How Do Fathers Fight for Child Custody?
Do you mean to ask, How do deserving fathers fight: for sole child custody? for joint child custody? for equal child custody? Or do you mean to ask: “How do fathers ‘win’ their…
Do Kids Like 50/50 Custody Schedules?
Some do, some don't. Generally, however, when both parents live in the same neighborhood, so that their children are able to get to school, interact with the same friends, attend…
Yes, Equal Custody Is a Great Idea and Should Be Awarded Far More Often Than It Is Now, but That Doesn’t Mean All Judges Agree.
Where both parents are fit parents and want to be as involved as possible in rearing that child—both out of a personal interest in enjoying parenthood and out of commitment…
How Can Family Courts Claim to Comply With the Equal Protection Clause When Fathers Receive Primary Custody in Less Than 20% of Cases?
Good point, and good question. Although the amount of time fathers are being awarded with their children is increasing in child custody dispute cases (and has been for the past…
Can a Parent Send a Third Party for Child Pick Up for Parenting Time if It’s Not a Part of a Utah Custody and Parent-Time Court Order?
If there is no court order that addresses and controls the question of who can pick up or drop off the children in connection with custody and parent time exchanges,…
My Ex and I Have Joint Custody, but He Hasn’t Been Letting Me See My Child for a Couple of Months Now. Will He Lose Custody if I Go Back to Court and Tell Them About This?
I’ll assume that what you mean by “my ex and I have joint custody” is you and your ex share physical custody of your child. I’ll also assume that in…
Are You Fighting for Your Kids or Are You Protecting Your Financial Future? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
An accusation that gets thrown around a lot in a divorce action is that a parent doesn’t actually want to spend time with his or her children. Usually it's an…
What Are My Chances of Gaining Full or Primary Custody of My Child as a Father?
First, you need ask a different question before you get to the question of a father’s chances of winning full or primary custody of children in divorce. The question should…
Why Condemn Children to Sole Custody Awards When They Have Two Fit Parents?
One of the arguments that some fathers make when they encounter the double standard applied to mothers and fathers in child custody disputes (resulting in a denial of equal legal…
Is There a Primary Parent in Joint Custody in Utah Which Is Also Known as “Equal” or “50/50” Custody?
Utah, like many states, has struggled with the very concept of equal (“50/50”) custody of children for years. While progress has been made (especially in the past few years), we…
Obstacles Fathers Face in Trying to Get Joint Custody of Their Children
I have been asked by a reader to answer two questions. The first: whether I believe courts generally apply a double standard in the treatment of mothers and fathers when…
As a Joint Legal and Physical Custodial Parent, Can I Legally Prevent the Other Parent From Going on a Vacation (Either Out of State or Out of the Country) With Our Child or Children?
Unless a court were to order that a parent was barred from traveling out of state or out of the country with the children on vacation, a joint legal and…
If One Parent Gets Primary Custody, Does This Mean That He/She Can Make All Decisions Regarding the Kids Without Any Input From the Other Parent?
There are two kinds of child custody, not just one. Those two different kinds are legal custody and physical custody. Legal custody is the power of a parent to make…
What’s the Chance That Soon-to Be Ex-husband Will Get “Final Decision Making” in Joint Custody?
That depends on many, many factors. Some legitimate, some possibly not. Those of you who have read my content here may have noticed that I am of the opinion (arising…
How Do I Handle a Narcissist Ex-husband in the Visitation of Children if I Have the Primary Custody? He Is Very Manipulative to Our Kids.
I generally wouldn’t recommend trying to get the assistance of the court to remedy this problem. The legal system is not designed to address this problem well, if at all.…
If a father is working full time and is expecting to get 50/50 custody, how does he arrange for the kids when he is at work from 9-5 p.m.?
If a father in this position can’t figure this out on his own, he’s probably not in a position to be entrusted with exercising 50/50 custody. If a father wants…
What can you do if your ex-husband does not want to pay school fees?
What can you do if your husband does not want to pay school fees for his children when you are divorced? First, it is not necessarily a given that a…
If each parent is fully capable, will the court still give full custody to mom?
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still lean towards full custody to the mother? [Note: I am a divorce lawyer of 25 years. I am not bitter about…
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still favor the mother?
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still lean towards full custody to the mother? [Note: I am a divorce lawyer of 25 years. I am not bitter about…
Why isn’t 50/50 custody the default resolution in child custody cases?
I have studied this question throughout my career, and I've been a divorce and family lawyer for 25 years. If there is one family law question to which I know…
How can I enforce my power when I have final say in joint custody?
My sons father and I have joint custody but I have final say over his well being health and education. How can I enforce my power? If you are asking: “How do I enforce in good…
How do we counteract the adverse effects of trusting custody evaluators?
The question was asked: In a study in 2012 proved many custody evaluators falsely believe most DV victims lied & alienated kids. So How do you prevent that evaluators report from…
Do courts penalize working parents?
Why do the courts give full custody to a parent who refuses to work but yet reduces custody of the working parent, saying they work too much? In the belief…
Have you, or someone you know, ever had to share joint custody of a pet due to a breakup/divorce? If so, how did that work out? Was the time actually 50/50?
Many married couples are now foregoing having children but still feel a need for caring for something other than themselves individually and for each other, and so they get a…
If a married couple divorces and neither one wants their child, what happens?
