Would you tell someone that his/her spouse is cheating?
Would you tell someone that his/her spouse is cheating? First, I need to make clear that my answer is in my capacity as just a member of the public. If…
When a lawyer drops a client, is the reason shared with the judge and/or opposing counsel (i.e., the client refused to be reasonable, etc.)?
When a lawyer drops a client, is the reason shared with the judge and/or opposing counsel (i.e., the client refused to be reasonable, etc.)? In Utah, where I practice divorce…
Utah Divorce Case Timeline Summary
Utah Divorce Case Timeline Summary The greatest influence on how long a divorce case takes is usually how much and how severely the parties fight over the issues. The more…
Brown v. Brown – 2020 UT App 146 – marital vs. non-marital assets
2020 UT App 146 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JERRY V. BROWN, Appellant, v. YVONNE A. BROWN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20190543 Filed October 29, 2020 Fourth District Court, Provo Department…
What to do before a divorce, if you’re not in the wrong
What advice would you give someone before a divorce, if it’s known it may happen and you’re not in the wrong? This is a very important question that too few…
Why do pro se litigants fail so often?
Why do pro se litigants fail so often? And if you’re wondering what a pro se litigant is, here’s the definition: someone who argues his/her own case in a lawsuit,…
What advice would you give me before divorce, if I’m not in the wrong?
What advice would you give someone before a divorce, if it’s known it may happen and you’re not in the wrong? This is a very important question that too few…
Give my spouse half my retirement in divorce, or just ride it out?
If I have to give my spouse half of my retirement after a divorce, should I still go forward or just ride it out? Great question, but not for the…
Bjarnson v. Bjarnson – 2020 UT App 141 – prospective increase in alimony based upon uncertain future event
2020 UT App 141 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS HUGH LYNN BJARNSON, Appellant, v. JENNIFER LOU BJARNSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20190734-CA Filed October 16, 2020 Fourth District Court, Provo…
Young v. Hagel – 2020 UT App 100 – Rule 73(c) appear or appoint counsel
2020 UT App 100 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JOSHUA J. YOUNG, Appellee, v. MICHAELA M. HAGEL, Appellant. Opinion No. 20190661-CA Filed June 25, 2020 Second District Court, Farmington Department…
Jensen v. Canon – 2020 UT App – tort of fraudulent nondisclosure and willful intent to deceive
2020 UT App 124 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JODI JENSEN, Appellant and Cross-appellee, v. GARY CANNON, Appellee and Cross-appellant. Opinion No. 20190433-CA Filed August 27, 2020 Third District Court,…
Some trade-offs are unavoidable
From Seth Godin: The magic of trade-offs If you make a laptop more powerful, the battery life will suffer and it will get heavier too. Trade-offs. If you make a…
Can I repair the relationship with an alienated family member after divorce?
When one’s former spouse alienated someone from their family, how can one repair the relationship with the family after the spouse is divorced? I am thankful for your question, and…
What if you don’t get divorced and just move away?
What if you don’t get divorced and just move away? The risks and dangers in just up and moving away from (abandoning) your spouse are manifold. Here are a few…
How can I talk to a lawyer when I don’t have money to pay for one?
How can I talk to a lawyer when I don't have money to pay for one? Most jurisdictions have resources for consulting an attorney, even receiving certain kinds of legal…
What if you don’t get divorced and just move away?
What if you don’t get divorced and just move away? The risks and dangers in just up and moving away from (abandoning) your spouse are manifold. Here are a couple…
Can I get a cost-free divorce if, say, my spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive?
Can I get a cost-free divorce if, say, my spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive? In a sense, yes, but not because of a finding that your spouse “verbally and…
Utah Courts “Divorce Education for Children” program is free of charge
The Utah Courts provide a "Divorce Education for Children" program that is free of charge for children 9-12 years of age whose parents are divorcing. More information about the program…
What should you know as a woman about divorcing?
What should you know as a woman about divorcing? Consider the source of this answer, as it comes from a married (not divorced), male divorce lawyer. To many reading this,…
What does it take to get the court to award custody to the father?
What does it take to get the court to award custody to the father? Either: A) a miracle or B) the mother has to be so clearly an unfit parent…
Can one spouse or the other avoid paying taxes on a joint tax?
Can one spouse or the other avoid paying taxes on a joint tax? Tax law does not require married couples to file joint income tax returns simply by virtue of…
Are prenuptial agreements used only to avoid divorce settlements?
Are prenuptial agreements used only to avoid divorce settlements? Prenuptial agreements are used primarily to avoid the expense, the misery, and the waste of time divorce actions can (and usually…
Why do people need legal advisors if all the laws can be found on the Internet?
Why do people need legal advisors (I'm not referring to litigators) if all the laws can be found on the Internet? Good question, and the answer is simple and clear:…
How do courts view mothers who abandon their family during a divorce?
How does the court view mothers that abandon their family during a divorce? Generally, with disbelief, at first. Why? A few reasons. One, to its credit, our culture still holds…
“It’s pretty awful, but do you have a better alternative?”
