Divorce Mediation – To Good to Be True (For Most People)
I know you want to believe that divorce mediation is the trick to a fast, easy, cheap, amicable divorce. I know you want to believe this, and we know why.…
2023 UT App 137 – Lobendahn v. Lobendahn – petition to modify custody
2023 UT App 137 - Lobendahn v. Lobendahn THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MARCUS JAMES LOBENDAHN, Appellant and Cross-appellee, v. LEEYEN MOEVAI LOBENDAHN, Appellee and Cross-appellant. Opinion No. 20210278-CA…
Some hard truths about divorce litigation in Utah.
To those of you who ask, “How did I lose that argument in my divorce case? The judge couldn’t say why he/she believed my witness(es) over my spouse’s witness(es)!”: A district…
Client Red Flags By Braxton Mounteer
In my time as a legal assistant in the family law profession, I have observed many different kinds of client behaviors, some better than others. Those behaviors that cause the…
Is There Any Realistic Way to Prevent Misappropriating Child Support Funds?
This is a subject that comes up frequently. It comes up frequently not because misappropriating child support is a hard problem to mitigate but because the courts don’t have the…
Does it not feel weird to anyone that a parent who does not get child custody has to pay child support to the other parent who is enjoying the kids?
I think I know why you think it’s weird. Why have the children live with one parent instead both parents on an equal custody basis? In other words, “I’ll bear…
State v. Fowers – 2023 UT App 128 – violation of protective order
State v. Fowers - 2023 UT App 128 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellant, v. THOMAS FOWERS, Appellee. Opinion No. 20220073-CA Filed October 26, 2023 Fourth District Court,…
John v. John – 2023 UT App 103
John v. John - 2023 UT App 103 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS LUCAS ALLEN JOHN, Appellee, v. CASSANDRA KATHLEEN JOHN, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210506-CA Filed September 14, 2023 Third…
Clark v. Clark – 2023 UT App 111 – divorce, exhibits, dissipation
Clark v. Clark - 2023 UT App 111 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS SUSAN JEANNE CLARK, Appellee, v. RICHARD LEE CLARK, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210713-CA Filed September 28, 2023 Fourth…
If you file for divorce, do you have to serve your spouse with papers?
Your spouse must be served with the summons and divorce complaint or petition before the case can proceed. In my jurisdiction (as I believe it to be the case in…
How can you tell if your lawyer is lying about winning cases if there is no evidence of it online or in paper form?
Effectively, you can’t. You might be able to verify whether your lawyer is telling the truth about his/her winning record if the lawyer is willing to give you the information…
Blake v. Smith – 2023 UT App 78 – child custody, child support
Blake v. Smith - 2023 UT App 78 2023 UT App 78 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEJUAN BLAKE, Appellee, v. JILLYN SMITH, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210779-CA Filed July 20,…
The Father of My Child Told Me He Can Unilaterally Give Up His Parental Rights. Can He? He Thinks This Way He Will Get Out of Child Support. Can He Do This?
There is more than one question to answer here. First, does a parent have the unilateral power simply to “give up” his or her parental rights (and accompanying obligations)? No. The…
THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. CODY BLAIR MURRAY, Appellant. Opinion
THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. CODY BLAIR MURRAY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200890-CA Filed May 18, 2023 Second District Court, Ogden Department The Honorable Joseph M.…
2023 UT App 65 – State v. Meyer – Parent Charged With Child Abuse
2023 UT App 65 - State v. Meyer THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, Appellee, v. ELIZABETH LYDIA MEYER, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210718-CA Filed June 15, 2023 First…
2023 UT App 60 – Martinez v. Sanchez-Garcia – Material and Substantial Change
2023 UT App 60 - Martinez v. Sanchez-Garcia THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DAISY MARTINEZ Appellant, v. FERNANDO SANCHEZ-GARCIA, Appellee. Opinion No. 20210829-CA Filed June 2, 2023 First District Court,…
Divorce Is Often a “Cure” Worse Than the Disease
In response to this question, "Have you ever thought someone was making a mistake by getting a divorce?,” I stated (and I summarize here) some people need to divorce. It’s…
2023 UT App 62 – Cox v. Cox – Adequacy of Court Findings
2023 UT App 62 - Cox v. Cox THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BLANCHE COX, Appellee, v. JAMES A. COX, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210455-CA Filed June 8, 2023 Fourth District…
What Can I Legally Do if My Child’s Mother Refuses to Use Car Seat When Traveling With Our Little Child?
What can I legally do if my child's mother picks up our child in an Uber without a car seat? She is 5 years old, about 50 lbs. She is…
Do Abusive Parents Get Custody of Their Children? Can Relatives Get Custody Instead?
Do abusive parents get sole custody of their children, even when their children don’t want them to have it? If the children want to stay with a relative who can…
How Long Does a Child Custody Court Hearing Take?
rprise that it usually takes much less time and effort to prepare for a proffer hearing than preparing for a full evidentiary hearing. In a proffer hearing the client won’t…
Artificial Fraudulence
Seth Godin stated it well when he wrote, "The ease with which someone can invent and spread lies [with advancing technology] is going to take most of us by surprise.…
What Should I Do When a Family Court Judge Refuses to Look at My Evidence?
What should I do when a family court judge refuses to look at my evidence of abuse because my ex's lawyer lied about me bringing it to him when I…
Tithing Can Be a Legitimate Personal Expense in the Context of Determining the Alimony Award
Whether my recollection is true or not, I remember being taught in law school that tithing and other regular charitable giving cannot be treated as a personal expense deduction in…
What’s the Chance That Soon-to Be Ex-husband Will Get “Final Decision Making” in Joint Custody?
