What Legal Safeguards Exist to Prevent Abuse of Domestic Violence Restraining Orders?
I am a divorce and family lawyer. So I know that there are laws on the books in my jurisdiction (Utah) and in other jurisdictions throughout the U.S. that make…
How Do I Know If My Custody Evaluator and Custody Evaluation Are Any Good? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
In your divorce case, you, your spouse (or other parent) and your children may be required to undergo a custody evaluation. The custody evaluation is governed by Utah Code of Judicial Administration Rule…
What Is the Real Reason Divorce Rates Are So High in the Western World?
So many in the Western world who could be happily married have lost sight of the purpose of marriage, and so their marriages end in divorce not because of any…
Why Wouldn’t I Speak Freely With a Law Enforcement Officer if I Have Nothing to Hide and the Officer Seems Sincere in His Questioning?
There are some genuinely nice men and women serving in law enforcement. That stated, any time when a law enforcement officer is asking you questions, be aware that 1) law…
What Should I Do if My Husband Wants to Divorce Me for Not Giving Him Children?
There is not much you can do to deny a spouse a divorce, if one lives in the U.S. Spouses in the U.S. can file for and obtain a divorce…
How Do I Get Full Custody of My Child From a Bad Mother?
Ideally, with overwhelming amounts of compelling, objectively verifiable evidence that 1) the mother is unfit to exercise custody of the child; and 2) you are fit to exercise custody of the child. Why overwhelming…
Your divorce Case Deadlines Will Not Wait By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant.
Divorce is one of the most difficult things that someone can experience. Many in the field of psychology rank divorce just behind a spouse’s death on lists of the most…
“A Child Is More Honest in His Interview if He Knows the Interview Is Not Recorded” Makes About as Much Sense as “The Runner Goes Faster if He Knows He Is Not Timed.”
The overwhelming majority of judges and domestic relations commissioners in Utah will refuse to have the interview of children who are the subject of child custody disputes recorded by sound-and-visual…
Excluding the Public from Divorce Court Hearings and Trials Does More Harm than Good
"Government ought to be all outside and no inside. . . . Everybody knows that corruption thrives in secret places, and avoids public places, and we believe it a fair…
Absolute Opposition to Recording Child Interviews in Child Custody Dispute Cases Is Groundless.
[Full disclosure: I make no secret of the fact that I have yet to encounter a custody evaluation conducted in Utah that is not pseudo-scientific, incompletely and incompetently documented, and…
When Should You Get a Lawyer to Look At Your Case?
Any old lawyer to look at your case? Well, if you can’t find a good lawyer who is skilled in the area of the law affecting you, it may (may)…
How Can Family Courts Claim to Comply With the Equal Protection Clause When Fathers Receive Primary Custody in Less Than 20% of Cases?
Good point, and good question. Although the amount of time fathers are being awarded with their children is increasing in child custody dispute cases (and has been for the past…
How Much Can You Stretch The Truth In Your Testimony? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Many people believe that everyone bends the truth from time to time. While the typical “no, that dress does not make you look fat” white lie in your everyday interactions…
What to Do When Your Ex Is Threatening to Take Me Back to Court to Change Custody or Reduce Parent-Time
I get calls about this frequently from former and from brand new clients: it may have been half a year or more since the child custody case was resolved, either…
Why Is Income Earned After a Marriage Considered Marital Property, but Inheritance Earned After a Marriage Is Considered Separate?
I cannot answer this question as it applies in all jurisdictions, but I can answer it as it applies in Utah, the jurisdiction where I am licensed to practice divorce…
A Third Party Refused to Return Child to the Child’s Mother, the Sole Custodian. So Mother Called Law Enforcement Seeking Assistance. But They Refused to Get Involved Saying It’s a Civil Matter. Is That True?
