Should I Pay My Lawyer to Communicate With the Opposing Party’s Attorney?
Question: Should I pay my lawyer to talk to the opposing party’s attorney? He spent 3 hours last week responding to 12 emails from opposing counsel and I need to…
What does “child support” mean in Utah?
There are actually three different but related types of child support in Utah for divorced and unmarried parents who obtain child support orders either through administrative means or through a…
How to Identify and Avoid Some Common Dirty Tricks in Divorce Cases. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Some spouses will absolutely exploit the legal system to gain an unfair advantage in divorce proceedings. It's crucial to recognize the manipulative tactics your spouse might employ against you—even if…
The Case for Fault-Based Divorce: A Perspective from the Trenches of Family Law
As a legal assistant at a family law firm (and as a soon to be law school graduate), I see firsthand how the current no-fault divorce regime can create problems…
How to Be a Good Client in Your Utah Divorce Case
Divorce is for most people a very stressful and emotional process. If you are ready to hire a divorce attorney, knowing how to approach working with your attorney can significantly…
How Can I Fight for Child Visitation and My Parental Rights Without a Lawyer in Utah?
No one is required to hire a lawyer to represent him/her in a child custody dispute. If you are involved in a termination of parental rights or child abuse case…
How to Deal with a Difficult and Dishonest Opposing Party (and his/her lawyer) in Utah Family Law Cases By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
When you're involved in a family law matter whether it's a divorce, child custody dispute, or a spousal support issue, one of the most frustrating challenges to encounter is an…
After Divorce, My Ex Uses Parental Controls to Spy on My Parenting Time. Can Tech Custody Agreements Exist?
Yes, they can. Not merely agreements, but binding and enforceable court orders can be made by the court to address such an issue too. They are hard to enforce (because…
Should You Get Divorced? Weighing Your Options in a Difficult Decision By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
The decisions to marry and to end a marriage are not decisions to be taken lightly. If divorce is ever an easy choice, something is terribly wrong. Wrong with the…
A Big Problem with Child Abuse and Parental Alienation Accusations in Family Court
I can identify the problem by phrasing it in the form of several hypothetical questions to a judge: Is the approach to the allegations going to be, “Because these kinds…
Nelson v. Nelson – 2025 UT App 43 – alimony, income, loan
2025 UT App 43 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS VICKI JO NELSON, Appellee, v. JAMES Q. NELSON, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230483-CA Filed March 27, 2025 Third District Court, Salt Lake…
What Can a Father Do If, After the Divorce, the Mother, Who Has Custody of the Child, Turns the Child Against the Father?
What can a father do if, after the divorce, the mother, who has custody of the child, turns the child against the father? What can he do? There are many things he…
How Do You Get 3 House Valuations for a Divorce When Your Ex Has Remained Living in It?
A house does not need to be vacant to be appraised and evaluated. The appraiser(s) can inspect and evaluate the house while you're spouse or ex-spouse is still living there…
If You Are Not Happy With the Current Child Custody Arrangement, Can You Change It?
I cannot answer this question as it applies to all jurisdictions, but I can answer it as it applies to the jurisdiction where I practice family law (Utah): Merely because you are…
How Can an Unfair Child Custody Arrangement Be Corrected in Utah?
It depends on how you reached this point, and how much time, if any, you have to fix it. If circumstances relevant to the child custody award have materially and…
How Do You Combat a Narcissistic Husband Who Isolates Your Child During a Divorce?
Warning: my answer is blunt, and it is directed primarily at women/mothers who make (or contemplate making) false claims, but even if you are not making or contemplating making a…
How Should I Communicate With My Spouse During the Pendency of Divorce Proceedings?
