What is the safest way to break up with an abusive partner?
What is the safest way to break up with an abusive partner? I heard many horror stories and afraid I might be next. While there is no one "proper" way…
What Legal Research Is and Why It’s Important to Your Case
Most clients have no idea how much work takes place behind the scenes at most law firms. More than the copious phone calls, emails and text messages back and forth…
Doing the Work on Your Case Is Hard, and You Must Help Do It
Doing the Work on Your Case Is Hard, and the Client Must Help Do It By Phillip Aguirre, Paralegal Believe it or not, even though you hire a lawyer, that…
Can anyone go into a courtroom and sit in the back seat and just watch?
With the exception of a few court proceedings that are not open to the public (some states, such as the one where I reside (Utah) do not open juvenile court…
Dealing with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
QUESTION: What are some pointers that you may have in getting along with your ex-spouse to be during the process of a divorce? What advice do you have to keep…
LeFevre v. Mackelprang – 2019 UT App 42 – joint custody analysis
2019 UT App 42 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS - LeFevre v. Mackelprang AMELIA GAYATREE LEFEVRE, Appellee, v. CASEY LEE MACKELPRANG, Appellant. Opinion No. 20171006-CA Filed March 28, 2019…
Good and Bad Advice About Preparing for Mediation
There's a lot of advice on how to prepare for and go to mediation successfully. But how good is the advice? Let's find out. Read this article about how to…
Marroquin v. Marroquin – 2019 UT App 38 – business valuation, findings
Marroquin v Marroquin - 2019 UT App 38 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS HEATHER MARROQUIN, Appellant, v. RENSON AMILICAR MARROQUIN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170454-CA Filed March 14, 2019 Third District…
What are top things you wish your clients would stop saying/doing?
As a lawyer, what are top things you wish your clients would stop saying/doing? What a great question. Thank you for asking. I have a three-part answer: 1) for all…
What can I do to keep my self busy now that I am getting divorced?
What can I do to keep my self busy now that I am getting divorced? On the legal side of your life: Pour a good portion of your extra time…
A real client’s questions about divorce settlement and mediation
Here is a real client’s questions about divorce settlement and mediation. Don't worry, I've removed the names and changed out the details to protect confidentiality. This client asked a lot…
Mental Health Professionals: How to Make Good (and honest) Use of Them in Divorce and Child Custody
Many spouses and parents going through a divorce and child custody case may believe there is value in using mental health professionals. This can be true, if you use mental…
Computer and Online Evidence in Divorce and Child Custody Cases
I learned from this article (see the link below) a few things I didn't know about computer and online evidence in divorce and child custody cases. You'd be wise to read…
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable?
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable? Said parent is losing time with her child because her…
How can I prepare myself mentally for divorce?
I will answer your question based upon the presumption that you have already gone through the agonizing process of determining that you need to divorce. In other words, I will not treat…
Can people with few assets and no children really do their own divorce?
Yes. And I’m a man who makes his living as a divorce lawyer. You would think I’d be one of the last people to tell you that there are many…
What useful things can Jeff Bezos’s divorce can teach us
Question: Amazon boss Jeff Bezos and wife MacKenzie are divorcing. Who do you think will get the custody of their 4 kids? I don’t know enough about the family’s circumstances…
Hartvigsen v. Hartvigsen – 2018 UT App 238 – alimony, marital property
2018 UT App 238 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DANIELLE MARIE HARTVIGSEN, Appellant, v. RICHARD MYERS HARTVIGSEN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20160069-CA Filed December 28, 2018 Fourth District Court, Provo Department…
Have we reached the point where mothers are not immediately deemed the best candidates for child custody?
Almost, but not yet. Until recently, it wasn’t just a cultural norm, but a legal principle that presumed during a child's "tender" years (generally regarded as the age of four…
What can you do when the system is clearly against you?
What are options for a parent who’s ex works the judicial system with the purpose of making the parent miserable? Said parent is losing time with her child because her…
Is it ever a good idea to postpone a divorce for the ‘children’s sake’?
Ever? Certainly. Always? No. (and remember: though I’m a divorce lawyer, that does not mean I am a raving fan of divorce. I’m not. Rarely does even the “best divorce”…
Morality Clause: Can Include One in My Decree of Divorce?
Can I successfully put a morality clause in a custody agreement to prevent my child from a living arrangement where my ex is living with a girlfriend? This practice is…
What advice do you have for a man who just found out his wife wants to divorce him?
I’m a divorce lawyer, but I would like respond to your question both as a lawyer and as a spouse. First, if learning your wife wants a divorce comes as…
When do you know your spouse is lying?