I can't speak to what the law is in all jurisdictions, but I can speak to what the law is in Utah on this subject based upon my experience and…
Is Trial In Your Utah Divorce Case a Boxing Match or an Audition? By Braxton Mounteer
Everyone has seen a trial portrayed in a movie or video. An actual trial (especially in a divorce case) is not like television or movies would have you believe. Initially,…
What is Your Best Negotiating Trick?
Once I realized that “negotiating trick” is just a synonym for “manipulation,” at best and “fraud” at worst, I stopped employing such tricks in negotiations. You wouldn’t want to be…
How Much or How Little of a “Bulldog” Does a “Good Divorce Lawyer” Have to Be? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Everyone has seen the movies and shows where a lawyer represents his/her client (in and out of court) like a berzerker. We have heard of the horror stories of innocent…
Calculating Alimony in Utah Divorce Cases
Alimony is not purely a mathematical formula in Utah, but the governing section of the Utah Code (see Section 81-4-502. Determination of alimony) does relay on some basic addition, subtraction, and division. First,…
Why Would a Lawyer Not Take a Case?
Some people ask this question because they believe an attorney is somehow obligated to accept any and every case he/she is asked to accept. This is not true. Some people…
Chlarson v. Chlarson – 2024 UT App 160 – Divorce and Military Retirement
Chlarson v. Chlarson - 2024 UT App 160 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JUSTIN THOMAS CHLARSON, Appellant, v. JACQUELINE NICOLE CHLARSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230742-CA Filed November 7, 2024 Second…
Do I Have to Do What My Divorce Lawyer Tells Me to Do? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Your divorce lawyer will tell you about the things you need to do in your case, the documents and other evidence you need to produce, the questions you need to…
Lerman v. Lerman – 2024 UT App 155 – Child Custody and Domestic Violence
Lerman v. Lerman - 2024 UT App 155 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEREK LERMAN, Appellee, v. MICHELLE LERMAN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230913-CA Filed October 31, 2024 Second District Court,…
Duffin v. Duffin – 2024 UT App 154
Duffin v. Duffin - 2024 UT App 154 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JAMES MARLO DUFFIN JR., Appellant, v. BRANDY ELIZABETH DUFFIN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20221046-CA Filed October 31, 2024…
What Are Some Tips for Divorced Parents on How to Handle the Holidays While Co-parenting?
Know this first: the best things to do are often easier said than done. That stated, they are not that hard to do, but many are not that appealing to…
2024 UT App 133 – Bountiful City v. Swenson – Protective Order Violation
2024 UT App 133 - Bountiful City v. Swenson THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BOUNTIFUL CITY, Appellant, v. ROBERT TAKASHI SWENSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230430-CA Filed September 19, 2024 Second…
Should You Use Utah’s Court-created Forms? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
The Utah courts have created a sizeable library of forms; a few that everyone is required to use, and a lot that can be used--optional, in other words--if one wants.…
Lunt v. Lunt – 2024 UT App 148 – Alimony, Individual Needs, Business Goodwill
Lunt v. Lunt - 2024 UT App 148 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MEGAN LUNT, Appellee, v. DREW E. LUNT, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220596-CA Filed October 18, 2024 Third District…
If a Parent Refuses to Work, Does That Mean the Other Parent Pays Higher Child Support?
In Utah, a parent is not required to have a job and it's likely that a court cannot order a parent to get a job and earn money. If that parent…
Corn v. Groce – 2024 UT App 84 – Proving Changed Circumstances
Corn v. Groce - 2024 UT App 84 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JANETTE CORN, Appellee, v. BLAKE GROCE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220526-CA Filed May 31, 2024 Second District Court, Farmington…
Is There a Particular Reason Why One or Both Parties After a Divorce Goes to Extreme Lengths to Make the Other One Look Bad?
Many reasons can account for this (in no particular order of prevalence): Bitterness/Sore loser Revenge/trying to set themselves up for a second bite at the apple in a future petition…
I Know I Should Get a Divorce, but I Don’t Have the Courage to Do So. What Do I Do Now?