Great question. I have discussed this question with others. Their first reaction to the question is along the lines of “Oh, that’s terrible!,” but then we discuss the fact that…
Can a narcissist get custody of a child?
Of course. First, even if one could prove a parent suffers from narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), merely suffering from this condition wouldn’t automatically disqualify a parent from being awarded sole…
What are the laws for joint custody?
For the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law (Utah), the laws the court must consider are found in Utah Code § 30-3-10, 30-3-10.2, and, if the question of…
Should a father who has shared custody see the child son when there is a hospital emergency?
Should a father who has shared custody rights of his child still see the child son when there is a hospital emergency? If your child is in the hospital during…
How would it be, if when a couple with children divorce instead of custody the court requires them to secure a stable home for the children and require the parents to shuttle around every week?
This is something that many parents already do. It is often known as “nesting”. Some parents feel it would be best for their children if they don’t have to shuttle…
I was awarded joint equal custody of my children, but in practice I have them with me more. Their mother’s income is at least equal to (if not greater than) mine. Could I be entitled to child support?
This is a good question and a question that comes up often. I will answer your question as it would apply to the law of Utah, which is the jurisdiction…
Why would my ex block contact with my child when we have shared joint custody?
Let me count the “reasons,” both legitimate and otherwise: Legitimate (though not necessarily legal, unless permitted by a court order) reasons: the contact you have with the child is truly…
Do you think it’s fair that Brad Pitt got joint custody of his kids?
Normally, I do not like to comment on the intersection of pop culture and family law because quite often, what happens in a celebrity divorce or child custody dispute does…
When flawed thinking is tragic thinking (thank goodness)
I frequently encounter comments made in child custody disputes to the effect that “courts favor the nurturing and detailed attentiveness of mothers over fathers.” I am as grateful for such comments as I am disheartened by them. Grateful…
Do you agree with Brad Pitt winning joint custody of his children with Angelina Jolie?
I normally don’t comment on popular culture matters dealing with divorce, but for this question I will make an exception. I have no idea what kind of parents Angelina Jolie…
How hard did you have to fight to get custody of your child after divorce as a father? What was the biggest problem you faced?
Allow me to start this answer by clearing the air a bit: First, there are many fathers who are clearly unfit fathers but who nonetheless believe the only or the…
What is being a single parent without joint custody like in your country?
If a loving, able parent (i.e., a fit parent who lives in close enough proximity to the child(ren)’s other parent such that joint legal and physical custody does not work…
After a divorce, should my kids be with me or with the mom?
First, you need to understand that you’re asking the wrong question. Child custody is not a zero-sum game; otherwise stated, when parents divorce, or when unmarried parents separate, where you…
What are tips for parents sharing custody during COVID-19?
What are the different tips for parents sharing custody during this COVID-19? Best tip: don’t use COVID-19 as a pretext for withholding/preventing/sabotaging contact and care and communication between the children…
How exactly does shared custody work? Does the child end up being like that kid from Jacqueline Wilson’s “The Suitcase Kid”?
How exactly does shared custody work? Does the child end up being like that kid from Jacqueline Wilson’s "The Suitcase Kid"? The child certainly can be like the child (Andrea) from Jacqueline…
S.B. 122 just passed! So what? Joint equal physical custody.
S.B. 122 (4th Substitute) passed by the Utah State Legislature March 5, 2021! Who should care and why? The elephant in the room is this: if there is no gender…
For divorced parents: why isn’t your custody award 50/50?
For divorced parents: why isn't your custody award 50/50? Concisely (and in no particular order): sometimes a parent’s job, physical or mental/emotional disabilities, misconduct (like domestic violence, child abuse, or…
Can a mother keeping the children from the father work against in custody litigation?
Can a mother not allowing the father to see his child without reason work against her in litigation for joint custody? Would the father having children from another relationship living…
How many states favor mothers in child custody proceedings?
How many states favor giving the child to its mother in a custody hearing? You’re asking a good question, but it’s not the question you think you’re asking. The question…
Should all the kids stay with one parent after a divorce? Why or why not?
I am a divorce and family lawyer. I have been for 23 years. It is impossible to come up with a blanket policy for all children of all parents in…
Why can a child refuse to live with a parent as court ordered?
Why is it OK to allow a 14-year-old child to deny one parent access to him/her without any reason, but it is kidnapping if the child were to refuse to…
LeFevre v. Mackelprang – 2019 UT App 42 – joint custody analysis
2019 UT App 42 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS - LeFevre v. Mackelprang AMELIA GAYATREE LEFEVRE, Appellee, v. CASEY LEE MACKELPRANG, Appellant. Opinion No. 20171006-CA Filed March 28, 2019…
Relocation: ex-wife just told me she’s moving out of state with the kids
What do I do? My ex-wife tonight, in a fit of anger, told me that she and the kids will be moving out of state. There's no reason--like a job…
Child Custody: what does it mean in divorce, and what factors determine who gets child custody?
One of the biggest worries (perhaps the biggest) for a parent going through divorce is the question of child custody. A common misperception is that “child custody” means simply who…
What is the best way to get a 50/50 custody and visitation plan in family court?
There are many, many factors the judge will consider. I’ll list them. First and foremost is: distance between the parents. If the parents don’t live close enough to each other…
Child Support: can it be awarded to a joint custodial father who lost his job, if the mother is employed?
Child Support: does a father with joint custody who lost his job have the right to claim child support, if the mother is employed? My answer applies for the State…
