What questions do people ask about divorce?
The FIRST questions most frequently asked of me are: “How much can I expect it to cost me in total to get a divorce?” “What is your hourly rate?” “What…
Why is child support still garnishing my friend’s wages and her children are back in her custody?
There could be at least two possible reasons. 1. Even though the child is living with you, if the court and/or the child support collection agency has not been made…
How do you stay strong while being alienated from your child?
Any way that works for you (without running afoul of God or the law of the land, of course). Parental alienation is one of the most gut-wrenching miseries one can…
Is filing for divorce altogether worth it despite the high cost and heavy emotional toll?
There are clearly circumstances that not only justify but may even necessitate a divorce. No one is bound to remain married too someone who threatens one’s life or physical safety with a…
How do I expose a narcissist in family court?
Pretty much impossible. Why? Two big reasons, generally: Narcissists are masters of deception. Being a narcissist generally not terribly relevant, if relevant at all, to most issues in a divorce…
Pro-fairness and Pro-child
Pro-fairness and Pro-child Recently, public service YouTube channel I run (UFTLV – Utah Family Law TV – not run by or run to support Utah Family Law, LC) received a…
How would it be, if when a couple with children divorce instead of custody the court requires them to secure a stable home for the children and require the parents to shuttle around every week?
This is something that many parents already do. It is often known as “nesting”. Some parents feel it would be best for their children if they don’t have to shuttle…
I was awarded joint equal custody of my children, but in practice I have them with me more. Their mother’s income is at least equal to (if not greater than) mine. Could I be entitled to child support?
This is a good question and a question that comes up often. I will answer your question as it would apply to the law of Utah, which is the jurisdiction…
How does a divorce and separation from one parent affect children’s future relationships? Can this cause trust issues or commitment issues in the kids’ future relationship?
Can this cause trust issues or commitment issues in the kids’ future relationship? Yes, of course. How? When the children have witnessed and experienced the destruction of their parents’ relationship—a relationship…
Can a divorced parent with the parties’ child primarily lives stop the child from switching to live with the other parent?
So, the question is this: if I am the parent to whom custody of our child was awarded, and that child doesn’t want to live with me anymore, what can…
Do you think it’s fair that Brad Pitt got joint custody of his kids?
Normally, I do not like to comment on the intersection of pop culture and family law because quite often, what happens in a celebrity divorce or child custody dispute does…
Do courts make awards in divorce to “punish” adultery?
Do courts make awards in divorce to “punish” adultery? Great question. Adultery is considered a fault-based ground for divorce and a factor that can be considered when the trial court…
How to Explain to Your Kids You Are Getting Divorced (Guest Post)
Author Bio: Cristin Howard runs Smart Parent Advice, a site that provides parenting advice for moms and dads. Cristin writes about all of the different ups and downs of parenting, provides solutions…
What are the grounds for filing for a divorce in Utah?
First, you need to understand that Utah, like every other state in the U.S. has what are known as a “no-fault divorce law”. No-fault divorce means that you don’t have…
Can there be a prenup that will protect the salary you earn during the marriage?
In the context of alimony, no ( at least not in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law, which is Utah). A prenuptial agreement provision that purports to…
Can anyone find out which spouse filed for a divorce?
I cannot speak for all jurisdictions, but in the state of Utah (where I practice divorce and family law), if you know that a couple is divorcing or is divorced,…
What can you do if you failed to get a prenup before getting married? Is there anything I can do that’s close to a Prenup when I’m already married?
What can you do if you failed to get a prenup before getting married? Is there anything I can do that’s close to a Prenup when I’m already married? It…
Does a spouse have the right to see a DUI report?
First, if you are referring to a police report of a DUI citation and/or arrest, in most jurisdictions such records are public record, and thus available not only to your…
Why do I have to give the court my Social Security Number?
Why do I have to give the court my Social Security Number in my divorce, child custody, paternity, protective order, or other family law or family law-related case? Here is…
What would happen if there were no alimony or splitting assets in divorce without kids?
That is an interesting question. Before I answer it, know this: anyone who is motivated to marry on a “what’s in it for me?” basis and who stays married motivated…
How can an uncontested divorce be considered a law suit? Does the court even get involved in that case?
How can an uncontested divorce be considered a law suit? Does the court even get involved in that case? A law suit is a claim or dispute brought to a…
Does a spouse have the right to see a DUI report?
Does a spouse have the right to see a DUI report? First, if you are referring to a police report of a DUI citation and/or arrest, in most jurisdictions such…
How much does it cost to file for a divorce?
How much does it cost to file for a divorce? Good question. There are costs and then there are cost for filing for divorce. Beyond what an attorney would charge…
How long does it take a divorce to become final if one party is refusing the divorce?
How long does it take a divorce to become final if one party is refusing the divorce? It can take an amazingly, shockingly long time. One of the most frustrating…
When did you know that divorce was the option you were going to choose?
