Do I need a separate room for my daughter?
As a single father I can only afford a one bedroom apartment for me and daughter, what alternatives do we have? Most courts will not penalize you for having a…
If my spouse cheats, and we divorce will I get custody of my children?
In response to the question, “If my spouse cheats, and we divorce, will I get custody of the children because of my spouse’s infidelity?,” the answer is unequivocally “no.” No…
What’s the best way to decide who takes the children when a couple splits?
I’ll tell you one thing, it’s not the illusory “standard” (that’s not really a standard in the first place) of the “best interest of the child” that everybody talks about.…
If mom’s in jail, and dad never signed the birth certificate, who gets custody?
As a legal matter, whoever the court would deem to serve the best interest of the child. If the biological father could prove to the court that he is the…
Can I Get the Court to Force My NPD Spouse to Be Tested?
Should I attempt to / is it possible to have my court order my NPD to undergo psychological testing before he can get access to our child? First, let’s break…
LeFevre v. Mackelprang – 2019 UT App 42 – joint custody analysis
2019 UT App 42 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS - LeFevre v. Mackelprang AMELIA GAYATREE LEFEVRE, Appellee, v. CASEY LEE MACKELPRANG, Appellant. Opinion No. 20171006-CA Filed March 28, 2019…
Nebeker v. Orton – 2019 UT App 23 – custody and parent-time
2019 UT App 23 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS SHANE NEBEKER, Appellant, v. TRISHA ANN ORTON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170438-CA Filed February 14, 2019 Sixth District Court, Richfield Department The…
Mental Health Professionals: How to Make Good (and honest) Use of Them in Divorce and Child Custody
Many spouses and parents going through a divorce and child custody case may believe there is value in using mental health professionals. This can be true, if you use mental…
I recorded my husband telling me that he wants to hit me. Will this help me obtain custody of our child?
Question: I’m going through a divorce. A day ago, I recorded my husband telling me that he “wants to hit me in the face.” Will this evidence help me obtain…
Can a stepparent get custody of a stepchild, if the biological/adoptive parent’s parental rights are terminated?
Question: If a child's parents were to lose custody of him, and the only family member left was the stepparent's family (not legally related), would the stepparent(s) get the child?…
At what age can children decide which parent they want to live with?
It’s largely a matter of age and size/strength or resourcefulness. Technically a child never legally has the power to choose with which parent he/she will live (the only person with…
If it’s so terrible to separate children from parents at the border, why is it so acceptable to separate children and parents in divorce?
If it's so terrible to separate children from parents at the border, why is it so acceptable to separate children and parents in divorce? Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com…
What useful things can Jeff Bezos’s divorce can teach us
Question: Amazon boss Jeff Bezos and wife MacKenzie are divorcing. Who do you think will get the custody of their 4 kids? I don’t know enough about the family’s circumstances…
Have we reached the point where mothers are not immediately deemed the best candidates for child custody?
Almost, but not yet. Until recently, it wasn’t just a cultural norm, but a legal principle that presumed during a child's "tender" years (generally regarded as the age of four…
Relocation: ex-wife just told me she’s moving out of state with the kids
What do I do? My ex-wife tonight, in a fit of anger, told me that she and the kids will be moving out of state. There's no reason--like a job…
If a single mother makes more annually than the father, would she have to pay child support even if she has custody?
In Utah, almost certainly not. I cannot think of a scenario in which a parent (mother or father) has sole physical custody of the children and would have to pay…
Marijuana and Child Custody Still Don’t Mix in Utah, You Fools! Ignore This at Your Peril!
No matter what you're told, marijuana use is STILL ILLEGAL in this state. Illegal use of street drugs, including but not limited to marijuana, can and surely will be used…
Child Custody: what does it mean in divorce, and what factors determine who gets child custody?
One of the biggest worries (perhaps the biggest) for a parent going through divorce is the question of child custody. A common misperception is that “child custody” means simply who…
Can Utah Modify the Child Custody Order of a Different State?
Can Utah modify the child custody order of a different state? Under certain circumstances, yes. Below is a summary of the laws that govern whether Utah can exercise jurisdiction to…
When a couple have children outside wedlock, what happens financially to mom when daddy finds a new girlfriend?
In Utah, where I practice family law, there are no laws governing an unmarried father’s obligations to a child born out of wedlock. So regardless of whether the father has…
Can a mother take a child from the father just because she chose not to marry him?
How do you feel that a mother can take a child from their father without any legal repercussion just because she chose to string along an engagement and never get…
How does child custody work if one parent needs or wants to move out of state?
How does child custody work if one parent needs or wants to move out of the current state? Is it better to let the court know up front of the…
Can I still get custody or visitation, even if my spouse got a protective order against me?
My husband placed a protection order on me and my son’s name is on it, we are in the divorce process, is it possible that I can still get custody…
In your experience, how often do divorces get resolved “amicably” after being filed in court?
Some couples actually realize that while their marriage is a failure, that does not mean that they are bad people. They can care enough about each other to divorce amicably.…
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce?
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce? There are two types of men who ask this question:…
Do you think fathers should have the right to 50/50 split custody from birth, even if mom is breastfeeding?
