Do I need a separate room for my daughter?
As a single father I can only afford a one bedroom apartment for me and daughter, what alternatives do we have? Most courts will not penalize you for having a…
If my spouse cheats, and we divorce will I get custody of my children?
In response to the question, “If my spouse cheats, and we divorce, will I get custody of the children because of my spouse’s infidelity?,” the answer is unequivocally “no.” No…
Have you ever dealt with parental alienation?
Yes, but from the perspective of being the divorce lawyer for the alienated parent. Let me tell you, unless the alienating parent is so ham-handed in his or her efforts…
What’s the best way to decide who takes the children when a couple splits?
I’ll tell you one thing, it’s not the illusory “standard” (that’s not really a standard in the first place) of the “best interest of the child” that everybody talks about.…
Dealing with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
QUESTION: What are some pointers that you may have in getting along with your ex-spouse to be during the process of a divorce? What advice do you have to keep…
LeFevre v. Mackelprang – 2019 UT App 42 – joint custody analysis
2019 UT App 42 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS - LeFevre v. Mackelprang AMELIA GAYATREE LEFEVRE, Appellee, v. CASEY LEE MACKELPRANG, Appellant. Opinion No. 20171006-CA Filed March 28, 2019…
What causes a whole family to abandon an innocent family member?
What would cause a whole family to abandon one family member if they did nothing wrong? Many possibilities, including, but not necessarily limited to: Mental illness. Mass delusion. Holding opinions…
As an attorney, what was your favorite case and how did it go down?
Winning the argument over whether the children of a divorcing couple should bear their father’s last name, after the husband refused to believe he was the children’s (they were twins)…
Mental Health Professionals: How to Make Good (and honest) Use of Them in Divorce and Child Custody
Many spouses and parents going through a divorce and child custody case may believe there is value in using mental health professionals. This can be true, if you use mental…
Which is best, divorce or stay married for the sake of the kids?
Question: Do you think married people should be able to get a divorce if one or both sides no longer love the other even if they have a kid/kids, or…
I recorded my husband telling me that he wants to hit me. Will this help me obtain custody of our child?
Question: I’m going through a divorce. A day ago, I recorded my husband telling me that he “wants to hit me in the face.” Will this evidence help me obtain…
At what age can children decide which parent they want to live with?
It’s largely a matter of age and size/strength or resourcefulness. Technically a child never legally has the power to choose with which parent he/she will live (the only person with…
If it’s so terrible to separate children from parents at the border, why is it so acceptable to separate children and parents in divorce?
If it's so terrible to separate children from parents at the border, why is it so acceptable to separate children and parents in divorce? Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com…
Have we reached the point where mothers are not immediately deemed the best candidates for child custody?
Almost, but not yet. Until recently, it wasn’t just a cultural norm, but a legal principle that presumed during a child's "tender" years (generally regarded as the age of four…
How did your dad change your life?
Without him perhaps even realizing it, he taught me what is to me the most important thing I could learn and know and be: do what is right, let the…
Relocation: ex-wife just told me she’s moving out of state with the kids
What do I do? My ex-wife tonight, in a fit of anger, told me that she and the kids will be moving out of state. There's no reason--like a job…
Is it ever a good idea to postpone a divorce for the ‘children’s sake’?
Ever? Certainly. Always? No. (and remember: though I’m a divorce lawyer, that does not mean I am a raving fan of divorce. I’m not. Rarely does even the “best divorce”…
Morality Clause: Can Include One in My Decree of Divorce?
Can I successfully put a morality clause in a custody agreement to prevent my child from a living arrangement where my ex is living with a girlfriend? This practice is…
If a single mother makes more annually than the father, would she have to pay child support even if she has custody?
In Utah, almost certainly not. I cannot think of a scenario in which a parent (mother or father) has sole physical custody of the children and would have to pay…
Marijuana and Child Custody Still Don’t Mix in Utah, You Fools! Ignore This at Your Peril!
No matter what you're told, marijuana use is STILL ILLEGAL in this state. Illegal use of street drugs, including but not limited to marijuana, can and surely will be used…
Child Custody: what does it mean in divorce, and what factors determine who gets child custody?
One of the biggest worries (perhaps the biggest) for a parent going through divorce is the question of child custody. A common misperception is that “child custody” means simply who…
My child support is too high/too low. What can I do about it?
Child Support Can Be Modified, If Circumstances Warrant As financial situations change, the amount of child support ordered may no longer be reasonable or even feasible. Your income may have…
How did you feel after your divorced parent remarried? Where you nice to your step-parents?
I approach this question from the perspective of a divorce lawyer. I am a big fan of remarriage under the right circumstances. Be very careful and don’t move too fast…
Should you wait until your children have grown up before divorcing?
Should you wait until your children have grown up if you were contemplating divorce but are still amicable to one another? Yes, and God bless you if you have the will and…
Is it wrong to go through with divorce when my child wants to live with both mom and dad?
Is it wrong to go through with divorce when my child wants to live with both mom and dad? On that basis alone? No. For example, if you want to…
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce?
