Should I Forgive My Spouse for Abusing Me and/or Our Children?
Forgiveness is a deeply personal decision, and in the context of abuse it can be a life-altering one. But understand that “forgiving” your spouse for abusing you or your children…
Can I Stop My Spouse from Bad Mouthing Me During Our Divorce? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
It’s not uncommon during a divorce for one spouse to claim that the other is disparaging them—online, in conversations with mutual friends, or even in front of their children. We…
Should You Have Your Spouse or Co-Parent Subject to a Psychological Evaluation in Your Divorce and Child Custody Dispute?
I. Introduction A psychological evaluation in a custody or divorce case sounds powerful. You may believe (or even know) your spouse to be manipulative, unstable, or even dangerous. So why…
Your Spouse May Not Be a Narcissist; He or She May Just Not Get Along with You
By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant One of the most common accusations we hear in divorce cases today is: “My spouse is a narcissist.” It's become the go-to label for bad behavior,…
I Can’t Believe I’m Giving This Advice, but I Am: Why Every Divorced Parent Should Consider Background Checks on New Partners Who Are or Who Will Be Around Their Kids
If you're divorced and you are, or your ex is, introducing a new boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse into your minor children’s lives, you should seriously consider running a background check…
Are Parents Charged With Contempt of Court or Have Their Visitation Rights Suspended When Their Children Report That They Have Been Abusive?
Yes. Why? Contempt of court is defined as: 1) a valid court order; 2) of which the parent has notice; 3) that the parent is capable of obey; 4) but…
How to Handle Child Custody When the Mother Is Negatively Influencing the Child?
Although they shouldn't do it, courts will generally treat mothers and fathers differently simply based upon sex. Sexual discrimination, to put it bluntly. Not all courts do this, but many…
How to Identify and Avoid Some Common Dirty Tricks in Divorce Cases. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Some spouses will absolutely exploit the legal system to gain an unfair advantage in divorce proceedings. It's crucial to recognize the manipulative tactics your spouse might employ against you—even if…
Should You Get Divorced? Weighing Your Options in a Difficult Decision By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
The decisions to marry and to end a marriage are not decisions to be taken lightly. If divorce is ever an easy choice, something is terribly wrong. Wrong with the…
A Big Problem with Child Abuse and Parental Alienation Accusations in Family Court
I can identify the problem by phrasing it in the form of several hypothetical questions to a judge: Is the approach to the allegations going to be, “Because these kinds…
In re I.C. – 2025 UT App 37 – child abuse and neglect
In re I.C. - 2025 UT App 37 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF I.C., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. A.C., Appellant,…
It Tolls for Thee: The All Too Frequent Tragic Cost and Futility of Family Court
“Quid rides? Mutato nomine et de te fabula narrator. [Why do you laugh ? Change only the name and this story is about you.]” Here’s a deeply disturbing but all…
House Bill 281
I like this idea (House Bill 281) https://le.utah.gov/Session/2025/bills/static/HB0281.html Do you like it too? If not, I'd like to know why. Schools are being asked to provide services that have nothing…
In re K.M. – 2025 UT App 17 – parents regaining custody from guardian
In re K.M. - 2025 UT App 17 Oral argument (Utah Court of Appeals archive): https://youtu.be/e8OUzlARvZk THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS IN THE INTEREST OF K.M., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN…
2025 UT App 14 – State v. Taylor – Sodomy on Child – Biased Jurors
2025 UT App 14 - State v. Taylor THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. ERIC ALAN TAYLOR, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220712-CA Filed January 30, 2025 Second…
How Does Fraudulently Filing for a Protective Order Often Give the Applicants an Insurmountable Unfair Advantage in a Divorce or Child Custody Case?
By exploiting legal mechanisms designed to protect actual victims, here are ways that fraudulently seeking a protective order can create an unfair advantage: Immediate Restriction on Contact and Access Temporary…
The Cause of “Protective Orders Disorder” and How to Prevent It.
“Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” (Benjamin Franklin) It is undeniable that courts frequently take a "better safe…
The Prejudicial Impact of False Abuse Accusations on Husbands and Fathers in Utah Divorce and Custody Disputes
Child custody disputes between parents (whether in a divorce case or between unmarried parents) are among the most bitterly fought cases, as parents fight over the right to be integral…
What Legal Safeguards Exist to Prevent Abuse of Domestic Violence Restraining Orders?
I am a divorce and family lawyer. So I know that there are laws on the books in my jurisdiction (Utah) and in other jurisdictions throughout the U.S. that make…
2024 UT App 185 – In re D.A.T.R – adoption appeal
2024 UT App 185 - In re D.A.T.R THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS IN THE MATTER OF D.A.T.R., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. A.K., Appellant, v. T.K. AND…
State v. Hughes – 2024 UT App 168 – insufficient evidence and ineffective assistance of counsel
State v. Hughes - 2024 UT App 168 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. DAYMIAN MARTIEZ HUGHES, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220640-CA Filed November 15, 2024 Third…
The Voice of Reason in a Discussion of Domestic Violence and Child Custody
On October 31, 2024, the Utah Court of Appeals issued it opinion in the case of Lerman v. Lerman (2024 UT App 155). It is a decision Utah sorely needed for how to…
Lerman v. Lerman – 2024 UT App 155 – Child Custody and Domestic Violence
Lerman v. Lerman - 2024 UT App 155 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEREK LERMAN, Appellee, v. MICHELLE LERMAN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20230913-CA Filed October 31, 2024 Second District Court,…
In re S.M. – 2024 UT App 135
2024 UT App 135 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF S.M., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. S.M., Appellant, v. STATE OF UTAH,…
State v. King – 2024 UT App 151 – Domestic Violence – Evidence – Effective Counsel
State v. King - 2024 UT App 151 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v.. PHILLIP MASON KING, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210710-CA Filed October 24, 2024 Second…
State v. Orton – 2024 UT App 140 – Child Sexual Abuse By Stepparent
State v. Orton - 2024 UT App 140 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. BRETT LEONARD ORTON, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220119-CA Filed October 3, 2024 Second…
KSL News Story “Child and Family Services speaks to lawmakers after 12-year-old’s death”
In this KSL.com news article, written by Garna Meijia, reporting on the Department of Child and Family Services (DCFS) addressed the Rules Review and General Oversight Committee. Please read more…
What Are the Key Things You Should Do Protect Yourself During a Divorce?
This is one of the most important questions you need to ask and to answer if you are contemplating divorce or find yourself on the receiving end of a complaint…
2024 UT App 91 – In re R.D. – Juvenile Court Jurisdiction – Parental Presumption
2024 UT App 91 – In re R.D. THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS IN THE INTEREST OF R.D. AND Z.J., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. K.J., Appellant, v. N.J.…
McKell v. McKell – 2024 UT App 72 – tolling of statute of limitations
McKell v. McKell - 2024 UT App 72 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS SUMMER TATIANA MCKELL AND MICHELLE TISCHNER, Appellants, v. ROBERT C. MCKELL, Appellee. Opinion No. 20220315-CA Filed May…
What Would I Say, if I Were a Judge or Commissioner Hearing a Protective Order Request Case and I Denied the Request for the Protective Order?
I would say this: By law I cannot grant a request for a protective order unless a preponderance of the evidence supports the request. If the request lacks the support…
What Could Be the Reasons for Someone to Return to an Abusive Partner After Filing for Divorce and Leaving Them Once Before? Why Would They Also Leave Their Children Behind?
Good reasons? Or any and all reasons? In no particular order: The abuse is not bad enough (or perceived as not bad enough) to justify terminating the relationship. Otherwise stated,…
2024 UT App 52 – In re A.S. – child neglect, photographing genitals
2024 UT App 52 - In re A.S. THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF A.S. AND J.S., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE.…
We Can Call It the “Presumption of Guilt Act”
Did you see this in the news in Utah (from the Salt Lake Tribune)? A Utah man never hit his wife — until he tried to kill her. But how…
2024 UT App 43 – domestic violence appeal
State v. Arce - 2024 UT App 43 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. JOSE FELIPE ARCE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220006-CA Filed March 28, 2024 First…
Do Many Women Lie About DV in Divorce and Child Custody Court Cases?
