Divorce Mediation – To Good to Be True (For Most People)
I know you want to believe that divorce mediation is the trick to a fast, easy, cheap, amicable divorce. I know you want to believe this, and we know why.…
Some hard truths about divorce litigation in Utah.
To those of you who ask, “How did I lose that argument in my divorce case? The judge couldn’t say why he/she believed my witness(es) over my spouse’s witness(es)!”: A district…
Client Red Flags By Braxton Mounteer
In my time as a legal assistant in the family law profession, I have observed many different kinds of client behaviors, some better than others. Those behaviors that cause the…
I’m a US citizen. I got divorced overseas. I have a child custody from an overseas country. What should I do to legalize the overseas court order in the US?
Confer with an attorney in the jurisdiction where you and/or the other parent now reside who has knowledge and experience with registering foreign divorce and child custody orders in the…
Are couples with prenups more likely to divorce?
Research is hard to come by. Reliable research even harder. But here is what I could find in short order (how accurate it is I cannot say): https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-23543-004 Maybruch, C.,…
Evidence and Honesty By Braxton Mounteer
You have just decided to file for divorce. Or perhaps you have been served with divorce papers. At some point early on in the process you will likely think to…
Special masters, parent coordinators, and the infantilization of parents
Special masters and parent coordinators (and co-parenting therapists, co-parent coaches/consultants, and their ilk) were invented for the purpose of unburdening courts from some of the conflict associated with domestic relations…
The Problem with Private Guardians ad Litem. Part 3 of 3
As any attorney can do with any client, a PGAL clearly has the right to argue on a child client's behalf, and the Utah Code makes clear that a PGAL…
The Problem with Private Guardians ad Litem. Part 2 of 3
As any attorney can do with any client, a PGAL clearly has the right to argue on a child client's behalf, and the Utah Code makes clear that a PGAL…
The Problem with Private Guardians ad Litem. Part 1 of 3
Utah Code § 78A-2-705 provides that, “The court may appoint an attorney as a private attorney guardian ad litem to represent the best interests of the minor in any district…
Evidence and Honesty By Braxton Mounteer
You have just decided to file for divorce. Or perhaps you have been served with divorce papers. At some point early on in the process you will likely think to…
Utah Divorce and Your Financial Declaration: Why it Matters, and How to Prepare It the Right Way
In every Utah divorce case, the parties must prepare what is known as a financial declaration. The parties to a divorce action are required by the rules of court to…
Why Do Utah Courts Not Allow Child Testimony?
I had lunch today with a former legal assistant of mine who is now a law student in Arizona. Over the summer he shadowed judges in Maricopa County during their…
Mandatory Lethality Assessments on Domestic Violence Calls. In Other Words: Pandora’s Box
The Utah State Legislature passed this into law an amendment to Utah Code § 77-36-2.1, which was effective May 3, 2023. The newly amended code section now requires police officers to…
Is it a good idea to major in sociology, social work, community, and health? I want to become a family lawyer.
Family law is, for most lawyers, a miserable practice area. You have to have the right personality and constitution for it. If you want to be a family lawyer to…
If I Get Married and Divorce Laws Change, Then Can I End the Marriage Before a New Divorce Law Applies Mentioning the Same as the Reason for Divorce?
My answer to your question is going to be a generalized answer to a hypothetical question. Before you take any real-life legal action in relation to real, existing laws, you…
Lawyers and Deadlines. By Braxton Mounteer
You have just received an email from your lawyer about a deadline that your lawyer needs your help to meet. What should you do? You are already extremely busy with your life and…
Why would anyone choose to become a divorce lawyer?
That is a great question. Most lawyers who have tried being divorce and family lawyers hate it and abandon it for other practice areas. I can tell you why I…
How Can You Tell if Your Lawyer Is Lying About Winning Cases if There Is No Evidence of It Online or in Paper Form?
Effectively, you can’t. You might be able to verify whether your lawyer is telling the truth about his/her winning record if the lawyer is willing to give you the information…
Completeness of Documentation By Braxton Mounteer
One of the hardest documents for a Utah divorce litigant to prepare is the financial declaration. I am amazed at the number of clients who don't take this document and…
Are some cases out there where the counsel has lied to his or her client?
Lawyers’ reputation for lying is, unfortunately, well-founded. There is a Bosnian proverb, “He who will lie for you will lie to you.” Lawyers who lie for their clients (and there…
Do family law divorce attorneys of the opposite side stalk and harass their client’s opposition if the client pays for it?
Some do (if you can imagine an attorney doing something like that, it’s probably already been done), but they’re outliers, and they are violating both the law and the rules…
What Does a Legal Assistant Think of Going Pro Se? By Braxton Mounteer
The term for representing yourself in court is "pro se" or "pro per". Can you navigate the legal system successfully without a lawyer representing you in your case? Before I…
Important things divorce attorney clients need to know but would easily and freely be forgiven for not knowing without being told. No. 4:
Your attorney cannot do what only you can do. Your attorney cannot answer questions posed to you until you provide your attorney with the information and facts needed to answer…
Important things divorce attorney clients need to know but would easily and freely be forgiven for not knowing without being told. No. 3:
The documents your attorney tells you that you must prepare for your case are, in fact, documents that you must prepare for your case. Failure to prepare them and to…
Important things divorce attorney clients need to know but would easily and freely be forgiven for not knowing without being told. No. 2:
If your attorney calls you, it’s important. Take the call, and if you can’t take the call, then call back ASAP (meaning same day, and not at 4:47 p.m.). Hours…
Important things divorce attorney clients need to know but would easily and freely be forgiven for not knowing without being told. No. 1:
Please check your email. And if you don’t have an email address, you must get one. And then you need to check your email inbox every day. Not just once…
Why Your Lawyer Might Drop Your Case By Braxton Mounteer
So, you have gotten news that your attorney has quit. Your attorney wrote you an email informing you that he or she your counsel either will soon withdraw as your counsel…
What Must the Juvenile Court Consider on a Petition to Terminate a Parent’s Parental Rights?
