How to Handle Child Custody When the Mother Is Negatively Influencing the Child?
Do you want the truth? Or, more accurately, the truth as I see it, having practiced divorce and family law for the past 28 years as of the date I…
Equal Physical Custody – Give It a Chance . . . a Fair Chance
Equal physical custody should be awarded far, far more often than it is currently in Utah. There are so many situations in which we have two loving, fit parents who…
If the Other Parent Is Withholding Parent-Time, Can I Bypass Having to Deal With Him/Her and Pick Up Our Child After School Instead?
If the other parent of your child is withholding court-ordered visitation (often now called “parent-time”) with the child from you, can you solve this problem by circumventing/bypassing having to pick…
How Common Are Cases Where Divorce Proceedings Take a Dramatic Turn Because of Unexpected Evidence, Like in Court Dramas?
In my 28 years’ experience, it’s not common. Indeed, if divorce cases took dramatic turns routinely, they couldn’t be considered dramatic turns. That stated, very true a skilled divorce lawyer…
Is It Possible to Divorce With Dignity?
Divorce is rarely an easy process. Even in fairly amicable situations, emotions can run high and the temptation to engage in dirty tricks can be strong. However, it is possible—and…
Do I Receive Alimony if I’m the One to File for Divorce?
I cannot speak as to what the law is on all jurisdictions, but I can answer this question based upon the law of the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and…
Dividing Retirement Assets in a Utah Divorce
In a Utah divorce, retirement assets are often among the most valuable marital assets to divide. Retirement accounts such as 401(k)s, IRAs, pensions, and government or union retirement plans are…
Is It Advisable to Wait Until the Divorce Is Finalized Before Dating? Does This Still Apply if There Are No Children or Assets Involved in the Divorce?
Yes, it is advisable. You can’t go wrong by waiting to start dating until after your decree of divorce is issued by the court. Personally, I consider it immoral to…
Can My Spouse Keep My Property After I Have Been Removed or Moved Out of the Marital Home? By Braxton Mounteer
This is a common and important question that arises in a divorce. If you are out of the marital home—whether by court order (such as a protective order) or voluntarily—and…
Do Kids Like 50/50 Custody Schedules?
Some do, some don't. Generally, however, when both parents live in the same neighborhood, so that their children are able to get to school, interact with the same friends, attend…
What to Bring to a Consultation with a Divorce Lawyer
Preparing for a consultation with a divorce lawyer is an important step in understanding your rights and options. To make the most of your meeting, consider bringing the following: Provide…
Do We Need More and Better Court Intervention in Domestic Relations Cases?
In many types of civil litigation, the core issue is not whether time is of the essence, but whether one will eventually recover compensation, and if so, how much. Yes,…
How to Ensure a Child of Any Age Feels Equally Loved by Both Parents in a 50/50 Custody Arrangement
The goal of a successful 50-50 (equal) physical custody arrangement is that it work as seamlessly as possible for the children, both emotionally and logistically. Simply put, you know it’s…
Helping Children Be and Feel Equally Loved by Both Parents in a 50/50 Custody Arrangement: An Age-Based Guide for Parents
Co-parenting successfully in an equal (50/50) legal and physical custody arrangement requires more than just dividing time. It calls for each parent fostering 1) a strong bond between the child…
What Are the Most Effective Strategies for Parents to Ensure Their Child Feels Equally Loved by Both Parents in a 50-50 Custody Arrangement?
The key is that both parents place the child’s best interest above any bad blood between them; children are more likely to feel secure, loved, and emotionally connected to both…
Miner v. Miner – 2025 UT App 64 – modifying alimony, attorney’s fees
Miner v. Miner - 2025 UT App 64 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS LISA P. MINER, Appellee, v. JOHN E. MINER, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230278-CA Filed May 8, 2025 Fifth…
Will ORS automatically adjust the child support withheld from my paycheck when my child support obligation changes? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Will ORS automatically adjust the child support withheld from my paycheck when my child support obligation changes? The short answer to this question is no. ORS will not automatically review…
What Are Some Types of 50-50 Custody? Can One Parent Be the Custodial Parent in 50- 50 Custody With the Same Equal Time?
