How long does it take a divorce to become final if one party is refusing the divorce?
How long does it take a divorce to become final if one party is refusing the divorce? It can take an amazingly, shockingly long time. One of the most frustrating…
Do prenuptial agreements make a wedding/marriage healthier?
Do prenuptial agreements make a wedding/marriage healthier? Make? In all cases? No. Can prenuptial agreements make a wedding and marriage healthier? It is conceivable that some people might find planning…
How can a uncontested divorce be considered a law suit? Does the court even get involved in that case?
How can a uncontested divorce be considered a law suit? Does the court even get involved in that case? A law suit is a claim or dispute brought to a…
Do you need a reason to get a divorce?
Do you need a reason to get a divorce? Not really, at least not in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce law (Utah). Even if you get a “no fault”…
I was divorced and lied to during my divorce and I am disabled can I take my ex back to court for spousal support?
I was divorced and lied to during my divorce and I am disabled can I take my ex back to court for spousal support? Can you try? Yes. Will you…
Utah Divorce Case Timeline Summary
Utah Divorce Case Timeline Summary The greatest influence on how long a divorce case takes is usually how much and how severely the parties fight over the issues. The more…
What to do before a divorce, if you’re not in the wrong
What advice would you give someone before a divorce, if it’s known it may happen and you’re not in the wrong? This is a very important question that too few…
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children?
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children? In my opinion: Institute a “loser pays the prevailing party’s attorney’s fees” rule. make divorce…
Should We Keep Our Divorce Struggles a Secret from the Kids?
Should We Keep Our Divorce Struggles a Secret from the Kids? If a couple conceals their arguments from their children and divorce 'amicably,' does that send a message to the…
How much does a collaborative divorce cost?
How much does a collaborative divorce cost? Too much, generally. Odds are that if you attempt to settle your divorce through what is called the “collaborative law” process your experience…
Divorce and your mortgage: what to know (guest post)
Divorce and your mortgage: what to know (guest post) “Deciding how to deal with the family home is one of the most important issues to decide upon when there is…
Can you divorce your spouse even if your spouse does want a divorce?
Yes. This is what is known as “no fault divorce”. Every state in the U.S. has no fault divorce laws. Many people believe that “no fault” divorce means that one…
Has anyone you know been framed for domestic violence?
I’m a divorce and family lawyer, and so the crimes I see people framed for or manipulated into “committing” are domestic violence types. It’s frighteningly easy to do. Before I…
Can you tell the judge to award no alimony if both parties agree and settle?
Well, you can’t dictate to your judge as to what your judge will do, but if you and your spouse agree that no alimony will be awarded and then tell…
How can we change divorce court to make it easier on the children?
Institute a “loser pays the prevailing party’s attorney’s fees” rule. make divorce cases more litigant focused and tailored to meeting their needs and the needs of their family, instead of…
Why is it common for the custodial parent to villainize the ex to their child?
I don’t know if it is common for one parent in a divorce (custodial or non-custodial) to villainize their ex to the child, but we know it happens frequently and…
How did your parents’ divorce when you were a child affect your adult life?
My parents did not divorce, but I base my answer to this question on the experiences of my clients, whether it be how their own children reacted to their divorce…
My ex told me I can’t post videos of our children on my social media. What can I do?
I'm a mother of 3. The father has custody and I have visits and overnights. The father told me not to post videos of our children on my social media,…
How to Identify a Good Divorce Lawyer, from the Client’s Perspective
Unfortunately, it’s almost impossible to identify a good lawyer without using his/her services for a while to see if you “got it right” on your choice. There are, however, a…
Dealing with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
QUESTION: What are some pointers that you may have in getting along with your ex-spouse to be during the process of a divorce? What advice do you have to keep…
Why weren’t you and your ex-spouse as good as friends when you were married as you are now that you are divorced?
Clearly not all divorces result in ex-spouses being friends. But for some, the split, the separation helps the members of the former couple feel safer, freer, less restricted, less limited,…
A real client’s questions about divorce settlement and mediation
Here is a real client’s questions about divorce settlement and mediation. Don't worry, I've removed the names and changed out the details to protect confidentiality. This client asked a lot…
Which is best, divorce or stay married for the sake of the kids?
Question: Do you think married people should be able to get a divorce if one or both sides no longer love the other even if they have a kid/kids, or…
Can people with few assets and no children really do their own divorce?
Yes. And I’m a man who makes his living as a divorce lawyer. You would think I’d be one of the last people to tell you that there are many…
Is it ever a good idea to postpone a divorce for the ‘children’s sake’?
Ever? Certainly. Always? No. (and remember: though I’m a divorce lawyer, that does not mean I am a raving fan of divorce. I’m not. Rarely does even the “best divorce”…
Should you wait until your children have grown up before divorcing?
Should you wait until your children have grown up if you were contemplating divorce but are still amicable to one another? Yes, and God bless you if you have the will and…
In your experience, how often do divorces get resolved “amicably” after being filed in court?
Some couples actually realize that while their marriage is a failure, that does not mean that they are bad people. They can care enough about each other to divorce amicably.…