order says not to disparage your ex to the kids’ medical providers? Look at it this way: if…
How did your parents’ divorce when you were a child affect your adult life?
My parents did not divorce, but I base my answer to this question on the experiences of my clients, whether it be how their own children reacted to their divorce…
Eberhard v. Eberhard – 2019 UT App 114 – modification of alimony
2019 UT App 114 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS TODD EBERHARD, Appellant, v. LORI ANN EBERHARD, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170721-CA Filed June 27, 2019 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department…
My ex told me I can’t post videos of our children on my social media. What can I do?
I'm a mother of 3. The father has custody and I have visits and overnights. The father told me not to post videos of our children on my social media,…
Have you ever told a client he/she would be better off settling a case, only for the client to take the case to trial anyway?
Yes, and most of the time when a client decides to take a case to trial over a client’s advice the client does worse than he/she would have if he/she…
How to Identify a Good Divorce Lawyer, from the Client’s Perspective
Unfortunately, it’s almost impossible to identify a good lawyer without using his/her services for a while to see if you “got it right” on your choice. There are, however, a…
Do I need a separate room for my daughter?
As a single father I can only afford a one bedroom apartment for me and daughter, what alternatives do we have? Most courts will not penalize you for having a…
Dealing with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
QUESTION: What are some pointers that you may have in getting along with your ex-spouse to be during the process of a divorce? What advice do you have to keep…
Mental Health Professionals: How to Make Good (and honest) Use of Them in Divorce and Child Custody
Many spouses and parents going through a divorce and child custody case may believe there is value in using mental health professionals. This can be true, if you use mental…
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable?
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable? Said parent is losing time with her child because her…
How can I prepare myself mentally for divorce?
I will answer your question based upon the presumption that you have already gone through the agonizing process of determining that you need to divorce. In other words, I will not treat…
Have we reached the point where mothers are not immediately deemed the best candidates for child custody?
Almost, but not yet. Until recently, it wasn’t just a cultural norm, but a legal principle that presumed during a child's "tender" years (generally regarded as the age of four…
Should you wait until your children have grown up before divorcing?
Should you wait until your children have grown up if you were contemplating divorce but are still amicable to one another? Yes, and God bless you if you have the will and…
Is it wrong to go through with divorce when my child wants to live with both mom and dad?
Is it wrong to go through with divorce when my child wants to live with both mom and dad? On that basis alone? No. For example, if you want to…
In your experience, how often do divorces get resolved “amicably” after being filed in court?
Some couples actually realize that while their marriage is a failure, that does not mean that they are bad people. They can care enough about each other to divorce amicably.…
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce?
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce? There are two types of men who ask this question:…
A list of common, but very good, Utah divorce questions (with answers)
ERIC, MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 20+ YEARS. WE HAVE 4 CHILDREN TOGETHER 3 OF WHOM ARE STILL MINOR CHILDREN. I WAS WONDERING IF YOU MIGHT BE…
Divorce Preparedness: What do I need to do before filing for divorce?
When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many things you should consider, before filing for divorce I. Why…
Why do divorces take so long to finish?
Here are the reasons, as I see them, why too many divorce cases cost so much and take so long to finish (in no particular order): 1. Some divorce lawyers…
Why stay unhappily married for the sake of the kids?
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children, when they could easily give the children two happy homes instead living in one miserable home? Mom…
Is it unreasonable to insist Dad/Mom provide clothes for the kids at his/her place?
QUESTION: Is it unreasonable for me to assume my kids would have their own clothes at their dad's place? He has been requesting that I send specific items with the…
How Do I Get My Ex Prosecuted for Custodial Inteference?
QUESTION: What can I file in court for custodial interference? Is it just a matter of filing a motion for order to show cause? Or is there more to it?…
What is the average cost of divorce, when child custody is contested?
How much does it cost to divorce on average, with two kids and contested custody? On average? I’d say around $20,000, if the case is contested. But, as you will see…
Why are women generally awarded child custody more often than men?
QUESTION: From a lawyer’s perspective, why do women get child custody almost 90% of the time? Is there really a bias? What factors come into play when deciding about it?…
Confusing Want with Need – don’t expect what divorce cannot deliver
After more than 20 years doing this work: - I know what you want; - I know what you believe you want; and - we both know what you truly…
A Spouse’s Questions about the Divorce Mediation Process
Questions: If we go to mediation, can I hire an attorney after to review the documents from mediation before I sign anything? What if I hire an attorney before we…
Domestic Violence – what if I don’t want my spouse prosecuted?
Domestic Violence - what if I don't want my spouse prosecuted? Prosecutor issued an order of protection against my husband after asking what I want and I said no, it…
Divorce is on the horizon for my parents. What do I do?
Mom is treating Dad so bad that I think a divorce is on the horizon. Nobody is supportive. What do I do as a son? Love and support your parents,…
Child Custody and Where the Children Attend School
How is the school that a child will be attending decided if the parents are separated and live in two different school zones? Real-world, gritty answer that you may not…