What was it like to lose your siblings during a divorce?
What was it like to lose your siblings during a divorce? I am a divorce lawyer, but neither I nor my parents ever divorced. I do not know personally what…
Am I disadvantaged in a child support case, if the other parent has a lawyer and I don’t?
What happens in child support cases when the custodial parent has an attorney but the non-custodial parent doesn’t? Does that mean they usually pay more because there isn't another attorney…
What are the legal repercussions of posting an email chain between myself and my daughter’s custodial parent exposing her downright shady behavior?
What are the legal repercussions of posting an email chain between myself and my daughter's custodial parent exposing her downright shady behavior? Many who “answered” your question didn’t read your…
Why do we allow attorneys to profit from the harm of children?
Look, I love you, brother, but this isn’t really a question, it’s a lame lament, and I will show you why. First, there are plenty of horrible lawyers out there…
Passport Denial Program to Enforce Child Support
Can I prevent my ex from obtaining or renewing a passport to enforce child support? Yes. Here's why and how: Federal Passport Denial Program Except when the child support obligor's…
Why are women generally awarded child custody more often than men?
QUESTION: From a lawyer’s perspective, why do women get child custody almost 90% of the time? Is there really a bias? What factors come into play when deciding about it?…
What precautions have you taken to avoid custody battles over your frozen embryos?
What precautions have you taken to avoid custody battles over your frozen embryos? In Utah, the Utah Code contains these provisions regarding frozen embryos: 78B-15-707. Parental status of deceased spouse.…
What is it like to have divorced parents as a child?
What is it like to have divorced parents as a child? Generally worse than having non-divorced parents. I do not state that to offend divorced parents. Most (not all) divorced…
Kentucky Now Leads the Nation in Shared Parenting After Divorce
National Parents Organization Celebrates Landmark Kentucky Shared Parenting Law NATIONAL PARENTS ORGANIZATION | PRESS RELEASE April 26, 2018 NATIONAL PARENTS ORGANIZATION CELEBRATES LANDMARK KENTUCKY SHARED PARENTING LAW With Governor Bevin’s…
Who has rights to custody of children after divorce, the mother or father?
Who has more rights to claim the custody of their child after divorce, a mother or father? The answer the legal profession wants you to believe and that the law…
Should I feel “guilty” because my ex-wife pays child support?
Should I feel "guilty" and "ashamed" because a “friend of the court” determined my soon to be ex-wife should pay me child support as part of the divorce settlement? It…
How could a mother or a father claim a child’s custody?
How could a mother or a father claim a child's custody? Custody is not something a parent usually “claims”. Biological parents of child already legally have custody of their children.…
Do women ever have to pay child support?
Do any women have to pay child support? Not only she can women pay child support, if the couple are divorced or the court adjudicates child custody in a parentage…
Can the court allow parents to decide on their own for the custody of their child?
Can the court allow parents to decide on their own for the custody of their child? Yes! Not only are parents allowed to decide what the child custody award will…
Why you should settle the issue of child custody out of court, if you reasonably can
Why you should settle the issue of child custody out of court, if you reasonably can: Shuman v. Shuman, 406 P.3d 258, ¶ 10, 2017 UT App 192: We are,…
“No guns in the house until child is 18” order reversed
Family court to father: No guns in the house until child is 18 Washington Post By Eugene Volokh March 17, 2015 https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/volokh-conspiracy/wp/2015/03/17/family-court-to-father-no-guns-in-the-house-until-child-is-18/?utm_term=.ef6b700d1996 But last week’s In re Parentage of M.A.R.R. (Ill. Ct. App. Mar.…
Do underage children have any say in custody in the U.S.?
Do underage children have any say in custody in the U.S.? In my jurisdiction where I practice family law (Utah), the answer may be hard to discern by reading the…
The court awarded my ex custody of our kids, but they live with me. Can I legally claim them on my taxes?
The court awarded my ex custody of our kids, but they live with me. Can I legally claim them on my taxes? Here’s the answer as it applies under Utah…
Child Custody and Where the Children Attend School
How is the school that a child will be attending decided if the parents are separated and live in two different school zones? Real-world, gritty answer that you may not…
Who gets the house, if one of us had an affair?
After 1.5 years trying to reconcile after my wife's 5 year affair, we are ending our 20-year marriage. Despite two teenage kids and her being a stay-at-home mom, she had…
How would child support be calculated for a father who remarried and has 4 other children living with him?
How would child support be calculated for a father who remarried and has 4 other children living with him? Here is the law in Utah: If the children are stepchildren…
Yes, there is a bias in favor of mothers in child custody disputes, but not for much longer.
Wednesday, March 7, 2018 I recently saw this post on a child custody Facebook group: If [fathers] want to piss and moan, and whine online about injustice and not being…
Can I represent myself in a child custody dispute and win?
Can I represent myself in child custody matters of my own children and win? What you really mean is, “Can I represent myself in child custody matters of my own…
What happens if a child does not sleep in another room?
What happens if a child does not sleep in another room? I am a divorce lawyer who encounters this (rather silly) “issue” in child custody cases frequently. And here is…
What if I don’t want custody of my child post-divorce?
What if I don't want custody of my child post-divorce? If the other parent is 1) fit to exercise custody of the child(ren) and 2) willing to take custody of…
Why does the mom usually win custody of her kids in a divorce?
