Hearing is Not Harm: Why Utah Child Custody Courts Must Rethink the Code of Silence
In the practice of family law, we often hear a sentiment that is as ubiquitous as it is hollow: "We must protect the children from the litigation." On its face,…
When Representation Replaces Evidence: The Procedural Problem with PGAL Recommendations
Appointing a private guardian ad litem in a child custody and parent-time dispute case often creates a closed loop in which children who are the subject of the dispute cannot…
Why Blanket Bans on Child Testimony Fail Children in Child Custody and Parent-time Dispute Litigation
For too long, the family law system in Utah has operated under an almost universal, yet unproven, assumption: that any minor child who is the subject of a high-conflict custody…
The Tools Already Exist: Utah’s Evidentiary Framework and the Impermissible Silencing of Child Witnesses in Custody and Parent-time Disputes
Utah courts frequently exclude child testimony in custody and parent-time proceedings on the asserted ground that doing so protects children from emotional harm. That premise is mistaken. Categorical exclusion is…
The False Virtue of Silence: Why We Must Stop Silencing Children in Custody Disputes
There is a pervasive, almost religious orthodoxy in family law litigation over child custody and parent-time that goes something like this: “We must protect the children. Therefore, we must never…
The PGAL Problem: Utah’s Well-Intended System Has Deteriorated Into Something It Was Never Designed to Be
Utah Code § 78A-2-705 provides that (1) The court may appoint an attorney as a private attorney guardian ad litem to represent the best interests of the minor in any…
When Would It Be Appropriate to Modify a Utah Custody Order?
Child custody orders are not etched in stone, but neither are they revolving doors. Utah law makes that clear. Parents often assume that if circumstances “change” at all (no matter…
Why Do Many Parents With Bad Relationships Not Divorce for the Sake of Their Children?
You’ve no doubt heard many answers to this question. People love simple explanations—“They stay for the kids,” “They’re scared,” “They’re loyal,” “They’re trapped.” Sometimes that may be the case, but…
A Better Approach to Utah Divorce and Child Custody Litigation
If Utah’s domestic-relations legal system is serious about accuracy, fairness, and reducing unnecessary conflict, then the system needs processes that beneficially affect how cases are litigated and how evidence is…
Utah Law Does Not Bar Children From Testifying—Even When a PGAL Is Appointed
Utah law allows a child to be represented by an attorney—either a guardian ad litem (GAL) when there are allegations of child abuse, or by a private guardian ad litem…
How to Protect Your Child From Being Manipulated Into Making False Accusations During a Custody Dispute
A candid, experience-based guide for parents who need the truth without varnish or theatrics. Not every case involves manipulation. Not every professional fails. But when these problems occur—and they do—the…
Can the Amount of Child Support or Alimony Be Lowered or Eliminated if Your Ex Gets Remarried? In a Utah Divorce Case, Maybe.
People often assume that once their ex remarries, financial obligations from the divorce automatically shrink or disappear. It’s not that simple. In short: when it comes to the effects on child…
Is a Brief but Past History of Abuse or Substance Abuse the End of Your Chances for Joint Child Custody in Utah?
The short answer: No — you have hope, but you have work to do. Utah custody law has changed significantly in past generation, but the core principles are the same:…
Child Testimony in Utah Custody and Parent-time Dispute Cases: Why a Blanket Ban Is Legally Indefensible
Utah Law Does Not Support a Categorical Bar to Child Testimony Utah’s custodial statute expressly contemplates judicial inquiry into a child’s views. Section 81-9-204(5)(b)(i) provides that “the court may inquire…
Proof, Notice, and Verification Under Utah Law in the Context of Minor Child Expenses: A Practical Guide for Proving Child Health Insurance, Medical Expenses, and Child Care Costs
Utah’s child support statutes—now consolidated under Title 81, Chapter 6 of the Utah Code use the term “verification” repeatedly when describing a parent’s duties to provide proof of child health insurance coverage and…
Why Don’t My Kids Like Me After the Divorce (It May Be Your Fault)
After a divorce that involved minor children of the parties, many of those party parents wonder why their kids become or seem to become distant or resentful. In Utah, children’s…
A Shield, Not a Gag: Utah’s PGAL Statute Authorizes Representation, Not Substitution
When Utah courts face high-conflict custody disputes, one common suggestion is to appoint what is known as a Private Guardian ad Litem (PGAL)—an attorney ostensibly tasked with “representing the best interests of…
When Is It Time to Take Your Ex Back to Court to Terminate Parental Rights?