Do you think fathers should have the right to 50/50 split custody from birth, even if mom is breastfeeding and the separation will likely affect her ability to do so…
Parent-Time During the Holiday Season 2018
Parent-Time During the Holiday Season 2018 The holiday season is upon us, and many divorced and single parents need to prepare and plan for your holiday season parent-time this time…
Which state has jurisdiction over a child custody dispute?
If a divorce and custody case were finalized in one state and the custodial parent and the children move to another, which state should the future custody disputes need to…
Stephens v. Stephens – 2018 UT App 196 – modifying child custody and support
2018 UT App 196 The Utah Court of Appeals DONOVAN TODD STEPHENS, Appellee and Cross-appellant, v. BRIDGET NICOLE STEPHENS, Appellant and Cross-appellee. Opinion No. 20170440-CA Filed October 12, 2018 Third…
A list of common, but very good, Utah divorce questions (with answers)
ERIC, MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 20+ YEARS. WE HAVE 4 CHILDREN TOGETHER 3 OF WHOM ARE STILL MINOR CHILDREN. I WAS WONDERING IF YOU MIGHT BE…
What legal rights do I have if my abusive husband makes a false claim against my mental health to get emergency custody of our children?
“What legal rights?” You ask “What legal rights do I have if my abusive husband makes a false claim against my mental health to get emergency custody of our children?”…
Utah divorce and child custody awards – statutory factors the court must consider
Utah divorce and child custody award – statutory factors the court must consider (based upon Utah Code § 30-3-10, § 30-3-10.2, and UCJA 4-903) SUMMARY OF THE FACTORS: the past…
Erickson v. Erickson-2018 UT App 184-modifying child custody/parent-time-discovery-expert witness-child testimony-attorney fees
Erickson v. Erickson - 2018 UT App 184 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KIT RICHARD ERICKSON, Appellant, v. SHANDI ERICKSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170100-CA Filed September 27, 2018 Third District…
Why do divorces take so long to finish?
Here are the reasons, as I see them, why too many divorce cases cost so much and take so long to finish (in no particular order): 1. Some divorce lawyers…
My parents are unmarried. Can I choose which one I live with?
So my parents were unmarried and I’ve been in custody of my mother. I want to be with my dad however, how does everything work so I can live with…
My mom has full custody, but I want to live with my dad. What do I do?
My parents got divorced when I was 3. I’m currently 14. My mom has full custody of me, but I want to live with my dad full time in Denver,…
Questions Working Women and Mothers Often Ask Me About Divorce
ERIC, MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 20+ YEARS. WE HAVE 4 CHILDREN TOGETHER 3 OF WHOM ARE STILL MINOR CHILDREN. MY HUSBAND AND I BOTH HAVE JOBS.…
How do I show the court about my sons non-diagnosed NPD mother to get a sole custody?
How do I show the court about my sons non-diagnosed NPD mother to get a sole custody? Oh, ho, ho, ho! So you want to prove your wife has Narcissistic…
How does custody of children work if the parents live in different states?
How does custody of children work if the parents live in different states? I’ll answer this question in the context of Utah’s family law (I practice divorce and family law…
What is the best way to get a 50/50 custody and visitation plan in family court?
There are many, many factors the judge will consider. I’ll list them. First and foremost is: distance between the parents. If the parents don’t live close enough to each other…
Can a court force a parent to exercise visitation, even if that parent doesn’t want to?
If a divorced parent doesn’t want visitation rights (i.e. doesn’t want to see his/her child), is that legal, or would the court order the unwilling parent to have visits? This…
Child Support: can it be awarded to a joint custodial father who lost his job, if the mother is employed?
Child Support: does a father with joint custody who lost his job have the right to claim child support, if the mother is employed? My answer applies for the State…
Child custody and how parental sociopathy affects it
QUESTION (Child custody and parental sociopathy): How does ASPD (Sociopathy) affect child custody, especially if the diagnosed parent is consistent? ANSWER (Robert A. Simon, Ph.D., Ph.D., M.A. Clinical Psychology, California…
My parents have a joint custody of my brother and I, but I want to live with my mom
My parents have a joint custody of my brother and I, but I want to live with my mom because my dad is unsupportive. Is it easy to go to…
What can we do about the laws that are outdated about taking custody of a child?
What can we do about the laws that are outdated about taking custody of a child? In a clear and concise manner write to A) your state legislators, and B)…
Are divorce courts biased towards either gender?
Are divorce courts biased towards either gender? In my educated and experienced opinion, yes, in most (not all) cases. It’s not usually motivated by animus toward men or women (although…
Are family courts biased against parents with diagnosed mental illness when deciding custody?
Are family courts biased against parents with diagnosed mental illness when deciding custody? Yes, they can be, under certain circumstances. A common tactic in child custody disputes is to accuse…
Why don’t some people fight for custody of their children?
Why don't some people fight for child custody in some divorce or child custody cases? Others have explained why, in their particular situations, they felt that while they desired custody,…
I have no job, I’m living in my parents’ house, and I’m on methadone. Can I get custody?
What do I do to gain shared custody of my now 13-year-old child? I do not have a current job (due to a medical problem), and I am living in…
How can I get the custody of my child? What factors does the court consider?
How can I get the custody of my two-year-old son in court? I am an SFG in service, not always at home, but I can give my child to my…