What has a lawyer said that made you question their expertise?
What’s one thing you’ve heard a lawyer say that made you question their expertise? I was in court for a hearing in a divorce action where opposing counsel objected to…
Are Licensed Paralegal Practitioners a good idea?
I just received and responded to a survey from Alyx Mark, assistant professor at Wesleyan University and a law and society scholar. After completing the survey, I sent this e-mail to Professor Mark:…
What is a costly part of divorce that almost no one thinks of ahead of time?
Every aspect of divorce. Every single one. Two cannot live separately and divorced for less than they did together. Litigation is mind-bogglingly expensive and protracted. Even an uncontested divorce can…
How do I find out what my divorce case number was, if I’ve forgotten it?
It’s easy if you know what you’re doing. And if you don’t know what you’re doing, it’s easy to find someone who does know what to do. In many jurisdictions,…
How do I get a copy of my restraining order that I have on my ex?
How do I get a copy of my restraining order that I have on my ex? I lost the original copy. My answer applies to how you can obtain a…
How do you go about getting a copy of your divorce papers?
If you have a lawyer: your lawyer can and should give you a copy. If you don’t have a lawyer: go to the courthouse (if the courthouse is open and allowing members…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 20: Lawyers
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant My boss at the law firm where I work (Utah Family Law, LC) has informed me more than once that, “divorce lawyers are, with few exceptions, terrible people”. I am…
Is the divorce rate rising during the COVID-19 pandemic?
I’ve been a divorce attorney for 25 years, and I don’t see any difference in the divorce rate between the pre-and post-COVID-19 eras. That’s not a scientific study, just anecdotal…
Parental alienation
I just read the following comment made by a viewer of my UFLTV parental alienation interview with Kelly Peterson. This viewer wrote, “So basically, parental alienation is proved by documenting the instances…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 18
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 18: Financial Declarations and Initial Disclosures By Quinton Lister, legal assistant My minimal exposure to the legal profession as a legal…
I have no money and a non-cooperative ex, how do I get legal help?
How can I obtain assistance in a custody matter when I have no money and my ex-husband is not following the current court order? In some jurisdictions there are legal…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 17: Fairness
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant Before I started working as a legal assistant I was a philosophy major at BYU. During that time I read a portion of John Rawls treatise on justice. Mr. Rawls…
What is the first step if you get served with papers for divorce?
Rip off that band-aid and go see a lawyer immediately. Not “as soon as possible,” right now. Now. Without delay. Without any delay. Yes, I know you don’t trust lawyers. I know…
Where can I find a pro bono lawyer when being charged with contempt of child support in MN?
You may have a very difficult time finding free legal representation, BUT you may have a much easier time getting advice as to how you can and should proceed and…
How to Avoid Hiring the Wrong Divorce Lawyer
So you've paid your divorce attorney $10,000 or so, it's been 6 months, and essentially nothing's getting done. What went wrong? It could be many things. If you have a…
How do I get an attorney to represent me against my abusive ex narc?
How do I get an attorney to represent me in court against my abusive ex narc who is filing for emergency custody of our children? Two things (if the lawyer…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 15: Objections.
By Quinton Lister, legal assistant I think one of the least understood facets of the legal system by lay people (like myself, a new legal assistant) is the concept of…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 12: Perfection
By Quinton Lister, Legal Assistant It doesn’t take a lawyer to discover, and it doesn’t take long to realize, that the legal profession is by no means perfect. The legal system…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 11: Something for nothing?
By Quinton Lister, Legal Assistant Giving without expectation is one of the hardest things to do in this life. I often wonder in our capitalistic society why it is so…
What is the success rate of having a court-appointed legal aid?
I don’t know, and I doubt that statistics are kept on such a question. If there are such statistics, I do not know of them. Generally, the reputation appointed counsel…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 10: Divorce
By Quinton Lister, Legal Assistant I think most of the observations I am having as a new legal assistant are not groundbreaking, but my boss and I are learning that…
How do I best grab the attention of an attorney regarding a child custody case that is unusual, difficult, and I need help?
With money. And enough money to prove you can afford to pay the attorney to do the job well. Enough money to make the job worthwhile for the lawyer. That’s…
What questions do people ask about divorce?
The FIRST questions most frequently asked of me are: “How much can I expect it to cost me in total to get a divorce?” “What is your hourly rate?” “What…
How long will an attorney work on your case if you can’t afford to pay them any more? This would be for a divorce, and they start to realize that they’re not going to get money from the other spouse.
Good question. It depends mostly upon whether your attorney has a big heart and/or no head for business. Generally, an attorney who takes your case without being paid as he/she…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 7: You got to be tough
By Quinton Lister, Legal Assistant The practice of family law takes a thick skin. I haven’t been at the job long (and I’m just a legal assistant), but it’s obvious that you got to be tough to do…
How long will an attorney work on your case if you can’t afford to pay them any more? This would be for a divorce and they start to realize that they’re not going to get money from the other spouse.
