2024 UT App 52 – In re A.S. – child neglect, photographing genitals
2024 UT App 52 - In re A.S. THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF A.S. AND J.S., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE.…
2024 UT App 51 – Bailey v. Bailey – evidence, sanctions
2024 UT App 51 - Bailey v. Bailey THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS AMY L. BAILEY, Appellee, v. DANNY RAY BAILEY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220534-CA Filed April 11, 2024 Second…
What Are My Chances of Gaining Full or Primary Custody of My Child as a Father?
First, you need ask a different question before you get to the question of a father’s chances of winning full or primary custody of children in divorce. The question should…
What Is the Benefit of a Legal Separation (Separate Maintenance) or a Temporary Separation Order in Utah?
Many people ask what the benefits of a legal separation are. Aside from the obvious "it gives us the option of staying together, if we want to," are there other…
Do Many Women Lie About DV in Divorce and Child Custody Court Cases?
Yes. Many women (not all, but many more than we'd like to believe unquestionably lie and make outright false or grossly exaggerated domestic violence claims. The temptation to tell such…
Why Condemn Children to Sole Custody Awards When They Have Two Fit Parents?
One of the arguments that some fathers make when they encounter the double standard applied to mothers and fathers in child custody disputes (resulting in a denial of equal legal…
Mother Made False Accusations Against a Father to Win Custody and Had a Restraining Order Put in Place With No Evidence to Back Her Reason, Can This Be Overturned?
Can it be overturned? It is possible. Will it be overturned? The odds don’t favor Dad. While some fathers who are falsely accused do obtain vindication, the odds are against…
Have You Heard That Fathers Defeat Mothers’ Claims of DV and Child Abuse by Claiming Parental Alienation?
We all know the aphorism, "If it looks/sounds to good to be true, it probably is [not true]." This also means, however, that if it looks/sounds too 𝙗𝙖𝙙 to be true, it…
What Assumptions Can You Make About Someone Who Has Been Divorced Twice?
You can assume whatever you want about anyone or anything, but that does not mean your assumptions are accurate. And there is this from Merriam-Webster: “Although presume and assume both…
I Am Going through a Custody Battle and the Other Parent Is Making False Statements About Me in Court. What Can I Do to Protect Myself and My Child?
If you want just my direct answer to this question, skip to the last paragraph, but I submit that you’ll have a much better understanding of the answer if you…
2024 UT App 28 – Smith v. Smith
2024 UT App 28 - Smith v. Smith THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JACQUELINE P. SMITH, Appellee, v. DANIEL H. SMITH, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220697-CA Filed March 7, 2024 Third…
Can Child Support (Whether Prospectively or Retrospectively) Be Waived by the Child Support Payee?
The easiest of these two questions to answer is the second one, i.e., “Can child support be waiver retrospectively by the child support payee? The answer is yes, if the…
Is Court-Ordered Therapy Over-Used? By Braxton Mounteer, legal assistant.
Whether you believe that everyone needs (or could benefit from) therapy or that it is only for the most dysfunctional families, you, like most people, likely agree some therapy has…
Should You Ask for a Psychological Evaluation in Your Divorce Case? By Braxton Mounteer
The point of a psychological evaluation isn’t to establish if someone merely suffers from any mental or emotional disorder or disorders, but to help determine whether such disorders, if they…
Why Hiding Your Money in a Divorce and/or Child Support Court Case Won’t Work (and why people still try) By Braxton Mounteer
When those who will be ordered to divide assets with a spouse and/or pay child and/or spousal support (alimony) confront the matter, many try to lie about and to misrepresent their…
Why won’t courts test competing custody and parent-time proposals during the pretrial phase of a case?
Do you want to know where the real money is most often made in divorce and family law cases? Child custody and parent-time disputes, hands down. Rarely do the parents…
Is There a Primary Parent in Joint Custody in Utah Which Is Also Known as “Equal” or “50/50” Custody?