That depends on many, many factors. Some legitimate, some possibly not. Those of you who have read my content here may have noticed that I am of the opinion (arising…
Knowlton v. Knowlton – 2023 UT App 16
Knowlton v. Knowlton - 2023 UT App 16 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS SHONDELL SWENSON KNOWLTON, Appellee, v. BRADLEY LEWIS KNOWLTON, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200483-CA Filed February 9, 2023 Second…
U.S. Marriage and Divorce Statistics
My name is Stephanie from flingorlove.com and honestly, I usually wouldn't bother emailing about this, but I researched and gathered as much data and stats as I could about various divorce statistics…
Mintz v. Mintz – 2023 UT App 17
Mintz v. Mintz - 2023 UT App 17 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS RAYNA ELIZABETH MINTZ, Appellant and Cross-appellee, v. GLEN RYAN MINTZ, Appellee and Cross-appellant. Opinion No. 20200507-CA Filed…
Myers v. Myers 2023 UT App 20 – Alimony Modification
Myers v. Myers 2023 UT App 20 2023 UT App 20 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS AMY R. MYERS, Appellee, v. JACOB W. MYERS, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220002-CA Filed March…
From Pro Publica: Barricaded Siblings Turn to TikTok While Defying Court Order to Return to Father They Say Abused Them
There is far more to this story than the headline reveals. From Pro Publica: Barricaded Siblings Turn to TikTok While Defying Court Order to Return to Father They Say Abused…
The New Utah Code §§ 30-3-35 and 30-3-35.1 Holiday Parent-Time Schedules
From KSL.com: New Utah law brings confusion, contention for some divorced parents this holiday season https://www.ksl.com/article/50538686/new-utah-law-brings-confusion-contention-for-some-divorced-parents-this-holiday-season Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com | 801-466-9277
Wellman v. Kawasaki – 2023 UT App 11 – Alimony
2023 UT App 11 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DAVID WELLMAN, Appellee, v. KRISTIN KAWASAKI, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210265-CA Filed February 2, 2023 Fourth District Court, Provo Department The Honorable…
Oldroyd v. Oldroyd – 2022 UT App 145 – Premarital Property
2022 UT App 145 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS ROBBEN ANN OLDROYD, Appellant, v. FARRELL LYNN OLDROYD, Appellee. Opinion No. 20210073-CA Filed December 22, 2022 Second District Court, Morgan Department…
Kingston v. Kingston – 2022 UT 43 – Parental Rights, Due Process Rights
2022 UT 43 IN THE SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF UTAH RYAN CLYDE KINGSTON, Appellant, v. JESSICA BENNY KINGSTON, Appellee. No. 20200350 Heard April 11, 2022 Filed __ On…
Is 50/50 custody likely when the parents live in the same neighborhood?
What is the likelihood of reverting to 50/50 custody when the parents live in the same neighborhood? Mom still cares for the child over 80% Your question states in part,…
My children’s father is a bum. Can he get 50/50 custody awarded?
The question is: I’m a stay at home mom, my BD is always working unreliable and inconsistent hours, he wants 50% custody of our son. Will he be granted 50%?…
Who do you pick between a present father and an absentee mother?
Who do you pick, your father who has been there your whole life or your mother who was never there until now and wants custody of you? Assuming that 1)…
What advice would you give to someone who has just started a divorce?
What advice would you give to someone who has just become one of the parties in a divorce proceeding? #1. Know this: divorce law and the divorce process are almost…
What are some ways to make the divorce rate drop?
First, some marriages need to end in divorce. That is why divorce exists. But divorce is not always the answer when one or both spouses is/are miserable. Far too many…
Do family courts favor mothers?
While there are some judges, perhaps even some jurisdictions, that are outliers, the answer to your question is: generally yes, no question about it. While the preference for and…
What can I do if my ex won’t stop taking me to court?!
My ex has been taking me to court for over 4 years to get my joint custody taken away. Her father worked for the courts for 25 years so she…
How long do you pay alimony in Utah?
The law governing the duration of alimony is pretty simple and straightforward: See Utah Code § 30-3-5, subsections (1)(c) and (11)(e): (1) As used in this section: ***** (c) "Length…
Is the Johnny Depp divorce trial actually newsworthy?
The divorce trial wasn’t all that newsworthy or memorable (celebrities divorcing is expected), it’s his defamation trial against his ex-wife that is newsworthy. Why? Although his defamation case is not…
How does employment effect finances in divorce?
Are Couples in which the husband didn’t have a full-time job had a chance of divorcing the following year, compared to couples in which the husband did have a full-time…
Child refuses to exercise shared custody with the stricter parent
Teenager Child (16) refuses to see me after spending a month with my ex. I have 50% custody. What can I do about it? I'm a stricter parent unlike my…
When are my ex’s things deemed abandoned?
I was awarded the house in the divorce. My ex’s things are still here and he/she won’t pick them up. When are they deemed abandoned? Utah Code § 67-4a-201 provides,…
How can I make my abusive husband divorce me?
Short of holding the proverbial gun to his head (i.e., forcing him to do so against his will), you can’t. While you might contrive to motivate your husband to file…
Should I get sole custody of my children if the dad does not want custody?
Should I get sole custody of my children if their dad does not want to be involved with them? Or try to talk it out before I go through with…
How can I make sure father won’t gain custody?
My husband cheated on me and we're getting a divorce. He begged me not to take his children away, but I want him to suffer. How can I make sure…
How difficult is it to get a divorce from a spouse who has disappeared?
How difficult is it to get a divorce from a spouse who disappeared +10 years back? No note, no trace, no explanation. If you urgently need to remarry, what processes…