It depends mostly upon whether your attorney has a big heart and/or no head for business. Generally, an attorney who takes your case without being paid as he/she goes, but…
How do I get free legal advice from a family law attorney on the custody of my 2 nieces?
In my experience, free legal advice is worth what you pay for it, but I understand that there are some (even many) who simply cannot afford an attorney (or believe…
Does a family court judge know when a parent is being malicious?
Rarely, and when the judge does know, it’s usually because the other parent’s malicious behavior is so way over the top as to be impossible to detect or ignore or…
In what ways do pro-bono cases help attorneys and law firms?
There are some great answers in this thread already. I hope that adding my two cents’ worth is informative too. I am a divorce and family lawyer. With rare exception…
Is the lifestyle of a lawyer too stressful for most?
Yes. Even most of the lawyers who don’t quit the practice of law can barely stand it. I have met some lawyers who claim that their jobs are not stressful.…
Where or who do lawyers look to when they need a lawyer?
I ask my lawyer friends (few though they are because with few exceptions I find lawyers to be generally perfidious people, and I don’t like perfidious people), or, if my…
2021 UT App 77 – Miner v. Miner – alimony, attorney fees
2021 UT App 77 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS LISA P. MINER, Appellee, JOHN E. MINER, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200098-CA Filed July 15, 2021 Fifth District Court,…
Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 2: Pile higher and deeper
Last week I reported that I am a complete neophyte when it comes to the practice of law (this is my second week as a legal assistant), and that remains…
Law from a Legal Assistant’s Point of View, Week 1: It’s all new to me
My favorite part of being new at something is that feeling of every aspect being unique and energizing. I am experiencing that feeling now in my new job as a…
The Utah courthouses will be re-opening soon. Don’t go back!
With the COVID-19 crisis essentially behind us now (please don't start on the Delta variant) the Utah courts are re-opening the courthouses. And there's nothing wrong with that . .…
Nakkina v. Mahanthi – 2021 UT App 63 – joint equal custody, marital property, attorney fees
Nakkina v. Mahanthi - 2021 UT App 63 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS SIREESHA NAKKINA, Appellee, v. PRODEEP KUMAR MAHANTHI, Appellant. Opinion No. 20190750-CA Filed June 17, 2021 Third District…
Do courts make awards in divorce to “punish” adultery?
Do courts make awards in divorce to “punish” adultery? Great question. Adultery is considered a fault-based ground for divorce and a factor that can be considered when the trial court…
Do you agree with Brad Pitt winning joint custody of his children with Angelina Jolie?
I normally don’t comment on popular culture matters dealing with divorce, but for this question I will make an exception. I have no idea what kind of parents Angelina Jolie…
In our society what shows that we value fathers as parents?
In our society what shows that we value fathers as parents? When it comes to child custody awards (i.e., the award of legal and/or physical custody)? Society values fathers far…
Why is it OK for a parent to be given custody without their kids’ consent?
Why is it okay for a parent to be given custody without their kids consent or at least their input? This is a great question. I can’t speak for all…
Father has 50/50 custody. Now ex is trying to take it away. What to do?
I am a father who has exercised at least 50/50 custody with my ex. Now she's trying to take me to court for full custody and me getting every other…
When do trial lawyers most feel like “they are reading tea leaves”?
In my personal experience, most of the time, with most judges. I’m a divorce and family lawyer in Utah, and family law gives judges such broad discretion that even those…
Who are the family law attorneys who offer services at a big discount?
With rare exception, the family law attorneys who offer services at a big discount are either 1) incompetent and inept attorneys or 2) attorneys whose source of income or main…
Did you ever go to court and realize for the judges and attorneys it’s kind of all a big game?
Yes, in my experience, there are aspects of the legal system and the practice of law that some lawyers and judges see and treat as a game. You see lawyers…
Recent thoughts about family law
Recent thoughts about family law I’ve been prompted recently to express my thoughts and opinions about the judiciary generally in the family law context. Here are a few thoughts I…
How do I console a father who has lost custody of his child?
How do I console a father who has lost custody of his child? “He’s [the father who lost custody] permanently damaged.” That’s what someone else wrote in response to your…
As a lawyer, do you typically trust what your clients say?
As a lawyer, do you typically trust what your clients say? I don’t represent people or causes in whom I don’t believe. That is not true of all attorneys, as…
As an attorney, what did you learn during your first case in front of a judge and jury that is forever etched in your brain?
As an attorney, what did you learn during your first case in front of a judge and jury that is forever etched in your brain? Interestingly enough, in 24 years…
Does a judge contact a client if a law firm is filing to remove themselves from a case?
Does a judge contact a client if a law firm is filing to remove themselves from a case? No. A judge is not allowed to communicate with a represented party…
How do lawyers drag out court cases?
How do lawyers drag out court cases? In some respects, the ways are limited only by the power of one’s imagination, but the most common ways I have experienced in…