Why does the mom usually win custody of her kids in a divorce? Why are mother's awarded child custody so often? There is one main reason, and many ancillary reasons,…
K.P.S. v. E.J.P. – 2018 UT App 5 – Utah Court of Appeals – January 5, 2018
2018 UT App 5 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS K.P.S., Appellee, v. E.J.P., Appellant. Opinion No. 20160164-CA Filed January 5, 2018 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department The Honorable Paul…
What if two divorced parents have joint legal custody, but one parent has physical custody of the children more than 50% of the time?
Question: What if two divorced parents have joint legal custody, but one parent has physical custody of the children more than 50% of the time? What effect can this have…
My ex is threatening to relocate out of state with our kids!
QUESTION: My ex-wife tonight, in a fit of anger, told me that she is going to move to another state with our kids (her current boyfriend lives there). I’m not…
My ex just announced he’s taking the children during my parent-time.
QUESTION: I have a question about parent-time inference. My ex-husband is taking the children out of town last minute and his plans overlap and will interfere with my holiday parent-time.…
Can I sue for the child support I paid after our child started living with me?
QUESTION: Can I sue my child's mother for the child support that was deducted from my pay after our child started living with me, in my home? ANSWER: Utah Code…
How can I call my 10-year-old as a witness to say where she would like to live?
QUESTION: How can I call my 10-year-old as a witness in family court to say where she would like to live, and why? ANSWER: First, you may want to re-think your…
What if my spouse won’t complete the divorce orientation and education courses?
What if my spouse will not complete the divorce orientation and education courses for parents? Can the judge still grant the divorce? Yes. You can file a motion notifying the…
Can a Child Be Held in Contempt of Court for Non-compliance with Child Custody and Parent-time Orders?
A minor child of divorced parents need not be a party to the divorce action to be subject to the court’s contempt power. See Crank v. Utah Judicial Council, 20…
Does child support still continue while child is in college?
QUESTION: I was wondering if a child goes to college but still lives with a parent, does child support still continue while child is in college? ANSWER: The Utah Code…
Why Treat My Ex Kindly When My Ex Won’t Reciprocate?
QUESTION: My ex wants to take our child out of the state in two weeks for a holiday weekend. Our court order provides that a parent can't take our child…
Do you think current divorce laws are biased against men?
Do you think the current divorce laws are biased against men? In my experienced opinion, yes (and I speak as one who represents both women and men in divorce where…
I wonder which state in the U.S. has the highest rate of awarding joint physical custody of children in divorce
I wonder which state in the U.S. has the highest rate of awarding joint physical custody of children in divorce. Unfortunately, I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if Utah…
The court gave Mom full custody of me; can I live with Dad instead?
QUESTION: The court gave my mom full custody of me, can I live with my father without her doing anything about it? ANSWER: First, we start with the obligatory “don’t…
What are the odds of a ballot measure for 50/50 custody?
What are the chances of a ballot measure in CA for a rebuttable presumption that child custody should be 50/50 if both parents wish at least 50%? Slim. This isn’t…
Christmas Break Parent-time 2017 – how it works
NOTE: this will explain how to calculate Christmas break parent-time for any period, in any year (but we'll use 2017 as an example). QUESTION: I'm trying to figure out what day…
Defending Yourself Against a Protective Order
My friend is a good man. His wife is crazy. She put a protection order against him, to help manipulate the court proceedings. What should he do? Defend himself with…
Vanderzon v. Vanderzon – 2017 UT App 150 – August 17, 2017 – custody on relocation, alimony, and attorney fees
Vanderzon v. Vanderzon - 2017 UT App 150 - August 17, 2017 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS HEIDI KIRSTEN VANDERZON, Appellant, v. JOHN MATTHIAS VANDERZON, Appellee. Opinion No. 20140946-CA Filed…
Christensen v. Christensen – 2017 UT App 120 – July 20, 2017
Christensen v. Christensen - 2017 UT App 120 - July 20, 2017 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ELENA KAY CHRISTENSEN, Appellee, v. BRENT CHRISTENSEN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20150994-CA Filed July…
Can a 16 year old sleep with a 10 year old?
Can a 16 year old sleep with a 10 year old? If by your question you mean to ask, "Can a 16-year-old child sleep in the same bed with a…
Can my ex force me not to pay for my child’s college tuition, even though I can afford to pay it in full?
Can my ex force me not to pay for my child's college tuition, even though I can afford to pay it in full? My ex and I have a growing…
Can a parent get custody of a child if he has a domestic violence protection order against him?
Can a parent get custody of a child if he has a domestic violence protection order against him? Nothing in Utah law prohibits a parent against whom a protective order…
What happens if someone doesn’t answer their discovery questions in a child custody battle?
What happens if someone doesn't answer their discovery questions in a child custody battle? What CAN happen (in Utah, where I practice family law): (See Rule 37—particularly Rule 37(b)—of the…
Fit parents and their children deserve joint custody
As a matter of basic human rights and human nature, unless they are unfit then divorced and separated parents and their children deserve joint custody. "[A] parent's right to the…
What factors does a court consider when making a child custody determination?
What factors does a court consider when making a child custody determination? Here are the minimum factors the courts in Utah must consider in making a child custody award in divorce actions:…