If the other parent has dropped out of your kids’ lives—no support, no visits, no calls—for six months or more, you may have a legal basis to seek termination under…
Evidence, Not Guesswork: The Case for Testing Proposed Child Custody and Parent-time Schedules Before Making Final Custody and Parent-time Orders in Utah
Utah courts are tasked with making custody and parent-time decisions based on the best interest of the child. But you cannot know what schedule truly serves a child’s best interest if…
What Should I Do If I Have to Have a Custody Evaluation, Psychological, or Other Evaluation Conducted?
Utah family courts often order custody, psychological, or substance-abuse evaluations. Learn what to expect, how to prepare, and how to protect yourself during these high-stakes assessments. _________ When a Utah…
Temporary Custody Orders: A Potential Trap Every Utah Parent Should See Coming, and How to Avoid It
Utah judges and domestic relations commissioners reassure parents that early custody, parent-time, and support orders issued during the pendency of the child custody case are “just temporary.” Don’t believe it.…
The Myth of Utah’s “Standard Parent-Time”
Utah law does not impose a mandatory “standard parent-time” schedule. The schedules in Utah Code § 81-9-302 are only possible options for courts to consider. In practice, however, judges often adopt them with little…
Is the Term “Neurodivergent” Being Bandied About in Family Law Circles as a Way of Manipulating the Courts?
Yes. The term “neurodivergent” is increasingly being used in family law not only as a genuine descriptive category but also as a rhetorical and strategic tool. Here’s how it’s being manipulated: As…
Why Custody Evaluations in Utah Should Be Recorded and Transparent
In Utah today, custody evaluations are often conducted behind closed doors. The evaluator interviews the parents, the children, and collateral witnesses (neighbors, teachers, extended family, therapists, coaches, pastors, etc.), but…
Beyond Specific Legal Arguments, What Is One Significant Way the Court System Could Better Ensure Fairness for All Parents in Child Custody Disputes?
I apologize in advance; I cannot limit myself to just one answer, but I will start off with the “top” idea and then share others. Courts could make custody disputes…
What Advice Would You Give to Someone Who Is Contemplating Divorce?
Divorce is almost always harder, slower, more expensive, and more damaging—financially and emotionally—than people expect. Unless you are married to someone truly abusive or irreparably toxic, the better course is…
Judicial Overreach in Utah Child Custody Order: Return to Restraint
In Utah, as in other states, courts deciding child custody and parent-time disputes are charged with applying the “best interests of the child” standard. That standard is necessary, but it…
Why Are Divorce Cases Often Delayed?
After 28 years of divorce practice (as of the date this post is shared), I've watched countless cases that could have and should resolve in months drag on for a…
Should I Go Through My Child’s Phone or Other Devices During the Divorce?
Why this comes up Divorce makes parents hyper-vigilant. A child’s smartphone can feel like the master key to what’s really happening—messages with the other parent, photos, social media, location history.…
When “Different” Is Confused With “Dangerous” (or at Least Unfit)
A homeschooling mother loses custody because the judge disapproves of her "unstructured" educational approach—despite her children testing above grade level. A tattooed father faces restricted visitation because his appearance suggests…
I Love My Stepchildren, How Can I Spend Time with Them After the Divorce?
Love vs. Law In Utah, stepparents have no inherent visitation rights during the pendency of divorce proceedings or after the court issues the divorce decree. Unless you qualify under the…
Sample Objection Language for GAL and Custody Evaluator Overreach in Utah Courts
(For educational purposes only. Consult your attorney before you considering using these in your own case.) GAL Acting Like a Witness Without Being Sworn “Your Honor, I object. The Guardian…
Utah Motion for Temporary Orders: What They Can Cover, and How to File for One
Utah Motions for Temporary Orders: What They Can Cover, and How to File for One
When a Utah divorce case is commenced, life doesn’t stop while the case is pending. Children still need a consistent schedule. The mortgage, utilities, and insurance bills still come due.…
Don’t Let This Happen to You When Drafting a Legal Custody Child Custody Award
If a parent is awarded sole legal custody of a child, does that award not carry with it an implicit obligation to exercise that sole legal custody power in good…
Alcohol Use Monitoring in Custody and Divorce Cases and Which Monitoring Device and Service to Use: BACtrack vs. Soberlink
When alcohol use (or accusations of it) becomes a custody or parent-time issue, courts want two things: reliable measurements and confidence that the right person took the test. BACtrack and…
Why Don’t My Kids Like Me After the Divorce? I’m Not a Bad Person. Not Even Close. I Haven’t Changed. What Could Have Happened?
