How Should a Father Respond if His Child Tells Him They Are Getting Divorced?
Honestly and sensitively. This is likely going to be a discussion this child remembers for the rest of his/her life, a parent in this position will need to choose his/her…
If My Ex Husband Had a Secret Bank Account Before We Were Married, Would I Be Entitled to Some of It After the Divorce? I Already Have a Private Investigator Looking Into It. Thanks in Advance!
This is an area where the laws differ substantially from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. To know what options may be available to you in your jurisdiction, you need to consult with…
If Someone Is Caught Breaking a Protection Order and They Go to Court for That Can the Person Who Needed the P.O. Go to Court to Speak out About the Violation?
Yes, but it depends upon what you mean by “can the person who needed the P.O. go to court to speak out about the violation?” If the person who needed…
How to Fill Out Your Financial Declaration, Paragraph Four. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Paragraph four of your financial declaration deals with your gross monthly income. Your gross monthly income is your income from all sources. This includes, your income from employment, your work,…
What Is Dissipation of Marital Assets? How Is It Addressed in Utah Divorce Actions?
We’ll start with this: The marital estate is generally valued at the time of the divorce decree or trial. Goggin v. Goggin, 2013 UT 16, ¶ 49, 299 P.3d 1079. The…
Is it possible for a husband to set conditions for getting back together after a separation or divorce, even if the divorce has already been filed?
This question is best answered in two parts. Can a husband dictate what his wife “must do” to reconcile with him? Obviously he cannot. Reconciliation is a mutual decision. Even…
How to Fill Out Your Financial Declaration, Paragraph Two. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Paragraph two of your financial declaration details the documents that you must attach to your financial declaration (unless they don't exist). It is not optional; they are the documents you are required…
Lessons for Protective Order Respondents from the case of State v. Lewis (2024 UT App 96)
On July 11, 2024, the Utah Court of Appeals issued its decision in the case of State v. Lewis (2024 UT App 96). The appellant, Kevin Lewis (Kevin), appealed his conviction for…
What do I have to do to modify the child custody and/or parent-time award?
“I want more time with my children.” “Our children want to spend more time with me.” “My ex-spouse does not exercise the time he/she was awarded with our children.” What…
Thorup v. Thorup – 2024 UT App 93
Thorup v. Thorup - 2024 UT App 93 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MONA THORUP, Appellee, v. MARCUS THORUP, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220583-CA Filed July 5, 2024 Third District Court, Salt…
2024 UT App 84 – Corn v. Groce – Modification of Parent-Time or Custody
2024 UT App 84 - Corn v. Groce THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JANETTE CORN, Appellee, v. BLAKE GROCE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220526-CA Filed May 31, 2024 Second District Court,…
I Have a Court Date Coming Up, but I Don’t Speak English (Or Don’t Speak or Understand It Well). What Can I Do?
Did you know that if you are not fluent in English and have a court date coming up, the court will provide you with an interpreter IF you make the…
How to Fill Out Your Financial Declaration, Paragraph One. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
If you find yourself involved in a Utah divorce action (whether child support will be an issue or not) or an action over the support of minor children in Utah…
If I Agreed to Sign up a Prenup With My Billionaire Husband Does That Mean I Would Not Get Anything Not Even a Dollar?
I can’t speak to what the law governing prenuptial agreements is in any jurisdiction other than the one in which I practice divorce and family law (Utah), but as to…
Taking Your Divorce Case to Trial Requires Just as Much from You as It Does of Your Lawyer, By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Taking your divorce case to trial is almost always a long, complicated, and emotionally exhausting process. You may be tempted to believe you can leave all of the work to…
If Your Husband Files for Divorce, Can He Ask You to Leave the House Immediately?
I can't speak for the law in all jurisdictions, but I can tell you what the law is where I practice divorce law (Utah). Can your spouse ask you to…
People Who Are Getting an Extremely-Contested Divorce W/O Paying for Lawyers, Need Step-By-Step Directions in Their State! If There Were Uncontested Divorces, There Would Be No Divorces at All, Because Both Partners Would Be Getting Along Perfectly?