Utah, like many states, has struggled with the very concept of equal (“50/50”) custody of children for years. While progress has been made (especially in the past few years), we…
What Must or Should I Do In This Situation?
What do I do If custody order says visitation is from 4 - 8 meeting at police station when there is no school but if there is school that day…
My spouse is threatening to take the children away, but I’ve done nothing wrong. What can I do to protect them and me?
What do you do when your spouse threatens to walk out and take the children even though you have been an equal and contributing partner in the marriage? It is…
What are the child custody factors that judges consider?
What are the child custody factors that judges consider when determining what's in a child's best interest in custody disputes according to Utah’s family law statutes? The main factors are…
CPS Has Encouraged Parental Alienation Before My Parental Rights Have Been Taken, My Public Defender Has Not Been Representing Me the Way He Was Supposed to Be, but I Didn’t Know Until Now. What Can I Do?
There are plenty of things you can do (plenty of activity in which you can engage), but whether any of it will do any good is the question. The answer…
Is mom deemed to be unfit or unstable if she’s going to school to better her career for a better living for her two year old child while temporarily receiving unemployment benefits. Can mom still be granted joint custody with the other parent?
I am a divorce and family lawyer. I think you’d be hard-pressed to find a court anywhere in this country (USA) that would consider a mother temporarily receiving unemployment benefits…
House Bill 157 (HB0157 (utah.gov)), “Child Custody Factor Amendments”.
This post discusses another proposed family law bill under consideration for the 2024 Utah legislative session, House Bill 157 (HB0157 (utah.gov)), “Child Custody Factor Amendments”. This bill, if passed, would…
H.B. 194
Another potential law up for consideration in the 2024 Utah legislative session is H.B. 194. This bill would, if passed, amend provisions relating to adoption and child placement by amending the…
Why Hiding or Misrepresenting Your Income in a Divorce and/or Child Support Court Case Won’t Work (and why people still try) By Braxton Mounteer
When those who realize they may be ordered to pay child and/or spousal support (alimony) confront the matter, many try to lie about and to misrepresent their income in the hope…
House Bill 140 (HB0140 (utah.gov)), “Amendments to Custody and Parent-Time”
Today’s post on proposed family law legislation under consideration during the 2024 Utah legislative session is House Bill 140 (HB0140 (utah.gov)), “Amendments to Custody and Parent-Time”. This bill, according to…
H.B. 20 “Parental Rights Amendments”
Today’s blog post treats House Bill 20, one of several proposed family law-related pieces of legislation for the 2024 Utah legislative session. H.B. 20 is entitled “Parental Rights Amendments” According…
Allegations of Child Abuse vs. Allegations of Parental Alienation
Here's a very, very short news report on the subject of when allegations of child abuse are countered with allegations of parental alienation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=44hJ8zWRrik I welcome sincere and rational comments…
A.W. v. Marelli – 2024 UT App 8 – infliction of emotional distress
A.W. v. Marelli - 2024 UT App 8 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS A.W., Appellant, v. MILLIE MARELLI, Appellee. Opinion No. 20220207-CA Filed January 19, 2024 Third District Court, Salt…
How do you survive if the narcissist won custody of your kids and you have to accept it?
Hard truths incoming. When dealing with a co-parent who is afflicted with a personality disorder, do these things, and do them all at the same time: 1) Examine your own…
Family Law Legislation for the 2024 Utah State Legislative Session
Here is a list of the current proposed family law legislation for the 2024 Utah State Legislative session, along with a (very) brief description of the proposed legislation. If you…
Parenting before, during, and divorce litigation By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Divorce is already hard enough on the parties involved, but it is even harder on the children of the recently separated family. I speak as a child of divorce, who…
Encourage Your Legislators to Vote Against H.B. (House Bill) 272 (2024 Utah General Legislative Session)
According to the "General Description" of H.B. 272, what's not to like?: Highlighted Provisions: This bill: ▸ defines terms; ▸ in certain proceedings involving child custody: specifies requirements for the admission of expert…
Does an ex-spouse have claims to properties purchased during the marriage but name is not on deed, deed states married man and no mention of the property or distribution in the divorce?