One of the most painful parts of a divorce can be if children seem to pull away from you. It’s a situation many divorced and separated parents face: after a…
Guardians ad Litem and Custody Evaluators in Utah: Too Often Biased, Flawed, and Beyond Accountability
In Utah custody disputes, Guardians ad Litem (GALs) and custody evaluators can have enormous influence over the outcome, often so much so that it’s far more than the law actually…
What Potential Issues and Problems Should I Anticipate and Take Action On Now as a Divorced Parent Whose Minor Children Will Be Going Back to School or Starting at a New School This Fall?
Don’t wait until the first day of school to address custody schedules, school choice, communication with the school, extracurricular costs, or special needs. Review your decree, coordinate with your ex…
My Lawyer Says That the Things I Think Are Important to My Divorce and Child Custody Case Are not Important (or Not Nearly as Important as I Believe Them to Be). Is My Lawyer Right? How Can I Know? What Do I Do?
Do you wonder whether your divorce lawyer is ignoring what really matters in your divorce or custody case? With this post you will learn why your concerns may be legally…
My Spouse is Disparaging Me Publicly and/or to Our Children—What Can I Do? What Should I Do?
Divorce or custody litigation often brings out the worst in people. Some spouses can't resist the urge to play the victim or the hero in every story they tell, especially…
Should You Have Your Spouse or Co-Parent Subject to a Psychological Evaluation in Your Divorce and Child Custody Dispute?
I. Introduction A psychological evaluation in a custody or divorce case sounds powerful. You may believe (or even know) your spouse to be manipulative, unstable, or even dangerous. So why…
A Presumption of Equal Physical and Legal Child Custody Should Be the Norm
Most parents in Utah assume that when they separate or divorce, the court will start from a position of splitting custody evenly. That’s a reasonable assumption—shared parenting has become the…
Reforming Child Custody in Utah Divorce: A Parental Fitness Approach
In Utah, divorce-related child custody disputes often escalate over parenting flaws that wouldn’t justify state intervention outside divorce. This approach is flawed because it creates a double standard that unfairly…
Protecting Parental Rights: Why Sole Custody Shouldn’t Be the Default Response
A single mistake shouldn't cost a parent his or her relationship with his/her child. Yet too often, family courts award sole custody based on isolated incidents or "aberrant behavior" that…
Can My Ex Legally Let a Sex Offender Be Around My Kids in Utah?
TL;DR: No, not without strict limits. In Utah, no parent may not allow a registered sex offender to be around your children—even in that parent’s own home—without the other parent’s…
I Can’t Believe I’m Giving This Advice, but I Am: Why Every Divorced Parent Should Consider Background Checks on New Partners Who Are or Who Will Be Around Their Kids
If you're divorced and you are, or your ex is, introducing a new boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse into your minor children’s lives, you should seriously consider running a background check…
What Are the Biggest Challenges Men Face During Divorce, and Why Do Some Believe the System Is Unfair to Them?
It is not a matter of beliefs that men are generally (not in every single case, but generally) treated unfairly in divorce. It is a fact. This is why many…
Child Custody and the “Primary Caregiver” Scam
Of the Utah domestic relations commissioners and judges who treat fathers as second-class parents in making temporary and permanent custody and parent-time rulings, they practically gush about the standard for…
Are Parents Charged With Contempt of Court or Have Their Visitation Rights Suspended When Their Children Report That They Have Been Abusive?
Yes. Why? Contempt of court is defined as: 1) a valid court order; 2) of which the parent has notice; 3) that the parent is capable of obey; 4) but…
How Do Fathers Fight for Child Custody?
Do you mean to ask, How do deserving fathers fight: for sole child custody? for joint child custody? for equal child custody? Or do you mean to ask: “How do fathers ‘win’ their…
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