Should I Forgive My Spouse for Abusing Me and/or Our Children?
Forgiveness is a deeply personal decision, and in the context of abuse it can be a life-altering one. But understand that “forgiving” your spouse for abusing you or your children…
Ream v. Ream – 2025 UT App 105 – What Does and Does Not Constitute Civil Stalking Injunction Violation
2025 UT App 105 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS DEBRA JEAN REAM, Appellant, v. JACOB M. REAM, Appellee. Opinion No. 20230799-CA Filed July 10, 2025 Fourth District Court, Provo Department…
Ragsdale v. Fishler – 2025 UT App 36 – civil stalking – free speech
Ragsdale v. Fishler - 2025 UT App 36 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KRISTI RAGSDALE, Appellee and Cross-appellant, v. GEORGE FISHLER, Appellant and Cross-appellee. Opinion No. 20230023-CA Filed March 13, 2025 Third…
How to Tell Your Kids About Divorce: A Unified Approach By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Divorce is hard enough on spouses, but perhaps the most painful impact is on their children. The last thing you should do is create confusion, fear, and emotional scars in…
Is Therapy Necessary in Utah Divorce?: What You Should Consider
Therapy in the context of this post means “mental health therapy”; meeting with a licensed talking with a psychologist, psychiatrist, or another mental health provider. This kind of therapy is…
Divorce and Revenge, by Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant.
People divorce for many different reasons, but regardless of the reason or reasons for seeking a divorce, the dissolution of a marriage and the breakup of a family usually causes…
What Are Some Reasons Why Someone Might Choose to Stay in an Unhappy Marriage Instead of Getting a Divorce, Even if They Have Children and Are Concerned About the Cost?
There are literally thousands of lists you can find online that do an excellent job of identifying the reasons accurately, clearly, and concisely. I recommend that you find them and…
My Wife Is Divorcing Me Because I Am Not Rich Enough. She Said It Will Take Me Years to Make Her Feel Financially Secure. I Was There for Her When She Had Mental Breakdowns. What Should I Do?
If your wife really is divorcing you, and not merely threatening to divorce you, because 1) you are not rich enough to suit her, and 2) you are not a…
2024 UT App 54 – Tilleman v. Tilleman – custody factors, income, fees
2024 UT App 54 - Tilleman v. Tilleman THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MICHAEL ROBERT TILLEMAN, Appellant, v. MICHAL CHRISTINE TILLEMAN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20210637-CA Filed April 11, 2024 Fourth…
In re H.H. – 2024 UT App 25 – termination of parental rights
In re H.H. - 2024 UT App 25 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF H.H. AND N.H., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. T.H.…
Is Court-Ordered Therapy Over-Used? By Braxton Mounteer, legal assistant.
Whether you believe that everyone needs (or could benefit from) therapy or that it is only for the most dysfunctional families, you, like most people, likely agree some therapy has…
How do you survive if the narcissist won custody of your kids and you have to accept it?
Hard truths incoming. When dealing with a co-parent who is afflicted with a personality disorder, do these things, and do them all at the same time: 1) Examine your own…
Encourage Your Legislators to Vote Against H.B. (House Bill) 272 (2024 Utah General Legislative Session)
According to the "General Description" of H.B. 272, what's not to like?: Highlighted Provisions: This bill: ▸ defines terms; ▸ in certain proceedings involving child custody: specifies requirements for the admission of expert…
Dirty Tricks to Watch Out for in Divorce
I often encounter sneaky spouses who after separation and/or after a divorce action has been filed, start sending text messages and emails to the other spouse making false claims like:…
What Good Parents Need to Know About Child Custody Disputes with an Evil Parent
You hear and read on attorney websites stuff like, “Navigating child custody arrangements during divorce can be challenging.” That’s not the half of it. Child custody disputes with an evil parent…
Divorce and Social Media By Braxton Mounteer
Most people fundamentally misunderstand what the Internet and social media are. Many believe that social media is a web of interconnections where you can send and receive updates about your…
In re G.H. – 2023 UT App 132 – juvenile court grandparent guardianship
THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF G.H. AND R.H., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. L.G., Appellant, v. R.G. AND R.G., Appellees. Opinion No. 20220920-CA…
In re A.S.G.-R. – 2023 UT App 126 – permanent custody and guardianship
In re A.S.G.-R. - 2023 UT App 126 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF A.S.G.-R., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. G.R., Appellant,…
In re H.M. – 2023 UT App 122 – termination of parental rights
In re H.M. - 2023 UT App 122 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF H.M. AND D.M., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. G.B., Appellant, v.…
In re K.R. – 2023 UT App 75 – termination of parental rights vs. guardianship
In re K.R. - 2023 UT App 75 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF K.R. AND R.B., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE.…
In Re K.K. – 2023 UT App 14 – Abuse and Neglect Adjudication
In re K.K. - 2023 UT App 14 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF K.K., S.K., AND S.K., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE.…
In re K.K. – 2023 UT App 13
In re K.K. - 2023 UT App 13 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF K.K., S.K., AND S.K., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE.…
In Re K.T. 2023 UT App 5 – Substantiation of Child Abuse
2023 UT App 5 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF K.T., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. J.K., Appellant, v. STATE OF UTAH,…
Is the Johnny Depp divorce trial actually newsworthy?