Sure, they need that. It is a great idea. Where there is a demand to be filled, markets arise to fill them. It would be a great benefit to people…
Do You Lose Parental Rights Automatically When You Get Divorced if You Do Not File for Visitation or Custody?
Make sure you understand the terms you and others may be using in asking and discussing this question. If you are a parent of minor children, and you are involved…
I Want to Live with My Mom but I Have Shared Custody With My Dad. What Do I Do? Can I at 15?
This question is literally asked on a daily basis. It comes up so often. But that means it’s a burning question. I’ll bet it has been answered literally at least…
Are You Fighting for Your Kids or Are You Protecting Your Financial Future? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
An accusation that gets thrown around a lot in a divorce action is that a parent doesn’t actually want to spend time with his or her children. Usually it's an…
What Can Be Done if a Prenuptial Agreement Does Not Meet the Requirements for Validity in Your State? What Are the Available Options for Handling This Situation?
While I am a divorce and family lawyer (licensed in Utah), I do not claim to be an expert on the subject of prenuptial agreements. That stated (and acknowledging that…
How Often Do Mothers Get Full Custody of Their Children After Divorce?
Always? No. Frequently? Yes. Usually. Yes. Whether they deserve it or not? Usually, yes. Are mothers awarded custody of children as much as they used to be a generation or…
When Is It Appropriate to Leave a Marriage if Your Spouse Does Not Contribute Financially or Emotionally and Has No Intention of Doing So Due to a Sense of Entitlement From Their Upbringing?
This is a very hard question to answer honestly and sincerely, though at first blush, it may not appear that way. There are very good reasons to divorce in certain…
I Live in Indianapolis, Indiana, I Have a Son at 17 Years Old. I Have Visitation Legal Custody. He Has Him Run Away. What Do I Do?
I am not licensed as an attorney in Indiana, but I will give you my personal opinion (it’s not legal advice) as it applies to the law in the jurisdiction…
Can My Spouse Take out a Loan Using Our House as Collateral After I File for a Divorce?
This is a good question and one that often comes up in divorce cases. I cannot speak for the law in all jurisdictions, but as this question applies in the…
Holding Marital Property Hostage During a Divorce Just Makes You Look Petty By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
You may have the idea that you can leverage his or her favorite or most valued things to get a more favorable outcome in your divorce. Holding property that rightfully…
Your Divorce Lawyer is Serious About Deadlines By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Throughout the divorce process you will have to meet many deadlines. The court will even provide you with a list of due dates known as a notice of event due…
What Should I Do if My Divorce Is Not Getting Solved Quickly?
This is a great question. Go find a good (a good, not just any) retired divorce attorney (a divorce attorney, not some other kind of attorney who has no idea…
On What Basis Should the Couple Share Half of Property in Divorce if One Contributes Significantly More Than the Other? How Is It Fair?
It’s fair. It’s not fair. Frankly, reasonable minds can differ on this question. The governing principle in the USA is still (though it’s subtly and slowly changing) in most jurisdictions…
What Do We Do When Equal (50/50) Physical Custody Is Awarded but One Parent Isn’t Bearing the Responsibilities Equal Custody Requires of That Parent?
Recently a Quora.com reader commented on my answer to this question: Is there a primary parent in joint custody in Utah which is also known as “equal” or “50/50” custody? They…
What Can I Do if My Ex Doesn’t Let My Daughter Come for My Parenting Time Which Is Summer? Our Divorce Is Not Finalized Yet.
I can give you my personal opinion (not legal advice, but my personal opinion) from my perspective as a lawyer licensed in Utah and who practices divorce and family law…
Elder v. Elder – 2024 UT App 68 – enforcement vs. modification
Elder v. Elder - 2024 UT App 68 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BRITTANY LEE ELDER, Appellee, v. MATT BLAKE ELDER, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210902-CA Filed May 9, 2024 Second…
What Would I Say, if I Were a Judge or Commissioner Hearing a Protective Order Request Case and I Denied the Request for the Protective Order?