This is an extremely good question because I am amazed (as a divorce and family lawyer who has been in practice for 28 years) how divorcing couples and parents communicate…
How to Tell Your Kids About Divorce: A Unified Approach By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Divorce is hard enough on spouses, but perhaps the most painful impact is on their children. The last thing you should do is create confusion, fear, and emotional scars in…
Proposed Utah Family Law Legislation I’m Following During the 2025 Session
There are many bills before the Utah Legislature during their 2025 session that I’m particularly interested in and that I am following. One of them is House Bill 33. HB…
Who Should You Call as a Witness in Your Divorce Trial? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
When it comes to divorce trials, one of the most pivotal decisions you’ll make is who to call as a witness. Testimony from well-chosen witnesses can offer critical insights into…
Krajeski v. Krajeski – 2025 UT App 19 – Separate vs. Marital property
Krajeski v. Krajeski - 2025 UT App 19 Oral argument (Utah Court of Appeals archive): https://youtu.be/LoIy9N8wThc THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS TAMI KRAJESKI, Appellee, v. DAVID L. KRAJESKI, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230174-CA…
Is Therapy Necessary in Utah Divorce?: What You Should Consider
Therapy in the context of this post means “mental health therapy”; meeting with a licensed talking with a psychologist, psychiatrist, or another mental health provider. This kind of therapy is…
Toward Equal Child Custody Awards in Utah: Progress Made and Still to Be Made
Historically, in the state of Utah, and throughout the United States, cultural bias as to which parent is granted primary custody plays a major role in child custody decisions. Originally,…
How Does Fraudulently Filing for a Protective Order Often Give the Applicants an Insurmountable Unfair Advantage in a Divorce or Child Custody Case?
By exploiting legal mechanisms designed to protect actual victims, here are ways that fraudulently seeking a protective order can create an unfair advantage: Immediate Restriction on Contact and Access Temporary…
The Difference Between Reunification Therapy and Family Systems Therapy By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Families often find themselves having to confront their conflict and dysfunction when a divorce is filed. When families face conflict or dysfunction, therapy can (can, not always will, but can)…
Too Many Fraudulently Protective Orders? – The Buck Stops with the Courts
It could have happened as alleged I find the applicant credible (but I won’t mention that a) I also find the respondent equally credible; or b) I can’t articulate a…
The Cause of “Protective Orders Disorder” and Its Cure
A previous post (The Cause of “Protective Orders Disorder” and How to Prevent It.) discussed the trouble caused by granting domestic violence protective orders without a preponderance of evidence. This…
The Cause of “Protective Orders Disorder” and How to Prevent It.
“Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” (Benjamin Franklin) It is undeniable that courts frequently take a "better safe…
If you are losing a child custody case you should be winning (due to lack of representation and inability to show the judge the truth of the situation), how do you turn things around? is there a way to find out what the judge is thinking? A way to know if you’re changing the judge’s mind?
Most of the answer to your question lies in your question itself. If you should be winning the arguments in your case but are losing “due to lack of representation,”…
It Has Been Suggested That We Have a Special Master Appointed in Our Case. ‘Good Idea?
No, and I’ll tell you why in the context of discussing a newly proposed Utah Rule of Civil Procedure which would be Rule 53A, entitled “Special masters for parenting disputes…
The Prejudicial Impact of False Abuse Accusations on Husbands and Fathers in Utah Divorce and Custody Disputes
Child custody disputes between parents (whether in a divorce case or between unmarried parents) are among the most bitterly fought cases, as parents fight over the right to be integral…
What Legal Safeguards Exist to Prevent Abuse of Domestic Violence Restraining Orders?
I am a divorce and family lawyer. So I know that there are laws on the books in my jurisdiction (Utah) and in other jurisdictions throughout the U.S. that make…
The Overreach of Utah Courts in Ordering Therapy in Divorce and Child Custody Cases
In contemporary Utah divorce and child custody disputes, courts frequently order parents and children to participate in reunification therapy, family systems therapy, or other forms of therapy and counseling. While…
Timeline of a Typical Utah Divorce Case: From Start to Finish
While every divorce case is unique, the following outlines the general stages and timeframes involved in a Utah divorce case. Understanding the basic timeline of a typical case in Utah…
What Is the Real Reason Divorce Rates Are So High in the Western World?
