How So-Called Temporary Orders Subtly Decide Your Case

“Temporary orders” sound harmless. Interim. A placeholder until the whole case gets decided. That’s not how they function in the real world. In virtually every Utah divorce and child custody…

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The “Easy Way Out” That Can Cost You Your Kids in Utah: Why Pleas in Abeyance in DV Cases and Innocence Don’t Mix

You’re sitting there with a domestic violence (DV) criminal charge hanging over your head. And you’re innocent. Yet you’re scared. You're distressed. You’re tired. You want it over. Then comes the…

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Can You Win Child Custody If Someone Else Is Raising Your Kids During the Week?

This question is more common than you might think. Some may be in this situation: “I want custody for stability.” “I need custody because it affects support.” “I’m the better…

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Hiding Cryptocurrency in a Utah Divorce: Harder Than You Think, More Expensive Than It’s Worth

People hear “crypto” (cryptocurrency; Bitcoin, Ethereum, etc.) and assume “untraceable.” That assumption gets tested quickly in a divorce. In Utah divorce disputes over property division, cryptocurrency is treated like any…

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Using Smart Home Tech to Spy on a Spouse in a Utah Divorce Case?

The modern Utah home is a goldmine of digital data. In a divorce or child custody dispute, it often becomes something else: a surveillance system one spouse tries to weaponize…

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Pretrial Disclosures Matter in Utah Divorce Cases: Lessons from Prisbrey v. Prisbrey

There’s been (note the past tense) an assumption that creeps into a lot of divorce cases: If the evidence is important enough, the court will let it in. But in Prisbey v.…

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Why Most Divorce Case Settlement Offers Fail: They Ask for Too Much

Most people think settlement is where they finally get to ask for everything they want. It’s not. Settlement—especially in child custody disputes—is where you ask for what you could realistically…

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You Can’t Decide What You Haven’t Examined: What Most Utah Courts Knowingly Miss in Child Custody Decisions

The Missing Step Courts in child custody disputes routinely make determinations without ever hearing from the child directly—or even reviewing a complete and reliable record of someone who did. That…

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Military Divorce in Utah: Will You Lose Your TRICARE Coverage?

In Utah military divorces, TRICARE eligibility is governed by the rigid federal "20/20/20 rule," not state court discretion. This post breaks down the strict requirements for lifetime medical benefits, the…

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Everyone Loses When Courts Don’t Hear From the Child Directly

I. The Illusion of Protection In Utah child custody disputes, courts have (but should not have) a choice: hear from the child directly or receive their life story through a…

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The Social Media Trap: How One Facebook Post Can Impact Your Utah Child Custody Case

In a Utah custody case, your conduct is not limited to what happens in your home—it extends to what you choose to share online. Social media is not personal or…

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Exposing the “Child Whisperer” Myth in Utah Custody and Parent-time

In Utah child custody and parent-time disputes, courts routinely defer to a familiar class of professionals: private guardians ad litem (PGALs) and custody evaluators. These professionals are held up as…

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The First Meeting with Your Utah Divorce or Child Custody Attorney

After you’ve hired your attorney, the first meeting between attorney and client—whether in person or by video—is about orientation, risk assessment, and planning. Most people come in overwhelmed and discouraged…

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VA Disability Pay vs. Alimony: Why Your “Tax-Free” Income Still Counts

Veterans often believe their VA disability pay is “untouchable” in divorce. Not exactly. While it cannot be divided as property, courts routinely treat it as income for alimony. Learn how…

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The Obvious Variable No One Addresses: How Gender Distorts Protective Order Decisions

Protective orders are among the most powerful and disruptive tools Utah courts wield—all on an expedited timeline and often on a limited record. The law governing these orders is clearly…

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Digital Housekeeping Before Divorce in Utah: Why You Must Change Your Passwords First

Before you file for divorce, your spouse may already have access to more of your life than you realize—your emails, financial accounts, personal documents, and even your private communications with…

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Structure, Confidence, and the Integrity of Process – Conclusion

This series has examined a focused procedural question: whether interviews with children in custody disputes should be preserved through authenticated contemporaneous verbatim record via unedited audio-visual capture. The discussion has…

