I have custody of my child. He’s refusing to come home. What now?
I have custody of my child. He left to go to his mom's last Friday for the weekend. He is refusing to come home because he wants to live there.…
Child refuses to leave noncustodial parent’s house. What happens now?
I am the noncustodial parent. Our child came to my house for parent-time and now refuses to leave because he wants to live with me. What happens now? I will…
Does a spouse have the right to see a DUI report?
Does a spouse have the right to see a DUI report? First, if you are referring to a police report of a DUI citation and/or arrest, in most jurisdictions such…
How exactly does shared custody work? Does the child end up being like that kid from Jacqueline Wilson’s “The Suitcase Kid”?
How exactly does shared custody work? Does the child end up being like that kid from Jacqueline Wilson’s "The Suitcase Kid"? The child certainly can be like the child (Andrea) from Jacqueline…
Are there laws that protect one parent from being a victim of the other parent’s continuous reporting, through the other parent’s attorney, about violations of a restraining order that are all lies?
Are there laws that protect one parent from being a victim of the other parent's continuous reporting, through the other parent's attorney, about violations of a restraining order that are…
What is the best case law to cite about parental alienation?
What is the best case law to cite during a high conflict custody battle where parental alienation has been occurring? If you know of any, please let me know. My…
Does having the judge interview the children traumatize the children?
Does having the judge interview the children traumatize the children? This post is the second in series of 15 posts on the subject of custody evaluations and the appointment…
How do I know if my relationship is abusive? How abusive does it have to be to get sole custody of my children?
How do I know if my relationship is abusive? How abusive does it have to be to get sole custody of my children? How do I know if my relationship…
I know a friend on TikTok who has abusive parents. How can I report or get him help?
I know a friend on TikTok who has a lot of severe PTSD and trauma due to several incidents, and he also has abusive parents. How can I report him…
The biological father of my child filed to establish paternity. He’s unfit and I haven’t been served yet. How can I handle this?
The biological father of my child filed to establish paternity. He's unfit and I haven't been served yet. How can I handle this? My answer applies to both mothers and…
What to do before a divorce, if you’re not in the wrong
What advice would you give someone before a divorce, if it’s known it may happen and you’re not in the wrong? This is a very important question that too few…
Can I get a cost-free divorce if, say, my spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive?
Can I get a cost-free divorce if, say, my spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive? In a sense, yes, but not because of a finding that your spouse “verbally and…
In re C.M.R. 2020 UT App 114 – abuse, ineffective assistance of counsel
2020 UT App 114 https://www.utcourts.gov/opinions/appopin/In%20re%20C.M.R...20200806_20190808_114.pdf THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF C.M.R., B.T.R., P.J.R., F.S., AND O.S., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. C.S.,…
Practical steps to take to prepare to leave an abusive relationship?
What are practical, tangible steps someone can and should take when preparing to escape an abusive relationship? If it’s physically violent abuse: I really like what Fredric Garms had to…
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children?
How can we change the court system in order to make divorces easier on the children? In my opinion: Institute a “loser pays the prevailing party’s attorney’s fees” rule. make divorce…
Can I get a restraining order against a person living in the same house?
Can one get a restraining order against a person living in the same house as me? Sure. There’s no requirement that the petitioner and respondent in a restraining order matter…
Can an abusive father win custody even if they’re not legally married?
I’m in an emotionally, verbally, and financially abusive relationship. Can an abusive father win custody even if they're not legally married? Anybody can do or get anything, if he/she tries…
2019 UT App 205, Utah Court of Appeals, State v. Wall – ex-wife murdered
2019 UT App 205 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. JOHNNY BRICKMAN WALL, Appellant. Opinion No. 20151017-CA Filed December 12, 2019 Third District Court, Salt…
2019 UT App 207 – Peeples v. Peeples – modification of child custody
2019 UT App 207 - THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ADAM LEGRANDE PEEPLES, Appellee, v. ANNALEISE T. PEEPLES, Appellant. Opinion No. 20180713-CA Filed December 19, 2019 Third District Court, Salt…
To whom do you turn to when the police won’t protect you from your ex?
I am a domestic relations attorney. With this in mind, and if you are convinced that you don’t have enough evidence to obtain a restraining order, my answer to your…
You’re just arrested for crimes you didn’t commit. Do you talk to the police?
You were just arrested for a crime you didn't commit. Do you talk to the police and detectives, or stay silent and call an attorney? Exercise your right to remain…
Has anyone you know been framed for domestic violence?
I’m a divorce and family lawyer, and so the crimes I see people framed for or manipulated into “committing” are domestic violence types. It’s frighteningly easy to do. Before I…
Why do abusers sometimes get custody of their children?
Simply (but accurately) put: they may intimidate, shame, and/or fool the other party into settling the custody case such that they agree to the abuser being awarded custody ; their…
What do you do about domestic abuse?
I have not been the victim of domestic violence or abuse, but I have had some clients who are. If you have a good, honest, and responsive police force in…
Is it unhealthy for a husband and wife NOT to fight?
First, we need to define what “fight” means. If we define “fight” as arguing, no, I don’t think it’s unhealthy for couples to argue. Again, if by “argue” we mean…
What is the safest way to break up with an abusive partner?
What is the safest way to break up with an abusive partner? I heard many horror stories and afraid I might be next. While there is no one "proper" way…
Dealing with Your Spouse During the Divorce Process
QUESTION: What are some pointers that you may have in getting along with your ex-spouse to be during the process of a divorce? What advice do you have to keep…
2019 UT App 24 – Bountiful City v. Baize – child abuse vs. discipline
2019 UT App 24 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BOUNTIFUL CITY, Appellee, v. NATHAN DAVID BAIZE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20170155-CA Filed February 14, 2019 Second District Court, Bountiful Department The…
Domestic Violence and Protective Orders: What do I Need to Know?
This blog post answers the following questions: Do I qualify to get a protective order? How do I obtain a protective order: against an abusive partner, spouse or ex-spouse? for…
Why are there no penalties for false allegations in divorce and custody issues?
Why are there no penalties for false allegations in divorce and custody issues? First, there are penalties meted out; in my opinion few (far too few) in law enforcement, child…
No-fault and fault-based divorces: what is the difference?
What are the major differences between fault and no-fault divorces and which one should become more universally standard? It used to be that one could not get a divorce without…
How can I prevent a divorce, if I am mentally unfit to go through it?
How can I refuse to divorce my wife now, as I just lost my sister, and my wife told me just before my sister died, that I will never see…
Using Smart Home Devices to Stalk and Harass
Lawyers consider restraining orders to stop abusers from using smart home devices to harass - but you can protect yourself Some domestic abusers are using smart home devices to intimidate,…
By law does a woman have to pay an abusive ex-husband alimony?
In the jurisdiction where I practice law (Utah), the question is not whether an abused spouse who makes more money than the abuser must pay alimony to the abuser, but…