So many in the Western world who could be happily married have lost sight of the purpose of marriage, and so their marriages end in divorce not because of any…
Why Wouldn’t I Speak Freely With a Law Enforcement Officer if I Have Nothing to Hide and the Officer Seems Sincere in His Questioning?
There are some genuinely nice men and women serving in law enforcement. That stated, any time when a law enforcement officer is asking you questions, be aware that 1) law…
How Do I Get Full Custody of My Child From a Bad Mother?
Ideally, with overwhelming amounts of compelling, objectively verifiable evidence that 1) the mother is unfit to exercise custody of the child; and 2) you are fit to exercise custody of the child. Why overwhelming…
Your divorce Case Deadlines Will Not Wait By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant.
Divorce is one of the most difficult things that someone can experience. Many in the field of psychology rank divorce just behind a spouse’s death on lists of the most…
If My Ex-husband Quit His Job to Avoid Alimony Does He Still Have to Pay Alimony?
If a spouse (husband or wife) is ordered by the court to pay alimony but then quits his/her job and then tries to claim “I can’t pay alimony because I…
How Can Family Courts Claim to Comply With the Equal Protection Clause When Fathers Receive Primary Custody in Less Than 20% of Cases?
Good point, and good question. Although the amount of time fathers are being awarded with their children is increasing in child custody dispute cases (and has been for the past…
What to Do When Your Ex Is Threatening to Take Me Back to Court to Change Custody or Reduce Parent-Time
I get calls about this frequently from former and from brand new clients: it may have been half a year or more since the child custody case was resolved, either…
Is It True That Some Men Pay Their Wives to Avoid Giving up Their House During Divorce Proceedings or Other Agreements?
Yes, it’s true; this happens sometimes. But more broadly speaking, there are all kinds of situations in divorce where both husbands and wives, fathers and mothers make extortionate deals to…
Can a Parent Send a Third Party for Child Pick Up for Parenting Time if It’s Not a Part of a Utah Custody and Parent-Time Court Order?
If there is no court order that addresses and controls the question of who can pick up or drop off the children in connection with custody and parent time exchanges,…
2024 UT App 169 – Ward v. McGarry – imputation of income
2024 UT App 169 - Ward v. McGarry THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS SARA WARD, Appellant, v. MEREDITH MCGARRY, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230365-CA Filed November 15, 2024 Third District Court,…
Wallace v. Wallace – 2024 UT App 164 – Custody, Non-disparagement
Wallace v. Wallace - 2024 UT App 164 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JAMES DOUGLAS WALLACE, Appellee, v. JOANNA JUNE WALLACE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220559-CA Filed November 15, 2024 Third…
Small v. Small – 2024 UT App 173 URE 408 and statute of frauds
Small v. Small - 2024 UT App 173 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS NATHAN DALE SMALL, Appellant, v. TRISHA DAWN SMALL, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230487-CA Filed November 29, 2024 First…
A Third Party Refused to Return Child to the Child’s Mother, the Sole Custodian. So Mother Called Law Enforcement Seeking Assistance. But They Refused to Get Involved Saying It’s a Civil Matter. Is That True?
I can't speak to what the law is in all jurisdictions, but I can speak to what the law is in Utah on this subject based upon my experience and…
The Voice of Reason in a Discussion of Domestic Violence and Child Custody
On October 31, 2024, the Utah Court of Appeals issued it opinion in the case of Lerman v. Lerman (2024 UT App 155). It is a decision Utah sorely needed for how to…
Chlarson v. Chlarson – 2024 UT App 160 – Divorce and Military Retirement
Chlarson v. Chlarson - 2024 UT App 160 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JUSTIN THOMAS CHLARSON, Appellant, v. JACQUELINE NICOLE CHLARSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230742-CA Filed November 7, 2024 Second…
Godfrey v. Godfrey – 2024 UT App 156 – Broad discretion, Abuse of discretion
2024 UT App 156 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS AMANDA GODFREY, Appellee, v. RANDY GODFREY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210871-CA Filed October 31, 2024 Third District Court, Silver Summit Department The…