Would you divorce if your spouse had a child before marriage without telling you?
Would you divorce your husband if he had a child with his last relationship without telling you? I do not believe that this would, alone, be reason to divorce your…
How can I protect my assets before getting married without prenup?
How can I protect my assets before getting married without prenup? Short answer: One option (not a very good one, frankly, but about the best there is under the circumstances…
The easy mediocre vs. the hard excellence: I hate this restaurant
Today’s post features Seth Godin’s blog (the link to his blog post is provided below). After you read it, ask yourself whether can you guess why this Seth Godin blog…
Why do pro se litigants fail so often?
Why do pro se litigants fail so often? And if you’re wondering what a pro se litigant is, here’s the definition: someone who argues his/her own case in a lawsuit,…
What advice would you give me before divorce, if I’m not in the wrong?
What advice would you give someone before a divorce, if it’s known it may happen and you’re not in the wrong? This is a very important question that too few…
Give my spouse half my retirement in divorce, or just ride it out?
If I have to give my spouse half of my retirement after a divorce, should I still go forward or just ride it out? Great question, but not for the…
Young v. Hagel – 2020 UT App 100 – Rule 73(c) appear or appoint counsel
2020 UT App 100 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JOSHUA J. YOUNG, Appellee, v. MICHAELA M. HAGEL, Appellant. Opinion No. 20190661-CA Filed June 25, 2020 Second District Court, Farmington Department…
Jensen v. Canon – 2020 UT App – tort of fraudulent nondisclosure and willful intent to deceive
2020 UT App 124 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JODI JENSEN, Appellant and Cross-appellee, v. GARY CANNON, Appellee and Cross-appellant. Opinion No. 20190433-CA Filed August 27, 2020 Third District Court,…
Some trade-offs are unavoidable
From Seth Godin: The magic of trade-offs If you make a laptop more powerful, the battery life will suffer and it will get heavier too. Trade-offs. If you make a…
Can I repair the relationship with an alienated family member after divorce?
When one’s former spouse alienated someone from their family, how can one repair the relationship with the family after the spouse is divorced? I am thankful for your question, and…
Why do lawyers like to handle large divorce settlements?
Why do lawyers like to handle large divorce settlements? The more complex and acrimonious the case and/or the more there is at stake, the more work there is to do.…
Do I owe my spouse of just a few months anything in divorce?
When a young couple divorces after only a month of marriage, should there ever be an expectation that one party owes anything to the other, even if they lived with…
What if you don’t get divorced and just move away?
What if you don’t get divorced and just move away? The risks and dangers in just up and moving away from (abandoning) your spouse are manifold. Here are a few…
How can I talk to a lawyer when I don’t have money to pay for one?
How can I talk to a lawyer when I don't have money to pay for one? Most jurisdictions have resources for consulting an attorney, even receiving certain kinds of legal…
What if you don’t get divorced and just move away?
What if you don’t get divorced and just move away? The risks and dangers in just up and moving away from (abandoning) your spouse are manifold. Here are a couple…
Can I get a cost-free divorce if, say, my spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive?
Can I get a cost-free divorce if, say, my spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive? In a sense, yes, but not because of a finding that your spouse “verbally and…
Utah Courts “Divorce Education for Children” program is free of charge
The Utah Courts provide a "Divorce Education for Children" program that is free of charge for children 9-12 years of age whose parents are divorcing. More information about the program…
What should you know as a woman about divorcing?
What should you know as a woman about divorcing? Consider the source of this answer, as it comes from a married (not divorced), male divorce lawyer. To many reading this,…
What does it take to get the court to award custody to the father?
What does it take to get the court to award custody to the father? Either: A) a miracle or B) the mother has to be so clearly an unfit parent…
Do Native American peoples get divorces?
Do Native American peoples get divorces? Married Native Americans can and do get divorces, as do Native Americans married to non Native Americans. The laws governing divorce of Native Americans…
Can one spouse or the other avoid paying taxes on a joint tax?
Can one spouse or the other avoid paying taxes on a joint tax? Tax law does not require married couples to file joint income tax returns simply by virtue of…
Are prenuptial agreements used only to avoid divorce settlements?
Are prenuptial agreements used only to avoid divorce settlements? Prenuptial agreements are used primarily to avoid the expense, the misery, and the waste of time divorce actions can (and usually…
Why do people need legal advisors if all the laws can be found on the Internet?
Why do people need legal advisors (I'm not referring to litigators) if all the laws can be found on the Internet? Good question, and the answer is simple and clear:…
How do courts view mothers who abandon their family during a divorce?
How does the court view mothers that abandon their family during a divorce? Generally, with disbelief, at first. Why? A few reasons. One, to its credit, our culture still holds…
“It’s pretty awful, but do you have a better alternative?”