When did you know that divorce was the option you were going to choose? First, make sure that if you reach the conclusion that you need a divorce that you…
How can a uncontested divorce be considered a law suit? Does the court even get involved in that case?
How can a uncontested divorce be considered a law suit? Does the court even get involved in that case? A law suit is a claim or dispute brought to a…
Do you need a reason to get a divorce?
Do you need a reason to get a divorce? Not really, at least not in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce law (Utah). Even if you get a “no fault”…
Married a short time. He demands discovery going back years. Can he?
Married a short time. He demands discovery going back years. Can he? Married 16 months. He became abusive almost immediately after. I filed for divorce. He and his attorney is…
Do I have to respond to discovery questions in a divorce?
Do I have to respond to discovery questions in a divorce? Yes, unless you can persuade the court that some or all of the discovery requests: violate the rules governing discovery, such…
Thomas v. Thomas – 2021 UT App – contempt, modification of custody
Thomas v. Thomas - 2021 UT App 2021 UT App 8 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JEREMY THOMAS, Appellant, v. JODY TASKER THOMAS, Appellee. Opinion No. 20190242-CA Filed January 22,2021…
What are the Steps for Getting Divorced in Utah?
What are the Steps for Getting Divorced in Utah? To start the divorce process, you must begin by filing what is called a complaint or a petition for divorce with…
How is it possible that people go bankrupt during divorce in the USA? Isn’t it a 50/50 split?
How is it possible that people go bankrupt during divorce in the USA? Isn't it a 50/50 split? It’s not “the divorce” that causes people to go bankrupt, it’s the…
What are ways divorcees reach a mutual agreement when splitting up their assets?
What are ways divorcees reach a mutual agreement when splitting up their assets? What they often do (but shouldn’t): rationalize and justify their greed and pettiness in advancing their “arguments”*…
What are ways divorcees reach a mutual agreement when splitting up their assets?
What are ways divorcees reach a mutual agreement when splitting up their assets? What they often do (but shouldn’t): rationalize and justify their greed and pettiness in advancing their “arguments”*…
Can I kick my spouse out of the house without his/her consent?
Can I kick my spouse or our children out of the house or even off the property without their consent when it becomes clear that my spouse and I are…
What are common Latin legal terms used in divorce and family law?
What are common Latin legal terms used in divorce and family law? While the use of Latin terms and phrases in the family law is decreasing, there are still many…
What happens after an affair when you have kids?
What happens after an affair when you have kids? I’ll answer as if this question were asked in the belief that the affair will have a profound effect upon child…
Would you divorce your spouse if he/she had a child before marriage without telling you?
Would you divorce your husband if he had a child with his last relationship without telling you? I do not believe that this would, alone, be reason to divorce your…
Would you divorce if your spouse had a child before marriage without telling you?
Would you divorce your husband if he had a child with his last relationship without telling you? I do not believe that this would, alone, be reason to divorce your…
How can I protect my assets before getting married without prenup?
How can I protect my assets before getting married without prenup? Short answer: One option (not a very good one, frankly, but about the best there is under the circumstances…
What advice would you give me before divorce, if I’m not in the wrong?
What advice would you give someone before a divorce, if it’s known it may happen and you’re not in the wrong? This is a very important question that too few…
Give my spouse half my retirement in divorce, or just ride it out?
If I have to give my spouse half of my retirement after a divorce, should I still go forward or just ride it out? Great question, but not for the…
How can I find my spouse’s response to my divorce petition?
How can I find my spouse's response to my divorce petition? You should have received a copy at the same time when she filed her response with the court. She…
Divorce and your mortgage: Here’s what to know
Guest Post from Bankrate.com - Divorce and your mortgage: Here’s what to know Some couples decide to refinance a joint mortgage into one name upon divorce. What this does is…
Young v. Hagel – 2020 UT App 100 – Rule 73(c) appear or appoint counsel
2020 UT App 100 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JOSHUA J. YOUNG, Appellee, v. MICHAELA M. HAGEL, Appellant. Opinion No. 20190661-CA Filed June 25, 2020 Second District Court, Farmington Department…
Can I repair the relationship with an alienated family member after divorce?
When one’s former spouse alienated someone from their family, how can one repair the relationship with the family after the spouse is divorced? I am thankful for your question, and…
Why do kids think it’s their fault when their parents divorce?
Why do kids think it's their fault when their parents divorce? Among the things little children believe is that the world reacts to them, exists and functions because of them.…
Why do lawyers like to handle large divorce settlements?
Why do lawyers like to handle large divorce settlements? The more complex and acrimonious the case and/or the more there is at stake, the more work there is to do.…
How can I talk to a lawyer when I don’t have money to pay for one?
How can I talk to a lawyer when I don't have money to pay for one? Most jurisdictions have resources for consulting an attorney, even receiving certain kinds of legal…
Utah Courts “Divorce Education for Children” program is free of charge
The Utah Courts provide a "Divorce Education for Children" program that is free of charge for children 9-12 years of age whose parents are divorcing. More information about the program…