I can answer this question in the context of the law of Utah, which is the jurisdiction where I am licensed to practice divorce and family law. To learn the…
What happens to joint credit cards when you divorce?
In the jurisdiction where I practice divorce law (Utah), the law is NOT that joint debt incurred during the marriage will presumptively remain the debt of both spouses (and thus…
How to prepare for a consultation with a lawyer By Braxton Mounteer, legal assistant
You have just been served with a summons and complaint (or petition) for divorce. Now have to traverse the minefield that is finding a good divorce attorney. It's harder to find a…
Obstacles Fathers Face in Trying to Get Joint Custody of Their Children
I have been asked by a reader to answer two questions. The first: whether I believe courts generally apply a double standard in the treatment of mothers and fathers when…
Why do attorneys tell people not to talk to the police? What if I’m innocent or just want to help them?
Let’s discuss this principle in the context of DUIs, but the principle applies in any situation in which you could be questioned in regard to any crime. What is hard…
What’s wrong with divorce mediation in Utah?
Much. And much that you can prevent, once you know what to avoid, what to do, and why. Profiteering mediators. It’s hard to find anyone selling goods or services these days…
I Can Prepare a Prenuptial Agreement for You, but With Rare, Particular Exception, I Advise Against It.
Most attorney websites that contain “articles” on prenuptial agreements aren’t really articles but thinly veiled sales pitches for prenuptial agreements. This post is not one of those. I have always…
How To Talk To Your Former Spouse By Braxton Mounteer
Regardless of your feelings towards your ex-spouse, if you have children, you will have to talk or otherwise communicate to your ex (and do so often) about the minor children…
What happens in court if I file for divorce but my husband has an active case on me for child support? Will I get the child?
Whether you “get the child” (meaning whether you will be awarded physical custody of the child) has little to no relevance to the fact that your spouse is seeking child…
Divorce and Social Media By Braxton Mounteer
Most people fundamentally misunderstand what the Internet and social media are. Many believe that social media is a web of interconnections where you can send and receive updates about your…
How does filing for divorce affect relationships with family members and friends who don’t agree with the decision? Do people tend to choose sides?
How does filing for divorce affect relationships with family members and friends who don't agree with the decision? Poorly, generally. That should come as no surprise. Do people tend to…
Divorce Mediation – To Good to Be True (For Most People)
I know you want to believe that divorce mediation is the trick to a fast, easy, cheap, amicable divorce. I know you want to believe this, and we know why.…
2023 UT App 137 – Lobendahn v. Lobendahn – petition to modify custody
2023 UT App 137 - Lobendahn v. Lobendahn THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MARCUS JAMES LOBENDAHN, Appellant and Cross-appellee, v. LEEYEN MOEVAI LOBENDAHN, Appellee and Cross-appellant. Opinion No. 20210278-CA…
Some hard truths about divorce litigation in Utah.
To those of you who ask, “How did I lose that argument in my divorce case? The judge couldn’t say why he/she believed my witness(es) over my spouse’s witness(es)!”: A district…
Client Red Flags By Braxton Mounteer
In my time as a legal assistant in the family law profession, I have observed many different kinds of client behaviors, some better than others. Those behaviors that cause the…
Evidence and Honesty By Braxton Mounteer
You have just decided to file for divorce. Or perhaps you have been served with divorce papers. At some point early on in the process you will likely think to…
Does it not feel weird to anyone that a parent who does not get child custody has to pay child support to the other parent who is enjoying the kids?
I think I know why you think it’s weird. Why have the children live with one parent instead both parents on an equal custody basis? In other words, “I’ll bear…