“It’s pretty awful, but do you have a better alternative?” I was asked the following question in response to this answer I gave to a question on Quora.com: https://www.quora.com/What-are-some-dirty-secrets-a-lawyer-wishes-they-could-tell-us-but-can-t/answer/Eric-Johnson-311 Here…
Home Heartbreak: People Divulge the Home Details of Their Divorce
Home Heartbreak: People Divulge the Home Details of Their Divorce (from Porch.com https://porch.com/resource/home-heartbreak) Life is full of transitions. We all remember moving out of our childhood home. For many of…
What is a motion to bifurcate a divorce in Utah? Why should I care to know?
What is a motion to bifurcate a divorce in Utah, and why should I care to know? By Brian N. Godfrey, Legal Assistant A motion to bifurcate to dissolve your…
Spouse abused me emotionally, so I get more money in divorce now, right?
My spouse abused me emotionally, so I get more money in divorce now, right? Strongly believing or feeling that “I deserve” an unequal division of the marital estate does not…
Terrible Financial Thinking and Divorce
Terrible Financial Thinking and Divorce I recently came across a clickbait article filled with terrible thinking about the so-called financial “benefits” of divorce. Click here to read “7 Little-Known Financial…
Does the high U.S. divorce rate pose any problems to the economy?
Does the high U.S. divorce rate pose any problems to the economy? Divorce is unquestionably an economic detriment to individual family members and to the public at large. While the…
What are the dirty tricks your spouse can do to attack you during a divorce?
What are the dirty tricks your spouse and his/her lawyer can do to attack you during a divorce? Understand that while the tone of this answer to your question is…
Do lawyers write down their arguments in full, or just have brief notes?
Do lawyers write down their arguments in full, or just have brief notes? It depends upon the lawyer. And there are lawyers who use either or both methods to present…
New Developments in Utah Law Governing Termination of Alimony
New developments in Utah case law governing the termination of alimony with the case of Scott v. Scott. In this case, the ex-husband moved to terminate alimony and won. The…
Is there a way to find an attorney’s win-loss record?
Is there a way to find an attorney's win-loss record? A way to find out the percentage of cases won by an attorney? Yes, but . . . Yes, but…
Is it unreasonable to refuse to reside in the same town where your ex-spouse lives?
Is it unreasonable to refuse to buy a home in the same town or city that an ex-spouse lives in even though it is an affordable location? Not if residing…
How can I calm my nerves?
How can I calm my nerves? I hired an attorney to help with my child custody case against my BPD ex. I’m so scared of what he will do when…
What do real lawyers think about the principles in the TV show “Suits”?
What do real lawyers think about the principles in the TV show Suits? As in all walks of life, there are those who are scrupulously honest and decent, and there…
State v. Norton – 2020 UT 46 – Utah Supreme Court
https://www.utcourts.gov/opinions/supopin/State%20v.%20Norton20200713_20180514_46.pdf This opinion is subject to revision before final publication in the Pacific Reporter 2020 UT 46 IN THE SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF UTAH STATE OF UTAH, Respondent,…
What happens if you are served divorce papers yet don’t sign them?
What happens if you are served divorce papers yet don’t sign them? I will answer this question as it applies in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce law (Utah): If…
How many back and forth claims and counterclaims are allowed in a child custody battle?
How many back and forth claims and counterclaims are allowed in a child custody battle? Here’s one way to count (I’ll use the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family…
I hired an attorney. I’m so scared how my ex will react.
How can I calm my nerves? I hired an attorney to help with my child custody case against my BPD ex. I’m so scared of what he will do when…
If we agree on our divorce terms, do we need attorneys?
If we agree on our divorce terms, do we need attorneys? In a less complicated divorce, where each party has already agreed to the split of assets, do they each…
Would a child deal better with constantly fighting or divorced parents?
"Do you think a child would deal better with constantly fighting parents or divorced parents?" I have been asked to answer this question, but as a divorce lawyer (not someone…
Who files for divorce more? Men or Women? Why?
Who files for divorce more? Men or Women? Why? Women file more In the United State of America, although the percentages vary depending on the study, the research is unanimous in…
Who initiates divorce more often? Husbands or wives?
Who initiates divorce more often? Husbands or wives? In the United State of America, although the percentages vary depending on the study, the research is unanimous in finding that wives initiate divorce more…
How much are the typical fees for a divorce?
How much are the typical fees for a divorce? According to lawyers.com, as reported June 18, 2019, the average cost of a divorce in my jurisdiction where I practice divorce…
Should I review the proposed settlement agreement with my own lawyer?
In a less complicated divorce, where each party has already agreed to the split of assets, do they each need to hire their own attorney, and why or why not?…
For divorced parents: why isn’t your custody award 50/50?
For divorced parents: why isn't your custody award 50/50? Concisely (and in no particular order): sometimes a parent’s job, physical or mental/emotional disabilities, misconduct (like domestic violence, child abuse, or…
Can a mother keeping the children from the father work against in custody litigation?
Can a mother not allowing the father to see his child without reason work against her in litigation for joint custody? Would the father having children from another relationship living…
Do Pro Se Divorce Parties Succeed?
Do Pro Se Divorce Parties Succeed? Do you know of anyone who decided to represent themselves pro se when the other party had an attorney in a family law case,…