The divorce trial wasn’t all that newsworthy or memorable (celebrities divorcing is expected), it’s his defamation trial against his ex-wife that is newsworthy. Why? Although his defamation case is not…
How can I make my abusive husband divorce me?
Short of holding the proverbial gun to his head (i.e., forcing him to do so against his will), you can’t. While you might contrive to motivate your husband to file…
Has anyone ever been able to prove narcissistic abuse in divorce court?
Yes, it happens quite frequently.* What people don’t understand is that finding a spouse is a jerk usually doesn’t amount to much in the divorce action. Most people believe—falsely—that if…
In re G.B. – 2022 UT App 98
2022 UT App 98 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF G.B. AND A.C., PERSONS UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. T.R.B., Appellant, v. STATE OF…
Why do people get married only to divorce a few years later?
Why do people get married only to divorce a few years later? Doesn't really sound like love to me. With the exception of those divorces that take place shortly after…
How can I help my stepdaughter get away from an abusive mother?
How can I help my 12-year-old step daughter get away from an emotionally abusive mother? Tell the child’s father (your husband) about the trouble and have him handle it. It’s…
Is it wrong for a parent to go to their adult child for emotional support?
Is it wrong for a parent to go to their adult child for emotional support concerning the parent’s marriage? I am a divorce and family lawyer and a parent, but…
In re A.B. – 2021 UT App 91
THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF A.B., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. K.T., Appellant, v.. S.T. AND T.T., Appellees. Opinion No. 20200342-CA Filed August 26, 2021 Third District Juvenile Court, Salt…
Do you agree with Brad Pitt winning joint custody of his children with Angelina Jolie?
I normally don’t comment on popular culture matters dealing with divorce, but for this question I will make an exception. I have no idea what kind of parents Angelina Jolie…
What are the grounds for filing for a divorce in Utah?
First, you need to understand that Utah, like every other state in the U.S. has what are known as a “no-fault divorce law”. No-fault divorce means that you don’t have…
After a divorce, should my kids be with me or with the mom?
First, you need to understand that you’re asking the wrong question. Child custody is not a zero-sum game; otherwise stated, when parents divorce, or when unmarried parents separate, where you…
Can the other parent send someone I’ve never met to pickups and drop-offs for our child?
Can the other parent send someone I’ve never met to pickups and drop-offs for our child? Can the other parent send someone I’ve never met to pickups and drop-offs for…
What is the best case law to cite about parental alienation?
What is the best case law to cite during a high conflict custody battle where parental alienation has been occurring? If you know of any, please let me know. My…
Does having the judge interview the children traumatize the children?
Does having the judge interview the children traumatize the children? This post is the second in series of 15 posts on the subject of custody evaluations and the appointment…
How do I know if my relationship is abusive? How abusive does it have to be to get sole custody of my children?
How do I know if my relationship is abusive? How abusive does it have to be to get sole custody of my children? How do I know if my relationship…
What advice would you give me before divorce, if I’m not in the wrong?
What advice would you give someone before a divorce, if it’s known it may happen and you’re not in the wrong? This is a very important question that too few…
Can I repair the relationship with an alienated family member after divorce?
When one’s former spouse alienated someone from their family, how can one repair the relationship with the family after the spouse is divorced? I am thankful for your question, and…
Can I get a cost-free divorce if, say, my spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive?
Can I get a cost-free divorce if, say, my spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive? In a sense, yes, but not because of a finding that your spouse “verbally and…