Before terminating a parent’s rights, the court must find that termination is “strictly necessary to promote the child’s best interest.” This analysis must be undertaken from the child’s point of view.…
How to Avoid Being Called a Liar in a Utah Case By Braxton Mounteer
Who would you believe more in a court case: a person who admits to his/her faults, who honestly discloses all of his/her relevant information (even the information that hurts his/her…
My Spouse Tells Me She Is Going to File a Motion for Temporary Orders. What Does That Mean?
I’m just at the beginning stages of a divorce case, but already in the thick of it. My spouse tells me she is going to have her lawyer file a…
The Father of My Child Told Me He Can Unilaterally Give Up His Parental Rights. Can He? He Thinks This Way He Will Get Out of Child Support. Can He Do This?
There is more than one question to answer here. First, does a parent have the unilateral power simply to “give up” his or her parental rights (and accompanying obligations)? No. The…
The Importance of Working With Your Lawyer By Braxton Mounteer
I have noticed three chronic problems with clients in just the few weeks I have been working as a legal assistant. 1) Most clients seem to have an almost allergic…
How Creative Writing and Legal Writing are Connected By Braxton Mounteer
How one writes in the legal world and how one writes in the world of creative are both very similar and very different. When I became a legal assistant, I thought…
If One Parent Gets Primary Custody, Does This Mean That He/She Can Make All Decisions Regarding the Kids Without Any Input From the Other Parent?
There are two kinds of child custody, not just one. Those two different kinds are legal custody and physical custody. Legal custody is the power of a parent to make…
Why Don’t All Divorced Wives Get Half of Their Husbands’ Property?
Because divorce is not about a spouse (man or woman) getting “half of everything”. Depending upon whether a state is a “community property” state or an “equitable distribution” state, here…
Court Proceedings from the Perspective of a New Legal Assistant By Braxton Mounteer
I have finished my first week as a legal assistant. In that time, I have been to a few court proceedings. Previous to taking this job as a legal assistant,…
First Impressions of Being a Legal Assistant as a Writer By Braxton Mounteer
The first thing you should know is that I am a writer. I have authored some short stories and some other things you haven’t heard of. I have been a…
The Utah Divorce and Family Law Quora Space
I love Quora for being a place to ask, answer, and discuss virtually any question. If you are looking for candid, clear answers to questions and honest discussion about Utah…
Can Divorce-Split Property Proceedings Be Done With Attorneys on a Contingency Pay Basis, Offering Lawyers a Part of the Estate to Pay for Court Costs?
I cannot answer this question as it applies in all jurisdictions because I am not licensed in all jurisdictions, but I can answer this question at that applies in the…
High Quality and High Price Are Not the Same Thing
High quality and high price are not the same thing The definitions of a high-quality lawyer and a merely high-priced lawyer are different. A high-quality lawyer is a lawyer who is…
Do Lawyers for the Parents Have a Duty to Their Children?
Lawyers are officers of the court. That means that while a lawyer clearly has a duty to his or her client, a lawyer’s first duty is not to the client,…
How Are Family Law Attorneys Expected to Handle a Decision Made by the Judge? Do They Call Their Client and Explain It? Do They Have Their Office Manager Send the Decision to Their Client Without Explanation?
This is a great question because it is so basic, yet so important. These are the kinds of questions a client needs to have answered understood before he or she…
Flat Fee Billing Questions
I am frequently asked questions about my flat fee billing. I bill on a weekly flat fee basis. Usually $500 per week, although the weekly fee can be higher if…
Can You Win a Custody Battle Without an Attorney?
Can you? Meaning: is it possible? Of course it’s possible. Likely? That depends. I had written over 500 words in my first draft of the answer to this question when…
Is It a Conflict of Interest and Is It Unethical if I Saw My Divorce Attorney Hug My Husband in Court?
Not likely. Black's Law Dictionary (11th ed. 2019) defines conflict of interest as: A real or seeming incompatibility between the interests of two of a lawyer's clients, such that the…
Do Family Law Attorneys Typically Play Along With Unreasonable Client Demands?
The better question is: Do SOME family law attorneys typically play along with unreasonable client demands? The answer is, unequivocally, yes: some family law attorneys typically play along with unreasonable…
What advice would you give to someone who has just started a divorce?
What advice would you give to someone who has just become one of the parties in a divorce proceeding? #1. Know this: divorce law and the divorce process are almost…
Should I intentionally botch my hair follicle test?
Would it be better to botch my hair follicle test so it reads nothing, or allow the judge and the world to see what I've been doing the last 6…
Do attorneys ever have to represent relatives?
Do attorneys ever have to represent relatives or is that a conflict of interest? I will give my personal opinion (as a lawyer, but not as a lawyer giving anyone…