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Part III – Transparency, Deference, and Institutional Design

Legal systems evolve. Practices that function adequately become routine. Routine hardens into assumption. Over time, assumption begins to resemble necessity. Unrecorded child interviews in custody and parent-time cases appear to…

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Part II – Fidelity, Filtering, and the Loss of Context

In most areas of litigation, original testimony is preserved. Depositions are recorded. Hearings are transcribed. Statements given in investigative settings are documented. Context is retained because meaning does not reside…

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Part I – The Fragility Rationale and the Case for Making and Preserving Records

The Fragility Rationale The most common justification for not making and keeping a record of child testimony rests on fragility. Knowing that the interview will be recorded, it is said,…

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Planning “For” Divorce Looks Like Planning “On” Divorce, and Why That Matters

Financial advisors, wealth managers, and business consultants increasingly tell clients to “plan for divorce.” Some divorce lawyers say the same thing. I do not, especially for young people contemplating marriage…

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Erring on the Side of Caution — Until You’re the One Paying for It

“Better safe than sorry.” Few phrases sound more humane. In the context of domestic violence, it feels morally unassailable. Why wouldn’t we err on the side of safety? Whatever it…

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The “Tooling Up Phase” of Divorce: Why Gathering Your Financial Documents Early Can Save You Thousands of Dollars and Spare You Months of Delay

When people begin thinking about divorce, most want to get it over with quickly. Keep the suffering to a minimum. They want to file immediately, schedule hearings, and get the…

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USFSPA Decoded: Dividing Military Retirement Benefits in a Utah Court

For Utah divorcing couples: A clear, practical discussion on how military retirement is divided under the Uniformed Services Former Spouses’ Protection Act (USFSPA) and Utah’s equitable distribution law — including…

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Utah Court of Appeals: Postnuptial Agreements Can Set Child Support Above Guidelines

Reese v. Reese - 2026 UT App 31 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MAKAIBREE MARIE REESE,Appellee,v.KYLAN REESE,Appellant. Opinion No. 20240830-CA Filed March 5, 2026 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department…

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The High Cost of the “If It Saves Just One Life” Fallacy

In the world of public policy, there is a phrase that acts as a universal solvent for logic, restraint, and due process: “If it saves just one life.” The phrase is…

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The Calendar and the Calculator in Harmony: Fully Serving the Best Interest of the Child

When parents separate, two instruments immediately begin to shape a child's future: the calendar (time) and the calculator (money). Both matter. Neither is optional. And neither compensates for the absence…

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Trust Without Verification: The Custody Evaluation Transparency Problem

When the interviews that shape custody decisions remain inside a black box, the court is asked to trust what it cannot independently verify. In Utah child custody disputes, custody evaluations…

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The Hill AFB Factor: How Active Duty Status Changes a Utah Divorce

If you are stationed at Hill Air Force Base and facing divorce, do not assume your case is “standard.” It isn’t. Military status layers federal law on top of Utah…

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Should a Guardian ad Litem Speak for the Child—or Over the Child?

Utah’s 2026 legislative session includes a proposal that deserves attention well beyond juvenile court. House Bill 372—particularly its substitute versions—revisits Guardian ad Litem (GAL) duties and standards in child welfare proceedings.…

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Bahsoun v. Mooney – 2026 UT App 18

Bahsoun v. Mooney - 2026 UT App 18 2026 UT App 18 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MAZEN BAHSOUN,Appellee, v. COLLEEN ELIZABETH MOONEY, Appellant. Per Curiam OpinionNo. 20251317-CA Filed February…

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“Not Offered for the Truth of the Matter Asserted”: Meaning, Limits, and Misuse

In court, neither a party nor one of that party’s witnesses can simply claim to repeat what someone else said and expect the judge to treat it as proof. As…

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The Difference Between “Joint Custody” and Equal Custody in Utah Child Custody Disputes

In Utah, "joint physical custody" doesn't have to mean a perfect 50/50 split, though that is increasingly common (increasingly common, not the default—the system still treats mothers more favorably than…

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The Price of Professionalism: The Pro Se Paradox in Family Court

