Can you go back to your ex-spouse after a divorce?
Yes, there is no law (I know of in any jurisdiction of which I am aware, but check in your jurisdiction to be sure) against a divorced couple resuming a…
How can I help my stepdaughter get away from an abusive mother?
How can I help my 12-year-old step daughter get away from an emotionally abusive mother? Tell the child’s father (your husband) about the trouble and have him handle it. It’s…
Is it wrong for a parent to go to their adult child for emotional support?
Is it wrong for a parent to go to their adult child for emotional support concerning the parent’s marriage? I am a divorce and family lawyer and a parent, but…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 45
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant I work for a divorce attorney, but I am not pro divorce. I understand that if there were no divorces I would be “out of…
How will it affect children to switch schools every other school year?
How will it affect children to switch back and forth to schools every other school year due to child custody agreement between parents who live in different states? Probably not…
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still favor the mother?
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still lean towards full custody to the mother? [Note: I am a divorce lawyer of 25 years. I am not bitter about…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 44: Mountains
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant One prominent geographical feature of Utah (where I am a legal assistant for a divorce attorney) is the mountains that surround the cities and towns…
How does being a child of divorce change the way you approach marriage?
I saw something on Facebook recently that is applicable here. Two brothers had followed divergent paths into adulthood. One was a lonely alcoholic bum. The other was a successful and…
What should the child support award be if my ex makes $1,200 per week?
Should I be receiving more than $300 a month in child support if my ex-husband makes $1,200 per week? Each jurisdiction has different child support laws and rules, but I…
What if your client gets custody when they should not have, due to you?
What should you do if you represented a client in a divorce who should not have gotten the kids, but got them due to your ability? We have a word…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 43: Law Offices
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant One thing that I have noticed in my time as a legal assistant to a divorce attorney is that most law offices are difficult to…
What is a CMA?
This blog post was written by a real estate agent for us. CMA stands for Comparative Market Analysis and is a report meant to reflect the market value of a…
Can I force my spouse to divorce me?
I know of no legal way to force your spouse to filed for divorce against you, but you may not be aware of the fact that your spouse cannot prevent…
Can a parent take kids out of state while divorce is pending?
Can a parent who has filed for divorce and moved out with her 2 children now take her children for a week to another state for Thanksgiving, or will it be…
How long after my divorce am I considered single?
I can’t speak for all jurisdictions, but for the jurisdiction where I practice divorce law (Utah), the answer is that you are considered single as soon as the court issues…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 42
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 42: Do you like divorce law? By Quinton Lister, legal assistant Often when I tell people I know that I am…
What are the most empirically robust factors that predict divorce?
What are the most empirically robust (causal) factors that predict marital dissolution (divorce)? I can give you my guess as to what I believe a rigorous study would reveal based…
Why isn’t 50/50 custody the default resolution in child custody cases?
I have studied this question throughout my career, and I've been a divorce and family lawyer for 25 years. If there is one family law question to which I know…
In a divorce, should children live with their favorite parent?
I can’t speak for all jurisdictions, but I can tell you that in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law (Utah), currently the child’s preference for one parent…
Twitchell v. Twitchell – 2022 UT App 49 – child custody and support
Twitchell v. Twitchell - 2022 UT App 49 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JAZMIN S. TWITCHELL, Appellee, V. JOSEPH N. TWITCHELL, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200546-CA Filed April 14, 2022 First…
Is it damaging for a child to witness a divorce/parents fighting constantly?
Is it damaging for a child to witness a divorce or witness their parents fighting constantly? Yes. Yes, of course. Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com | 801-466-9277 https://www.quora.com/Is-it-damaging-for-a-child-to-witness-a-divorce-or-witness-their-parents-fighting-constantly/answer/Eric-Johnson-311
Widdison v. Widdison – 2022 UT App 46 – custody modification
Widdison v. Widdison - 2022 UT App 46 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS NICOLE WIDDISON, Appellant, LEON BRYANT WIDDISON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20200484-CA Filed April 7, 2022 Third District…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 39: Judges, part III
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant For those following along at home, you are aware that I have posted about judges before. Through the course of my current employment as a…
Knowles v. Knowles – UT App 47
Knowles v. Knowles - UT App 47 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DUANE CROFT KNOWLES, Appellant, v. CELIA FERN KNOWLES, Appellee. Opinion No. 20200032 Filed April 7, 2022 Second District…
How easy is it to change your child’s last name?
I cannot answer this question as it applies in all jurisdictions, but I can answer the question as it applies in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law…
Why is the Divorce Rate Higher than Ever?
First, the divorce rate is not currently higher than ever. It has been higher in the past. Unfortunately, the reason the divorce rate is declining is likely because fewer people…
How do I get help with a divorce?
