What advice do you have for a man who just found out his wife wants to divorce him?
I’m a divorce lawyer, but I would like respond to your question both as a lawyer and as a spouse. First, if learning your wife wants a divorce comes as…
Cool as a Cucumber : How to Testify Successfully at Your Deposition or in Court in a Utah Domestic Relations Case
Cool as a cucumber[1]. Is that you? It can be. When it comes to testifying, follow the Golden Rules: 1. Always tell the truth. 2. Simply telling the truth is not…
Why are there no penalties for false allegations in divorce and custody issues?
Why are there no penalties for false allegations in divorce and custody issues? First, there are penalties meted out; in my opinion few (far too few) in law enforcement, child…
In your experience, how often do divorces get resolved “amicably” after being filed in court?
Some couples actually realize that while their marriage is a failure, that does not mean that they are bad people. They can care enough about each other to divorce amicably.…
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce?
As a man, what steps can I take to safeguard my interests before telling my wife I want a divorce? There are two types of men who ask this question:…
When have you believed clients’ stories, but they were lying?
Let me answer your question this way; here are the things divorce lawyers get lied to about the most (in this order): money issues (lying about income, hidden assets) false…
How to Fix Bad Credit After a Divorce (from LendEdu.com)
How to Fix Bad Credit After a Divorce https://lendedu.com/blog/how-to-fix-bad-credit-after-a-divorce - Jeff Gitlen October 17, 2018 Our research, news, ratings, and assessments are scrutinized using strict editorial integrity. In full transparency, our company…
Divorce Preparedness: What do I need to do before filing for divorce?
When deciding if you are going to file for divorce, there are some things you need to know, and many things you should consider, before filing for divorce I. Why…
Why do divorces take so long to finish?
Here are the reasons, as I see them, why too many divorce cases cost so much and take so long to finish (in no particular order): 1. Some divorce lawyers…
Why do judges say “don’t break court orders,” but then do nothing when the order is broken?
Why do judges tell people not to break court orders but then do nothing when the court order is broken? Reason #1: because of the principle of “easier said than…
What are the biggest challenges a divorce lawyer faces?
What is one of the biggest challenges of a Divorce lawyer? First, read Donald Baranski’s answer to this question (which provided below); it’s excellent, and any divorce client would be…
Which is more likely to cause a marriage to end in divorce – too much money, or not enough?
Which is more likely to cause your marriage to end in divorce - too much money, or not enough? The perception of not enough money. With, perhaps, the rare exception…
How can I prevent a divorce, if I am mentally unfit to go through it?
How can I refuse to divorce my wife now, as I just lost my sister, and my wife told me just before my sister died, that I will never see…
Why stay unhappily married for the sake of the kids?
Why do unhappy married couples stay together for the sake of the children, when they could easily give the children two happy homes instead living in one miserable home? Mom…
How to Avoid the Primrose Path in Divorce (if you have the will and the guts)
How to Avoid the Primrose Path in Divorce (if you have the will and the guts) It’s getting harder to stay in contact with reality. You have men who, as…
Smith v. Robinson – 2018 UT 30 – false allegations of sexual abuse
This opinion is subject to revision before final publication in the Pacific Reporter 2018 UT 30 IN THE SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF UTAH ROCIO SMITH, Appellant, v. KAYELYN…
Mower v. Children’s Center – 2018 UT 29 – false memories or false allegations of sexual abuse against a parent
(See also Smith v. Robinson, Case No. 20160106, Filed July 05, 2018, 2018 UT 30, a companion case to this one) This opinion is subject to revision before final publication…
Being the Best Client Helps Ensure You Have the Best Lawyer
Being the best client helps ensure you have the best lawyer. In trying to express this in greater detail I came across this article from an Australian divorce lawyer that…
There is no cheap or free legal services shortcut
“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn't true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.” ― Søren Kierkegaard “A great deal…
Are you in favor of divorce? Please explain why or why not.
Recently, I was asked, "Are you in favor of divorce?" Here is my response: Are you in favor of divorce? I am not in favor of divorce generally, in that…
What Is Alimony, and How Does It Work in Utah?
What is Alimony? Alimony is a legal obligation imposed by court order upon one spouse in a separate maintenance action or divorce action to provide financial support for the other…
What is Alimony and How Does It Work in Utah?
What is Alimony? Alimony is a legal obligation imposed by court order upon one spouse in a separate maintenance action or divorce action to provide financial support for the other…
Alimony: How much of it should I be asking for, and why?
How much alimony should I be asking for from my spouse? He’s very wealthy, and I do not work. I became a stay-at-home parent at his request. I'm now leaving…
What are the biggest misconceptions about divorce?
Misconception #1 It’s bad, sure, but it can’t be that bad. THE TRUTH: It’s harder, more expensive, and takes longer than you imagine. Once you accept this, divorce will still…
Divorce Costs: what’s the average cost, when child custody is contested?