Yes. Many women (not all, but many more than we'd like to believe unquestionably lie and make outright false or grossly exaggerated domestic violence claims. The temptation to tell such…
Mother Made False Accusations Against a Father to Win Custody and Had a Restraining Order Put in Place With No Evidence to Back Her Reason, Can This Be Overturned?
Can it be overturned? It is possible. Will it be overturned? The odds don’t favor Dad. While some fathers who are falsely accused do obtain vindication, the odds are against…
Have You Heard That Fathers Defeat Mothers’ Claims of DV and Child Abuse by Claiming Parental Alienation?
We all know the aphorism, "If it looks/sounds to good to be true, it probably is [not true]." This also means, however, that if it looks/sounds too 𝙗𝙖𝙙 to be true, it…
I Am Going through a Custody Battle and the Other Parent Is Making False Statements About Me in Court. What Can I Do to Protect Myself and My Child?
If you want just my direct answer to this question, skip to the last paragraph, but I submit that you’ll have a much better understanding of the answer if you…
In re H.H. – 2024 UT App 25 – termination of parental rights
In re H.H. - 2024 UT App 25 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF H.H. AND N.H., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. T.H.…
Blanket Prohibitions on Child Testimony in Custody and Parent-Time Disputes Are Irrational and Irresponsible.
Thomas Sowell said (in a discussion of politics and governance), “There are no solutions. There are only tradeoffs, and whatever you do to deal with one of man's flaws it…
What are the child custody factors that judges consider?
What are the child custody factors that judges consider when determining what's in a child's best interest in custody disputes according to Utah’s family law statutes? The main factors are…
House Bill 140 (HB0140 (utah.gov)), “Amendments to Custody and Parent-Time”
Today’s post on proposed family law legislation under consideration during the 2024 Utah legislative session is House Bill 140 (HB0140 (utah.gov)), “Amendments to Custody and Parent-Time”. This bill, according to…
House Bill 131 (HB0131 (utah.gov)), entitled “Clergy Child Abuse Reporting Requirements”
Today’s blog post reviews House Bill 131 (HB0131 (utah.gov)), entitled “Clergy Child Abuse Reporting Requirements”. It proposes changes to Utah Code § 80-2-602, the law governing when members of the clergy are…
House Bill 81 ” Domestic Violence Modifications”
Today’s blog post treats another proposed law that is up for consideration during the 2024 Utah legislative session: House Bill 81 (HB0081 (utah.gov)), entitled “Domestic Violence Modifications”. It would add…
Allegations of Child Abuse vs. Allegations of Parental Alienation
Here's a very, very short news report on the subject of when allegations of child abuse are countered with allegations of parental alienation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=44hJ8zWRrik I welcome sincere and rational comments…
A.W. v. Marelli – 2024 UT App 8 – infliction of emotional distress
A.W. v. Marelli - 2024 UT App 8 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS A.W., Appellant, v. MILLIE MARELLI, Appellee. Opinion No. 20220207-CA Filed January 19, 2024 Third District Court, Salt…
Parenting before, during, and divorce litigation By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Divorce is already hard enough on the parties involved, but it is even harder on the children of the recently separated family. I speak as a child of divorce, who…
Encourage Your Legislators to Vote Against H.B. (House Bill) 272 (2024 Utah General Legislative Session)
According to the "General Description" of H.B. 272, what's not to like?: Highlighted Provisions: This bill: ▸ defines terms; ▸ in certain proceedings involving child custody: specifies requirements for the admission of expert…
When my BPD ex filed for divorce, she went silent on me (provocations, mixed or erratic social media behavior stopped). I counter filed for divorce. Now she’s back to old behavior, unblocked me, jealousy baiting me (bluffing). What is her goal?
If you described your wife accurately, she’s probably trying to do to you exactly what you suspect: annoy, worry, anger, embarrass, and provoke you. You’re wiser than most to ask…