Great question (and follow up questions). What are some types of 50-50 custody? No matter what you call it (whether “50–50” or “50/50″), the meaning is the same: the children…
Protecting Yourself From a Spouse Who Has No Regard for Ethics, the Law, or Morality. By Braxton Mounteer
A fair and equitable divorce is the best that any decent person who goes through the divorce process can honestly hope for. If you know you that you will be dealing…
Divorce Listings & Property Condition: Why It Matters More Than Ever
As you know, we’re operating in a drastically different real estate market than we were even a year ago — and it’s impacting divorcing homeowners in unique and challenging ways.…
Why Collaborative Divorce Usually Isn’t Worth It
In theory, collaborative divorce sounds ideal. What is "collaborative divorce"? The two spouses discuss together with their lawyers, mental health professional, financial specialist, and sometimes a child psychologist or development specialist…
What are some good (and bad) reasons for changing one’s divorce lawyer mid-case?
Are there any potential drawbacks to switching lawyers, besides the added expenses and inconvenience? There are good reasons to switch lawyers, even if you realize this mid-case. That stated, there…
Yes, Equal Custody Is a Great Idea and Should Be Awarded Far More Often Than It Is Now, but That Doesn’t Mean Equal Custody Can Always Work.
Where both parents are fit parents and want to be as involved as possible in rearing that child—both out of a personal interest in enjoying parenthood and out of commitment…
No, Utah Law Does Not Presume that Physical Child Custody Will Be 50/50.
Contrary to popular belief, Utah law does not, as of the time I write this post (April 2025), presume that the physical child custody award will be equal (50/50). Utah law presumes that legal child…
Yes, Equal Custody Is a Great Idea and Should Be Awarded Far More Often Than It Is Now, but That Doesn’t Mean All Judges Agree.
Where both parents are fit parents and want to be as involved as possible in rearing that child—both out of a personal interest in enjoying parenthood and out of commitment…
Is Alimony off the Table Here?
My wife had an affair, got caught when she got pregnant by her lover, and then separated from me to move in with him. She had the baby and she…
Conflicting Advice
Conflicting Advice Divorce is many people’s first and only experience with serious civil litigation. Many divorce clients can’t believe how different (and how much more disappointing) the legal system is…
Don’t Play Dirty in Divorce Just Because Your Spouse Does By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
We’ve all heard some version of this story: the dramatic, knock-down, drag-out divorce. Where every move is a power play and every lawyer is part strategist, part saboteur. If you're…
How to Identify and Avoid Some Common Dirty Tricks in Divorce Cases. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Some spouses will absolutely exploit the legal system to gain an unfair advantage in divorce proceedings. It's crucial to recognize the manipulative tactics your spouse might employ against you—even if…
The Case for Fault-Based Divorce: A Perspective from the Trenches of Family Law
As a legal assistant at a family law firm (and as a soon to be law school graduate), I see firsthand how the current no-fault divorce regime can create problems…
How Do You Get a House Valuation/Appraisal for a Divorce When Your Spouse Has Remains Living in It?
A house does not need to be vacant to be appraised and evaluated. The appraiser(s) can inspect and evaluate the house while you're spouse or ex-spouse is still living there…
How Can I Fight for Child Visitation and My Parental Rights Without a Lawyer in Utah?
No one is required to hire a lawyer to represent him/her in a child custody dispute. If you are involved in a termination of parental rights or child abuse case…
How to Deal with a Difficult and Dishonest Opposing Party (and his/her lawyer) in Utah Family Law Cases By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
When you're involved in a family law matter whether it's a divorce, child custody dispute, or a spousal support issue, one of the most frustrating challenges to encounter is an…
After Divorce, My Ex Uses Parental Controls to Spy on My Parenting Time. Can Tech Custody Agreements Exist?
