Did you ever go to court and realize for the judges and attorneys it’s kind of all a big game?

Yes, in my experience, there are aspects of the legal system and the practice of law that some lawyers and judges see and treat as a game. You see lawyers…

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How do I console a father who has lost custody of his child?

How do I console a father who has lost custody of his child? “He’s [the father who lost custody] permanently damaged.” That’s what someone else wrote in response to your…

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Good news, for parents deserving of joint equal physical custody

Good news, apparently, for parents deserving of joint equal physical custody of their children but who have, up until now, been fighting an unfair, unnecessarily uphill battle. The Utah Legislature passed,…

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Do lawyers ever regret helping a client or obtaining a particular judgment?

Do lawyers ever regret helping a client or obtaining a particular judgment?  Yes, yes, of course.  We all know that there are plenty of lawyers who will prostitute their professional skills for money…

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Lawyers, why do some cases drag for years without a conclusive decision? Does it help to get a favorable outcome or not? Does delay help one to get a favorable outcome for oneself?

Lawyers, why do some cases drag for years without a conclusive decision? Does it help to get a favorable outcome or not? Does delay help one to get a favorable…

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I was divorced and lied to during my divorce and I am disabled can I take my ex back to court for spousal support?

I was divorced and lied to during my divorce and I am disabled can I take my ex back to court for spousal support? Can you try? Yes. Will you…

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Why is it difficult for a father to get child custody?

Why is it difficult for a father to get child custody? Because there is a pernicious and false belief in far too many of the courts (not, notably, in society…

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I was divorced and lied to during my divorce and I am disabled can I take my ex back to court for spousal support?

I was divorced and lied to during my divorce and I am disabled can I take my ex back to court for spousal support? Can you try? Yes. Will you…

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If I can’t find an attorney, can it honestly be said I got a fair trial?

If I can’t find an attorney, can it honestly be said I got a fair trial? If a person seeks legal representation in a court, and every attorney they tries…

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Why does someone need an attorney when they can just defend themselves in court?

Why does someone need an attorney when they can just defend themselves in court (pro se)? Why does someone need an attorney when they can just defend themselves in court?…

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2020 UT App 171 – Miller v. Miller THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RYAN MILLER, Appellant, v. BRENDA MILLER, Appellee

2020 UT App 171 - Miller v. Miller THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RYAN MILLER, Appellant, BRENDA MILLER, Appellee. Opinion No. 20190748-CA Filed December 24, 2020 Second District Court, Farmington…

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If everyone agrees that the judge needs to know what the child is experiencing, observing, and feeling, why won’t the judge interview the child?

If everyone agrees that the judge needs to know what the child is experiencing, observing, and feeling, why won’t the judge interview the child?   This post is the seventh…

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Utah Divorce Case Timeline Summary

Utah Divorce Case Timeline Summary The greatest influence on how long a divorce case takes is usually how much and how severely the parties fight over the issues. The more…

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Why do pro se litigants fail so often?

Why do pro se litigants fail so often? And if you’re wondering what a pro se litigant is, here’s the definition: someone who argues his/her own case in a lawsuit,…

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How do courts view mothers who abandon their family during a divorce?

How does the court view mothers that abandon their family during a divorce? Generally, with disbelief, at first. Why? A few reasons. One, to its credit, our culture still holds…

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How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children?

How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children? In my opinion: Institute a “loser pays the prevailing party’s attorney’s fees” rule. make divorce…

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Must I engage in all-day divorce mediation or some other time period?

Must I engage in all-day mediation in my divorce action, or for some other specific time period? No, there is no mandatory minimum period of time you must spend in…

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Is it OK to fill out divorce documents by hand in ink, or must they be typed?

It depends upon the court rules of the jurisdiction in which you would be filing your divorce documents are to be filed. In Utah, where I practice divorce and family…

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What are some cases that restored your faith in the judiciary?

There are not enough well-conducted and well-decided cases to restore my overall lack of faith in the legal system generally. To be sure, there are very good judges and others…

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Eberhard v. Eberhard – 2019 UT App 114 – modification of alimony

2019 UT App 114 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS TODD EBERHARD, Appellant, v. LORI ANN EBERHARD, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170721-CA Filed June 27, 2019 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department…

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Pulham v. Kirsling – 2018 UT App 65 – custody, parent-time, child support

Pulham v. Kirsling - 2018 UT App 65 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KRISTEN PULHAM, Appellee, v. WILLIAM KIRSLING, Appellant. Opinion Nos. 20150577-CA and 20160236-CA Filed April 12, 2018 Third…

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Janson v. Janson – 2019 UT App 106 – setting aside settlement agreement

2019 UT App 106 - Janson v. Janson - setting aside stipulation THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEIDRE SUE JANSON, Appellant, v. JEFFREY ALAN JANSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170541-CA Filed…

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Have you ever told a client he/she would be better off settling a case, only for the client to take the case to trial anyway?