The "Rules for Thee, But Not for Me" Phenomenon The legal system is built on procedure. For an attorney, failing to file a motion on time or improperly authenticating a…

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Navigating the GAL or PGAL Interview: A Survival Guide

In child custody disputes, the judge acts as the final arbiter, but they rarely get to see the daily reality of a child's life. This is where appointing an attorney…

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Why Divorce Decrees Don’t Magically Change Mortgages: What Too Many Utah Homeowners Learn the Hard Way After Divorce

Divorcing homeowners in Utah frequently run into mortgage servicer roadblocks when trying to refinance or have a spouse removed from a loan, even when the divorce decree says so. This blog explains…

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The Language Barrier of Divorce: Decoding Divorce Jargon

Divorce is hard enough on its own. Add in legal paperwork packed with unfamiliar terms, and it can feel like you’re suddenly expected to speak a completely new language. For…

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What Utah Law Actually Says About Hearing From Children in Custody Cases

In the prior discussion, I described a common feature of Utah custody and parent-time proceedings: courts routinely make findings about a child’s needs, attachments, and lived experience without hearing directly…

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When the System Resists Hearing from the One Person Who Actually Lives the Case

Seth Godin observed that every important medical innovation of the last several centuries—handwashing, antibiotics, acknowledging the dangers of smoking—was initially resisted by the medical establishment. Not because the ideas were…

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When Can Things Be Submitted to the Court?

Every year, I watch people bring “important” documents to court that the judge will never read. Emails. Text messages. Financial records. Therapist letters. Receipts. Recordings. Sometimes the most important material…

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“When in Doubt, Grant the Protective Order” Is Not a Legal Principle

In discussions about protective orders and alleged domestic violence, I often hear a familiar refrain: “Protective orders should be granted liberally even when the question comes down to one person’s…

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The Illusion of Protection: Why Utah’s Child Testimony Statute Threatens Due Process and Open Courts

A constitutional critique of Utah Code § 81-9-204(5)(a) Utah, like every state, bears a solemn and compelling responsibility to protect children involved in custody and parent-time disputes. That responsibility is…

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The Muzzled Meadow

I. The Founding TraumaIn the Meadow, everyone agreed on one thing: voices were dangerous.It hadn’t always been so. Long ago, animals spoke plainly. Some spoke well, somepoorly, some too much.…

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Why Utah Courts Rely on GALs, PGALs, and Custody Evaluators — The Best Case

This post is the first in a four-part series examining Utah courts’ reliance on guardians ad litem (GALs), private guardians ad litem (PGALs), and custody evaluators, beginning with the strongest…

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The Voice of the Child: Why Simple, Factual Testimony Is Often Safer Than Psychological Interpretation

The Danger of Interpretation When Courts Refuse to Hear from the Child Directly When the court relies on a child custody evaluator or Guardian Ad Litem (GAL), it is not…

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Klein v. Klein – 2025 UT App 170

Klein v. Klein - 2025 UT App 170 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS AMBER KLEIN, Appellee, v. MELVIN JAMES KLEIN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20240231-CA Filed November 20, 2025 Sixth District…

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Utah Law Does Not Bar Children From Testifying—Even When a PGAL Is Appointed

Utah law allows a child to be represented by an attorney—either a guardian ad litem (GAL) when there are allegations of child abuse, or by a private guardian ad litem…

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How to Protect Your Child From Being Manipulated Into Making False Accusations During a Custody Dispute

A candid, experience-based guide for parents who need the truth without varnish or theatrics. Not every case involves manipulation. Not every professional fails. But when these problems occur—and they do—the…

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If Your Spouse Hid Assets by Titling Them in a Parent’s Name, Is That “Smart Protection” or Financial Fraud? How Do You Prove It in Utah Divorce Court?

This is not unusual: a spouse suddenly “doesn’t own anything,” yet somehow pays the taxes, insurance, maintenance, or mortgage on a house that’s titled in Mom’s name. Or money gets…

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Is Alimony Still Necessary? Or Is It an Outdated Relic? A Utah Divorce Lawyer’s Honest, Earnest Take

If you have spent any time searching for information about alimony, you already know the truth: most people hate the idea of paying it, most people love the idea of…

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