We are not meant to be alone. We are meant to be married and to have a family. This is why losing/ending a marriage (and breaking up a family, if…
How Do I Divorce My Husband After 37 Years and When I Have No Job?
This is not an easy decision to contemplate for most people of your age. If you married in your twenties, then you are likely at least 57 years old when…
How Should I Deal With an Ex Husband Who Is Reluctant to Move out After the Divorce?
If he wasn’t ordered to move out, and if you weren’t awarded sole possession, occupancy, and use of the marital residence, then he is under no obligation to move out.…
How Is It to Divorce When You Get Retired?
Usually painful. Perhaps in some ways that are a little different from the pain one would suffer when divorcing young, but still painful. Retirees suffer a unique pain in the…
How Do I Reconnect After Marriage Separation?
Believing that change is inevitable, normal, and survivable. Jonny Thomson made this reel on his Facebook page, “Mini Philosophy,” which I think answers your question about as well as it…
Divorce and Revenge, by Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant.
People divorce for many different reasons, but regardless of the reason or reasons for seeking a divorce, the dissolution of a marriage and the breakup of a family usually causes…
In Divorce Cases, Does Family Court Usually Favor Mothers?
Yes. Anyone who denies this fact is lying to you. This does not mean that fathers cannot get a fair shake in child custody cases; they can, but most fathers…
What Are Some Strategies for Divorcing a Selfish, Intelligent, and Manipulative Person Without It Becoming a Messy Legal and Emotional Battle?
Spouses of selfish, intelligent, and manipulative people who want to avoid a messy legal and emotional battle are not telling the whole truth about what they want. Implicit in what…
What Are the Key Things You Should Do Protect Yourself During a Divorce?
This is one of the most important questions you need to ask and to answer if you are contemplating divorce or find yourself on the receiving end of a complaint…
I Have a Question About Whether to Divorce.
I decided to divorce my husband of 10 years after years of neglect and feeling unloved. We have a 6-year-old daughter. For the majority of our marriage I was always…
When Should You Settle Your Divorce Case? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Over the course of your divorce, you may be tempted to throw in the towel and give up. You may also be tempted to fight to your last breath. Either…
My Husband Left Me and Our Kids. How Long Should I Wait Before I File for a Divorce?
You’re asking the wrong question first. Your first question should not be, “How long should I wait before I file for a divorce?,” but “*Should* I even file for a…
THE BEST PERSON TO “SPEAK FOR A CHILD” IS THE CHILD HIMSELF/HERSELF, NOT A GUARDIAN AD LITEM
“Speak your mind—even if your voice shakes. . . . When you least expect it, someone may actually listen to what you have to say.” — Maggie Kuhn I have…
Should You Sling Mud at Your Spouse at Any Phase of Your Divorce Case? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
If you were not fortunate enough to settle your divorce case on acceptable terms, you now or soon will likely find yourself preparing for trial. Trial will be the day(s)…
If I Got Married Today and My Husband Moved Into My House, if We Get Divorced in 5 Years, Will I Have to Give Him 50% of My House?
Great question (the answer will likely scare you and drive you nuts, but it’s a great question). Divorce court is, in many respects, the wild west. No matter what jurisdiction…
Dividing Personal Property In Your Divorce Is Not As Hard As It Seems By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
During the course of a marriage, you will accumulate marital property, and during your divorce, you will need to divide those items. You may be tempted to bicker over every…
Are You Prolonging Your Divorce? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Almost all people going through a divorce say they want the case disposed of as soon as possible, but I have found that most people slow the process down for…
McPherson v. Copp – 2024 UT App 107 – common law marriage, undisclosed witnesses
2024 UT App 107 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS SEAN MCPHERSON, Appellee, v. LYNN COPP, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220404-CA Filed August 1, 2024 Third District Court, Silver Summit Department The…