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce? There are two types of men who ask this question:…
Do you think fathers should have the right to 50/50 split custody from birth, even if mom is breastfeeding?
Do you think fathers should have the right to 50/50 split custody from birth, even if mom is breastfeeding and the separation will likely affect her ability to do so…
Parent-Time During the Holiday Season 2018
Parent-Time During the Holiday Season 2018 The holiday season is upon us, and many divorced and single parents need to prepare and plan for your holiday season parent-time this time…
Which state has jurisdiction over a child custody dispute?
If a divorce and custody case were finalized in one state and the custodial parent and the children move to another, which state should the future custody disputes need to…
Stephens v. Stephens – 2018 UT App 196 – modifying child custody and support
2018 UT App 196 The Utah Court of Appeals DONOVAN TODD STEPHENS, Appellee and Cross-appellant, v. BRIDGET NICOLE STEPHENS, Appellant and Cross-appellee. Opinion No. 20170440-CA Filed October 12, 2018 Third…
Utah divorce and child custody awards – statutory factors the court must consider
Utah divorce and child custody award – statutory factors the court must consider (based upon Utah Code § 30-3-10, § 30-3-10.2, and UCJA 4-903) SUMMARY OF THE FACTORS: the past…
How does the “right of first refusal” to provide child care work?
QUESTION: I have a question about what is often called "the right of first refusal" to provide care for a child when the other parent who would otherwise be scheduled…
Erickson v. Erickson-2018 UT App 184-modifying child custody/parent-time-discovery-expert witness-child testimony-attorney fees
Erickson v. Erickson - 2018 UT App 184 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KIT RICHARD ERICKSON, Appellant, v. SHANDI ERICKSON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170100-CA Filed September 27, 2018 Third District…
My mom has full custody, but I want to live with my dad. What do I do?
My parents got divorced when I was 3. I’m currently 14. My mom has full custody of me, but I want to live with my dad full time in Denver,…
How do I show the court about my sons non-diagnosed NPD mother to get a sole custody?
How do I show the court about my sons non-diagnosed NPD mother to get a sole custody? Oh, ho, ho, ho! So you want to prove your wife has Narcissistic…
How does custody of children work if the parents live in different states?
How does custody of children work if the parents live in different states? I’ll answer this question in the context of Utah’s family law (I practice divorce and family law…
What is the best way to get a 50/50 custody and visitation plan in family court?
There are many, many factors the judge will consider. I’ll list them. First and foremost is: distance between the parents. If the parents don’t live close enough to each other…
Can a court force a parent to exercise visitation, even if that parent doesn’t want to?
If a divorced parent doesn’t want visitation rights (i.e. doesn’t want to see his/her child), is that legal, or would the court order the unwilling parent to have visits? This…
Child custody and how parental sociopathy affects it
QUESTION (Child custody and parental sociopathy): How does ASPD (Sociopathy) affect child custody, especially if the diagnosed parent is consistent? ANSWER (Robert A. Simon, Ph.D., Ph.D., M.A. Clinical Psychology, California…
My parents have a joint custody of my brother and I, but I want to live with my mom
My parents have a joint custody of my brother and I, but I want to live with my mom because my dad is unsupportive. Is it easy to go to…
What can we do about the laws that are outdated about taking custody of a child?
What can we do about the laws that are outdated about taking custody of a child? In a clear and concise manner write to A) your state legislators, and B)…
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children?
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children, when they could easily give the children two happy homes instead living in one miserable home? Mom…
Are family courts biased against parents with diagnosed mental illness when deciding custody?
Are family courts biased against parents with diagnosed mental illness when deciding custody? Yes, they can be, under certain circumstances. A common tactic in child custody disputes is to accuse…
Why don’t some people fight for custody of their children?
Why don't some people fight for child custody in some divorce or child custody cases? Others have explained why, in their particular situations, they felt that while they desired custody,…
I have no job, I’m living in my parents’ house, and I’m on methadone. Can I get custody?
What do I do to gain shared custody of my now 13-year-old child? I do not have a current job (due to a medical problem), and I am living in…
How can I get the custody of my child? What factors does the court consider?
How can I get the custody of my two-year-old son in court? I am an SFG in service, not always at home, but I can give my child to my…
Child custody: What is it? Do women get custody of a baby?
What is child custody? In America, do women get custody of a baby? “Child custody” is defined in Black's Law Dictionary (10th ed. 2014) as follows: 2. Family law. The…
Why stay unhappily married for the sake of the kids?
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children, when they could easily give the children two happy homes instead living in one miserable home? Mom…
Lay v. Lay – 2018 UT App 137 – § 30-3-35.1 parent-time not mandatory
2018 UT App 137 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BRANDON CHRISTOPHER LAY, Appellant, v. CORINNA NICOLE LAY, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170230-CA Filed July 12, 2018 Third District Court, West Jordan…
Hahn v. Hahn – 2018 UT App 135 – custody, jury trial, constitutionality
This opinion is subject to revision before final publication in the Pacific Reporter Hahn v. Hahn - 2018 UT App 135 IN THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RANDY R. HAHN,…