“It’s pretty awful, but do you have a better alternative?” I was asked the following question in response to this answer I gave to a question on Quora.com: https://www.quora.com/What-are-some-dirty-secrets-a-lawyer-wishes-they-could-tell-us-but-can-t/answer/Eric-Johnson-311 Here…
Home Heartbreak: People Divulge the Home Details of Their Divorce
Home Heartbreak: People Divulge the Home Details of Their Divorce (from Porch.com https://porch.com/resource/home-heartbreak) Life is full of transitions. We all remember moving out of our childhood home. For many of…
Spouse abused me emotionally, so I get more money in divorce now, right?
My spouse abused me emotionally, so I get more money in divorce now, right? Strongly believing or feeling that “I deserve” an unequal division of the marital estate does not…
Terrible Financial Thinking and Divorce
Terrible Financial Thinking and Divorce I recently came across a clickbait article filled with terrible thinking about the so-called financial “benefits” of divorce. Click here to read “7 Little-Known Financial…
Does the high U.S. divorce rate pose any problems to the economy?
Does the high U.S. divorce rate pose any problems to the economy? Divorce is unquestionably an economic detriment to individual family members and to the public at large. While the…
What are the dirty tricks your spouse can do to attack you during a divorce?
What are the dirty tricks your spouse and his/her lawyer can do to attack you during a divorce? Understand that while the tone of this answer to your question is…
Why do people in the United States get divorced so much? 40-50% sounds so extreme.
Why do people in the United States get divorced so much? A 40-50% divorce rate sounds so extreme. First, know up front that there are, of course, some people who…
How can I calm my nerves?
How can I calm my nerves? I hired an attorney to help with my child custody case against my BPD ex. I’m so scared of what he will do when…
I hired an attorney. I’m so scared how my ex will react.
How can I calm my nerves? I hired an attorney to help with my child custody case against my BPD ex. I’m so scared of what he will do when…
If we agree on our divorce terms, do we need attorneys?
If we agree on our divorce terms, do we need attorneys? In a less complicated divorce, where each party has already agreed to the split of assets, do they each…
Would a child deal better with constantly fighting or divorced parents?
"Do you think a child would deal better with constantly fighting parents or divorced parents?" I have been asked to answer this question, but as a divorce lawyer (not someone…
Why does a parent asking questions turn into a trial?
Why does a parent asking questions turn into a trial? A parent questioning a child often turns into “a trial” when either 1) the child questioned is guilty of wrongdoing…
Can I sell or trade in the family car while divorce proceedings are pending?
Can I sell or trade in the family car while divorce proceedings are pending? How would a spouse in process of divorce go about trading her van that is in…
Who initiates divorce more often? Husbands or wives?
Who initiates divorce more often? Husbands or wives? In the United State of America, although the percentages vary depending on the study, the research is unanimous in finding that wives initiate divorce more…
How much are the typical fees for a divorce?
How much are the typical fees for a divorce? According to lawyers.com, as reported June 18, 2019, the average cost of a divorce in my jurisdiction where I practice divorce…
Should I review the proposed settlement agreement with my own lawyer?
In a less complicated divorce, where each party has already agreed to the split of assets, do they each need to hire their own attorney, and why or why not?…
For divorced parents: why isn’t your custody award 50/50?
For divorced parents: why isn't your custody award 50/50? Concisely (and in no particular order): sometimes a parent’s job, physical or mental/emotional disabilities, misconduct (like domestic violence, child abuse, or…
Can a mother keeping the children from the father work against in custody litigation?
Can a mother not allowing the father to see his child without reason work against her in litigation for joint custody? Would the father having children from another relationship living…
Do Pro Se Divorce Parties Succeed?
Do Pro Se Divorce Parties Succeed? Do you know of anyone who decided to represent themselves pro se when the other party had an attorney in a family law case,…
If you haven’t seen “Erasing Family” and you’re going through a child custody dispute
If you haven’t seen "Erasing Family" and you’re going through a child custody dispute, you should. You really should. Because you really don't have any idea what you're in for.…
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children?
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children? In my opinion: Institute a “loser pays the prevailing party’s attorney’s fees” rule. make divorce…
Have any tips for representing yourself in family court?
Have any tips for representing yourself in family court? Do you have a success story as a pro se litigant? First, my answer comes from the perspective of a divorce…
Do I have a chance in divorce court without a lawyer? Do I really need one?
A chance? Sure. You have a chance. And you have a chance of winning the lottery, just not a very good chance of it. You may not want to read…
Should we award custody to the parent who is a lower risk for COVID-19?
Should we award custody to the parent who is a lower risk for COVID-19? Is it reasonable to give custody to the parent who is a lower health risk to…
Why is it so common for parents to become outright enemies after divorce?
Why is it so common for parents to become outright enemies after a divorce? I have represented people in divorce who were pure as the driven snow, innocent as lambs,…
What’s the difference between legal custody and physical custody?
Here's a question many parents have: what is the legal definition of “joint legal custody” and “joint physical custody” in Utah when it comes to the custody of children? Is…