Yes, and most of the time when a client decides to take a case to trial over a client’s advice the client does worse than he/she would have if he/she…

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How can I get a divorce if I don’t know where my spouse is?

If I'm married with a child (separated for 4 years), how do I get a divorce and establish a child support order, if I don't know where my spouse is?…

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Cox v. Hefley 2019 UT App 60 – attorney consent or consultation, third party decision-maker

2019 UT App 60 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS CAMERON MICHAEL COX, Appellee, v. PAIGE CHARISSA HEFLEY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20170903-CA Filed April 18, 2019 Second District Court, Ogden Department…

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Cool as a Cucumber : How to Testify Successfully at Your Deposition or in Court in a Utah Domestic Relations Case

Cool as a cucumber[1]. Is that you? It can be. When it comes to testifying, follow the Golden Rules: 1. Always tell the truth. 2. Simply telling the truth is not…

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In your experience, how often do divorces get resolved “amicably” after being filed in court?

Some couples actually realize that while their marriage is a failure, that does not mean that they are bad people. They can care enough about each other to divorce amicably.…

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Divorce Preparedness: What do I need to do before filing for divorce?

When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many things you should consider, before filing for divorce I. Why…

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Why do divorces take so long to finish?

Here are the reasons, as I see them, why too many divorce cases cost so much and take so long to finish (in no particular order): 1. Some divorce lawyers…

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Why do judges say “don’t break court orders,” but then do nothing when the order is broken?

Why do judges tell people not to break court orders but then do nothing when the court order is broken? Reason #1: because of the principle of “easier said than…

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Are divorce courts biased towards either gender?

Are divorce courts biased towards either gender? In my educated and experienced opinion, yes, in most (not all) cases. It’s not usually motivated by animus toward men or women (although…

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Hahn v. Hahn – 2018 UT App 135 – custody, jury trial, constitutionality

This opinion is subject to revision before final publication in the Pacific Reporter Hahn v. Hahn - 2018 UT App 135 IN THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RANDY R. HAHN,…

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What Is Alimony, and How Does It Work in Utah?

What is Alimony? Alimony is a legal obligation imposed by court order upon one spouse in a separate maintenance action or divorce action to provide financial support for the other…

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Proposed Amendments to the Utah Rules of Civil Procedure – Comment Period Closes July 19, 2018

Amendments to the Utah Rules of Civil Procedure have been proposed. The comment period closes July 19, 2018. If you want to comment, you can. Just click here: https://www.utcourts.gov/.../rules-of-civil-procedure.../ Rules of…

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Attorneys: “glorified pencil-pushers”?

This is from part of an e-mail that I received from Richard Jacobs. He helps attorneys with their marketing. I like much of Richard's approach because, like me, he doesn't…

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Can I represent myself in a child custody dispute and win?

Can I represent myself in child custody matters of my own children and win? What you really mean is, “Can I represent myself in child custody matters of my own…

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Sandusky v. Sandusky – 2018 UT App 34 (23-Feb-2018) – bifurcation, separation agreement, court discretion

2018 UT App 34 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KYLEE J. SANDUSKY, Appellee, GEORGE A. SANDUSKY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20160131-CA Filed February 23, 2018 Third District Court, Silver Summit Department…

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What is the best way to get the courts to follow the laws already on books and the constitution for custody battles?

What is the best way to get the courts to follow the laws already on the books and the constitution for custody battles? To be frank, in my opinion there…

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As a divorce lawyer, what is the most petty thing one of your clients had you do?

QUESTION: As a divorce lawyer, what is the most petty thing one of your clients had you do? ANSWER: Thanks for the question. The answer is: nothing. Legal whores do…

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Cool as a Cucumber: How to Testify Successfully at Your Deposition or in Court in a Domestic Relations Case

Cool as a Cucumber[1]: HOW TO TESTIFY SUCCESSFULLY AT YOUR DEPOSITION OR IN COURT IN A DOMESTIC RELATIONS CASE [1] This phrase (c. 1732) derives from ancient folk knowledge confirmed by…

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5 Things Divorce Will Never Save You From

5 Things Divorce Will Never Save You From Make sure you know what you're doing before you make a decision you can't undo. Are you feeling frustrated, unsatisfied, and even…

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