I would say this: By law I cannot grant a request for a protective order unless a preponderance of the evidence supports the request. If the request lacks the support…
What Would Happen if One Parent Does Not Bring Their Child for a Utah Court-Ordered Custody Exchange?
First, we need to learn and understand the term for violating a court order. That term is “contempt of court.” In Utah, one commits contempt of court in a civil…
What Are the Options for Someone Who Has Been Served Divorce Papers by Their Spouse Who Has Moved Away and No Longer Wants to Be With Them?
If you want to know your options and have the time to exercise them, then you need to meet with an attorney immediately to find out what the law requires of you,…
Second-Hand Testimony Is and Never Will Be Better Than the Witness’s Own Testimony in His/Her Own Voice
For lawyers and parents (and perhaps even commissioners and judges) who hate child custody determinations (temporary or otherwise) based upon proffer, I share this with you: This court has previously…
Taylor v. Elison, 2011 UT App 272, ¶ 6:
The bifurcated inquiry required by Utah law in custody modifications cases where the court must consider whether “there has been a substantial and material change in the circumstances upon which”…
How to Refer to Numbered Paragraphs in Divorce and Family Law Cases
If you care to know: please don't refer to the numbered paragraphs in divorce and family law cases as anything other than paragraph numbers. ¶ So it's "paragraph 4". Not "section…
What Are the Standards for Appeal That Usually Apply in a Utah Case?
See 2024 UT App 54 - Tilleman v. Tilleman, which recites many of them: ¶26 . . . Generally, we review a trial court’s custody award for an abuse of discretion. See T.W. v.…
Is It Possible to Discredit a Biased Custody Evaluation Full of Unsubstantiated and False Claims?
Yes, it is possible, but not always possible, and when it is possible it is often very difficult to accomplish. Difficult not because custody evaluators are particularly competent (they typically…
2024 UT App 54 – Tilleman v. Tilleman – custody factors, income, fees
2024 UT App 54 - Tilleman v. Tilleman THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MICHAEL ROBERT TILLEMAN, Appellant, v. MICHAL CHRISTINE TILLEMAN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20210637-CA Filed April 11, 2024 Fourth…
2024 UT App 51 – Bailey v. Bailey – evidence, sanctions
2024 UT App 51 - Bailey v. Bailey THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS AMY L. BAILEY, Appellee, v. DANNY RAY BAILEY, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220534-CA Filed April 11, 2024 Second…
Why Your Witness May Not Be As Good As You Think By Braxton Mounteer
I recently went to trial with my boss for a divorce case. One of the things that stuck out to me was that quite often the witnesses people call in…
You Reap What You Sow.
I’m Braxton Mounteer, a legal assistant. I've written and talked about this problem before, but it's a recurring problem and a serious one. It's hard enough to muster the courage…
What Are My Chances of Gaining Full or Primary Custody of My Child as a Father?
First, you need ask a different question before you get to the question of a father’s chances of winning full or primary custody of children in divorce. The question should…
We Can Call It the “Presumption of Guilt Act”
Did you see this in the news in Utah (from the Salt Lake Tribune)? A Utah man never hit his wife — until he tried to kill her. But how…
Rejecting Fact for Faith: the Inexplicable and Inexcusable Silencing of the PGAL’s Child Client
When a PGAL (private guardian ad litem) is appointed to represent children in a child custody dispute in a Utah divorce case, it would sure be good to know what…
You Can’t Tell What The Judge Is Thinking By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
I recently accompanied my boss to the trial of a divorce case. If I had had to place a bet on what the judge was thinking at given moment or…
What Are the Odds That I Can Get Custody of My Daughter if I Have a Serious Criminal Record?
Without knowing more about your criminal record, I can still safely predict that having almost any kind of chronic or significant criminal record reduces your chances of being awarded custody…
Can I Request to Have My Son’s Grandmother Removed From the Courtroom During My Custody Case Proceedings?
Are the court proceedings in your kind of case open to the public? If so, then the grandmother, being a member of the public, may have a right to be…
