What Can a Father Do If, After the Divorce, the Mother, Who Has Custody of the Child, Turns the Child Against the Father?

What can a father do if, after the divorce, the mother, who has custody of the child, turns the child against the father? What can he do? There are many things he…

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What Is the Correct Way to Answer a Yes/No Question in Your Family Law Proceeding?

With rare exception, the correct answer to any yes/no question (also known as a polar question) in your family law proceeding is: “yes,” “no,” or “I don’t know/I don’t remember”…

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What Do I Do When I Realize My Divorce Attorney Betrayed Me and Helped My Ex-spouse, so That I Can Set Aside the Divorce Settlement Due to False Representations Made in Our Divorce Settlement Negotiations?

I will answer this in the context of the way this issue is treated in my jurisdiction (Utah). First, understand that to prevail on a claim in court, you must…

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A Better Approach to Acquiring Child Testimonial Evidence in Child Custody Disputes

In Utah child custody disputes, the voices of children are almost always filtered through court-appointed private guardians ad litem (PGALs) and/or custody evaluators. These intermediaries will claim to represent what…

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How Much Can You Stretch The Truth In Your Testimony? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

Many people believe that everyone bends the truth from time to time. While the typical “no, that dress does not make you look fat” white lie in your everyday interactions…

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Second-Hand Testimony Is and Never Will Be Better Than the Witness’s Own Testimony in His/Her Own Voice

For lawyers and parents (and perhaps even commissioners and judges) who hate child custody determinations (temporary or otherwise) based upon proffer, I share this with you: This court has previously…

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2024 UT App 51 – Bailey v. Bailey – evidence, sanctions

2024 UT App 51 - Bailey v. Bailey THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS AMY L. BAILEY, Appellee, v. DANNY RAY BAILEY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220534-CA Filed April 11, 2024 Second…

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Why Your Witness May Not Be As Good As You Think By Braxton Mounteer

I recently went to trial with my boss for a divorce case. One of the things that stuck out to me was that quite often the witnesses people call in…

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Rejecting Fact for Faith: the Inexplicable and Inexcusable Silencing of the PGAL’s Child Client

When a PGAL (private guardian ad litem) is appointed to represent children in a child custody dispute in a Utah divorce case, it would sure be good to know what…

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You Can’t Tell What The Judge Is Thinking By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant

I recently accompanied my boss to the trial of a divorce case. If I had had to place a bet on what the judge was thinking at given moment or…

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2024 UT App 43 – domestic violence appeal

State v. Arce - 2024 UT App 43 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. JOSE FELIPE ARCE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220006-CA Filed March 28, 2024 First…

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Doing What’s Best for Children by Refusing to Hear From Them on the Subject (And Other Nonsense).

Recently an attorney posed a question on a forum for fellow Utah family law attorneys. The question involved how to find out what the children’s experiences have been with one…

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Some hard truths about divorce litigation in Utah.

To those of you who ask, “How did I lose that argument in my divorce case? The judge couldn’t say why he/she believed my witness(es) over my spouse’s witness(es)!”: A district…

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How Could I Use Transcripts of a Victim Impact Statement to Show the Other Party Has Told Lies in Court and Cannot Be Trusted to Be Honest?

If the statement: is a sworn affidavit or in a form accepted by the court as equivalent to a sworn affidavit; and the content of the affidavit/statement is relevant to…

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Does saying after an answer “I truly believe that”, “it truly is”, damage your credibility as a lay witness in court or is it better to don’t add this type of qualifiers?

First, whether you “truly believe” something or “find it hard to believe,” testifying to something you believe or don’t believe, as opposed to testifying as to something you know, is…

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Am I held to what I said first as a witness, even if I immediately corrected my mistake once I realized it?

It is not merely a question of how quickly the witness corrects his or her answer. Sometimes a lawyer will ask a witness for precise details simply not because those…

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In court cases, how does taking an oath make any difference?

In court cases, how does taking an oath make any difference? From what I can tell, yes, it appears that taking an oath or affirming to tell the truth before…

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My parents filed an order of protection against me. Is there any way I can fight this at age 17 knowing that I’ve done no wrong?

My parents filed an order of protection against me. Is there any way I can fight this at age 17 knowing that I’ve done no wrong? Your experience may be…

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What does a judge ask a child in a custody case?

In Utah (where I practice divorce and child custody law) the answer is: it’s almost impossible to say. Why? For reasons that I assert I can demonstrate are not highly…

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Mental Health Professionals: How to Make Good (and honest) Use of Them in Divorce and Child Custody

Many spouses and parents going through a divorce and child custody case may believe there is value in using mental health professionals. This can be true, if you use mental…

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Cool as a Cucumber : How to Testify Successfully at Your Deposition or in Court in a Utah Domestic Relations Case

Cool as a cucumber[1]. Is that you? It can be. When it comes to testifying, follow the Golden Rules: 1. Always tell the truth. 2. Simply telling the truth is not…

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Cool as a Cucumber: How to Testify Successfully at Your Deposition or in Court in a Domestic Relations Case

Cool as a Cucumber[1]: HOW TO TESTIFY SUCCESSFULLY AT YOUR DEPOSITION OR IN COURT IN A DOMESTIC RELATIONS CASE [1] This phrase (c. 1732) derives from ancient folk knowledge confirmed by…

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