When you can independently verify it; otherwise, there is, as of yet, no perfectly accurate way to know whether someone is lying. Even the most sophisticated “lie detection” equipment (which…
My list of YouTube videos I like best on successful depositions
Here it is: my list of YouTube videos that I like best on how to identify, prepare for, and give a successful deposition. #1 Attorney Richard LaGarde has spent over thirty-five…
Cool as a Cucumber : How to Testify Successfully at Your Deposition or in Court in a Utah Domestic Relations Case
Cool as a cucumber[1]. Is that you? It can be. When it comes to testifying, follow the Golden Rules: 1. Always tell the truth. 2. Simply telling the truth is not…
11 Questions to Ask Before Getting a Divorce (from the New York Times)
11 Questions to Ask Before Getting a Divorce By Eric V Copage May 18, 2017, New York Times Common sense suggests that asking the right questions before getting married can…
Why are there no penalties for false allegations in divorce and custody issues?
Why are there no penalties for false allegations in divorce and custody issues? First, there are penalties meted out; in my opinion few (far too few) in law enforcement, child…
What is a simple truth about divorce that most people ignore?
I hate to write this, but I can’t deny it: One simple truth about divorce that most people ignore is that the legal system does a pretty lousy job of…
In your experience, how often do divorces get resolved “amicably” after being filed in court?
Some couples actually realize that while their marriage is a failure, that does not mean that they are bad people. They can care enough about each other to divorce amicably.…
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce?
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce? There are two types of men who ask this question:…
How to Fix Bad Credit After a Divorce (from LendEdu.com)
How to Fix Bad Credit After a Divorce https://lendedu.com/blog/how-to-fix-bad-credit-after-a-divorce - Jeff Gitlen October 17, 2018 Our research, news, ratings, and assessments are scrutinized using strict editorial integrity. In full transparency, our company…
How do people generally react if asked to sign a prenuptial agreement?
How do people generally react if asked to sign a prenuptial agreement? More and more the response to a request to sign a prenuptial agreement is a willing one. Because…
What do I need to do before filing for divorce? (a useful checklist, with explanations)
What do I need to do before filing for divorce? When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many…
Do I have to pay witnesses to testify at my divorce trial?
If a witness won’t come to trial and testify for you voluntarily, then yes, you need to pay your witnesses. Expert witnesses set their own expert witness testimony fees. Some…
Divorce Preparedness: What do I need to do before filing for divorce?
When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many things you should consider, before filing for divorce I. Why…
Why do divorces take so long to finish?
Here are the reasons, as I see them, why too many divorce cases cost so much and take so long to finish (in no particular order): 1. Some divorce lawyers…
Why do judges say “don’t break court orders,” but then do nothing when the order is broken?
Why do judges tell people not to break court orders but then do nothing when the court order is broken? Reason #1: because of the principle of “easier said than…
What are the biggest challenges a divorce lawyer faces?
What is one of the biggest challenges of a Divorce lawyer? First, read Donald Baranski’s answer to this question (which provided below); it’s excellent, and any divorce client would be…
How does custody of children work if the parents live in different states?
How does custody of children work if the parents live in different states? I’ll answer this question in the context of Utah’s family law (I practice divorce and family law…
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children?
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children, when they could easily give the children two happy homes instead living in one miserable home? Mom…
What do divorce lawyers know about relationships that most people don’t know?
What do divorce lawyers know about relationships that most people don't know? People are generally far more dishonest in divorce than they let on. People who believe themselves to be…
What are some ways people who are getting divorced have hidden their assets?
What are some ways people who are getting divorced have hidden their assets? I have answered a question similar to this one previously on Quora: Eric Johnson's answer to: What's…
Why are divorce attorneys so expensive?
Why are divorce attorneys so expensive? Because we divorce lawyers (I am a divorce lawyer) generally disappoint the people they serve. Some causes of the disappointment are the lawyer’s fault,…
How can I prevent a divorce, if I am mentally unfit to go through it?
How can I refuse to divorce my wife now, as I just lost my sister, and my wife told me just before my sister died, that I will never see…
How Much Will My Divorce Cost? How Long Will It Take?
Good for you for coming here. You're grabbing the bull by the horns. You're lancing that boil. Let's get right to what you want to know. When contemplating a divorce,…
Why stay unhappily married for the sake of the kids?
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children, when they could easily give the children two happy homes instead living in one miserable home? Mom…
What are legal ways one can prevent having to pay spousal support in case of a divorce?
What are legal ways one can prevent having to pay spousal support in case of a divorce? Do you really mean “What are legally and equitably valid ways one can prevent having…
How to Avoid the Primrose Path in Divorce (if you have the will and the guts)
How to Avoid the Primrose Path in Divorce (if you have the will and the guts) It’s getting harder to stay in contact with reality. You have men who, as…
Smith v. Robinson – 2018 UT 30 – false allegations of sexual abuse
This opinion is subject to revision before final publication in the Pacific Reporter 2018 UT 30 IN THE SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF UTAH ROCIO SMITH, Appellant, v. KAYELYN…