Yes, they can. Not merely agreements, but binding and enforceable court orders can be made by the court to address such an issue too. They are hard to enforce (because…
Should You Get Divorced? Weighing Your Options in a Difficult Decision By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
The decisions to marry and to end a marriage are not decisions to be taken lightly. If divorce is ever an easy choice, something is terribly wrong. Wrong with the…
A Big Problem with Child Abuse and Parental Alienation Accusations in Family Court
I can identify the problem by phrasing it in the form of several hypothetical questions to a judge: Is the approach to the allegations going to be, “Because these kinds…
Nelson v. Nelson – 2025 UT App 43 – alimony, income, loan
2025 UT App 43 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS VICKI JO NELSON, Appellee, v. JAMES Q. NELSON, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230483-CA Filed March 27, 2025 Third District Court, Salt Lake…
What Can a Father Do If, After the Divorce, the Mother, Who Has Custody of the Child, Turns the Child Against the Father?
What can a father do if, after the divorce, the mother, who has custody of the child, turns the child against the father? What can he do? There are many things he…
How Do You Get 3 House Valuations for a Divorce When Your Ex Has Remained Living in It?
A house does not need to be vacant to be appraised and evaluated. The appraiser(s) can inspect and evaluate the house while you're spouse or ex-spouse is still living there…
If You Are Not Happy With the Current Child Custody Arrangement, Can You Change It?
I cannot answer this question as it applies to all jurisdictions, but I can answer it as it applies to the jurisdiction where I practice family law (Utah): Merely because you are…
How Can an Unfair Child Custody Arrangement Be Corrected in Utah?
It depends on how you reached this point, and how much time, if any, you have to fix it. If circumstances relevant to the child custody award have materially and…
How Do You Combat a Narcissistic Husband Who Isolates Your Child During a Divorce?
Warning: my answer is blunt, and it is directed primarily at women/mothers who make (or contemplate making) false claims, but even if you are not making or contemplating making a…
Should High-Profile Divorces Be Granted Extra Privacy Protections in Court, or Should All Divorce Proceedings Be Equally Transparent Regardless of Wealth and Status?
As soon as we start treating people differently, two things happen: 1) the idea of people being treated equally goes out the window and 2) everyone starts claiming, “My case…
The Risk and Costs of Asking for a Deadline Extension in Your Divorce By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
If (or when) you find yourself in the midst of a divorce, you will likely feel like you're caught in a whirlwind of different forces pushing and pulling on you.…
Should I Appeal My Family Law Case in Utah?
It is common for many to be dissatisfied with the results of their family law cases. No matter how hard they fought or how long they worked at it, sometimes…
A Critical Analysis of Court-Ordered Mental Health Therapy in Utah Family Law
In family law proceedings, particularly those involving child custody disputes, courts frequently order parents and children to engage in mental health therapy. While the ostensible intent behind these orders is…
Protecting Yourself Against Overcharges by a Divorce Lawyer By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Divorce is stressful enough without the added burden of legal fees and worrying about them. So how do you know if you’re being overcharged by your divorce lawyer? Unclear or…
When Contemplating Divorce, Advance Research, Analysis, and Planning Will Be a Tremendous Help to You, Your Family, and to Your Attorney
Several important provisions are frequently overlooked in divorce decrees, despite their significant impact on post-divorce life. If you are contemplating divorce, but have not considered these issues yet, thinking them…
Do Judges in Family Court Actions Have the Ability to Jail Parents Who Have Not Complied With Parts of the Custody Order for Contempt?
Do judges in family court actions have the ability to jail parents who have not complied with parts of the custody order for contempt? Yes. What are the limitations on…
How Much Should You Interact with Your Divorce Lawyer? A Pragmatic Guide By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Divorce confronts one with many complex issues, emotional strain, uncertain outcomes, and often gut-wrenching decisions. One question that most divorcing people do not consider when they retain the services of…