Asking a question on Quora is a start and better than doing nothing (as so many people contemplating divorce do when they are too afraid to do anything), but only…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 38: Arb-med, part II
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant Last week I wrote a post about Arb-med and how it can benefit practitioners of law, particularly family law. In this post I will be…
Why do spurned spouses often refuse to cooperate in their own divorce proceedings?
Why do spurned spouses often refuse to participate in certain aspects of their own divorce proceedings despite the headache it creates for all parties involved? Spurned spouses sometimes refuse to…
Do you lose child custody if you have a bench warrant?
Not merely for having a warrant out for your arrest, no. Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com | 801-466-9277 https://www.quora.com/Do-you-lose-child-custody-if-you-have-a-bench-warrant/answer/Eric-Johnson-311
How can I enforce my power when I have final say in joint custody?
My sons father and I have joint custody but I have final say over his well being health and education. How can I enforce my power? If you are asking: “How do I enforce in good…
Pending divorce spouse has moved out and stopped paying bills.
Pending divorce spouse has moved out and stopped paying bills. Should I report to my attorney or just wait until we go to court? Report this to your attorney immediately. There are…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 36: Planning
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant Planning is something that I have always aspired to do in my life but being a legal assistant has helped me realize that there is…
Why are child support and custody attorneys so expensive?
Because the work: requires a lot of knowledge of both the written (and unwritten*) rules that most people don’t have the time, interest, or ability to learn and apply correctly;…
Which is the best matrimonial site in the USA with a free trial?
There are many websites with lots of free information that is good. The problem is being able to tell the good content from the bad. This is why, whether you…
What advice would you give to someone whose divorce is going to court?
What advice would you give to someone who has just become one of the parties in a divorce proceeding? #1. Know this: divorce law and the divorce process are almost…
How do you win a case against your ex for false accusations?
If you find an attorney who knows a sure-fire, fail-safe way to defend an ex-spouse or an ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend against “false accusations,” that attorney is likely a multimillionaire because possessing such…
Erickson v. Erickson – 2022 UT App 27
THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEAN ERICKSON, Appellee, v. JANICE ERICKSON, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200193-CA Filed March 3, 2022 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department The Honorable Todd M. Shaughnessy…
How can I help my step-child get away from an abusive mother?
How can I help my 12-year-old step-daughter get away from an emotionally abusive mother? Tell the child’s father (your husband) about the trouble and have him handle it. It’s not…
Hillam v. Hillam – 2022 UT App 24 – final and appealable ruling, rule 54(b)
2022 UT App 24 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JOHN DINSDALE HILLAM, Petitioner, v. TARA HILLAM, Respondent and Appellant, v. DUSTIN HANCOCK AS INVESTMENT TRUSTEE, Respondent and Appellee. Opinion No.…
True or false: Better to divorce than have a miserable life.
This blog post is in response to this question: I don't think it's bad to get a divorce. I think it's more unhealthy to have miserable lives. — Ginger Wynn. What are…
What is the best DIY book about divorce in the U.S.?
There isn’t one. There can’t be. I’ll explain why and what you can and should do if you want to go the DIY divorce by the book route. The main…
Hinds v Hinds-Holm – 2022 UT App 13 – child custody award factors
Hinds v Hinds-Holm - 2022 UT App 13 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BRADLEY HINDS, Appellee, v. RACHEL HINDS-HOLM, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200586-CA Filed January 27, 2022 Third District Court,…
What to do when child won’t comply with the custody award?
What will happen if the court ruled in favor of a mother to have the custody of her child but the child refuses to go with her and she prefers…
Why do spurned spouses refuse to participate in certain parts of divorce?
Why do spurned spouses often refuse to participate in certain aspects of their own divorce proceedings despite the headache it creates for all parties involved? Spurned spouses sometimes refuse to…
Reform that reforms nothing
Commencing May 21, 2022, a new rule of the Utah Rules of Civil Procedure will be in force: Rule 100A. While I love the intention behind Rule 100A, reviewing the…
What is the basis for everything I have to do for my Utah divorce case?
What is the legal basis for all the hoops I have to jump through in my Utah divorce case? This is a great question. It’s a question I often ask…
Do letters vouching for one’s character really matter?
My lawyer asked me to get letters of my character from my friends for family court to introduce as evidence, but do they really matter and is 12 enough? Do…
Does the respondent get a copy of a restraining order?
Yes, the respondent gets one, as long as the respondent can be found so that he/she can be handed, mailed, or electronically provided with a copy. Indeed, if a respondent…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 27: Beginnings
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant The old cliché of “Every end is really a beginning” has had me thinking the past couple of weeks. I think about phases in my…