How much does it cost to divorce on average, with two kids and contested custody? On average? I’d say around $20,000. But, as you will see if you read and watch…
Why are women generally awarded child custody more often than men?
QUESTION: From a lawyer’s perspective, why do women get child custody almost 90% of the time? Is there really a bias? What factors come into play when deciding about it?…
What is it like to have divorced parents as a child?
What is it like to have divorced parents as a child? Generally worse than having non-divorced parents. I do not state that to offend divorced parents. Most (not all) divorced…
Confusing Want with Need – don’t expect what divorce cannot deliver
After more than 20 years doing this work: - I know what you want; - I know what you believe you want; and - we both know what you truly…
Not just tragic. Stupid tragic.
You don’t want to incur the judge’s wrath, right? You want the court to think well of you. So your plan is not to make any waves. You won’t make…
A Spouse’s Questions about the Divorce Mediation Process
Questions: If we go to mediation, can I hire an attorney after to review the documents from mediation before I sign anything? What if I hire an attorney before we…
Is Done Better than Perfect in Your Divorce Case?
"Done is better than perfect." This is good advice for divorce lawyers, but equally good advice for divorce clients (really, it is) sometimes. Excerpts from Perfect, by David M. Ward …
Why You Feel Uncomfortable Paying a Lawyer by the Hour (it’s not your fault)
Why You Feel Uncomfortable Paying a Lawyer by the Hour (it's not your fault) I do not bill by the hour. Letting your lawyer bill you by the hour is…
Who has rights to custody of children after divorce, the mother or father?
Who has more rights to claim the custody of their child after divorce, a mother or father? The answer the legal profession wants you to believe and that the law…
Divorce is on the horizon for my parents. What do I do?
Mom is treating Dad so bad that I think a divorce is on the horizon. Nobody is supportive. What do I do as a son? Love and support your parents,…
My mentally spouse just got a bogus restraining order. What do I do?
What can I do when my mentally ill lawyer wife wants a divorce, and just got a bogus restraining order on me? Assuming that you are resigned to divorce and…
Can the court allow parents to decide on their own for the custody of their child?
Can the court allow parents to decide on their own for the custody of their child? Yes! Not only are parents allowed to decide what the child custody award will…
Attorneys: “glorified pencil-pushers”?
This is from part of an e-mail that I received from Richard Jacobs. He helps attorneys with their marketing. I like much of Richard's approach because, like me, he doesn't…
Yes, there is a bias in favor of mothers in child custody disputes, but not for much longer.
Wednesday, March 7, 2018 I recently saw this post on a child custody Facebook group: If [fathers] want to piss and moan, and whine online about injustice and not being…
Can I represent myself in a child custody dispute and win?
Can I represent myself in child custody matters of my own children and win? What you really mean is, “Can I represent myself in child custody matters of my own…
Hesitant to talk to a lawyer? That’s normal. And wise.
Some people are hesitant, even scared, to talk to a divorce lawyer or a family lawyer. But being nervous or afraid of making a mistake is normal. And wise. Hiring…
How Much Is It Worth to Be Right?
Have you ever heard the phrases "Don't be dead right" and "Winning the battle and losing the war? It's obviously good advice. Advice you've probably given to others. When it…
Do You Feel Like a Dollar Sign?
Do Your Clients Feel Like Dollar Signs? by Lee Rosen https://roseninstitute.com/do-your-clients-feel-like-dollar-signs/ Tourists in India feel like dollar signs. Touts crowd around, shouting above the street noise, imploring tourists to buy…
What divorce does and does not do
What divorce does and does not do. What divorce does. There can be no divorce without a marriage. Well, not exactly.[i] Let’s put it this way instead: if you are…
I wasn’t kidding when I told you the “rent a reputation” offers are a dime a dozen.
I wasn't kidding when I told you the "rent a reputation" offers are a dime a dozen. Yesterday I posted this blog: https://www.divorceutah.com/2018/01/31/rent-a-reputation/. In a nutshell: if you think lawyer honors are…
What if I don’t want custody of my child post-divorce?
What if I don't want custody of my child post-divorce? If the other parent is 1) fit to exercise custody of the child(ren) and 2) willing to take custody of…
My bank account was subpeonaed. Will the bank share business account transactions or only personal account?
My bank account was subpeonaed. Will the bank share business account transactions or only personal account? In Utah, where I practice law, here’s how the bank will respond to the…
What is the best way to get the courts to follow the laws already on books and the constitution for custody battles?
What is the best way to get the courts to follow the laws already on the books and the constitution for custody battles? To be frank, in my opinion there…
As a divorce lawyer, what is the most petty thing one of your clients had you do?
QUESTION: As a divorce lawyer, what is the most petty thing one of your clients had you do? ANSWER: Thanks for the question. The answer is: nothing. Legal whores do…
Why does the mom usually win custody of her kids in a divorce?
Why does the mom usually win custody of her kids in a divorce? Why are mother's awarded child custody so often? There is one main reason, and many ancillary reasons,…